• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=sonny99;34503271]But I do give a shit what they think[/QUOTE] It's not something you really enjoy if your friends' opinions affect what you think of it. Tell them it's something that interests you, and it doesn't affect them and they should leave you alone. If they can't do that, they're not terribly great friends and you should [QUOTE=JenkinsJ;34503567]Straight up tell them to fuck off.[/QUOTE]
what the fuck do they have to do with what you want to do in their free time. it's none of their business and you should indeed [QUOTE=JenkinsJ;34503567]Straight up tell them to fuck off[/QUOTE] it's some really immature behavior and they don't sound like they are very nice [editline]1st February 2012[/editline] me and my gf had a fight a few days ago. she got pissed because there's some things i do that bother her, and i got pissed because there's some things she does that bother me (caring about things that i saw as silly included). we argued and it was ok, then. today, the same thing happened. she came over, she got pissed because i went to my pc for a few minutes to check on a few things i was doing. i guessed she wouldnt bother because she was, after all, reading a book. turns out she cared, and then left earlier than i'd expect, said it wasn't necessary for me to walk with her to the bus stop (which is a good 10 minute walk from my place and the bus takes its time to arrive, you know how its like) even though she always wants me to, etc. at the time i asked her if everything was ok and she insisted it was, even though i could see it wasnt. now we were talking about it online, and i told her she should just tell me on the spot if im doing something thats bothering her. she said she has to deal with it and get used to how i am or a relationship wont work because we idealize partners etc etc now i dont know if i should tell her to complain about things i do that she dislikes or if i should just let her "get used" to how i am (which to be honest is an alternative i dont see working)
[QUOTE=DrBreen;34497562]i am king of thread, as such i will not let any questions or advice unanswered :v:[/QUOTE] why did you hijack this fucking thread
[QUOTE=psychojake;34500296]What do I do when girls don't have much to say or kill a conversation or just make it awkward on accident?[/QUOTE] if they make it awkward i start acting awkward on purpose too because it's funny. sometimes they don't find it as funny as I do though.
[QUOTE=DrBreen;34497906]The one in the other OP is very educational, i copy-pasted it just now. (and gave due credit obviously)[/QUOTE] Can you separate out the quotes? It doesn't look great all clustered into one giant quote box.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;34503863]what the fuck do they have to do with what you want to do in their free time. it's none of their business and you should indeed it's some really immature behavior and they don't sound like they are very nice [editline]1st February 2012[/editline] me and my gf had a fight a few days ago. she got pissed because there's some things i do that bother her, and i got pissed because there's some things she does that bother me (caring about things that i saw as silly included). we argued and it was ok, then. today, the same thing happened. she came over, she got pissed because i went to my pc for a few minutes to check on a few things i was doing. i guessed she wouldnt bother because she was, after all, reading a book. turns out she cared, and then left earlier than i'd expect, said it wasn't necessary for me to walk with her to the bus stop (which is a good 10 minute walk from my place and the bus takes its time to arrive, you know how its like) even though she always wants me to, etc. at the time i asked her if everything was ok and she insisted it was, even though i could see it wasnt. [b]now we were talking about it online, and i told her she should just tell me on the spot if im doing something thats bothering her. she said she has to deal with it and get used to how i am or a relationship wont work because we idealize partners etc etc[/b] now i dont know if i should tell her to complain about things i do that she dislikes or if i should just let her "get used" to how i am (which to be honest is an alternative i dont see working)[/QUOTE] Dude, what the fuck. Either she tells you the fuck's wrong, or tell her to piss off. This childish behavior will lead to no where but constant arguments and a broken relationship.
[QUOTE=Seith;34508656]Dude, what the fuck. Either she tells you the fuck's wrong, or tell her to piss off. This childish behavior will lead to no where but constant arguments and a broken relationship.[/QUOTE] I don't know if he loves her or not, but i assume it's kind of HARD to tell your loved ones to fuck off [editline]2nd February 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Evilan;34505552]Can you separate out the quotes? It doesn't look great all clustered into one giant quote box.[/QUOTE] I'll get on it later today or tomorrow morning i have too much college crap to handle at the moment :v:
Love is a point of view thing.
Have you ever been in love
I have had strong feelings, I even cried. Still, I don't call it being in love just being infatuated. Love to me, has a different definition.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;34501874]My senior prom is in a few months and I know that it's not all it's cracked up to be, but I'm still getting a bit nervous. Everyone's talking about it and such and to be honest this and the months leading up to my junior prom last year were the only stressful times in my entire high school career. Last year I asked a great girl to go with me and we both had a great time. But she's got a boyfriend this year (I wasn't interested her romantically, so don't pin it on that) so I can't ask her. I just really want to ask a girl I'd have a good time with because that's really all I care about from now until college, making the most of my senior year. I'm nervous that if I ask someone and she turns out to be boring or something I'll be locked into going with her, but at the same time of I wait to long they're all going to be taken. This is the most stress I've ever felt in high school, not even Advanced Placement exams could phase me, and I'm getting all hung up over this.[/QUOTE] Just have fun. This is coming from a guy who is in the position of the possibly boring girl you ask to go with you. Deep down, everyone wants to have fun, but they just don't know how to. It's taken me years of friends teaching me how to have fun for me to learn how to do it myself. So, what I would recommend is always ask her to join you to dance, and if she says no, playfully enforce that she does, because chances are if she went to the prom WITH YOU she wants to dance WITH YOU. If she says she can't dance, quickly teach her. You'll also find that the biggest reasons for her being boring is that she's shy or nervous. Break the ice, have a friendly competition, not a race or anything, but do something that suits her personality. You'll soon notice that even if you're not interested in a relationship with her, you will actually become friends if you try to make sure that she's involved in everything you do and basically just makes sure that she has fun. The secret to you having a fun night, is to make sure that she has a fun night. Because then that will be her mission too. Good luck and remember to just have fun.
[QUOTE=Seith;34509438]I have had strong feelings, I even cried. Still, I don't call it being in love just being infatuated. Love to me, has a different definition.[/QUOTE] Seith you don't have to act so elusive all the time, I'm assuming you're not like this is real life and you just talk normally. What is your definition of love then? Is it different to everybody elses? I don't like the idea that people get to decide their own definitions for things for the sake of looking all mysterious and deep. That's not the way it works, if someone asked you for a banana you wouldn't say "Oh, that? You might call that a banana. But a banana to me, has a different definition."
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;34509919]Seith you don't have to ask so elusive all the time, I'm assuming you're not like this is real life and you just talk normally. What is your definition of love then? Is it different to everybody elses? I don't like the idea that people get to decide their own definitions for things for the sake of looking all mysterious and deep. That's not the way it works, if someone asked you for a banana you wouldn't say "Oh, that? You might call that a banana. But a banana to me, has a different definition."[/QUOTE] Love is an abstract, so the example given is quite absurd. Love is a definition; it can be purely sexual or it can be purely emotions with no relevance to sex what so ever. Love could be simply the idea of companionship, love could also be used to describe purely passion towards a certain activity. It's so powerful, it can be in context with almost every object in the world, so yes, love is a point of view, a definition, which is to me different than most. If people would like me to elaborate on my views of MY definition, sure. I am being "mysterious", because it's pointless explaining myself on Facepunch.
[QUOTE=Seith;34510009]Love is an abstract, so the example given is quite absurd. Love is a definition; it can be purely sexual or it can be purely emotions with no relevance to sex what so ever. Love could be simply the idea of companionship, love could also be used to describe purely passion towards a certain activity. It's so powerful, it can be in context with almost every object in the world, so yes, love is a point of view, a definition, which is to me different than most. If people would like me to elaborate on my views of MY definition, sure. I am being "mysterious", because it's pointless explaining myself on Facepunch.[/QUOTE] That's what I'm saying, you can't have a different definition. That's the point of defining something.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;34510034]That's what I'm saying, you can't have a different definition. That's the point of defining something.[/QUOTE] I have just shown 3-4 different definitions of the word "love". I will define it for you with a PM if you wish, no point discussing it here.
[QUOTE=Seith;34510049]I have just shown 3-4 different definitions of the word "love". I will define it for you with a PM if you wish, no point discussing it here.[/QUOTE] Ah fair enough, let's just agree to differ. Different strokes and all that. Content: I feel like I need to get out more lately. I'm in a bit of a rut. I've got too comfortable with just going home and hanging out with my housemates. But my housemates smoke a lot of weed and now they have no more money so they just sit and home eating value pasta and playing peggle. This is a problem because normally I'd say to them hey let's all go down the pub and have a few drinks, and we'd normally meet some people there, but now they can't go anywhere and I don't really wanna go on my own and look weird. That means my only alternative is to meet some other mates of mine at the pub, but that's usually one on one. What I want is to go down the pub with a group of mates for a good few hours just bantering but my uni friends are so fragmented (as in, there in different sorts of groups, my comp sci friends couldn't tag along with my other mates etc) that that just doesn't happen. So either I end up staying in, or meeting a mate for a couple 'to catch up', and it's getting a bit tiresome. Bleurggh.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;34510203]Ah fair enough, let's just agree to differ. Different strokes and all that. Content: I feel like I need to get out more lately. I'm in a bit of a rut. I've got too comfortable with just going home and hanging out with my housemates. But my housemates smoke a lot of weed and now they have no more money so they just sit and home eating value pasta and playing peggle. This is a problem because normally I'd say to them hey let's all go down the pub and have a few drinks, and we'd normally meet some people there, but now they can't go anywhere and I don't really wanna go on my own and look weird. That means my only alternative is to meet some other mates of mine at the pub, but that's usually one on one. What I want is to go down the pub with a group of mates for a good few hours just bantering but my uni friends are so fragmented (as in, there in different sorts of groups, my comp sci friends couldn't tag along with my other mates etc) that that just doesn't happen. So either I end up staying in, or meeting a mate for a couple 'to catch up', and it's getting a bit tiresome. Bleurggh.[/QUOTE] Take a vacation, hop over, we'll have the best time of our lives;)
"Hey guys. Brb, just popping over to Israel. No, no it's fine. Yeah, I did just decide today, why? ...I think impulsive is a pejorative term, actually." Well it's a very nice invitation, but I'm going to have to decline what with real life getting in the way. Things like bank balance and commitments. It's not a bad idea though, taking a vacation. I mean I can't afford that but I think I might go back home (as in, family home) this weekend to catch up with people and get a bit of a change of scenery. And hopefully my mum will cook for me.
Mum cooking for ya was the main argument for catching up with home, wasn't it? You weasel.
The confliction (is that even a word?) you get when your friend gets the girl before you do despite knowing her longer is one helluva experience.
[QUOTE=vizard38;34510427]The confliction (is that even a word?) you get when your friend gets the girl before you do despite knowing her longer is one helluva experience.[/QUOTE] Knowing her longer has nothing to do with it. You didn't take the opportunity to get with her or she wasn't interested in you so there should be no hard feelings. Unless of course you told your friend that you wanted to date her, then he is an ass.
lets take this thread back from drbreen drbreen, you have hereby been abrogated from ur own thread
[QUOTE=vizard38;34510427]The confliction (is that even a word?) you get when your friend gets the girl before you do despite knowing her longer is one helluva experience.[/QUOTE] I don't really know what you're getting at, so I'll tell you how I would feel it this was me, and then you can decide if you're feeling something something similar and if it's relevant to you, if not I'm sure someone else might find it useful! I suppose if this was me I'd be feeling low because you'd get the sense despite you having more time to work on it, so to speak, your friend's able to jump in and get it immediatly, whilst you've been there trying your hardest for ages. And then it would make me think that they're 60x better than me. Well I tell a lie, that's what I'd be feeling if I was like 16. The reality is that's not how it is, if someone goes for your friend and not you, all it means is [u]that particular person[/u] wanted your friend and not you, that's reasonable enough isn't it? Otherwise you'd have to assume everyone ever wants you and that must be wrong. So don't worry about it, because some other people will definitely want you over your friend without even a second glance. Different people want different things man, that's all there is to it. [QUOTE=Rusty100;34510505]you have hereby been [b]abrogated[/b] from ur own thread[/QUOTE] I've never seen this word before, it's ace. I'm gonna start using it.
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Would you guys say that having a lot in common is better for a relationship? because i feel that there's people that want a copy of their ego with boobs and people that want the exact opposite of themselves, and hundred other combinations i feel that having a lot in common doesn't really matter At least for people over 20
[QUOTE=DrBreen;34518667]Would you guys say that having a lot in common is better for a relationship? because i feel that there's people that want a copy of their ego with boobs and people that want the exact opposite of themselves, and hundred other combinations i feel that having a lot in common doesn't really matter At least for people over 20[/QUOTE] hint it doesn't matter or care, dating someone with exact similarities and differences has benefits and negatives and it really depends on YOUR own personality and not your partners my girlfriend is a lot like me in ways that I don't actually like, (stubbornness etc) but she can put up with my eccentric ways
[QUOTE=Seith;34508656]Dude, what the fuck. Either she tells you the fuck's wrong, or tell her to piss off. This childish behavior will lead to no where but constant arguments and a broken relationship.[/QUOTE] i asked her to go out this sunday and told her its because we need to talk. she said "oh fuck okay", but hey i really dont see this kind of stuff as healthy for a relationship
[QUOTE=Mr.Dounut;34518718]hint it doesn't matter or care, dating someone with exact similarities and differences has benefits and negatives and it really depends on YOUR own personality and not your partners my girlfriend is a lot like me in ways that I don't actually like, (stubbornness etc) but she can put up with my eccentric ways[/QUOTE] i know, but "having stuff in common" is something that a lot of people hold in high regard these days
Imma ask this girl out tomorrow I can't wait. [editline]2nd February 2012[/editline] I'm excited and feel like I'm gonna hurl at the same time.
[QUOTE=DrBreen;34518667]Would you guys say that having a lot in common is better for a relationship? because i feel that there's people that want a copy of their ego with boobs and people that want the exact opposite of themselves, and hundred other combinations i feel that having a lot in common doesn't really matter At least for people over 20[/QUOTE] I prefer a girl to be able to take me out of my comfort zone and to do things with me that I would never have done before, and I want to be able to do the same for a girl. But on the other hand, having the same passions can be great, as long and they really are passions and not just minor interests. [editline]3rd February 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;34519709]Imma ask this girl out tomorrow I can't wait. [editline]2nd February 2012[/editline] I'm excited and feel like I'm gonna hurl at the same time.[/QUOTE] I'm hoping to do the same on Tuesday. (I've been saying that on this forum since early December, but I'm really going to do it this time.) May the force be with you.
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