• Crossdressing, Transgender & Allies Discussion: New Look, Same Dysphoria
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I've been there too given I play as a girl in pretty much everything given the opportunity, but tbh it's much easier to blow off nowadays and nobody even really gives a shit anymore now that we're older
Ahh thanks for your experience, both of you. I'm a little concerned about dosages but most people say they just put on a new patch and leave the old one on for an extra day or so. I'm not a big fan of needles and have a hard time administering my shot so not having to rely on my husband to take my medicine is a plus (He's doesn't enjoy it either lol, poor guy).
I still get teased for once in awhile but yea, definitely nowhere as bad as it used to be.
Leave old patch on for extra day while applying new one I actually didn't know about this. Thank you for that! Also yeah, injection types are pretty iffy, but the best in terms of getting the greatest effect
To provide an anecdote for the last point; my significant other's parents were pretty against it early on (I'll spare you the details). Over a period of 3 months her mother has come to fully accept and support her as a girl. There's still a little work to be done in regards to her father, but it's not something that can be rushed and it's overall significantly better than before. While I'm not suggesting every family can be as accepting, it's worth a try.
I'm mad as shit because I was meant to be starting HRT this month and suddenly I am on a 20 month waiting list.
Why? Did they give a reason?
I was meant to have a transfer of care agreement sent over to the public health service from the private clinic I was with, but now the public service has decided that they want to do their own diagnosis to see if I really have gender dysphoria and it takes 20 months to even see someone, despite assuring me that my diagnosis was fine and setting up all my blood work. I mean I have been living as a girl for the past 10 months but apparently I and my original doctors don't know what we are talking about. Pulling shit out their ass.
I eventually gave up on following the NHS process after getting screwed around with forgotten referrals, lost appointments, and being sent back to the end of a two year waiting list twice (years apart!). Took me 4 years almost to get anywhere and that was all by my own initiative and with no help from the NHS, I don't regret self-medding for a second as its fairly easy to manage, understand, and source. Though, I'll probably try and go private at some point to take load off. tl;dr I can sympathise, the process I was shoved through was infuriating
Yeah it was the NHS who has fucked all this up for me (I know FP says I in the Netherlands, that's true but I am a British citizen and receiving NHS care) Only thing holding back is the monitoring; I am a pretty active and generally healthy person but I am also kinda paranoid about risks. Did you find any way to monitor stuff when self medding?
Personally, I don't think anyone should self-medicate under any circumstances. But it depends on your situation - if you're like my psycho-ass neighbor who the local PD knows self-medicates with meth (but can't do anything because they don't have proof), and what you're using as a "med" isn't helping, you should stop. But in this case, there are tons of estrogen and testosterone pills you can buy online from Amazon. I don't know if there's testosterone or estrogen blockers, though - and it may be illegal to buy them in the UK. I hope your transition goes well, hun.
I don't know how you can say that when it's so hard for many people to get treatment the "legit" way
I would much prefer to medicate under supervision of a doctor but that is just not happening thanks to the NHS losing all my shit and kicking me to the bottom of the pile for no goddamn reason.
As far as i know, really all you need are blood tests for your hormone levels. Get one done before you start, for a baseline, then get them done every 3 months or so. That's how my doctor handles my HRT.
I would always endorse going proper monitored routes (either privately or through NHS / insurance) but a lot of the time they can do as much harm as they do good. As long as you do your research, are aware and understand the risks, and get tests regularly either privately or through your GP; it shouldn't be a huge issue to do it on your own. It's not a very complicated process in all honesty, I've certainly not had any issues. Though as I said I intend to possibly move private soon to take a load off, as that would be preferable.
waiting 20 months on something that causes the individual considerable existential pain on the daily basis is completely fucking insane. 20 FUCKING MONTHS, it's possible to build like 5% of the great wall of china by that time for fuck's sakes.
I got some women's shoes for the first time. (a pair of super cute mary janes) Which means for the firs time I was able to wear girl stuff head-to-toe. It was so incredibly nice.
I always play boys in games because they are hot tbh, unless its a game where girls actually have the upperhand in fashion like FFXIV
Problem is that my GPs (both my home GP in Scotland and my current GP in the Netherlands) will not do blood tests until I have a diagnosis through a NHS service, and I have to wait 20 months to even /start/ seeing about that. I have a diagnosis through a registered gender specialist, and at first they were like 'oh yeah that's fine' but now they suddenly changed their mind saying that the policy means I need to start at square one.
When don't girls have the upperhand in fashion?
i miss the zing rating
For many people the choice is between death (staying off hormones until they succumb to mental distress and ultimately suicide) or possible health complications from unmonitored HRT. I absolutely agree. The choice is pretty obvious. I fully support any person who takes it upon themselves to get the treatment they need when the system has let them down.
It's settled: Cross-dressing will be a must in future anime games and stuff. No one will feel left out when everyone can wear that sailor moon outfit!
Hanging out with friends tomorrow and we're gonna eat, watch Ready Player One, and then bar crawl after. I'm debating letting it slip to them while drunk, since I met them online. But a part of me is telling me not to.
What is your configuration on friendships? do you prefer to have a small quantity of extremely close friends or a large quantity of kind of sort of friends? If they are the true friends type then revealing it to them should not be an issue, otherwise they are not really friends, and should probably be done when sober. If they are kind of sort of casual buddies then probably absolutely not.
I just wanted to provide an update on that student I spoke with the other day. When I came in the following morning, there was a note on the whiteboard behind my table: "Thank you [my last name] Thank you!" and a smiley face. I already knew it was probably him, but I still asked the teacher I assist who wrote it, and he confirmed it for me- the kid had sneaked into our room through one of the adjoining classrooms and wrote the note right after he got to school. Notice the lack of "Mr." in the note. :') Later on, he came to my table while everyone was busy. He said "I talked to my parents... It didn't go well." Despite the message, he didn't seem too upset. He elaborated that they mainly talked to him about the bullying issues, but weren't receptive to him questioning his gender identity. Unfortunately, I'm not really surprised. Despite all of his behaviors, I get the impression that he doesn't know where to go to get information about transgenderism, and lacks the ability to articulate his feelings in a way that a parent would properly understand. The poor kid is only 11 years old. If his parents are ignorant of the subject, like mine were when I first came out to them, then how is he supposed to defend his position from their questions? I barely held my own at twice his age. I told him to hang on for a few more years, since middle schools and high schools allow students to schedule appointments with guidance councilors on their own time and without parent approval. Without telling him exactly what the councilors might recommend, I simply told him that he might find an advocate among them. I asked him if he knew what an advocate was, and he said no, so I told him, "it's someone who will listen to you and help you if they can. They might be able to talk to your parents about it." He was sad about having to wait a while before really getting the chance to push the issue, but I think he'll be better off in the end because he'll have more time to explore the issue on his own. I hope he takes it seriously and researches this stuff on his own accord before he gets councilors involved. He was also really happy to hear about all the freedom he's going to have as a high school student down the line. I told him about after-school clubs and how I used to be the president at my high school's video game club, and that afterwards my friends and I would walk to the local McDonalds and hang out until almost dinner time. So that's where we left off, and the issue hasn't been brought up since. I'm also confident that he'll keep my secret. He's a good kid. As for me, I'm pretty sure I'm safe in this district even if he did spill the beans. I'm happy I was able to do what my conscience told me without it coming back to bite me.
Are there no private blood testing services you can go to?
I wish I had the confidence of that kid to speak to my teachers and parents back when I was their age. I'd pretty much cemented what I felt back when I was only 7 years old - but my utter total lack of any confidence, fear, and discomfort in myself made me just hold onto it until it was too hard to bare any longer; and at that point almost 10 years had passed. I can never help but feel a little upset at how different things would've been for me had I just been able to speak my mind back then... Glad for them though, they might have the chance that I always missed taking.
I got my hair cut and I feel super cuute, I might post pictures later~
Chest has felt a lot more sensitive and sore on the last couple of weeks, feeling my shirt rub against it when I wear non-oversized shirts feels weird. But hey, at least that means the meds are working, which is nice!
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