Your partner is transgender, and goes through a sex change... What would you do? - General

Basically, after reading [URL="http://facepunch.com/threads/1169233"]this article[/URL], I started thinking... What if I was in the position of the husband? How would that affect my relationship? I think I came to this conclusion: I'd still love that person, but I wouldn't be sexually attracted to them due to my sexual orientation. I'd stay with that person as a life partner, for sure, but I'd think that intimacy would cease. Thoughts?

I'd tell them to get the fuck out, seriously. [highlight](User was banned for this post ("This is NOT how to post in Mass Debate" - Megafan))[/highlight]

[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_Di5J2CsL4[/media] And, ofcourse, reach back like a pimp and slap the hoe. [highlight](User was banned for this post ("This is NOT how to post in Mass Debate" - Megafan))[/highlight]

Breakup/Divorce time. They want to be a man and i don't want to be in a relationship with a man.

I'd probably break off a relationship but hope to keep them as a friend.

they're still the same person mentally, which is what matters. if i was in any sort of serious relationship I would still stick by them and look after them - getting a sex change can't be easy, and the last thing they'd need is to be dumped because of who they are. I think if you "tell them to get the fuck out, seriously" you are being extremely shallow and callous. I can see why you wouldn't want to continue fucking them, or even kissing them, but blankly ditching them just because of something like that is cruel.

I don't find transexuals attractive at all, so naturally I would break up with them, especially if they kept it a secret from me.

if i love someone, a hole's a hole

[QUOTE=Mr.Ken;35069555]I don't find transexuals attractive at all, so naturally I would break up with them, especially if they kept it a secret from me.[/QUOTE] Since sexual attraction is definitely the foundation of every long-lasting relationship. I think it's a fairly ridiculous statement to make. If she were suddenly made a burn victim or horribly disfigured, would you leave her because you don't find burn victims or ugly damaged people physically attractive? I would hope not, because there's still the same very hurt and confused person inside [whom you have grown to identify with as your partner], who is trying to reach out and find someone to embrace them in their adversity. You've been together a long time [hence the word partner, not girlfriend] and your relationship has probably a lot more basis to it than physical attraction. I'd understand if the physical intimacy broke off, and then eventually it was ended because the relationship wasn't working, but I can't believe how many people would outright say either "get out" or "you can't be that way" to someone who truly believes that is the physical identity that they need to have to be complete. At least give the relationship a chance to fail on it's own, rather than instantly divorcing it because you found out something new about them.

Looks couldn't matter less to me, If I love them I love them.

My partner [B]IS[/B] transgendered, and [B]WILL[/B] be going through a sex-change. Do you think I [I]care[/I]?

I wouldnt mind

Would break up. Plus I would be thinking all night that this was my fault.

Well if you're dating someone transgendered in the first place I feel like gender reassignment procedures wouldn't come as that much of a shock.

I would wish the person good luck and help any way possible. I would call for a divorce/split up though, since It's a pretty drastic change.

[QUOTE=Ray-The-Sun;35069847]My partner [B]IS[/B] transgendered, and [B]WILL[/B] be going through a sex-change. Do you think I [I]care[/I]?[/QUOTE] I don't know do you I can't tell which side of the line you're hinting at

[QUOTE=LegndNikko;35068765]Basically, after reading [URL="http://facepunch.com/threads/1169233"]this article[/URL], I started thinking... What if I was in the position of the husband? How would that affect my relationship? I think I came to this conclusion: I'd still love that person, but I wouldn't be sexually attracted to them due to my sexual orientation. I'd stay with that person as a life partner, for sure, but I'd think that intimacy would cease. Thoughts?[/QUOTE] I honestly would break up with him/her and just stay as friends as I wouldn't want to be dating a man. I don't see why should I have to suffer living in a relationship with a transgender man that I wouldn't be enjoying as much as I would with a chick. [QUOTE=Ray-The-Sun;35069847]My partner [B]IS[/B] transgendered, and [B]WILL[/B] be going through a sex-change. Do you think I [I]care[/I]?[/QUOTE] How are we suppose to know if you care or not?

[QUOTE=Typhoonx10;35068779]I'd tell them to get the fuck out, seriously.[/QUOTE] Why? This is an extremely terrible thing to even do.

[QUOTE=Typhoonx10;35068779]I'd tell them to get the fuck out, seriously.[/QUOTE] i too, think being loving and supporting during an extremely tough operation is not the way to go.

oh hey it's THIS THREAD [B]AGAIN[/B] [B]who the fuck keeps posting this shit unless you're a complete shithead who doesn't know how intolerant as fuck 99.9% of facepunch is[/B] i have nothing against transsexuals and would no problem if that happened. [highlight](User was banned for this post ("This is not debating" - Orkel))[/highlight]

[QUOTE=rapedox;35070844]oh hey it's THIS THREAD [B]AGAIN[/B] [B]who the fuck keeps posting this shit unless you're a complete shithead who doesn't know how intolerant as fuck 99.9% of facepunch is[/B] i have nothing against transsexuals and would no problem if that happened.[/QUOTE] I need a fucking huge agree button for this.

[QUOTE=aerika;35070914]I need a fucking huge agree button for this.[/QUOTE] Definitely, they should have just a disagree and agree button for MD threads.

I'd break up with him/her or whatever. The fact that somebody would keep an enormous secret like this from me means they aren't good enough.

[QUOTE=Laferio;35071039]I'd break up with him/her or whatever. The fact that somebody would keep an enormous secret like this from me means they aren't good enough.[/QUOTE] The depression and insecurity of it can cause a great deal to their mental functionality, making them question if they can trust you with something they may deem so horrible.

I don't think a person that had a transgender operation that is currently insecure and depressed should date then until he/she is mentally stable. Because that can only lead to a bad outcome in a relationship.

Reminds me of a song I heard a while ago, went something like "If you suddenly turned into a guy, I'd suddenly turn gay." I guess if it was the right girl, then I'd probably stick with her even after the surgery.

I'll accept their decision and i'll be there for them, but I wish to be in a relationship with a woman due to reproductive reasons, therefore I will be there for them and will not ditch them but our love life will be severed.

[QUOTE=.FLAP.JACK.DAN.;35071274]I don't think a person that had a transgender operation that is currently insecure and depressed should date then until he/she is mentally stable. Because that can only lead to a bad outcome in a relationship.[/QUOTE] Few people with mental disorders actually realize how they have it and how it affects others.

Fuck 'em. Literally [highlight](User was banned for this post ("This is NOT how to post in Mass Debate" - Megafan))[/highlight]

Break up. [editline]10th March 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=rapedox;35070844]oh hey it's THIS THREAD [B]AGAIN[/B] [B]who the fuck keeps posting this shit unless you're a complete shithead who doesn't know how intolerant as fuck 99.9% of facepunch is[/B] i have nothing against transsexuals and would no problem if that happened.[/QUOTE] How's it intolerant? What I'm supposed to just say "oh cool" when my girlfriend just shows up one day with a beard and dick?