• My best friends ex bf offered to meet with me. What to do?
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Hey, the story is I have best friend (girl) we are like 24/7 together in college. She had bf whom I never met, yet he knew about my existance and that I spend 24/7 with her in college. She broke up with him few weeks ago now he added me on facebook and offered to meet or go for coffee on weekend, currently I really dislike my best friends new bf who's a total dipshit. So any ideas what would he want from me? Btw when she broke up with him she didnt' say that she has new bf or anything, so he may as well thing I am her new bf. I didn't reject offer anyways, I disliked this guy before, but I dislike her new bf even more, so what? Enemy of my enemy is my friend? What do you think he might want to do? I know many may say: "It's her life don't get involved etc.." but well we are best friends, she's like sister to me so I want to help sort this shit out.
Go. If you don't he might think that you are her's new boyfriend, and start to make your life to shit.
[QUOTE=overpain;34711529]Go. If you don't he might think that you are her's new boyfriend, and start to make your life to shit.[/QUOTE] I kind of hated him before, not sure if I still do. I just called my friend and she said not to go and that hes' very aggressive so she doesnt' want anything to happen to me, though in my opinion it's better to accept and sort the shit out than be a pussy? :v:
I literally cannot fathom this story. Make a chart or something, including blue/pink icons for the sexes.
Chances are he wants to meet you so he can get close to yer mate again. Base your choices on that assumption.
[QUOTE=Mr Shadyface;34711645]Chances are he wants to meet you so he can get close to yer mate again. Base your choices on that assumption.[/QUOTE] Well I assured my friend that I wont tell him anything about her.
He want's either to beat your shit up or become your friend. Either way, i would come. For the first, it's better to come and not be a pussy because later will be worse, and second, who knows, you can even make a new friend.
[QUOTE=overpain;34711704]He want's either to beat your shit up or become your friend. Either way, i would come. For the first, it's better to come and not be a pussy because later will be worse, and second, who knows, you can even make a new friend.[/QUOTE] He was the person I hated the most at one stage (3 months ago). Now I don't hate him as much.
[QUOTE=overpain;34711704]He want's either to beat your shit up or become your friend. Either way, i would come. For the first, it's better to come and not be a pussy because later will be worse, and second, who knows, you can even make a new friend.[/QUOTE] What kind of person want to beat the shit out of the their exs friend who they never met? Remind me tt stay the fuck away from your ex's
[QUOTE=Mr Shadyface;34711746]What kind of person want to beat the shit out of the their exs friend who they never met? Remind me tt stay the fuck away from your ex's[/QUOTE] There is people like that. They are called "douchebags" Op, do you know if he hates/dislikes/likes you?
I think we can all agree that he wants SOMETHING out of you, possibly: 1. Knowledge if you're the new boyfriend 2. Knowledge of new boyfriend 3. Getting close to you to get close to her 4. Beat you up 5. General insider knowledge However, keep in mind, someone who has at least a slight IQ wont beat you up in public. Police would be called and he would be arrested for assualt, so if you DO go, stay in a well crowded area or in a business establishment. Dont go down any alleys with him or anything.
[QUOTE=Mr Shadyface;34711746]What kind of person want to beat the shit out of the their exs friend who they never met? Remind me tt stay the fuck away from your ex's[/QUOTE] Oh btw did I mention the day they broke up, I was walking with her on street and we by accident bumped into him and that evening they broke up. That day he looked at me like at some kind of nemesis. [editline]15th February 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=overpain;34711776]There is people like that. They are called "douchebags" Op, do you know if he hates/dislikes/likes you?[/QUOTE] I think he has lots of reasons to hate me: 1) The day they broke up, me and her were together and we bumped into him on street. 2) On new year I gifted her huge chocolates box and a teddy bear, so when she met with him in evening she said he was totally mad. 3) Sometimes I draw on her arms in class when I am bored and she's sleeping or so (I know it's childish), so when he saw her with drawings on arms he knew I have some kind of physical contact with her. 4) He knows I am 24/7 with her in college (which is like 8 hours a day with her, while he spent with her max 12 hours a week) 5) She had pics up on facebook, where shes' like wearing stuff like skirts etc.. And he knew who took pics (me) 6) When he offered once to home up to college to meet with her, she told him not to, he asked why? And she replied "Because I don't want to leave my friend here, I will walk with him home") 7) He saw pics which I took of her at my home, (During break in college we come to me to watch film, drink tea etc.., so she asked to take pics of her while she's sitting in my room) 8) On haloween we celebrated with class in bar, that day she toold him over phone that I will get her home, so they got into conflict. So yeah...
[QUOTE=arleitiss;34711787]Oh btw did I mention the day they broke up, I was walking with her on street and we by accident bumped into him and that evening they broke up. That day he looked at me like at some kind of nemesis. [editline]15th February 2012[/editline] I think he has lots of reasons to hate me: 1) The day they broke up, me and her were together and we bumped into him on street. 2) On new year I gifted her huge chocolates box and a teddy bear, so when she met with him in evening she said he was totally mad. 3) Sometimes I draw on her arms in class when I am bored and she's sleeping or so (I know it's childish), so when he saw her with drawings on arms he knew I have some kind of physical contact with her. 4) He knows I am 24/7 with her in college (which is like 8 hours a day with her, while he spent with her max 12 hours a week) 5) She had pics up on facebook, where shes' like wearing stuff like skirts etc.. And he knew who took pics (me) 6) When he offered once to home up to college to meet with her, she told him not to, he asked why? And she replied "Because I don't want to leave my friend here, I will walk with him home") 7) He saw pics which I took of her at my home, (During break in college we come to me to watch film, drink tea etc.., so she asked to take pics of her while she's sitting in my room) 8) On haloween we celebrated with class in bar, that day she toold him over phone that I will get her home, so they got into conflict. So yeah...[/QUOTE] First things first. You still should go, but act totally cool about this, and explain that there's nothing going on between you. Don't go to unpopulated places, so he couldn't do anything stupid. On unrelated notice, you're in the very deep friendzone.
[QUOTE=overpain;34711900]First things first. You still should go, but act totally cool about this, and explain that there's nothing going on between you. Don't go to unpopulated places, so he couldn't do anything stupid. On unrelated notice, you're in the very deep friendzone.[/QUOTE] Yeah guess will do that. [editline]15th February 2012[/editline] Okay weird news: He offered to meet today at 8 PM (in 2 hours)
[QUOTE=arleitiss;34711909]Yeah guess will do that. [editline]15th February 2012[/editline] Okay weird news: He offered to meet today at 8 PM (in 2 hours)[/QUOTE] Where?
[QUOTE=overpain;34711966]Where?[/QUOTE] Well apparently we live nearby to each other. Btw without even me saying anything he wrote: "ah and please ... do not prepare for fights or things like that as i've heard before... :|" so he has something like that in mind I suppose?
[QUOTE=arleitiss;34711975]Well apparently we live nearby to each other. Btw without even me saying anything he wrote: "ah and please ... do not prepare for fights or things like that as i've heard before... :|" so he has something like that in mind I suppose?[/QUOTE] I would search for some sort of backup, like friend nearby, but it doesn't exactly mean that he want to fight you, he may be a good guy and just want to talk. But as i told you, i would call friend for support if shit happens.
[QUOTE=overpain;34711995]I would search for some sort of backup, like friend nearby, but it doesn't exactly mean that he want to fight you, he may be a good guy and just want to talk. But as i told you, i would call friend for support if shit happens.[/QUOTE] Yeah all my friends went to a party today which I apparently refused to go to as I had driving to do today.
I've got a baaaaaaaaaaaaaad feeling about this...
[QUOTE=arleitiss;34712008]Yeah all my friends went to a party today which I apparently refused to go to as I had driving to do today.[/QUOTE] Good friends would come out to help you.
Yeah same, for some reason he told me he can't meet now, but he can at 8 PM, yet if hes' busy now as he said hes' sitting on facebook and chatting.
So you got friendzoned and still stick with the girl?
[QUOTE=overpain;34712023]Good friends would come out to help you.[/QUOTE] well no one could expect this shit to happen today. Also that party is on bus going around country. [editline]15th February 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=BloodYScar;34712028]So you got friendzoned and still stick with the girl?[/QUOTE] Anything wrong with that?
Beware He wants sexual intercourse with you, consensual or not
I like you, arleitiss. You're good people.
[QUOTE=arleitiss;34712031]well no one could expect this shit to happen today. Also that party is on bus going around country. [editline]15th February 2012[/editline] Anything wrong with that?[/QUOTE] Then say to him you get an imminent job to do, say to him that you can meet him at tommorow morning/dinner.
Don't meet him at night and dont just meet up in a neighborhood. Do it in broad daylight in a public place.
[QUOTE=Desert Rat;34712134]Don't meet him at night and dont just meet up in a neighborhood. Do it in broad daylight in a public place.[/QUOTE] And be in the crowded places.
We both live like 5 min from city centre, guess we meet there.
[QUOTE=arleitiss;34712157]We both live like 5 min from city centre, guess we meet there.[/QUOTE] But meet him tomorrow.
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