Help me with a situation i am stuck in! - General

Ok, so i am from UK, i really want to get away from here and go to Australia or Canada for a year or so to work and just enjoy myself. Here are the issues: Girlfriend (7 years) Job (earn good money, i wouldn't get anywhere else) Miss family (gay but true) Over thinking it, alot making it seem not such a good idea! Help me out guys what do you think i should do? Any experience with this type of thing? Any questions i will answer Thanks!

Why don't you just talk to your GF and your boss about it? I mean if you got a nice GF and if your boss thinks you've worked good i don't think it would be impossible to get some months or perhaps a year off.

[QUOTE=jc90;43972402] Girlfriend (7 years) [/QUOTE] Umm... Isn't she a bit too young?

[QUOTE=Viper123_SWE;43972451]Why don't you just talk to your GF and your boss about it? I mean if you got a nice GF and if your boss thinks you've worked good i don't think it would be impossible to get some months or perhaps a year off.[/QUOTE] I cant get the year off, i tried speaking to my boss but it cant be done. My Gf said she doesn't mind but doesn't know if it will still work so im not sure what to do in the situation.

Why do you want to go?

[QUOTE=Aathma;43972882]Why do you want to go?[/QUOTE] Because i feel as though i have done nothing with my life, i want to experience something different, but i might not like it and lose alot, its a huge decision for me!

[QUOTE=jc90;43973439]Because i feel as though i have done nothing with my life, i want to experience something different, but i might not like it and lose alot, its a huge decision for me![/QUOTE] An understandable feeling. In my opinion, location isn't going to change anything and what it might change isn't for the better. If you don't feel like you have done anything where you are now, why should that change in a different country? It seems to me that the risk is far FAR too high to be worth it. How long have you been feeling like this and what else have you tried?

[QUOTE=Aathma;43974153]An understandable feeling. In my opinion, location isn't going to change anything and what it might change isn't for the better. If you don't feel like you have done anything where you are now, why should that change in a different country? It seems to me that the risk is far FAR too high to be worth it. How long have you been feeling like this and what else have you tried?[/QUOTE] Ive tried nothing as im unsure what i can do to make me feel better. I feel as though i need to go and do something out the ordinary, i dont want to be stuck in the same place all my life. Is some time away from everything the answer to stop me feeling fed up?

[QUOTE=jc90;43974773]Ive tried nothing as im unsure what i can do to make me feel better. I feel as though i need to go and do something out the ordinary, i dont want to be stuck in the same place all my life. Is some time away from everything the answer to stop me feeling fed up?[/QUOTE] Maybe a vacation but you can hardly go live another life and expect to be able to return to your old one.

Take your bird with you? If you want to do something with your life and you're in a committed relationship then take her with you.

She wouldnt go thats 1 of the issues

Yeah, a year isn't really a vacation, for that extended of a period you're basically living a new life, so you can't just expect to go back and things won't have changed. It's a tough decision that you'll ultimately have to make yourself, but if it was me, I would go, but then, my situation is: -that feel when no GF -shitty walmart job -would miss my family but that's always gonna be true

Yer i think i could lose her,and i will lose my job, suppose that kinda makes it not worth it. Lifes tough

[QUOTE=jc90;43972402]Ok, so i am from UK, i really want to get away from here and go to Australia or Canada for a year or so to work and just enjoy myself. Here are the issues: Girlfriend (7 years) Job (earn good money, i wouldn't get anywhere else) Miss family (gay but true) Over thinking it, alot making it seem not such a good idea! Help me out guys what do you think i should do? Any experience with this type of thing? Any questions i will answer Thanks![/QUOTE] 1. Take her. 2. You'll make more in Australia. 3. Skype. 4. Stop doing that, you're wasting your life. (I've traveled/worked around the world,[B] Trust me[/B] it will be the best thing you do.)

[QUOTE=Four20;43976498]1. Take her. 2. You'll make more in Australia. 3. Skype. 4. Stop doing that, you're wasting your life. (I've traveled/worked around the world,[B] Trust me[/B] it will be the best thing you do.)[/QUOTE] He said she wouldn't go.

Yeah I just saw that but my point still stands. I felt the OP a number of years ago. I was fed up with life didn't like the direction of it, my missus at the time wasn't involved in any plans I made to explore, she was happy to live and die here. I left her, started to travel and didn't stop for about 3 or 4 years. Along the way I become so much more of a person than when I had left.. My home town, the same pale faces, drinking in the same pubs, talking about the same stuff they watched on the TV last night... nothing had changed... sure a few mates popped out kids... Shops in the local area changed.. but nothing was different.. Personally I think you should go for it, the job you have now may be here here when you return, maybe it will, you'll never know. I didn't want to go in and write loads but it's a good topic for me.. Even at this moment I am packing to move from the UK to Holland and leave my missus behind while we work/save for a house in the Netherlands, it's tough. I could write masses and masses of stuff about why you should over why you shouldn't.

Yer she said she wont go

Why would you want to go to Australia?

You'll regret not doing it in a few years... so give it a go. If it ends up for the worse, then at least you've learnt something and experienced things along the way.

If you really care for her then its best to not go, you don't want to ruin your love life, even if you feel like she's holding you back

To quote one of them things girls post on facebook. [QUOTE]"If you aren't happy being single you will never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life first, then share it."[/QUOTE] I'll go out on a limb and say the people saying stay, don't even own a passport.

If you care about her, is it really worth leaving just for a bit of fun somewhere else?

Can't you just go on a holiday?

Ye surely that would be a better idea, plan it out,tell your family and girlfriend to save for a couple of years. Have a good holiday with everyone you love

Or even a vacation on your own. Just a week away from everything.

Thanks for all the reply's. Yes i do love her and my family but should that stop this oppurtunity of a life time?

[QUOTE=Desuh;43972479]Umm... Isn't she a bit too young?[/QUOTE] He means dog years, genius.

[QUOTE=jc90;43983841]Thanks for all the reply's. Yes i do love her and my family but should that stop this oppurtunity of a life time?[/QUOTE] yes

Take a longer holiday, maybe a month or a couple of weeks. Travel through a larger area i.e. the countries around the south China sea, road trip along one of the coasts in the US, or around the Caribbean sea, whatever what you think you might like. I'd say that it would be better to take a long holiday at first, to meet new people, get some new experiences. When you come home you will have lots of stories to tell your girlfriend, perhaps she will think it really does sound like fun, and will perhaps be more willingly to the whole living abroad situation. I found myself in a similar situation last year, I was really, really tired of work, and afraid of being stuck in my current life situation. So I decided to visit a couple of friends who were studying in Japan at the time. I were there for 2 weeks, and had a really good time. Note that I did spent quite a lot of time without mentioned friends, because they still had school to attend. I explored the city and did whatever I felt like. Also, don't think to much about the language barrier when you decide where you're going, if I were able to get around with my non existant japanese skills in a country where they aren't too good with speaking english, anyone can get around everywhere. Especially since I have a food allergy no one outside northern Europe has heard of. Also, stay in hostels as much as you can, you will meet a lot more interesting people with different life experiences, maybe they will give you some ideas. I hope I gave you some ideas and that I made sense.

[QUOTE=ZOMG_HAXX;43983994]Take a longer holiday, maybe a month or a couple of weeks. Travel through a larger area i.e. the countries around the south China sea, road trip along one of the coasts in the US, or around the Caribbean sea, whatever what you think you might like. I'd say that it would be better to take a long holiday at first, to meet new people, get some new experiences. When you come home you will have lots of stories to tell your girlfriend, perhaps she will think it really does sound like fun, and will perhaps be more willingly to the whole living abroad situation. I found myself in a similar situation last year, I was really, really tired of work, and afraid of being stuck in my current life situation. So I decided to visit a couple of friends who were studying in Japan at the time. I were there for 2 weeks, and had a really good time. Note that I did spent quite a lot of time without mentioned friends, because they still had school to attend. I explored the city and did whatever I felt like. Also, don't think to much about the language barrier when you decide where you're going, if I were able to get around with my non existant japanese skills in a country where they aren't too good with speaking english, anyone can get around everywhere. Especially since I have a food allergy no one outside northern Europe has heard of. Also, stay in hostels as much as you can, you will meet a lot more interesting people with different life experiences, maybe they will give you some ideas. I hope I gave you some ideas and that I made sense.[/QUOTE] This sounds like a good plan to me. There is no need for reckless decisions in order to broaden experience.