Are you happy with your age and what you achieved till now?
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So, I had this problem I was struggling with.
I became 20 last november which made a big impact on me. Because I know a lot of people judge me differently now i'm older. Also I get to do less things I was doing like in my years of being a teenager. In other words I miss my younger years. I am probably still in school till my 24th. I am slowly climbing up from the pit they call MBO over here. Now doing level 4. (highest)
Enfin, I pretty much got over most of it after I received my diploma of MBO 3 this month. Because I take a lot of free time this summer vacation I also get to realise how good my childhood was and that I had fun (on my own) as a teenager. Now we slowly move forward. And I look at what I have accomplished as a individual.
I think I accomplished jack shit personally. OK, school is the only thing I am pretty happy about because I am making progress. But damn when it comes to me having a girlfriend, even I get dissapointed with myself. Twenty years in and never made a damn move. My life kinda revolves around it because it's on of those things you must have tried.
It's kinda funny in a way because when I received my diploma a few weeks ago my mentor told my parents I always showed up on school happy. And she told them that if I was sad or demotivated. I always hid it my sadness very well.
Wrapping things up. Am I happy with what I achieved right now now I am 20?
No, simply because people (ladies) find me not mature enough to be relationship material. The basic thing about life is get a girlfriend, get a good education + job, buy an appartment and start a family.
I have a feeling if I don't take make a move soon I might regret it, forever.
So far my mood for the day.
So Facepunch. My question to you. Are you happy with your age and what you achieved till mow?
No matter how it feels, having a girlfriend isn't that important. You should go about your life seeking happiness in other things. I think you should feel a greater sense of accomplishment over your diploma. Of course, telling you this won't make it so, but for what it's worth, Wikipedia makes MBO 3 seem like a big deal.
[editline]24th July 2013[/editline]
Personally I'm not happy with what I've done so far, but I have time to change that.
You consider having a girlfriend to be a hallmark of your success as a person? You should want a girlfriend because you happened to meet a girl you are really compatible with. Trust me on this one, drop the notion that "having a girlfriend" is a basic thing about life. I wish I knew it sooner, maybe then I wouldn't have fucked things up last time.
I know that doesn't bring you any closer to finding happiness with yourself, but it will save you a step. If you do find something that makes you happy with yourself, let me know what it is. I'm still looking myself.
I'm happy with being 23, I've achieved a small mountain of things on my short life and still have another mountain to complete.
I'd worry about becoming stable before getting a girlfriend. I personally wish I would have gone the route of having an awesome job and owning a place first, but I had my first kid at 21, second at 23, and am now a 24 year old divorce-e who lives in an appartment with my 2 children who have a mom who walked out on them and doesn't want anything to do with them. Turned out she was a whore who just couldn't turn it down, and eventually she'll try to pry herself back into their lives when she figures out her own life which I hope never happens. I live paycheck to paycheck now, and even though it's a decent job, paying $300 a WEEK in childcare, and $120 for their health insurance per week is not making life easy on me. Am I happy with where I'm at? Yes. I have my kids, and somewhere to live. Do I have extra money or time to go back to school and major in another field? No.
Stick it out, and don't worry about a girl for now. Currently I have one again, but she found me. Be happy at the moment if you don't have children, your chances of meeting a nice girl go way up. I've found that guys will fuck a chick and date her even if she has kids, but once it comes time to meet them, even you may think so yourself: That's responsibility you can turn down. You don't need it. Now on the other hand, a guy, with two kids - there's maybe 5% of the female population that can deal with that or want to deal with that. So like I said, be happy that you have options. Get yourself situated, and don't rush into stuff. Be patient about it.
So far I haven't achieved anything, but I'm only 19 years old so still time to do stuff.
[QUOTE=Krinkels;41584902]No matter how it feels, having a girlfriend isn't that important. You should go about your life seeking happiness in other things. I think you should feel a greater sense of accomplishment over your diploma. Of course, telling you this won't make it so, but for what it's worth, Wikipedia makes MBO 3 seem like a big deal.
[editline]24th July 2013[/editline]
Personally I'm not happy with what I've done so far, but I have time to change that.[/QUOTE]
Thank you for your positive feedback. I think the keyword in this case is indeed 'time'.
I guess time shows each of us where we are heading. I guess doing my best at what I do right now is the best I can do for myself at the moment.
[QUOTE=Steffmeister;41584795]So Facepunch. My question to you. Are you happy with your age and what you achieved till now?[/QUOTE]
No.
I've hated school for a long time now and it's made trying to go through college really rough. I'm 25, 26 in December, and I'm still not much closer to a college degree than a freshman. I hate thinking about it, thinking about all the time I've been wasting, all the money I've been blowing, trying to make myself go through a process that I know will probably better me by the end of it but still seriously hate going through. This next semester I'm actually taking a full load of courses because I've finally made the decision to buckle down on myself and power through however many years I need left to actually get a decent college degree. In all the interim's I've has between going to college on and off I've spent far too much time on my ass without a job, so I don't have many accomplishments from stuff like that or much money. I'm also living in an area I absolutely hate.
Being 25, I'm probably in the upper bracket of age on this forum so I'm going to tell everyone here something I didn't really realize when I was in high school because I hated it so much: If all you focus on is getting good grades in school until you graduate college, you're going to have a way better time farther down the road. Obviously you can have your hobbies and shit but if 75% of your effort goes into looking good grade-wise, you're fucking set.
I'm 21 and unhappy because I feel like I've accomplished nothing in my goal to become a level designer.
I mean, I would like to think that I am a damn good level designer, but my lack of motivation to finish what I start is really hurting me.
I'm 28, I've got a decent career, a girlfriend of about six years, and my computer isn't broken at the moment.
[QUOTE=slayer20;41585166]I'm 21 and unhappy because I feel like I've accomplished nothing in my goal to become a level designer.
I mean, I would like to think that I am a damn good level designer, but my lack of motivation to finish what I start is really hurting me.[/QUOTE]
If you want to finish something... You can finish to your profile pic, like the rest of us.
Im 15 and I have no idea what I want to do with my life, so Im not really thata happy.
Hmm its not that bad but id like to have some things better. But all in all everythings ok i guess.
Im 16 and finished with school
[QUOTE=loppan997;41585918]If you want to finish something... You can finish to your profile pic, like the rest of us.[/QUOTE]
I have a whole thread dedicated to that sort of thing :v:
Well let's see, I'm 18 and I have:
- Finished school with the marks I needed to get into university. Topped the year in two subjects and my major project for one of those was nominated for a state-wide display with some firm
- Started studying the course I've dreamed of doing since senior school and I'm enjoying it a lot
- A decent enough car despite all the things wrong with it. For a sedan it's good on fuel while having a bit of power on offer and it's overall pretty convenient
- Good friends who I always do stuff with. I'm going to have dinner with some of them tomorrow night actually
- A decent reputation despite the things that I've done that harmed that. I managed to leave school on good terms with all the teachers that I respected
- I no longer live with my parents, currently renting a place and it's pretty good. Freedom!
- I have a job and along with a little bit of support from the government I can meet all of my expenses
Money's a bit tight at the moment but I think for what I've done I am happy with what I've achieved. It can only get better with a higher paying job and someone I can share a bed with.
I'm 15, and I'm happy enough with what little I've achieved. Although most of the things that I've done that I'm proud of are quite small, they're still important to me.
I'm 20 and I am incredibly happy with what I achieved. I play 5 instruments very well (Guitar, acoustic guitar, drums, piano, bass) I beatbox and sing. I have a band and do solo artist stuff. I am physically stable, the depression of my teen years is over and everything is glueing together. I have an excellent workplace (I am the only worker, cooperating with my company's boss and such) I have alot of responsibility at work and at home steering my depressed family into more lucky times which helps me move forward as a human being as well :smile:. And I live nearly completely on my own food/furniture/rent wise.
And to think of it, 4 years ago I was an depressed wreck and I was at a point of killing myself. It all changed with viewing things differently and more openly, giving everything a chance and working on your dreams as a [I]lone[/I] wolf.
I'm 16 and I'm happy with what I've achieved. I can't say I was always too lucky in my life, I had pretty often really shit and disappointing moments, but I'm happy with what I got now and I am glad I got over that time of my life. Sure, there's always more that I could have done/that I could do, but I am actually happy at this moment.
I'm 21. Last November I fell into a depression because I didn't do much after high school, and it really hit me hard. After pushing myself, I can say for certain that I'm happy now. Starting school in the fall too.
22, nothing notable accomplished thus far, not even minor social goals.
16, kind of in limbo not happy or sad in particular. I don't really do anything, but it's not like I'm a complete fuck up
so yeah.
Given that I literally went from level zero to one hundred over night with the first girl I have loved and ever will love I think I did alright.
I literally don't get this whole alpha/beta thing, just straight up said I loved her and I'm still with her to this day at 21. Making muscle gains and living on my own with alright money, I'm happy but I am hungry for more.
Lol no.
26, solid career, car, no medical problems.
Have never had a serious relationship, though, although I have an active social life with a variety of friends.
So I guess I'm good. Next step is to find someone to share my successes with.
We all grow up in our own time. That's what I have to remind myself when I'm feeling down. I'm 20 and only now taking my steps into college.
I finally found the one thing I want to do with my life, and that's pursue a career in programming. I want to use that motivation to help myself excel in other areas of life as well.
Up until high school when the grades actually mattered, I sucked at school. My parents got pretty pissed off but that's way behind me and I barely think about it anymore.
Everyone thought I was going to suck at IGCSE exams and I proved them wrong by doing much better than expected. I returned to the UK and did it again at college and now I'm going for a so-called hat trick and doing the same at university, so far at least.
But I am not happy with what I've accomplished. Over the years I've gotten into pixel art, programming, graphics design, electronic music composition, digital art and level design. Never once have I actually finished any of my significant ideas, all I've had real success with is level design with Hammer and even that has turned stale. I have all these great ideas that never even come close to getting finished and I've just been getting worse and worse at that since I turned about 17. I look at everyone else's work and, selfish as it is, always compare my own and feel like theirs is always superior, that I lack any real skill myself in any of these things. This may be part of what kills my motivation.
I've had depression on and off ever since the end of middle school. With it has come councilling and therapy. I just feel like there is always something to worry about and my parents don't help by putting the pressure on when I've already proved I can handle myself.
What the fuck is wrong with me.
By age 26, Alexander the Great had ascended to King of Macedon and conquered the Persian Empire from scratch
if that answers your question
Eh... I graduated a couple weeks ago, but all that time I spent playing video games, if I'd spent only half of it doing something useful...
I'm 20 and I feel like I've missed out on every piece of experience that I should have had. I'm still a socially awkward 15 year old with a lack of both motivation and experience in mind. It sucks, but right now I'm in the situation where I basically have to find a job since I just graduated [I](from the 'gymnasium')[/I] a little less than a month ago. I'm guessing that once I finally get through that wall, I'll begin climbing the ladder of being a real proper adult instead of whatever the fuck it is I am right now.
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