• My friend went missing, I'm at a loss.
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I have nowhere else to go. I have no idea what to do. All I can think of is to ask anyone on FP for help. The user in question is Daniel Smith ([url]https://facepunch.com/member.php?u=340743[/url]) This has been in the back of my head just days after he stopped logging on. I was unsure about posting about him online, but I'll keep it as private as possible. He was a regular user on FP and some of you probably know him through certain ongoing threads. He went "missing" 21 March last month. I usually talk to him everyday on skype but he hasn't been on for weeks and there are a few red flags. He deleted all of his social media accounts and requested to be permabanned on facepunch. I want to respect his privacy as much as possible, but I will tell you that I fear the worst for him, based on earlier situations. I've known him for 2 years now and this is very strange behaviour. I don't think he has a facebook account, and he hasn't checked his phone. I don't know who his friends are, or family members whom I can contact. I'm sorry if this thread is out of place, but I have nowhere else to go when it comes to asking around. He was on facepunch every day, so I hoped someone would know him and how to find him. I can't sleep anymore. Thank you for reading.
he's alive
[QUOTE=tehMuffinMan;50094973]he's alive[/QUOTE] You know where he is? I can't reach him anywhere.
I actually don't know where he is online but I know he hasn't killed himself or anything source: I'm his brother
[QUOTE=tehMuffinMan;50094992]I actually don't know where he is online but I know he hasn't killed himself or anything source: I'm his brother[/QUOTE] He hasn't left a trace for weeks anywhere so I got extremely worried, but I'll take your word for it. I'm glad he's there. Any ways you can let him know I'm waiting for him when he decides to come back?
tehmuffinman kidnapped him and he is locked in his basement
Sometimes people just need to disconnect for a while.
I understand the urge to just abandon all social media and online friends. For most, they simply don't add anything to your life except escapism. When it becomes something like old bad habit getting in the way of your life, sometimes it's better to forcefully drop it all together.
[QUOTE=ejonkou;50098502]Sometimes people just need to disconnect for a while.[/QUOTE] I get needing to disconnect (I feel like that all too often myself) but doing it in a manner which is only going to cause people to worry about you is not the right method.
[QUOTE=Alice3173;50098875]I get needing to disconnect (I feel like that all too often myself) but doing it in a manner which is only going to cause people to worry about you is not the right method.[/QUOTE] Yes I got really scared because it was so sudden and without any warnings. But knowing he's ok makes it alot better. I'll just wait till he chooses to come back then.
[QUOTE=Alice3173;50098875]I get needing to disconnect (I feel like that all too often myself) but doing it in a manner which is only going to cause people to worry about you is not the right method.[/QUOTE] Yeaaah, just going offline for a few days without saying anything is not exactly a great way of disconnecting or "taking a break". One of my old friends did that once (or twice? I forgot.)... I was not impressed. Not one bit.
[QUOTE=Skunky;50099618]Yeaaah, just going offline for a few days without saying anything is not exactly a great way of disconnecting or "taking a break". One of my old friends did that once (or twice? I forgot.)... I was not impressed. Not one bit.[/QUOTE] I sometimes go offline on steam a few hundred days at a time.
[QUOTE=Mastermind of42;50099635]I sometimes go offline on steam a few hundred days at a time.[/QUOTE] Great? :v: Your friends are probably used to it then, but in my case it was somewhat unusual.
[QUOTE=Mastermind of42;50099635]I sometimes go offline on steam a few hundred days at a time.[/QUOTE] And people like you end up removed from my friends list on a regular basis because I don't know if you're coming back unless you go "ayy I'm gonna be off of steam for like a hundred days don't remove me." You can't expect to just go offline and remove all your social media without a word and expect that everyone thinks you're fine.
I heard he was just quitting social media for awhile. Not my words.
[QUOTE=KennyAwsum;50100393]I heard he was just quitting social media for awhile. Not my words.[/QUOTE] That does make sense, I remember a few convos I had with him about that so it might be true. He could've let me know though ahaha--
[QUOTE=coyote93;50101127]Threads like this always bother me. I'm not saying that the guy missing in the OP are suicidal, but if he were, who are yo/ we to stop him? I mean, If someone feel like ending it all, you should let them. I have been at points where I have considered it myself, and I know that I would feel even worse if someone were to step in and try to stop me.[/QUOTE] This is such a shitty attitude. When someone's life is at risk, you should always try as much as you can to keep them alive. Just because you feel you would feel worse doesn't mean everyone else would - with no one to step in, said suicidal person would probably go through with it. Please, get a different attitude.
[QUOTE=gk99;50100141]And people like you end up removed from my friends list on a regular basis because I don't know if you're coming back unless you go "ayy I'm gonna be off of steam for like a hundred days don't remove me."[/QUOTE] you know, when i get fed up with everything, i shut down completely [I]completely[/I]. that means social contact too, especially in fact. i cant even handle people constantly saying 'yo you ok how you doing', i guess thats inconsiderate of me to not explain what kind of shit is going on in my mind?
[QUOTE=coyote93;50101127]Threads like this always bother me. I'm not saying that the guy missing in the OP are suicidal, but if he were, who are yo/ we to stop him? I mean, If someone feel like ending it all, you should let them. I have been at points where I have considered it myself, and I know that I would feel even worse if someone were to step in and try to stop me.[/QUOTE] Just LET people kill themselves?! Are you a fucking idiot?
[QUOTE=coyote93;50101127]Threads like this always bother me. I'm not saying that the guy missing in the OP are suicidal, but if he were, who are yo/ we to stop him? I mean, If someone feel like ending it all, you should let them. I have been at points where I have considered it myself, and I know that [B]I would feel even worse if someone were to step in and try to stop me.[/B][/QUOTE] Yeah, that's called your fucking conscience. I may hate David Wong now, but almost a decade ago he put it really well [QUOTE=http://www.cracked.com/article_15658_the-ten-minute-suicide-guide.html]This may sound unfair, but remember that murder isn't a horrible crime because of what it does to the murdered. That person is gone, what do they care? No, the crime is against the murdered person's Mom and brother and sister and best friend and all their coworkers and the people he or she owed money to. All of the people who depended on that person or would have depended on them in the future had they been allowed to live, all of the people who will feel the crushing waves of misery and loneliness due to their abrupt absence, they're the victims. And since suicide creates the same real and emotional devastation as homocide, the two are treated as the same crime. I know, it sucks. But remember you're not being punished for what you did to yourself, but what you did to those around you when you pulled the trigger. That's the thing, suicide has a way of only hurting the people who liked you. The people who hated you will forget your name in a month and, in fact, the evil bastards who tormented you and drove you to this will actually be a little happier with you gone. Suicide is like a bunch of your friends saving up money to buy you a car and then you taking the car and running them over with it.[/QUOTE] Being a cliche doesn't automatically make it bullshit, you [I]are[/I] being a selfish asshole by killing yourself.
[QUOTE=CoixNiro;50102049]Being a cliche doesn't automatically make it bullshit, you [I]are[/I] being a selfish asshole by killing yourself.[/QUOTE] I really wonder if you've ever been depressed or not, honestly. When you're in the state of wanting to kill yourself, you feel like you would be doing your friends, and family a favour by removing yourself. Calling suicidal people selfish literally misses the entire point of why people feel that way. They don't want to do it to hurt people, they want to do it because in their mind, it's the only way out.
[QUOTE=Mike Tyson;50102090]I really wonder if you've ever been depressed or not, honestly. When you're in the state of wanting to kill yourself, you feel like you would be doing your friends, and family a favour by removing yourself. Calling suicidal people selfish literally misses the entire point of why people feel that way. They don't want to do it to hurt people, they want to do it because in their mind, it's the only way out.[/QUOTE] I'm sorry, who here are we talking down from killing themselves? I wasn't aware anyone here was presently in that state of mind. I was saying it makes you selfish, which is does. It's putting what you want before what others want.
Since the situation has more or less been answered, I don't think there is a point in letting the thread continue since I know he's doing ok. It's just going to get out of hand. Thank you though for answering :)
[QUOTE=CoixNiro;50102102]I'm sorry, who here are we talking down from killing themselves? I wasn't aware anyone here was presently in that state of mind. I was saying it makes you selfish, which is does. It's putting what you want before what others want.[/QUOTE] how dare that selfish asshole not think of [I]me[/I] when he was in such a bad state of mind that he thought the world was better off without him. how come he didn't think of [I]me[/I] when his mental pain was so great that he would willingly choose death??
[QUOTE=CoixNiro;50102049]Yeah, that's called your fucking conscience. I may hate David Wong now, but almost a decade ago he put it really well Being a cliche doesn't automatically make it bullshit, you [I]are[/I] being a selfish asshole by killing yourself.[/QUOTE] You're making it sound like people with depression can just drink some Coolaid or cordial or some shit and it just clears right up. Like they have no reason to be depressed. It's not simple dude.
[QUOTE=CoixNiro;50102049]Yeah, that's called your fucking conscience. I may hate David Wong now, but almost a decade ago he put it really well Being a cliche doesn't automatically make it bullshit, you [I]are[/I] being a selfish asshole by killing yourself.[/QUOTE] Wait why do you hate Dave? Did he do something really shitty recently I didn't hear about?
[QUOTE=Recurracy;50101920]you know, when i get fed up with everything, i shut down completely [I]completely[/I]. that means social contact too, especially in fact. i cant even handle people constantly saying 'yo you ok how you doing', i guess thats inconsiderate of me to not explain what kind of shit is going on in my mind?[/QUOTE] A good solution to this is something like changing your Steam profile to reflect your actions. You don't need to deal with anyone that way, it only takes a few seconds, and it helps prevent issues like the one this thread was made because of from cropping up.
[QUOTE=coyote93;50101127]Threads like this always bother me. I'm not saying that the guy missing in the OP are suicidal, but if he were, who are yo/ we to stop him? I mean, If someone feel like ending it all, you should let them. I have been at points where I have considered it myself, and I know that I would feel even worse if someone were to step in and try to stop me.[/QUOTE] If everyone followed that logic, I'd be dead and would have been for about 4 years now.
[QUOTE=ridinmybike;50098304]tehmuffinman kidnapped him and he is locked in his basement[/QUOTE] I'm in this basement too get me out of here before this sicko [URL="https://www.google.com/maps/place/188+1+Ave,+Rorketon,+MB+R0L+1R0,+Canada/@51.3883566,-99.5897368,718m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m2!3m1!1s0x52ef6f25039bfb15:0xb6e247c6289a1015"]finds me at [/URL] [QUOTE=CoixNiro;50102102]I'm sorry, who here are we talking down from killing themselves? I wasn't aware anyone here was presently in that state of mind. I was saying it makes you selfish, which is does. It's putting what you want before what others want.[/QUOTE] wow that is a depressing way of thinking What made you such a cynical person? I'm genuinely not trying to be patronizing. I'm really wondering what makes a person think like this. [editline]10th April 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=KennyAwsum;50100393]I heard he was just quitting social media for awhile. Not my words.[/QUOTE] hopefully not too long he seems like p. chill guy from what I've seen and FP needs p. chill guys
This reminds me of my good old friend mm3guy.... I'll never know what happened to him. We used to talk on steam every day. He disappeared off of the internet completely. That was like 5 years ago.
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