• Haven't been sober for a full month in a few years now
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Just thought about it the other day and it really kicked me down. I only smoke weed or drink, but I do it at every opportunity because to me it's just why not. I started partying near the end of high school. I'm 21 now, been drinking way too much, I never thought I'd get a tolerance from it. I use to drink 2 beers and be past buzzed. Now I drink two beers and it's a small buzz. Decided this week I'm going to be sobering up for quite a while. My body doesn't feel right the day after I drink and that's got annoying. When I smoke, I smoke until I get that retard high. Weed makes me very unmotivated and unproductive. It honestly makes me dumber but only because I'll be smoking so many days in a row. When I don't smoke I don't use big words, I don't think clearly, I don't do anything to improve my self. I talked to this kid on XBL, he was like 10 but I asked him a few questions because kids are fucking honest. Once I learned that piece of advice, I've used it ever since. After a few questions of what he thinks of my written ideas for movie scripts, I asked if he think it's bad that I haven't been sober for a full month in 3 years. He said that was very bad. It made me feel bad, but he is right. Just wanted to tell anyone, haven't told my friends and don't plan onto. People tend to succeed with their goals when they don't tell personal friends. Plus I have quite a bit peer pressures in this town of mine when it comes to partying.
Wait I misread, you haven't been sober for a full month in [B]3 years?[/B] Honestly I don't see why you've continued for so long, but I don't think a month's gonna do a whole lot. Take a week off, and if anything's changing first then you can have high expections.
I don't think I've been sober for a full month for almost 3 years as well, I don't think its bad though.
[QUOTE=Tools;35147502]Wait I misread, you haven't been sober for a full month in [B]3 years?[/B] Honestly I don't see why you've continued for so long, but I don't think a month's gonna do a whole lot. Take a week off, and if anything's changing first then you can have high expections.[/QUOTE]I've taken a ton of weeks off, but not a full month. It feels really bad. I want to go longer than a month, a month is just my goal. Which is pretty bad because I was in treatment for a lame MIP and still drank through it, just couldn't smoke. Just have been on a destructive partying path ever since my relationship ended with this girl. At first it was to numb the pain, now it's to numb my boredom.
Hey man, I have a friend that's just like you. It's not so much drinking, but lately it kind of is. He and I actually smoked weed for the first time freshman year, (age 14). I thought of it as "Hey, I'm a teen, teens try everything". He was the one that carried it with him for years and years. As soon as he could, he bought weed every week and just smoked it all day every day. Not even just because he could, but it's like he needed to. He depended on it to do anything and everything. I would notice that he'd wanna get high before a movie, or even before eating. Because it "makes the experience better". Eventually, he moved on to synthetic marijuana. Also known as "Spice". Idk if you've ever tried that shit, but it will actually kill a person. I did it once and was 100% convinced I was about to have a seizure and die. Good luck with it man, just find other things to do. More hobbies. Add me on XBL too if you'd like. :) Shit, a better addiction would be Xbox LIVE. I was heavily addicted to that a few years ago. I suppose it's better than drugs, but I don't think having an addiction to anything is too safe. Just saying. :/
I'm not sure how much rehab costs over in the states, but if it's not too expensive, you should definetly book yourself in. Some would argue it's not worth it, but it's better to die trying (not literally). [editline]15th March 2012[/editline] Whoa wait, this thread is in [B]Drugs[/B] Discussion? I thought it said [B]General[/B] Discussion. (Arrived from the ticker) My point still stands though. If you're not comfortable with the way you live, get rehabilitated.
[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;35147581]I'm not sure how much rehab costs over in the states, but if it's not too expensive, you should definetly book yourself in. Some would argue it's not worth it, but it's better to die trying (not literally). [editline]15th March 2012[/editline] Whoa wait, this thread is in [B]Drugs[/B] Discussion? I thought it said [B]General[/B] Discussion. (Arrived from the ticker) My point still stands though. If you're not comfortable with the way you live, get rehabilitated.[/QUOTE]I don't have a problem or anything. I don't need guidance. My thought process is just, why not? Why do I need to be sober? But I have the willpower to do this. It's just, if I take so much time to waste hours drunk/high, why not do the same for something that actually counts, something that actually matters?
[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;35147581]I'm not sure how much rehab costs over in the states, but if it's not too expensive, you should definetly book yourself in. Some would argue it's not worth it, but it's better to die trying (not literally). [editline]15th March 2012[/editline] Whoa wait, this thread is in [B]Drugs[/B] Discussion? I thought it said [B]General[/B] Discussion. (Arrived from the ticker) My point still stands though. If you're not comfortable with the way you live, get rehabilitated.[/QUOTE] Weed rehab? What? It's just a habit, just keep extenting your expectations untill you've succeeded. Start with 1 week, enjoy a joint to congratulate, then go for 2 weeks and repeat. Just remember, your goal is to stay sober, not to wait it out so you can smoke more when you're done.
[QUOTE=Shiftyze;35147632]I don't have a problem or anything. I don't need guidance. My thought process is just, why not? Why do I need to be sober? But I have the willpower to do this. It's just, if I take so much time to waste hours drunk/high, why not do the same for something that actually counts, something that actually matters?[/QUOTE] Something like what?
[QUOTE=Tools;35147641]Weed rehab? What? It's just a habit, just keep extenting your expectations untill you've succeeded. Start with 1 week, enjoy a joint to congratulate, then go for 2 weeks and repeat. Just remember, your goal is to stay sober, not to wait it out so you can smoke more when you're done.[/QUOTE] Well I meant drug/alcohol rehabilitation in general, but I'm not telling him he HAS to. I'm completely fine with if he (or anyone else for that matter) does drugs.
[QUOTE=jbthekid;35147569]Hey man, I have a friend that's just like you. It's not so much drinking, but lately it kind of is. He and I actually smoked weed for the first time freshman year, (age 14). I thought of it as "Hey, I'm a teen, teens try everything". He was the one that carried it with him for years and years. As soon as he could, he bought weed every week and just smoked it all day every day. Not even just because he could, but it's like he needed to. He depended on it to do anything and everything. I would notice that he'd wanna get high before a movie, or even before eating. Because it "makes the experience better". Eventually, he moved on to synthetic marijuana. Also known as "Spice". Idk if you've ever tried that shit, but it will actually kill a person. I did it once and was 100% convinced I was about to have a seizure and die. Good luck with it man, just find other things to do. More hobbies. Add me on XBL too if you'd like. :) Shit, a better addiction would be Xbox LIVE. I was heavily addicted to that a few years ago. I suppose it's better than drugs, but I don't think having an addiction to anything is too safe. Just saying. :/[/QUOTE] He's not really addicted to anything, I mean a lot of people get intoxicated on something at least once a month its not a bad thing unless you feel like its starting to become bad.
[QUOTE=jbthekid;35147569]Hey man, I have a friend that's just like you. It's not so much drinking, but lately it kind of is. He and I actually smoked weed for the first time freshman year, (age 14). I thought of it as "Hey, I'm a teen, teens try everything". He was the one that carried it with him for years and years. As soon as he could, he bought weed every week and just smoked it all day every day. Not even just because he could, but it's like he needed to. He depended on it to do anything and everything. I would notice that he'd wanna get high before a movie, or even before eating. Because it "makes the experience better". Eventually, he moved on to synthetic marijuana. Also known as "Spice". Idk if you've ever tried that shit, but it will actually kill a person. I did it once and was 100% convinced I was about to have a seizure and die. Good luck with it man, just find other things to do. More hobbies. Add me on XBL too if you'd like. :) Shit, a better addiction would be Xbox LIVE. I was heavily addicted to that a few years ago. I suppose it's better than drugs, but I don't think having an addiction to anything is too safe. Just saying. :/[/QUOTE] A friend of mine ate a couple of pancakes (~0.2g in each) and left after some time. The pancakes first stepped in when he came home, and he ended up running around paranoid trying desperately to get help because "he was dying". He ended up at the hospital where the doctors told him to leave because he was anything but dying. I personally prefer to smoke a little weed before I do something special, such as take a nice drive on my scooter to the forrest side of the country, or bring it and smoke there, simply because it empties my brain. When you lay in the bed trying to sleep, and all these thoughs are in your head that you just have to think over before you can sleep? I got those 24/7, I can't fucking stop thinking. When I'm done thinking I think about how I always think about "thinking about" and I end up mindfucking myself in public. A joint and a peaceful location may make me look like a junkie or addict, but for me it's heaven on earth to get 5 minutes of truely inner peace. Weed doesn't kill, nothing kills, stupid people kills that's all.
[QUOTE=Stormcharger;35147670]Something like what?[/QUOTE] Well I have a 5 year plan in my head of how I want my life to go and where I want to be at at those moments. I can't get there if I just drink and smoke casually instead of actually working to get there. I want to be successful, I want to get back into my computer animation before school starts, I want to draw again, I want to get to LA faster so my friend can have me join his company, I want to join the movie industry and possibly produce/write/direct movies after I had already put my foot in the front door with CGI for movies. Then start a family, a really good one. I want my kids to have a great financial future with me being able to aid all the way through just like my father has done for me. I want to start even volunteering for work and help around town or to others. I would love to make my time less about intoxication and actually doing something for people instead of doing something for my self. Many things can be a lot more productive and leave a print in my life rather than a few moments with being drunk/high around friends.
[QUOTE=Shiftyze;35147476]Just thought about it the other day and it really kicked me down. I only smoke weed or drink, but I do it at every opportunity because to me it's just why not. I started partying near the end of high school. I'm 21 now, been drinking way too much, I never thought I'd get a tolerance from it. I use to drink 2 beers and be past buzzed. Now I drink two beers and it's a small buzz. Decided this week I'm going to be sobering up for quite a while. My body doesn't feel right the day after I drink and that's got annoying. When I smoke, I smoke until I get that retard high. Weed makes me very unmotivated and unproductive. It honestly makes me dumber but only because I'll be smoking so many days in a row. When I don't smoke I don't use big words, I don't think clearly, I don't do anything to improve my self. I talked to this kid on XBL, he was like 10 but I asked him a few questions because kids are fucking honest. Once I learned that piece of advice, I've used it ever since. After a few questions of what he thinks of my written ideas for movie scripts, I asked if he think it's bad that I haven't been sober for a full month in 3 years. He said that was very bad. It made me feel bad, but he is right. Just wanted to tell anyone, haven't told my friends and don't plan onto. People tend to succeed with their goals when they don't tell personal friends. Plus I have quite a bit peer pressures in this town of mine when it comes to partying.[/QUOTE] Still though about the 10 year old, I wouldn't take drug advise from a kid, because they're all told the horrible lies about everything drug related and are mis informed.
[QUOTE=Tools;35147723]A friend of mine ate a couple of pancakes (~0.2g in each) and left after some time. The pancakes first stepped in when he came home, and he ended up running around paranoid trying desperately to get help because "he was dying". He ended up at the hospital where the doctors told him to leave because he was anything but dying. I personally prefer to smoke a little weed before I do something special, such as take a nice drive on my scooter to the forrest side of the country, or bring it and smoke there, simply because it empties my brain. When you lay in the bed trying to sleep, and all these thoughs are in your head that you just have to think over before you can sleep? I got those 24/7, I can't fucking stop thinking. When I'm done thinking I think about how I always think about "thinking about" and I end up mindfucking myself in public. A joint and a peaceful location may make me look like a junkie or addict, but for me it's heaven on earth to get 5 minutes of truely inner peace. Weed doesn't kill, nothing kills, stupid people kills that's all.[/QUOTE] That sounds really peaceful actually. But people have actually died from This spice shit. I just don't understand how one could tolerate it. It was the worst smoke Of my life to be honest. But I like having a joint here and there Nothing like it.
[QUOTE=jbthekid;35148325]That sounds really peaceful actually. But people have actually died from This spice shit. I just don't understand how one could tolerate it. It was the worst smoke Of my life to be honest. But I like having a joint here and there Nothing like it.[/QUOTE] Sorry, my brain can simply not comprehend what you're saying when you split the sentance in the middle of everything, my brain's raging the fuck out of me, telling me to stab innocent children repeatently untill it's back to just a normal couple of lines of words. I can't do this somebody take the keyboard, oshit
[QUOTE=zach1193;35148323]Still though about the 10 year old, I wouldn't take drug advise from a kid, because they're all told the horrible lies about everything drug related and are mis informed.[/QUOTE]It wasn't advice. I just plain and simple said Is it bad I haven't been sober for longer than a month in a few years. I mean I bet his parents drink or something but it was a simple Q and A.
[QUOTE=Shiftyze;35149104]It wasn't advice. I just plain and simple said Is it bad I haven't been sober for longer than a month in a few years. I mean I bet his parents drink or something but it was a simple Q and A.[/QUOTE] but not being sober for a full month is fine, it's not like you have been high for a month or something relaxing on weekends or when the day is done is fine, nothing wrong with that, and kids may be honest, but they don't know about stress or really what the deal is with drugs and booze. As a kid you have better things to worry about like going outside and playing, or I guess at this day and age, play video games, as well as the minor school work they have, and none have jobs. drugs = stress relief(usually) kids simply don't have stress, especially not at age 10, unless they live in an abusive home or something
I mean except for a few times I've been stoned everyday for the past 2 years and 2 months or so.
[QUOTE=Werem00se;35149708]I mean except for a few times I've been stoned everyday for the past 2 years and 2 months or so.[/QUOTE] exactly, and that's just fine, you function just fine, right?
[QUOTE=zach1193;35149804]exactly, and that's just fine, you function just fine, right?[/QUOTE] Well to be perfectly honest if I don't smoke I'm a huge prick and I just end up fighting with everyone. I realized this yesterday. Other than classic 'burnt out' feelings, nah nothing unusual.
i can definitely see people taking this thread the wrong way. I mean if you are high/drunk every fucking day and havent been sober in 3 years then yeah it sounds pretty bad. I get the impression that he drinks or smokes every weekend, maybe occasionally a few days in a row but mixed in with a week or two breaks. Technically if i was to drink or smoke twice or even once a month for 3 years i could say the same thing. I think you're doing a good thing, exercising your will power. Its not like you are out of control at all, just a goal you'd like to accomplish. I would compare it to a skinny guy trying to get lean/work out, its not like hes morbidly obese and in need of an intervention, he just wants to work at something. Also, no offense but you took advice from a 10 year old that knows nothing about drugs and other shit (not to mention they are incapable of abstract thought and other cognitive abilities). He probably assumed the worst when you told him you havent been sober, as a mentioned above. [QUOTE=Shiftyze;35147732] Many things can be a lot more productive and leave a print in my life rather than a few moments with being drunk/high around friends.[/QUOTE] a few days here and there is not going to completely fuck up your life plan. It's easy to find a happy medium of work and play, nothing wrong with going to a party/chilling out with a beer or smoke after a hard week of work/school.
[QUOTE=Cpn Crunch21;35150099]i can definitely see people taking this thread the wrong way. I mean if you are high/drunk every fucking day and havent been sober in 3 years then yeah it sounds pretty bad. I get the impression that he drinks or smokes every weekend, maybe occasionally a few days in a row but mixed in with a week or two breaks. Technically if i was to drink or smoke twice or even once a month for 3 years i could say the same thing. I think you're doing a good thing, exercising your will power. Its not like you are out of control at all, just a goal you'd like to accomplish. I would compare it to a skinny guy trying to get lean/work out, its not like hes morbidly obese and in need of an intervention, he just wants to work at something. Also, no offense but you took advice from a 10 year old that knows nothing about drugs and other shit (not to mention they are incapable of abstract thought and other cognitive abilities). He probably assumed the worst when you told him you havent been sober, as a mentioned above. a few days here and there is not going to completely fuck up your life plan. It's easy to find a happy medium of work and play, nothing wrong with going to a party/chilling out with a beer or smoke after a hard week of work/school.[/QUOTE]Yeah it's not every single day. I'll smoke about 2-5 times a week and drink about 2-4 times. It feels like it's more than that because I smoke my brain away and drink until I can't. Always completely dysfunctional the next day, slur/stutter words and use simple words, but if I'm sober for a week I use words for a situation or conversation friends don't know and even end up asking what it means. I'll talk faster and do math simply in my head. I just like the idea of being at 100% ready for anything at any time. And again as I stated above, it wasn't advice. Just a quick one Q and A, if he thinks that sounds bad. He agree'd and it made me feel bad. There was no more to it. Like I would seriously listen to some spoiled as shit 10 year old about drug advice, I might as well ask him how sex works.
[QUOTE=Shiftyze;35152001]Yeah it's not every single day. I'll smoke about 2-5 times a week and drink about 2-4 times. It feels like it's more than that because I smoke my brain away and drink until I can't. Always completely dysfunctional the next day, slur/stutter words and use simple words, but if I'm sober for a week I use words for a situation or conversation friends don't know and even end up asking what it means. I'll talk faster and do math simply in my head. I just like the idea of being at 100% ready for anything at any time. And again as I stated above, it wasn't advice. Just a quick one Q and A, if he thinks that sounds bad. He agree'd and it made me feel bad. There was no more to it. Like I would seriously listen to some spoiled as shit 10 year old about drug advice, I might as well ask him how sex works.[/QUOTE] why not just have some self control and just not do soo much when you do.
well, i suggest to moderate yourself when it comes to smoking and drinking. Like smoking/drinking till you're retarded [I]everytime[/I] (as often as you do) isnt good since it seems to be effecting your everyday life. In that case it seems more of a good idea and you could add to it by teaching or restricting how much you do it at a time. Personally when i smoke and drink i go all out, but thats only because I rarely get the chances sometimes less than once a month, in your case doing it like that every few says is a little overkill. Good luck though, and hopefully your life plans work out for you.
[QUOTE=Tools;35149094]Sorry, my brain can simply not comprehend what you're saying when you split the sentance in the middle of everything, my brain's raging the fuck out of me, telling me to stab innocent children repeatently untill it's back to just a normal couple of lines of words. I can't do this somebody take the keyboard, oshit[/QUOTE] I agree. You can thank my stupid iPhone for that one.
hey man as long as it doesn't interfere with your day to day life, then even smoking every single day isn't that bad though I know what it's like to look at your habits and feel shitty about them; but you just gotta remember.. Habits are formed because they make you happy in one way or another, and your psyche always aims to make yourself feel better some how.
[QUOTE=Inzalonus;35158849]hey man as long as it doesn't interfere with your day to day life, then even smoking every single day isn't that bad though I know what it's like to look at your habits and feel shitty about them; but you just gotta remember.. [B]Habits are formed because they make you happy in one way or another[/B], and your psyche always aims to make yourself feel better some how.[/QUOTE] what? im not even going to argue how stupid that statement is.
i think that's it's a really nice goal and i hope that you're able to accomplish it.
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