I've been living with my dad since I was 13 and I am now 16. Initially he seemed lonely and depressed, thats why I moved in with him in the first place then he seemed like an asshole all the time and doesn't want me around anymore. I don't know what to think but just now when I asked him if I could use his credit card to buy some games on steam he flipped me off then gave me his credit card. What is he trying to say here? He always talks about how he is only looking out for my best interest but he makes me feel like I'm not wanted. I only have one more year of high school before I go off and go to university and such and I'm thinking of moving near my mum when that time comes (I have a lot more family and friends in that state anyway) but I don't wanna seem ungrateful and shit like that.
Any thoughts on this situation facepunch?
Just leave him alone, i would do that.
My stepdad's an absoloute bastard too.
If he's going to act like a dickhead to you even when you try to be nice, let him be depressed and lonely.
Talk to him about it.
[QUOTE=T2L_Goose;21896296]Talk to him about it.[/QUOTE]
This. First thing you do.
[QUOTE=T2L_Goose;21896296]Talk to him about it.[/QUOTE]
I think that will make things more awkward and worsen the situation.
If I read it correctly I think:
He is overprotective and probably blames himself for every bad thing that happened to you, so much that get depressed and these emotions took hold over rational thinking.
Could use more info though.
No, it just lets him know your feelings
[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;21896308]I think that will make things more awkward and worsen the situation.[/QUOTE]
well then deal with it.
Kill him.
Get your own money you greedy bastard.
My dad was a depressed mess after the divorce, but then he got a woman, a fast car and a mustache so now he's a happy, funny generally a guy you want to be around, it's never too late for it to turn around OP.
I find that after a break-up (I assume that's why your mother and father live apart), they tend to do stuff like this - all you can hope is that in time he'll stop being so depressed.
It took me a while to be able to see my father again after my mum broke up with him. I think because he needed time to sort himself out.
Go sky diving together.
My dad broke up with my mum after a long time of trying to stick around for me and my siblings. We liked our mum more than our dad because she was around for most of our life and the only memories of a kid with my dad around was running away from him when he got angry because he slapped me once.
My dad got married a couple of years ago again to some young European lady who fucked him over.
Most of the time my dad is working, at a friends place or sleeping. He works night shift work on weekends and works weekdays.
He tells me that smoking is bad and makes fun of smokers, but I know he smokes, I've found cigarettes around the house. He always yells at me if I don't get high marks because "it was easy for me in school you should get marks like me". He never attempts to take interest in anything I do and he doesn't care to get to know me because he thinks he already does.
We need a script that autolocks threads with the string "my dad" in the title.
At least you have a dad.
Maybe he's having financial problems, and does not want you to know. And he is stressed. This is probably why you moving in with him made him more tetchy (due to monetary spending rising) and also you wanting to buy games.
[QUOTE=Silly;21896333]If I read it correctly I think:
He is overprotective and probably blames himself for every bad thing that happened to you, so much that get depressed and these emotions took hold over rational thinking.
Could use more info though.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=worm;21896515]At least you have a dad.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, pretty much this.
OP, stop being a self-centered asshole.
Okay I know what's going on. My friend has pretty much the same.
Your dad has failed to achieve his ambitions. Now he (thinks he) sees his mistakes in you. He wants you to be the king of the world. Nothing you'll ever do will satisfy him. If you become president he'll say that you still should do better. He'll question and criticize everything you do, and completely ignore every of your achievement (unless you really impress him).
My advice is either talk to him about this and work this out (if you do this you have to block any emotions during this conversation or you'll make it worse) or leave the house as soon as you can, before it destroys or seriously damages you (as it did to my friend).
[QUOTE=worm;21896515]At least you have a dad.[/QUOTE]
Bullshit argument. You wouldn't say that to a 7 year old girl who is constantly raped and beaten up by her father.
[QUOTE=Nilrus;21896554]Yeah, pretty much this.
OP, stop being a self-centered asshole.[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry I was wrong due to limited information.
Before he ditched my family my dad used to beat me. OP should enjoy what he has.
[QUOTE=Silly;21896577]Okay I know what's going on. My friend has pretty much the same.
Your dad has failed to achieve his ambitions. Now he (thinks he) sees his mistakes in you. He wants you to be the king of the world. Nothing you'll ever do will satisfy him. If you become president he'll say that you still should do better. He'll question and criticize everything you do, and completely ignore every of your achievement (unless you really impress him).
My advice is either talk to him about this and work this out (if you do this you have to block any emotions during this conversation or you'll make it worse) or leave the house as soon as you can, before it destroys or seriously damages you (as it did to my friend).[/QUOTE]
This is what I feel is happening. I'll take option 2 because I can never have a serious conversation with my dad.
[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;21896586]This is what I feel is happening. I'll take option 2 because I can never have a serious conversation with my dad.[/QUOTE]
You will be dumping your father-son relation (or at least push it far away). Talk to him about all of this when you'll be leaving the house. Just don't make it sound like it's his fault.
If you don't do this, everytime you see him in future will be just amplified reflection of what is happening now and you'll hate meetings with him.
[QUOTE=Silly;21896577]Bullshit argument. You wouldn't say that to a 7 year old girl who is constantly raped and beaten up by her father.[/QUOTE]
And having a dad is a bad thing? I would kill for a chance to have a father, even for a day. People take too much shit for granted.
Leave him and move to your mom, he might like you, but it might be a little hard for him to care for a son 24/7.. maybe.
In B4 "I don't blame your dad"
[QUOTE=worm;21896634]And having a dad is a bad thing? I would kill for a chance to have a father, even for a day. People take too much shit for granted.[/QUOTE]
Having a father that rapes you and beats you up constantly, scarring you for life is a great fucking thing to have.
Things usually considered good are not always positive.
Sex is nice, you can get AIDS though.
I'd rather not have a father than one that would rape and beat me up near death all the time.
[QUOTE=Silly;21896708]Having a father that rapes you and beats you up constantly, scarring you for life is a great fucking thing to have.
Things usually considered good are not always positive.
Sex is nice, you can get AIDS though.
I'd rather not have a father than one that would rape and beat me up near death all the time.[/QUOTE]
This does not change the fact that I do not have a father.
what an asshole but yknow i doubt anyone really cares.
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