• My friends are not cool.
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Okay, so it's my first time posting a thread in GD (and I hope this is the last one). So I have three friends and we've always been a group, since the first grade. We always had lots of fun and hang out almost every day. But since 7th-8th grade, I think, something changed. If we were talking on the phone for almost half an hour back then, now we're barely saying "hi" to each other on Steam (only when we need something from anyone). In school, however, we're still talking to each other and stuff. Let's start with the description: The first one is cool. He's going to be called Okay in next sentences. So Okay and I both share same interests and enjoy talking to each other in real life. In Steam, however, all he does is sending me silly links on Facebook profiles. We barely talk, only if someone hasn't been in school for a day and he asks the homework. Okay is the most trustworthiest of my friends if asked right. But he's still usually late when going to movies and so. The next one is not very cool. He's going to be called Tall in next sentences. Tall may be helpful and kind just [I]sometimes[/I]. He's very unreliable and if asked to do something, he'll either won't do it (even if he said "yes") or do it so late I'll be sleeping by that time. His and Okay's time management is [B]completely fucked up[/B]. They lay about 3-4 at night to wake up at 8 on weekdays or 16-17 on weekends and holidays. Tall can also set up anybody for his own safety. E.g. he's the only one who got an "F" on a test and says: "Oh, my friends got F too." Then his mother rings up mine and tells about it and she's completely determined it is true. My mother (who knows I'm learning much better than those 3) asks if that's true and I, of course, deny it and show her my test results. In Steam, we may talk rarely and sometimes he just may say something like "Okay is an idiot, because he bought a game for 5 USD when he could've bought the whole bundle for the same money." He also thinks his opinion is superior and if I bought a game I like (e.g. Killing Floor) he's going to ask "Why did you buy this? This game's shitty, I've played a time trial and it's terrible!" Yeah, no "I think", "In my opinion" or "IMHO". And moving on to the last one. He's the problem (problem, Jericho_Rus? :trollface:) and he's going to be called Skinny. I just can't stand him from 8th grade. He is almost always silent during our talks and through all that time we've been together he's taking up my habits. He jokes the way I do, he talks the way I do and so on. He has evilness inside him all the time. I can fucking feel it. If we play together and he has a bigger score than me, even though we're just playing for fun, I can feel the grin on his face. But, unsurprisingly, he's almost the worst-learning classmate in our class. And he doesn't do this only because he's lazy but because he's stubborn as shit. If a teacher says that he should learn stuff better or he won't get anywhere in his life, he won't learn just because he was told to learn. Skinny also skips school and even when yelled by parents, he still continues to do it. One time, he went back home and told her grandma (who is a [B]very kind[/B] person) "Oh, I slipped and now my leg hurts. I decided to go [B]all the way back here and not in school[/B]" And when he missed the first lesson because of his "leg" he asks not to go today because it's still "in pain". Jesus fuck. But what more concerns me is that in Steam he's [I]comletely[/I] different. He puts "=)" in every post. Lately we haven't been talking as much as two years ago, back then he was talkative at least. Back then, he was the first one to say "hi =)" and I greeted him too. The dialogue didn't move an inch then however. There was complete silence until I began asking him questions. I asked, he replied. Back then, he wasn't showing on Steam very often, even though he was on PC all the time (he probably did this just to annoy me). Now he never says "hi" first. Never says "goodnight". I just can't have a conversation with him. Here's how it usually goes: [quote] Me: Hi Skinny: hello =) (Dead fucking silence until I question him something) Me: uhh, so, how are things? Skinny: pretty nice =) (Dead silence, doesn't even ask how am I doing) Me: So, what level are you on in game x? (Silence for about an hour) Skinny: I'm on level y =) (Then I may send him a link to some nice news or something) Me: Did you read this? (Half an hour long silence) Skinny: yes =) [/quote] I can rant about him all the time, he just makes me want to do this. Maybe he's just trying to troll me sometimes. Just trying. And before the holidays, I was the one who said "Hey, I'm going to the supermarket, you with me?" and they were all like "Why do you have to go there?" as they had no idea I was going to buy some presents for my family. And I advised them to buy something for their family too. They all said "Oh, well, I don't have the money now..." (while they actually did and just didn't want to spend money on their parents). Finally, I got them to the supermarket, bought lots of stuff on all of my money while all they bought was like a pack of sweets. Then I got to the tech store to buy my bro a Joe Satriani CD (I also did him a papercraft Les Paul guitar since he's a guitarist). Skinny, at the time bought [i]himself[/i] a book. Anyway, on New Year (as you might know it's celebrated like Christmas here in Russia) I got about 50 bucks from my grandparents, a bag with candies (a tradition for me and my bro) and some nice clothes. The deal is, I didn't ask for anything. I knew we didn't have much money to spend on me. So, after New Year, I went out and put all of those 50 bucks on my Steam wallet. And I spent 40 bucks to buy HL2:Ep2 and Killing Floor for my cool far-far-away Steam friend, Killing Floor and Hitman for Skinny (because I actually thought maybe he would start being cool), Space Rangers 2 (10 USD on Steam) for Okay and bought a pack with Shattered Horizon and Lead'n'Gold to Tall. For myself, I bought Killing Floor. Now I have only 10 USD left in the wallet. Soon after I gave them the presents while not even being congratulated from any of them on the New Year, I recieved a gift from Okay and he gave me Half-Life: Source. Tall just said "Thanks, Happy New Year". Skinny said "Thanks =)", and I replied "Yeah, happy New Year to me too. I wish myself luck, happiness and more money" (almost wrote better friends) and he answered "Oh, I already congratulated you before New Year when we met up, you don't remember? =)". No, I don't, actually. And I didn't recieve anything from him too. So, I guess we're just tired from each other. The thing is, should I tell them the truth the next time we meet (I already tried that several times and they denied, telling me that our friendship is very strong), dump them, or just survive another two years with them until I go to the university? Thanks for reading all I wrote though, very much. I just couldn't hold that in myself for all this time. tl;dr - Read it, you lazy ass.
You are a nice person.
[QUOTE=AlphaGunman;27256116]You are a nice person.[/QUOTE] Is that sarcasm? OP, I went through this with my friend. Just find other people to hang out with, you'll find heaps to talk about if you're talking to a complete stranger.
That's called life dude. Just carry on. PS: Dude, you know you're awesome.
Just learn to live with it, everyone's not perfect and roll in their own ways.
You don't have any friends, enjoy your hat.
If you start a conversation with someone then it's polite of them to reply and ask you questions. If someone starts a conversation with YOU and then they expect you to keep the conversation going, that's just fucking absurd. One of my friends (loose definition) does that all the frigging time on the phone, he'll ring me up, say some stuff, and then there's just a ridiculous 10 second silence where I am like "what the fuck am I supposed to say here" and eventually end up babbling something to him which he promptly makes a sarcastic comment about :|
My mind works on a groups based system like this: Close friends Friends People I really don't like Everyone else It works perfectly for me.
I have friends also.
Basically. Remove them from group B, put them in group D, find more for group B.
[QUOTE=Qombat;27256198]My mind works on a groups based system like this: Close friends Friends People I really don't like Everyone else It works perfectly for me.[/QUOTE] I'm the same except I don't necessarily make the distinction between close friends and friends, it just depends how I feel about my friends on any given day as to whether I talk to them about personal stuff or not. I'm happy to hang out with any of my groups of friends though.
Woah, you read fast guys. Yeah, I know about finding new ones. That one Steam friend who is very awesome to me and who I gifted Episode 2 and KF to is hopefully coming to Moscow this summer. I'm so excited. :dance: It's just that while I'm reading something, people tend to have true bros with who they hang out, talk, have fun, invite each other somewhere, discuss their hobbies and I feel like I'm left out without one. And this got me to loving loneliness. I mean, I can have much more fun reading FP rather than hanging out with these guys. Man, what did I just say. Socially awkward penguin+bachelor frog+forever alone = me.
The other option of course, is having sex with them. Forced or not is optional. *edit* no, I don't need boxes :saddowns:
You've grown away from eachother. Same thing happened to me, kind off. I had 2 best friends, but eventually I got new friends and they got new friends and we simply stopped hanging together.
[QUOTE=PlamZ;27256127]That's called life dude. Just carry on. PS: Dude, you know you're awesome.[/QUOTE] I'm not, you are. :3: [editline]7th January 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=MrJazzy;27256329]You've grown away from eachother. Same thing happened to me, kind off. I had 2 best friends, but eventually I got new friends and they got new friends and we simply stopped hanging together.[/QUOTE] The thing is, you have new friends and I don't. :buddy:
[QUOTE=MrJazzy;27256329]You've grown away from eachother. Same thing happened to me, kind off. I had 2 best friends, but eventually I got new friends and they got new friends and we simply stopped hanging together.[/QUOTE] This pretty much. As you and your friends grow up you'll slowly gain interest in things that the other friend isn't interested in, which will then lead to you growing apart.
[QUOTE=Jericho_Rus;27256344]I'm not, you are. :3: [editline]7th January 2011[/editline] The thing is, you have new friends and I don't. :buddy:[/QUOTE] No, you are. :D! (By the way, bitch, you got MSN? I'm bored and i wanna speak to people, Can't DDL steam here) Edit : You're my friend. So you have friends too :D!
I just get piss drunk with my friends and listen to old records in the weekend. and then dont hear from them for a week Thats what friends are for
[QUOTE=PlamZ;27256367]No, you are. :D! (By the way, bitch, you got MSN? I'm bored and i wanna speak to people, Can't DDL steam here) Edit : You're my friend. So you have friends too :D![/QUOTE] Get to Russia. Now. And nope, but I've got Skype. It's been a while since we talked actually, sorry for that. New Year and shit, couldn't even congratulate you on that, sorry.
Give me 1500$ and i'm in Russian in a month. :buddy:
[QUOTE=scorpinat;27256385]I just get piss drunk with my friends and listen to old records in the weekend. and then dont hear from them for a week Thats what friends are for[/QUOTE] Everyone has his own opinion, thanks for rating me dumb, however. At least you posted in the thread. [editline]7th January 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=PlamZ;27256413]Give me 1500$ and i'm in Russian in a month. :buddy:[/QUOTE] Sure, I'll ring up Vladimir Putin and he'll transfer that on your bank account.
[QUOTE=Jericho_Rus;27256395]Get to Russia. Now. And nope, but I've got Skype. It's been a while since we talked actually, sorry for that. New Year and shit, couldn't even congratulate you on that, sorry.[/QUOTE] Facebook then D: ?
[QUOTE=PlamZ;27256431]Facebook then D: ?[/QUOTE] Uhh, when can you get back on Steam? I see you're "away" now.
[QUOTE=Jericho_Rus;27256445]Uhh, when can you get back on Steam? I see you're "away" now.[/QUOTE] I'm at work now. Not at home :saddowns:
[QUOTE=PlamZ;27256459]I'm at work now. Not at home :saddowns:[/QUOTE] Then get your work done and you'll be faster at home. :buddy: Wait, you actually work?
I work. But I just started. I'll be back home in 7h35m.
Get new friends.
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Just ignore them.Trust me you might feel a bit weird at first but later you will feel better with new your friends.
My friends are fucking idiots. But they're my fucking idiots :3:
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