• Well Facepunch, I've next to hit rock bottom. What do I do?
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Alright, you probably have some questions as to why I say this, let me give you some backround: I'm 14 years old and I live alone with my mother, I have never met my father. In the past five years the situation with her has been getting progressively worse, and so far she has: 1. Sprayed me with pepperspray twice (Not on the same occasion) 2. Attempted to beat me with metal rods (Solid steel, and not just on my ass, anywhere she could hit) 3. Attempted twice and succeeded once at kicking me in the testicles. 4. Hit me with a wooden yardstick, numerous times (Hard enough to make it break) 5. Actually chucked a metal clipboard at my head 6. Verbally assaulted me numerous times, including the occasional "I'm going to fucking kill you" Despite all this, even after calling a fucking Child Services representative (Who actually said to my mother, I SHIT THEE NOT, "He doesn't know how good he has it"), the situation refuses to change. Now, to fast forward to recent days. She has told me I'm useless, lazy, et cetera, and has recently been driving me to the brink. Now, I'm in cyberschool, which means I'm homeschooled through the computer by teachers at a school elsewhere in the state. I'll admit, I have no friends outside of a PC screen. Now she is threatening to have my schools IT support block my PC(Making only school websites accessible), while fully knowing that my only friends are on my PC. I bring this to her attention, and she smirks and nods. She claims she'll be calling them tomorrow. I have tried everything I can think of and nothing works. Child services did nothing. The police wouldn't help, they'll just call Child Services and then we get to listen to how good I apparently have things all over again. I am near suicidal. What do I do, Facepunch?
Call child services instead of blogging it on facepunch.
[QUOTE=DienDwemar;29862357]Call child services instead of blogging it on facepunch.[/QUOTE] Did you even read what I posted?
If the cops and child services wont help then you're going about it the wrong way.
Do you know any of your relatives?
Why not just go to your grandparents or whatever for a bit.
[QUOTE=DienDwemar;29862357]Call child services instead of blogging it on facepunch.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Archonet;29862343]..Despite all this, even after calling a fucking Child Services representative..[/QUOTE] You could try calling again, but if it doesn't work, call the police again. Not much you can do really, but suicide isn't a good option.
[QUOTE=voider;29862386]Do you know any of your relatives?[/QUOTE] My cousins are out of the question, one lives in Georgia and the other is in the Army. Then there's my uncle, but I don't know his number. And my grandmother always takes my mother's side. Other then them, I know of no other relatives in my family.
[QUOTE=DienDwemar;29862357]Call child services instead of blogging it on facepunch.[/QUOTE] ...did you even read it? Asshole. In all honesty, I don't know how much anyone can help you. It seems like the authorities are massively failing their duty to you. I would get a job, and save. Don't let her have access to the money, and don't inform her. And move out as soon as possible (probably 17 or 18, depending on where you live?). It's what I did. I don't know that living in foster care would be better, either; unfortunately most foster carers are abusive, too. Do you have any other family? Any online friends that might take you in? I'm sorry, dude. I really am. ETA: Was writing this when you posted that relatives aren't an option.
Record audio or video of abuse. There is no way anyone can refute recorded evidence that I know of. I'm sure the child services person will have a different opinion of the situation if they see your mother beating and screaming at you in a video.
This doesn't sound like the whole story. Do you think your mother has a reason behind her being so harsh to you? I struggle to believe that a perfectly normal child gets this kind of shit from their mother for no reason. Not doubting what you've said at all OP. Why do you think your mother acts like this? [quote]I bring this to her attention, and she smirks and nods.[/quote] This part sticks out in particular, since this just makes her sound evil, and I can't understand why a mother would want to that to their kid for no reason, there must be something else causing her to act like this. Also, if she is just generally evil, surely child services/the police will be able to see that. What happened when you tried contacting them before, did they just not believe you? [quote]I am near suicidal. [/quote] This is a silly idea, sure your situation sucks but it could be a lot worse, and you're not gonna be 14 and under your mothers care forever. You're only going to get older, and given more possibilities to get further away from your mother (if that's what you want).
[QUOTE=Shostakovich;29862427]Record audio or video of abuse. There is no way anyone can refute recorded evidence that I know of. I'm sure the child services person will have a different opinion of the situation if they see your mother beating and screaming at you in a video.[/QUOTE] My video camera is a piece of crap that refuses to work right(We don't have any others), and the tape recorder wouldn't do me any good as its one of those bigass 80s-90s ones. Not easy to conceal.
You could go to a hospital after she's attacked you (if it's left any physical evidence). Explain to them what's happened.
I hear you man Child Services like DHS up here in Maine are filled to the brim with dumb bitches.
[QUOTE=Wyvers;29862434]This doesn't sound like the whole story. Do you think your mother has a reason behind her being such a bitch to you? I struggle to believe that a perfectly normal child gets this kind of shit from their mother for no reason. This part sticks out in particular, since this just makes her sound evil, and I can't understand why a mother would want to that to their kid for no reason, there must be something else causing her to act like this. Also, if she is just generally an evil bitch, surely child services/the police will be able to see that. What happened when you tried contacting them before, did they just not believe you?[/QUOTE] You clearly have no idea what it's like to live with domestic violence. Fuck you. Don't talk shit about stuff you don't know.
Don't suicide. If you really think of doing that, instead run away from home to another city or something. It's not like you got much to lose if you're ready to die.
Speak to someone at your school, someone who you can talk to about this kinda shit. They'll know who to talk to and have a lot more sway in dealing with the authorities. Maybe they think you're just a whiny kid and don't realise the full situation, if your school gets involved they can notify the proper authorities and even help you deal with this. Keep your chin up and don't let her win, you're better than her.
[QUOTE=Wyvers;29862434]This doesn't sound like the whole story. Do you think your mother has a reason behind her being such a bitch to you? I struggle to believe that a perfectly normal child gets this kind of shit from their mother for no reason. This part sticks out in particular, since this just makes her sound evil, and I can't understand why a mother would want to that to their kid for no reason, there must be something else causing her to act like this. Also, if she is just generally an evil bitch, surely child services/the police will be able to see that. What happened when you tried contacting them before, did they just not believe you? This is a silly idea, sure your situation sucks but it could be a lot worse, and you're not gonna be 14 and under your mothers care forever. You're only going to get older, and given more possibilities to get further away from your mother (if that's what you want).[/QUOTE] May be something mental. Alcoholic parents also beat up their kids just cause they're under effect of alcohol, and alcohol fucks up brain activity (temporarily) Not by any means I am trying to sound offensive, OP
Acquire evidence of her abuse, like set up hidden cameras to potentially record an incident, and send the evidence to the authorities. Also, call different Child Support representatives until you find someone who'll take your case seriously. And if all else fails, fight back or run away. Either way, let her know that her treatment of you is UNACCEPTABLE, that she is a MONSTER for hurting you like that constantly, and that you don't deserve to be mistreated that way. Also, does she do any form of drugs or binge on alcohol? Also also, what state do you live in and does your mother have any extreme religious affaliation? If things are looking really bad, remember fight or flight. Either fight back against her abusive nature, or high tail it as far from her as possible.
Sorry, I don't know what offended you about my post but my intentions were nothing but helpful. I was simply trying to get more information about the situation.
[QUOTE=Wyvers;29862434]This doesn't sound like the whole story. Do you think your mother has a reason behind her being such a bitch to you? I struggle to believe that a perfectly normal child gets this kind of shit from their mother for no reason. This part sticks out in particular, since this just makes her sound evil, and I can't understand why a mother would want to that to their kid for no reason, there must be something else causing her to act like this. Also, if she is just generally an evil bitch, surely child services/the police will be able to see that. What happened when you tried contacting them before, did they just not believe you?[/QUOTE] Actually the child services guy really fucked up, he included one detail that I never said in the phone call to Childline. I think she bribed him on the phone, or told him a story that was FAR different then what happened (She is by far the most manipulative person I know.)
[quote]Also, if she is just generally an evil bitch, surely child services/the police will be able to see that.[/quote] If you were a smart "evil bitch", would you want to say to the police officer who comes to the home "Fuck you Officer Shitcake!" or "Hello, how may I help you today?" Archonet, does your mother have thyroid problems or doctor-diagnosed mental health issues? (Or takes medication for anything that is known to cause severe mood swings and/or changes in behavior?)
So sorry to hear this OP. I would assume you would have enough physical evidence on your body to show the Child Services to get onto the case?
[QUOTE=Bordellimies;29862480]May be something mental. Alcoholic parents also beat up their kids just cause they're under effect of alcohol, and alcohol fucks up brain activity (temporarily) Not by any means I am trying to sound offensive, OP[/QUOTE] None taken, after going through all of this, I honestly give not one fuck about what anyone says about her anymore.
Also if your computer is going to get blocked you should download Ultrasurf. It is one of the best block avoidance programs out there.
[QUOTE=Wyvers;29862486]Sorry, I don't know what offended you about my post but my intentions were nothing but helpful. I was simply trying to get more information about the situation.[/QUOTE] There is NOTHING helpful about implying to someone who's a victim of domestic abuse that they are making it up. Nothing. My girlfriend's father was an alcoholic, and used to kick her repeatedly in the stomach from about ages 6 to 12. She wasn't taken seriously (despite physical evidence), and she had to refuse to go to his house when she was old enough for it to stop.
And i thought my life was miserable. : <
[QUOTE=Archonet;29862495]Actually the child services guy really fucked up, he included one detail that I never said in the phone call to Childline. I think she bribed him on the phone, or told him a story that was FAR different then what happened (She is by far the most manipulative person I know.)[/QUOTE] Best thing you can do is to show evidence. Ask if your cousins have a camera/tape recorder, if they have good for you. If it goes physical, bruises can always be shown at the hospital. If verbal, you need visual evidence, or at least recorded the "conversation"
[QUOTE=Cree8ive;29862499]So sorry to hear this OP. I would think you would have enough physical evidence on your body to show the Child Services to get onto the case?[/QUOTE] She hasn't left any marks... Yet. I could claim psychological abuse due to the verbal threats and insults, but I don't want to have to hear that bullshit from the local representative in our city again. If I have to hear the phrase "You don't know how good you have it" ANOTHER time, my head will explode.
File a complaint with the cops, physical assault or something like that, next time it happens? And go to the hospital, have proof of your injuries.
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