• Step dad driving MY car without a license
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So my stepdad basically stopped paying child support because he doesn't have a job and we barely pay the bills at the end of the month, so they took away his license about a year ago now maybe longer. Since then he still drives my moms van, and since that was her car I didn't say anything because it doesn't involve me, but now my grandpa got me a car from his friend for my birthday, and he feels entitled to drove my car just because he doesn't want to take the babies car seat out and put it in the van. To start he drives fairly recklessly most of the time, and he's Dominican, which means that he's way more likely to be pulled over with arizonas new law. If he does, the car would get impounded, and then I wouldn't have a car because he's a lazy bastard who can't get a fucking job. Now this WAS purchased as a family car, but even my grandpa says that he shouldn't be allowed to drive it, which is why he didn't make a key for him, but of course he just uses my moms key, and if he can't get to that then he takes my key and I can't say anything because he'd flip out and then my mom would probably take my keys away. Now it is a little hypocritical because he drives with me because I'm on a permit, but if I got pulled over the chances of them giving me anything but a warning because I don't speed or drive recklessly are pretty high, and the only reason I wod get pulled over is because I used to not drive straight after a turn because I had to learn how to turn out smoother, but that lasted all of a day and now I have no reason to be pulled over because like I said I always make sure if I go over the limit I don't go more than 4 over and I rarely to never do that unless there's a guy on my ass and even then I normally just let them stay there and flash my emergency lights to get them to back off. On top of all this, when I drive twice the distance he does, I manage to use a fraction of the gas that he does, and my car gets returned with half a tank missing as if he was just driving around to waste gas, and I wind up having to pay for him driving my car. The last time I talked to my mom about something that he does that I wanted him to stop was him breaking into my room when I have my door locked because as far as I'm concerned the only one who has the right to go into my room is my mom because she pays for the house and bills and food etc, and he literally will go in there and only move my shit around and look through my shit. I've set my webcam up to monitor it and watched him just sit in my room for an hour going through all of my shit and move everything around, and when I talked to her about it he got all pissed off and started yelling at me like I'm the one that did something wrong, so something tells me that telling her that I don't want him driving my car will end well. I'm thinking of asking my grandpa to say something, but he doesn't like to get involved because 99% of the time my mom will blindly defend him even if she doesn't know what she's arguing. What do you guys think I should do? I sure as fuck am not paying for him to joyride, and i'm thinking of just telling my mom that if he's gonna take the car that he has to fill it up, but obviously I ultimately want her to enforce that he can't drive until he gets a license again because if the car gets impounded that's a few hundred that we don't have to get it back, she owes me around 250-300 for working with her on jobs (catering) already and she's owed me that for a few months now. Obviously I don't say anything, she's brought it up a few times saying she has it all written down, in fact $100 of that is from when I was working at an event at the store here and she had to take my paycheck. Not to mention he'd go to jail as well.
Call the damn cops already. He breaks into your house, steals your car, and you just bend over?
kill him.
Next time he takes it report to the police that it was stolen. Then when he says you let him just say you didn't.
Call the cops, he's evidently a crook. And by the sound of things he probably beats your mom.
Cut the brake line so when he kills himself you claim off the insurance.
Both are good options, I suggest something less violent like call the cops.
Hide all the keys and say you lost them. Then when you have to drive say that you just hot wire the car.
[QUOTE=PrismatexV8;22371843]Call the damn cops already. He breaks into your house, steals your car, and you just bend over?[/QUOTE] He breaks into my room, and my mom knows about it and doesn't care. He also lost the spare key to my lock and blamed me even though it was there before I went on vacation and then magically dissapeared while I was gone. And he technically isn't stealing the car because my mom knows about it and he uses her key with her fully aware of it. He even asks for my key and I can't say no otherwise he starts a shitstorm and starts convincing my mom that I'm a spoiled brat because I don't want my god damn car to be impounded
Find a pole and sit on it really hard. It'll hurt, but it will be worth it when you frame him for toying with you in your sleep.
How about a serious answer instead of "KILL HIM LOL" Fill up a tank of gas, only put money in for what YOU use. For example: He uses half a tank, you use a quarter. Instead of topping it off to full again, put a quarter in, leaving half a tank of gas in there. Eventually it won't have gas in it until you use it, and then only put like 5 bucks in to get to and from work..Eventually (pretty quickly from the looks of it) he will not have any way to go drive around unless he goes in your moms van. As for your door, go out to home depot and buy a deadbolt lock, like what is on your front door. If you can't install it yourself, maybe your grandpa can, otherwise you can get someone to install it for a small fee. That way, he can't simply break into your room unless he kicks the door in, and if he does that I'm sure your mom will have something to say. And this time only make spares for yourself, don't give one to your mom or anyone else, and keep them with you at all times so he can't get his hands on the keys.
[QUOTE=Pat the Bake;22371903]Hide all the keys and say you lost them. Then when you have to drive say that you just hot wire the car.[/QUOTE] Trust me, that won't work. I'd get in more trouble then him. [QUOTE=Faunts;22371889]Call the cops, he's evidently a crook. And by the sound of things he probably beats your mom.[/QUOTE] No, he's just a lazy ass who found a family to leech off of and my mom can't seem to realize that. [QUOTE=FoxMeister;22371887]Next time he takes it report to the police that it was stolen. Then when he says you let him just say you didn't.[/QUOTE] I've considered it, but again I'd get in more trouble, and my mom would probably say that she gave him permission to drive it and then it'd also be filing a false police report. [quote]How about a serious answer instead of "KILL HIM LOL" Fill up a tank of gas, only put money in for what YOU use. For example: He uses half a tank, you use a quarter. Instead of topping it off to full again, put a quarter in, leaving half a tank of gas in there. Eventually it won't have gas in it until you use it, and then only put like 5 bucks in to get to and from work..Eventually (pretty quickly from the looks of it) he will not have any way to go drive around unless he goes in your moms van. As for your door, go out to home depot and buy a deadbolt lock, like what is on your front door. If you can't install it yourself, maybe your grandpa can, otherwise you can get someone to install it for a small fee. That way, he can't simply break into your room unless he kicks the door in, and if he does that I'm sure your mom will have something to say. And this time only make spares for yourself, don't give one to your mom or anyone else, and keep them with you at all times so he can't get his hands on the keys. [/quote] somebody would bitch at me for not keeping the tank full because everybody in my family but my mom says you should keep at least a half tank at all times. The door isn't really an issue anymore because he hasn't done it since he tried to make me look like a bad guy and I schooled him by bitching him out and saying i left my cam on. And as for the keys, like I said it's a family car and my grandpa actually made the key because it was $70 because it has a chip needed to start the car. My grandpa says he shouldn't have a key, but if my mom has one he might as well have one anyways because he just takes her keyring out of her car. she knows each time he goes with it, so he isn't stealing it, just taking the car.
Tell him to fuck off. Besides him not having a license to drive, any damage he does to your car falls on you. I'm also pretty sure you get in trouble if he gets caught. Is the car entitled to you?
You are an idiot OP
Sounds like a typical narcissist person From my experience only way to deal with it is to get fuck away from the person
[QUOTE=Craptasket;22372129]Tell him to fuck off. Besides him not having a license to drive, any damage he does to your car falls on you. I'm also pretty sure you get in trouble if he gets caught. Is the car entitled to you?[/QUOTE] Right now its in my grandpas name and we're gonna transfer it to my moms name for that very reason, and once I turn 18 we'll change it to my name. The only reason it isn't in my name now is so we can keep the $500 annual rate on insurance because I'm 17 and it'd skyrocket. And how am I an idiot? I got a serious response from craptasket, that rarely to never happens.
how many times do you have to complain about this?
[QUOTE=PrismatexV8;22371843]Call the damn cops already. He breaks into your house, steals your car, and you just bend over?[/QUOTE] This. Unless you're incredible stupid, or just trolling us, do this. If he crashes the car, there's no insurance covering unless you report him.
The cops are the only people who can do anything about it so if you won't do that, I suggest you bump him off.
honestly calling the cops and saying it was stolen to get him pulled over and arrested is exactly what i would do in your situation
[QUOTE=FoxMeister;22372238]The cops are the only people who can do anything about it so if you won't do that, I suggest you bump him off.[/QUOTE] Again, aside from driving without a licence he isn't doing anything, and I can't call the cops for that or I'd be in even more shit then he would be, and I could still get my car impounded. [QUOTE=MasterQuief;22372234]how many times do you have to complain about this?[/QUOTE] When have I complained about it on here not counting this [QUOTE=Tools;22372237]This. Unless you're incredible stupid, or just trolling us, do this. If he crashes the car, there's no ensurance covering unless you report him.[/QUOTE] Again, it isn't stolen and my mom would say that he had permission and then I filed a false report.
Here's how it would go. - He takes your car, you call the police saying it has been stolen. - When it "turns out" it was him who took it you would be in no trouble. Your car has been taken without your permission by someone without a license. You are not in the wrong and even if they get pissy at you, just say you saw the car was gone and assumed it had been stolen. It's so simple.
[QUOTE=CjienX;22372209]Right now its in my grandpas name and we're gonna transfer it to my moms name for that very reason, and once I turn 18 we'll change it to my name. The only reason it isn't in my name now is so we can keep the $500 annual rate on insurance because I'm 17 and it'd skyrocket.[/QUOTE] Well then you and them have to talk about it. I'm pretty sure your insurance will screw you over if they find out someone without a license was behind the wheel, big risk not worth it. [QUOTE=CjienX;22372209]And how am I an idiot? I got a serious response from craptasket, that rarely to never happens.[/QUOTE] durp
No, because unless I had some sort of mental disability I'd know that he took it because he asks for my keys each time and each time I have to bend over and tell him that there's one on my moms keyring. [quote]Well then you and them have to talk about it. I'm pretty sure your insurance will screw you over if they find out someone without a license was behind the wheel, big risk not worth it. [/quote] My mom clearly doesn't care because she lets him drive hers also, and whenever I talk about something he did\does with my mom he gets involved and makes me out to be the bad guy. And I didn't mean anything bad about you with that, but you can't deny you mostly shitpost.
[QUOTE=FoxMeister;22372334]Here's how it would go. - He takes your car, you call the police saying it has been stolen. - When it "turns out" it was him who took it you would be in no trouble. Your car has been taken without your permission by someone without a license. You are not in the wrong and even if they get pissy at you, just say you saw the car was gone and assumed it had been stolen. It's so simple.[/QUOTE] Exactly, it's not filing a false police report. Worst comes to worst you say you thought it was stolen and you were mistaken, and step dad goes to jail for driving without a license
Well if nothing any of us have mentioned is going to work for you one way or another, tell him to just "Please stop taking my car, i need the gas to get to work and school" and if he can't be a man and take that as an answer, and instead tries to yell at you or be a dick, then basically tell him off and try and find something to say that would get him to stop. If anything, take the key away from your mom when she isn't looking, and hide both of them. That way when he asks for your key and you say you lost them, he can't just go to your mother and take the spare, he's sol.
[QUOTE=justin1992;22372401]Well if nothing any of us have mentioned is going to work for you one way or another, tell him to just "Please stop taking my car, i need the gas to get to work and school" and if he can't be a man and take that as an answer, and instead tries to yell at you or be a dick, then basically tell him off and try and find something to say that would get him to stop. If anything, take the key away from your mom when she isn't looking, and hide both of them. That way when he asks for your key and you say you lost them, he can't just go to your mother and take the spare, he's sol.[/QUOTE] The only thing mentioned was to pretend I was raped and call the cops. Until I get my license at the end of the month I really DON'T need my car, and he knows that, and if I don't give him the key then he bitches to my mom who doesn't want to deal with it and in the end he gets the key, but I might just do it anyway once he gets back and say that if they can't keep track of their own key (even though I took it) that they can't drive, but the problem with that is that I'm basically making it so that I can't drive either because my mom barely has time to do anything let alone drive with me unless I'm taking her somewhere and I'm still on my permit, but I guess I'd rather just not drive that often and still have a car rather then risk him getting it impounded.
Then just don't fill up the tank. If your mom is going to bitch at you for not having a full tank of gas, just tell her i don't need it to go anywhere, I'm not going to pay for gas in a vehicle I'm not driving. Tell him to fill it up. If he doesn't want to, he doesn't get to drive it. Simple as that. No matter how much they try and bitch at you for it, simply don't fill it up with gas. Ignore them.
[QUOTE=CjienX;22372364]he asks for my keys... I ... tell him that there's one on my moms keyring.[/QUOTE] Just say no. If you piss him and your mum off, who gives a fuck. It's your car. As long as you let him, he will use it.
I don't even have money right now, I have $10 on me and I need to go spend that on kerosene right now actually. And he'd just start paying for gas, it only takes like $50 to get my car from absolute empty to full and that's at $3 a gallon which is pretty high above what it is now.
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