How do I deal with this issue? It's driving me insane...
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So, my parents split up a few years ago, and until November because of some money problems, I'm living with a mother who:
1.) Thinks the world owes her everything, and right now is getting social security disibility for having Multiple Sclerosis (No symptoms in 7 years). Yes, her kind of people is the reason that no one in our generation will get social security, ever. She works two days a week, and gets unemployment. Yet she can swim three miles a day, but she's too tired to work, so everyone else has to pay for her shit because she's broke.
2.) Doesn't understand the value of a dollar, or how to be a parent since she's in party mode all over again, so my 6th grade sister gets to see her getting wasted with her boyfriend pretty much every weekend. Drinking's not a bad thing, but don't let an 11 year old watch you and your boyfriend kill a box of wine, a bottle of mudslide mix and a 12 pack of beer in a night.
3.) Thinks my father should pay 100% of her bills for the rest of her life, since she doesn't want a job.
4.) Refuses to do any housework, or even fix up the house that has to be sold as part of their divorce.
5.) Could care less about anyone elses problems, or anything going on in the world unless it 100% directly affects her. In turn, her not caring affects everyone else around her.
God I can't wait until I get the fuck out of here.
kill her and forge the will
[QUOTE=GrayronV2;17221446]kill her and forge the will[/QUOTE]
Or not... It's a serious question... And anyway, not like she has anything.
im being serious
Solution to all problems regarding women:
Rape her.
[QUOTE=VladimirPutin;17221464]Solution to all problems regarding women:
Rape her.[/QUOTE]
Ew. lol
What is she doing out of the kitchen in the first place
I know, seriously. She needs to be doing woman's work. Not being a lazy worthless piece of shit.
Murder her and make it look like a tragic accident involving peanut-butter and a German Shepard.
K, how about real life answers now?
get a job and move out
[QUOTE=GrayronV2;17221654]get a job and move out[/QUOTE]
Lol get a job... Look at my profile mate.
get two jobs
The only advice I can give you is:
1. Wait it out until you're 18 and GTFO.
2. Go live with your dad, but if the judge gave all/most of the custody over you to your mother, then that could be a problem. Might even get your dad arrested.
Get a real job
[QUOTE=jetboy;17221707]The only advice I can give you is:
1. Wait it out until you're 18 and GTFO.
2. Go live with your dad, but if the judge gave all/most of the custody over you to your mother, then that could be a problem. Might even get your dad arrested.[/QUOTE]
1.) I'm 22.
2.) He lives on a Yacht, so no.
It's not a matter of that. I'm moving out in November, the apartment is free then. In the mean time, what do I do?
[QUOTE=Morphology53;17221710]Get a real job[/QUOTE]
I think owning a small business making $30k a year on my own is a real job, but thanks.
wait 2 months
Ok, well then go out with your friends until like 2:00 AM then come back when she's asleep.
[QUOTE=jetboy;17221771]Ok, well then go out with your friends until like 2:00 AM then come back when she's asleep.[/QUOTE]
Too preoccupied with work, that's usually when I walk in the door anyhow, and she bitches at me about it and expects me to go right to sleep.
[QUOTE=faze;17221796]Too preoccupied with work, that's usually when I walk in the door anyhow, and she bitches at me about it and expects me to go right to sleep.[/QUOTE]
say 'im an adult now' and storm into your room and yell 'im never coming back again' and pack your bags and walk down the sidewalk and start crying and then walk back and hug your mom
Rob a bank
Tell her to fuck off and that your 22; you can do whatever the fuck you want.
[QUOTE=GrayronV2;17221823]say 'im an adult now' and storm into your room and yell 'im never coming back again' and pack your bags and walk down the sidewalk and start crying and then walk back and hug your mom[/QUOTE]
Lol hug my mother, that hasn't happened in at least 4 years, if not more.
Look, you're 22. No offence, but you [B]SHOULD[/B] know how to deal with your shit. Posting on Facepunch isn't really going to solve your problem, Although... There have been some great solutions. For example, MOVE THE FUCK OUT. --->Get your priorities straight<--- You said "I make 30k a year" You should be able to support yourself. Again, Priorities or GTFO.
[QUOTE=Dysfunctional;17221933]Look, you're 22. No offence, but you [B]SHOULD[/B] know how to deal with your shit. Posting on Facepunch isn't really going to solve your problem, Although... There have been some great solutions. For example, MOVE THE FUCK OUT. --->Get your priorities straight<--- You said "I make 30k a year" You should be able to support yourself. Again, Priorities or GTFO.[/QUOTE]
Right, well houses where I live sell very fast, or are VERY expensive. I found one, but it's not open until the end of November.
She's not going to change. She's not old enough to realize the error of her ways. Hang out with your grandma, she'll be more accepting of everything (about you) your mom doesn't like.
Well, can you move to another city/town? Or even better, state?
[QUOTE=faze;17221841][QUOTE=GrayronV2;17221823]say 'im an adult now' and storm into your room and yell 'im never coming back again' and pack your bags and walk down the sidewalk and start crying and then walk back and hug your mom[/QUOTE]
Lol hug my mother, that hasn't happened in at least 4 years, if not more.[/QUOTE]
You are a terrible son.
[QUOTE=jetboy;17221975]Well, can you move to another city/town? Or even better, state?[/QUOTE]
I'm moving like 40 miles to the west, farther from the beach but oh well.
[QUOTE=Trogdon;17221971]She's not going to change. She's not old enough to realize the error of her ways. Hang out with your grandma, she'll be more accepting of everything (about you) your mom doesn't like.[/QUOTE]
My family doesn't like me since I took my dad's side in the divorce (what I said in the first post is the tip of the iceberg of what he dealt with for 22 years) so since I took my dads side, and she brainwashed all his friends, and both sides of the family, and they knew I was on his side, they don't talk to me anymore.
Great situation.
[QUOTE=Morphology53;17221995]You are a terrible son.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, well she's a terrible mother.
I don't know as if you can really change your mother since she's been like this for years, but the only thing I can suggest is to get your sister out of the house on weekends if you don't want her being around your drunken mother and her boyfriend.
I know you said that you're living with her because of monetary reasons, but is there anyway you can find a cheap apartment or crash with a friend in the meantime? It would at least get you out of the house if it's causing you this much grief (which I can definitely understand). Otherwise, is there a way that you could stay in the house and be completely unobtrusive, such as coming in another entrance that she won't notice?
If you just have to put up with it until November, you could always just make countdowns and have mini-celebrations at pre-designated points until you can get out on your own.
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