• When You Feel Sad, Do You Go Out Of Your Way To Stay That Way?
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Just curious if when any of you feel sad or depressed, sometimes for no reason or because something triggered you to feel that way, do you want to stay that way? Do you not want to see or hear anything that could potentially put you in a better mood and make you feel better? Is this just me or, do other people do this to themselves, too? And if so, why? Why is it that when I feel sad, I actually go out of my way to keep feeling sad? Hell, I was even hesitant to hop on Facepunch because I thought I might see something that would make me smile or laugh or otherwise cheer me up... Is there something wrong with me? Do others do this, too? Is there a name for this? Thanks, guys.
When I'm feeling sad, I just don't do anything. At all. I pretty much de-activate myself, and I don't do anything to make myself feel better or keep being sad. It's really weird.
But Why Must You Write Your Thread Like This I Mean Really... On a more serious note, when I feel sad or down, I just lie down, close my eyes, and think about anything that comes across my mind, untill I stop feeling that way. [sp]And then I cry my ass off[/sp]
i'm always a ☹☹☹ S A D B O Y ☹☹☹ in reality I brush it off and continue with my life unless it's something sickening depression state I'm in. I don't go out of my way to staying sad because it's a miserable feeling
It really depends, there's days where I'm just sad so I'll try to change it. But there's also days I feel super depressed so no matter what I do, I'll feel that way. So those days I don't even bother to try
such is the enigma of self pity
i'm sure some of it is fueled by self loathing. depending on the cause of your sadness. it's entirely possible that subconsciously you don't feel like you deserve to be happy and actively avoid things that could cheer you up. you get irrationally angry if you start feeling happy again because damn it, this is a serious issue and you're not allowed to be happy while it's happening but emotions don't work that way
I don't go out of my way to feel sad, it just happens. When I try to do anything that should cheer me up, it won't work. I'll just feel worse after it because I'm afraid I fucked up. For example yesteray there was an introduction day at my college, where people could learn a thing or two about the education and other people. I couldn't keep my mind at what the teachers were saying, I was too fucking worried about the first impressions I gave off. I went to the back of the room, in the corner and just waited and listened. Eventually we got up and did that 'yes/no' game, where the room is divided in two, and one side means 'yes' to a question and the other side means 'no', and you had to stand at one of them after the teacher asked a question. You were allowed to ask your own questions yourself, and the first thing I asked is 'how many people know someone with autism or have it themselves or know about it'. Immediately after asking it I regretted it. I tried to laugh off everything as much as I could, and I tried to go along with some jokes, and I tried to be as open as I could about everything. I just want to be a part of the group, I'm sick and tired of being a recluse, I want fucking friendship. I want to mean something to somebody. I want to open my horizons. Yet, when I drove back home with the train, I felt like I was 'that guy'. You know, the guy that always nods yes to anything, or that guy that always says what you say, just because they want to get along. I tried to do my own thing and I tried to be myself, but right now, I feel that 'myself' is a grumpy asshole that nobody likes, and so I always feel like I have to give up parts of myself to be accepted by others. I'm just really desperate, I feel hopeless, and I'm clinging on to whatever shred of hope I have left, but the more I struggle, the more I feel like I'm drowning. So no, I certainly don't go out of my way to stay sad, I try to find happiness as much as I can... But I just don't know what to do anymore. Every time I try not to play a play and be honest about how I'm feeling, I feel like I'm gonna fucking cry. Every single time. My voice gets cracked, my eyes start watering up, my body starts shaking, I avoid eye contact, and even though my body tells me not to tell anything, I just do it anyway, because deep down I know that not talking about my issues and bottling them the fuck up only makes things worse. But every time I talk, I don't feel relief. I don't feel any different, I just feel the same shit. Another problem is that every time I have to do something for someone, I keep forgetting what it was that I was supposed to do. There is simply no more room in my head for things like that, and I have nothing to relieve me from thoughts like this, I can only push them aside for the time being by playing video games until they hit me like a train again. Which basically makes my word worthless, because people know that they can't rely on me, even though I really want to be reliable. It's just awful. My mom sometimes wants me to do the dishes, and I'll forget about it five minutes after she said it. And it's definitely not that I don't want to do it; I just have issues remembering that she said it, which just makes me feel worse. I don't even know if it's pity, I guess I'm just super confused. Everything makes me feel awful right now, and that small shred of happiness that I may experience every once in a while means nothing, it is simply insignificant. There is no escape from it, it's a vicious cycle that keeps on feeding itself and I'm too empty, too sad, but above all, too afraid to do anything about it.
[QUOTE=Recurracy;48553703]I don't go out of my way to feel sad, it just happens. When I try to do anything that should cheer me up, it won't work. I'll just feel worse after it because I'm afraid I fucked up. For example yesteray there was an introduction day at my college, where people could learn a thing or two about the education and other people. I couldn't keep my mind at what the teachers were saying, I was too fucking worried about the first impressions I gave off. I went to the back of the room, in the corner and just waited and listened. Eventually we got up and did that 'yes/no' game, where the room is divided in two, and one side means 'yes' to a question and the other side means 'no', and you had to stand at one of them after the teacher asked a question. You were allowed to ask your own questions yourself, and the first thing I asked is 'how many people know someone with autism or have it themselves or know about it'. Immediately after asking it I regretted it. I tried to laugh off everything as much as I could, and I tried to go along with some jokes, and I tried to be as open as I could about everything. I just want to be a part of the group, I'm sick and tired of being a recluse, I want fucking friendship. I want to mean something to somebody. I want to open my horizons. Yet, when I drove back home with the train, I felt like I was 'that guy'. You know, the guy that always nods yes to anything, or that guy that always says what you say, just because they want to get along. I tried to do my own thing and I tried to be myself, but I always feel like I have to give up parts of myself to be accepted by others. I'm just really desperate, I feel hopeless, and I'm clinging on to whatever shred of hope I have left, but the more I struggle, the more I feel like I'm drowning. So no, I certainly don't go out of my way to stay sad, I try to find happiness as much as I can... But I just don't know what to do anymore.[/QUOTE] I know how you feel. You're not alone. Probably happens to a lot of others too. I could never pay attention in school because I was always worried about how to make everyone (and I literally mean EVERYONE) like me. The best advice I can give, even in my position would be to just smile throughout the entire day. A smile says more then 1000 words.
i feel u OP. after I split up with my girlfriend I was always pretty moody and I'd sometimes purposely think about her so I could get into that feeling again. there's something about self pity that's slightly comforting, and I'm sure if there wasn't I probably wouldn't have thought about her
I've always been pretty self sufficient so whenever i'm coping with sadness or anxiety or depression I'll usually wall myself off and avoid people. Not to say it makes me feel better than i would talking to people i like, but it's just first habit to me to keep to myself
When I'm sad I just look at vintage audio equipment for sale. I never buy anything but it just takes my mind off of sad stuff for a bit. [sp]Also a good cry helps a ton.[/sp]
most of the time when I'm sad, I find it rather difficult to cheer up. It's apart of my depression as well, but I just cope with the sadness and find ways to be happy, even if they're minuscule. Better than nothing, is what I think.
Generally speaking, if I'm depressed, it's generally self-loathing and loneliness, so, yeah, most of the time I just mope around until someone manages to make me feel like not shit
Whenever I get sad, I smoke a blunt. It's hard to stay sad with weed in your brain.
When I'm sad, I either mope and think thoughts to myself or I go on with my day thinking, "Yup, this is my shitty life, embrace it because it's going to keep happening."
I just listen to various genres of metal and play Call of Duty. It helps me to forget.
You guys are great. I really appreciate your input and all of you sharing your own personal experiences with this kind of thing. You guys are awesome.
Sometimes I like the feeling of being depressed because it's become so familiar to me. Being able to anticipate that you'll be feeling a certain way for the rest of your day is a comfort in itself
I'm often sad. Often being almost 5-7 times a week. Usually i just sit myself off alone (When am i not alone, though?) and stew in my thoughts. After a while i usually feel better, but not all the time. If i feel bad, still, then i just go to sleep, or at least lie down and rest. I don't think that stewing in my sad thoughts is healthy though, but i wish i knew what happy thoughts were. Maybe i should talk to someone about this? Who knows.
[QUOTE=J$ Psychotic;48572130]Whenever I get sad, I smoke a blunt. It's hard to stay sad with weed in your brain.[/QUOTE] the last time I did that it only made me feel worse I don't remember if I was thinking about committing suicide there and then, probably not because I hate suicide with a passion (that doesn't mean I don't understand people's motives), but I really felt like shit then. Music that I otherwise enjoyed was unbearable for me, and all I could do was lie on my bed, because my mind was racing all over the place, and nothing I tried to make it stop helped, so all I could do was ride out the storm in my mind that was not fun [editline]30th August 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=MEOWTFLOL;48573811]I don't think that stewing in my sad thoughts is healthy though, but i wish i knew what happy thoughts were. Maybe i should talk to someone about this? Who knows.[/QUOTE] you definitely need therapy. I'm going to discuss cognitive behavioural therapy with my therapist this wednesday. We already concluded that I should apply for it. Right now I'm shaking from all these thoughts and I find it hard to formulate a proper sentence.
Yes. Without getting into details of the cause of my depression, I kinda like it that way, in a selfish "look what you're giving to me, life (and some people)" way. When I'm in a better mood (rarely), it seems stupid however.
[QUOTE=T_T crai2;48573744]Sometimes I like the feeling of being depressed because it's become so familiar to me. Being able to anticipate that you'll be feeling a certain way for the rest of your day is a comfort in itself[/QUOTE] What the fuck, being depressed is not comforting in the least bit, just being sad or having an off day is not being depressed. Being depressed is the lack of motivation to go out and do ANYTHING, to the point you can't function properly on a daily basis. It sucks so fucking bad how the shit can you possibly say depression is comforting.
Sometimes I allow myself to feel sadder, sometimes I smack myself and move on.
when i feel sad i just jack off until i'm happy i've been jacking off for 5 years, 3 months and 21 days now
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