So I live in the US, and turning 21 is a big deal, since we can finally drink.
It's not that I don't have friends, because I do, but they're all non-close friends.
I used to have close friends back in high school, but they all went away for college, and they're now living at least 2 hrs away, if not out of state. They really pushed themselves away from me, especially since they all have girlfriends right now.
I have some work friends, but they're all 28-34 in age.
I would ask my work friends to go out with me on my birthday and take me to a bar or whatever, but it would seem like such a loser thing. Like, I'm 21, and I have no friends that would take care of me on my birthday. They have asked me when my birthday was, and if my friends were ready to take me out, just as a casual conversation, and I guess I lied, or maybe I had high hopes for these so-called friends before I attempted to ask them.
I have some friends that live nearby, but they are going away for 2 weeks out of the country, that make my birthday right in the middle of this vacation. My one other friend, is actually moving to a whole other state for school next week, so he's out of the question.
I tried calling my friends that live an hour away by their university, to see if they wanted to do anything. They wouldn't pick up their phones. I left them messages, but they haven't called back or anything in a week. I texted them 2 days ago, and nothing. I Facebooked them before that, and nothing so far. I just feel very unwanted.
I have one younger brother, and no other siblings. So I can't really do anything with family. Besides, my brother and my dad both hate me. They have hated me for the past 3 years just because we can't get along together. But that's a whole other story that I do not wish to get into right now.
Right now, I'm working in a chemistry lab over the summer, doing research. The only other option that I have are going out with a few foreign students from China that I can't communicate with at all, where "Engrish" level is further ahead from where they're at with the language.
Besides all of those people, there may be some people I would ask and expect them to go out with me, but they're all 19 or 20 years old.
I was thinking about just getting my family together, but my mom works 2 jobs, and her schedule is set, so I can't really even have dinner or lunch with her on my birthday. I began talking about my brother and dad earlier, but they don't speak to me, and I have tried with them, but they're just the type of people that I can't get along with and can't make them get along with me, and I have made my peace with that.
Has anyone been in this sort of a situation? What do I do?
Right now, I'm just going to lie to whomever asks me at work for what I have done on my birthday and just make up some lies and say that some friends took me out and I was shit-faced, got laid, etc.
It's still 2 months from now, but usually people plan this shit months ahead.
[b]EDIT[/b]
Since someone gave me the idea, I'm going to leave my Pay Pal email here for gifts. Not sure if the email is enough, since I've never asked for money before, and only used the account like once to buy something off of Steam before. I'm really not expecting or need anyone to gift me anything, but since some people PMed me for it I thought I'd put it here.
[b]PayPal:[/b] [email]saiffin89@gmail.com[/email]
You guys ROCK!! Like 1000 times better than the irl people that I know.
[b]EDIT 2[/b]
SUCCESS!! You guys are awesome!
I ended up sucking it up and going to a bar. I told people it was my 21st and people kept on buying me shots. Shortly after I was drunk and happy and everything was great.
I :love: you all!!
We'll come. Where do you live?
I live in Michigan.
Awww its ok bro
[QUOTE=collegegrad;22778857]I live in Michigan.[/QUOTE]
Okay, see you there bud.
there's nothing awkward about your old buddies moving away
At least your birthday is on a regular day, unlike mine which is on New Years day. Almost all my friends are either busy with family stuff, or some of them are too drunk to even come over. I wished my birthday was just on a regular day. D:
if you live in flint or detroit i'm not coming
My Birthdayparty: TF2
My Guests: Coke and chips
Don't worry bro, keep heading your own path and become successful.
Lady luck [b]WILL[/b] shine upon you.
Go to prision you NEED friends there to protect your ass and the state pays your meals and sheets.
Or you can always hangout in a bar sometimes, go always to the same bar, do this go every monday,friday(the day you like), same hour too.Start talking soon you will become friends with the barman and sooner you will be friends with the manager and you will have a tab. You will also have a new friends(other customers) every night for a 20 min chat.
I'll be your friend. <3
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Just kidding, you smell.
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If I were you I'd just have a non-alcoholic celebration of sorts with just my family, or else just buy myself something nice.
We should all go to Michigan and have a awesome birthday party with you.
[QUOTE=collegegrad;22778857]I live in Michigan.[/QUOTE]
Where?
[QUOTE=Tomh5894;22779044]Go to bar,target female,rehypnol into drink.Win.
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Hehe.[/QUOTE]
That's rape!
u shud prolly go to chat roums on video stickam thingy you know with ur web cam and sturff and chat and tells ppl u are drunk man okis
Grow them.
If you're not THAT far away from New York City I'll go to your house. I can bring a friend or 2 with me.
[QUOTE=Mattofwiles;22779140]That's rape![/QUOTE]
That's how you came to be ;)
[QUOTE=Sirdangolot5;22779051]If I were you I'd just have a non-alcoholic celebration of sorts with just my family, or else just buy myself something nice.[/QUOTE]
I guess that's the plan right now. The family thing doesn't work, like I indicated, but I have been planning on building myself a nice gaming computer.
I guess I'll get drunk while playing TF2 or something on my birthday. You're all invited by the way :)
Yeah that's sad, but at least complete strangers seem to give a fuck about me, at least just a little bit.
In 2 months... Maybe your friends living 2hrs away are preparing something, thus why they don't answer?
[QUOTE=Sirdangolot5;22779051]If I were you I'd just have a non-alcoholic celebration of sorts with just my family[/QUOTE]
Uh, I did that when I was 9-11. The guy is turning 21 for fucks sake, I really don't see a reason to do it unless you're some social reject or whatever.
And OP, seeing as you have a legitimate problem that most of your friends moved away, I'd say take yourself out for a nice day of doing what you like, even if it's just sitting in front of the computer. Or just go out there and try out new things, experiment. Like drinking, clubs, and said bars that were mentioned in the this thread several times. Hell, you could even give one night stands a shot, I would go for the 'experiment' option myself, but choose what you like best.
Oh and I forgot [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8hjtFq3vE0[/media]
"don't, don't let it slip away"
[QUOTE=Mattofwiles;22779140]That's rape![/QUOTE]
nope, she was clamoring for it :smug:
I'll be your friend
Play WoW.
[QUOTE=Tomh5894;22779044]Go to bar,target female,rehypnol into drink.Win.
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Hehe.[/QUOTE]
that'll get him a ton of friends
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[QUOTE=peterson;22779381]Play WoW.[/QUOTE]
that too
Fap to shocksites all day with a bottle of tequila.
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