• I only just realised my childhood girlfriend was molested and I could have stopped it
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This is a very sad story, Facepunch, and I'd like to share it with you. And yes, this all actually happened. Way back when I was 6, my parents split up and my mom took me to a new neighbourhood, far away from the houses of the other kids I used to play with. As soon as I could go outside by myself while people were moving furnature into the empty house, I wandered around the street to knock on people's doors and see if they had kids. The house accross from mine, 411, (I was 413) was answered by a girl my age, named Sophie, and her very large father right behind her. My Sisters secretly referred to him as "Fat Tony". I just called him "Sophie's Dad". I got to know Sophie very well. Until I went into Grade 1 after the summer, she was my only friend. I often went into her backyard to play on the giant wooden junglejim that came with the house, and she often came over to my house to lie on the grass of one of the yards "with flat grass instead of itchy". I still think that she meant that my lawn was mowed and hers never was, but I'll never know for sure. Whenever my mom jokingly asked Sophie if she had a boyfriend, she would nod and point at me. When I was 8, I started to see Sophie much less often. Nobody would ever answer the door and she never really stopped by my house. I went to a French Immersion school and she went to an English Christian school, so I never saw her at school either. This went on for two months, until she knocked on my bedroom window really late at night. You could get to my window by piling things up to get on the section of roof near it, and that's what she apparently did. She started crying, telling me her dad was doing weird things to her. I didn't know what she meant, and then I heard the doorbeel ring. Fat Tony was looking for Sophie, because she apparently "went missing". I heard their discussion from donwstairs, and as my parents were coming upstairs to ask me, Sophie had already run off when she heard Fat Tony's voice. I shut the window and crawled back into bed as my parents came into the room. They flicked on the light and I put on my best "I'm sleepy don't wake me" impression before my parents asked me, [I]very seriously[/I], if I had seen Sophie. I shook my head no. I only saw Sophie again when I was 12. I was walking home from school when I saw her packing things into a car with a woman I'd never seen before. I asked her where her dad was, and she said he was at the police station. Thinking that she was despressed, I sort of just said "oh" and turned away awkwardly, knowing I wasn't the greatest at comforting her in [I]really[/I] serious times. The next day I never saw her, but a moving van packing things was in her driveway the entire time. I never saw a trace of her since, and I've looked for her on things like facebook, myspace, other sites like that. I'm 17 now. A few hours ago, I got home and started working on my "1000 word life story" for my Writerscraft class. As I filled in the lines, mentioning several times that Sophie was a big part of my childhood, I connected all the dots together which made the seemingly implied to somebody older than me obvious now: Sophie was being molested by her Dad for a long period of time, and when she went to my window, she was trying to explain this to me. She didn't have enough time before tony knocked on the door looking for her. If I had told my parents that I had seen her just a moment ago, they would have easily found her in the backyard. Instead, it ended up with Tony finding Sophie and threatening Physical violence on her if she should ever mention it again. This went on for 4 years until somebody found out, Tony went to Jail and Sophie moved far, far away to where I would lose all contact with her. TL;DR - Thread Title. :smith:
that sucks dude. I could have stopped a fifteen year old girl from being abducted and raped but i didn't, called the police instead. they got the fuckers, they were planning to murder her but they'd already raped her in the back seat of the car. i regret not crossing the road and giving them brain damage every day
That fucking blows. What the fuck why is this funny or zingworthy? I hate all of you.
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[QUOTE=Keeshond v2;28311417]that sucks dude. I could have stopped a fifteen year old girl from being abducted and raped but i didn't, called the police instead. they got the fuckers, they were planning to murder her but they'd already raped her in the back seat of the car. i regret not crossing the road and giving them brain damage every day[/QUOTE] Shit could have hit the fan if you stepped in, you did the right thing.
im sorry but all i can picture is fat tony with that pedo smile
Doesn't sound like your fault, you were very young and couldn't of known.
Don't beat yourself up over it, what you think may have happened might not necessarily been the outcome. She might have said nothing, or if she did your parents might have though she was lying, then FatTony might have done worse.
I hope you don't feel guilty, OP. You were a child and you couldn't have realized what was happening. I hope she holds on to the memories she has with you as good ones, wherever she is now.
That story broke my heart and made me cry. I'm so sorry for you, and for her. Words cannot accurately describe how I feel.
This story really [b]touched[/b] my heart.
You shouldn't at all feel guilty about it. Things were way out of your hand, especially since you were 8 at the time. Best of luck on the Writerscraft class.
[QUOTE=Brodi;28311477][media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1w8CrCrWlY[/media][/QUOTE] :wtc: Also, this is really sad, but you shouldn't blame yourself, you didn't know.
Almost cried when I read this :smithy: Thats very sad, but stuff like this happens, you were only a kid and you didn't know/understant stuff like that
Don't beat yourself up. You were 10 years old and had no idea what she meant. Imagine if you did intervene, she probably would've been put into some sort of foster care had everything been discovered in time, and her life might've been just as equally broken as it is now, if not more so. I'm not saying what you did was smart, but it was completely justifiable. [editline]26th February 2011[/editline] Still really fucking saddening :smith:
[QUOTE=Brodi;28311477][media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1w8CrCrWlY[/media][/QUOTE] dude: wtf? I lol'd however
This... this is just depressing. :smith: Just when I think my day can't get any worse, God has to step in and kick me in the nuts.
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Life is always full of these "what if" situations. But at your age I don't think you're to blame, not one bit. Also... wasn't Fat Tony the mobster guy out of The Simpsons?
Don't beat yourself up over it, bud. There are so many situations in life that we can't see with perfect clarity without the benefit of hindsight, especially during childhood, that all we can do as people is vow to learn from our mistakes. I think a lot of us have stories like this, have moments where we had the opportunity to make a difference for somebody, but didn't realize it until it was too late. I hope you find your friend, but know that you're not responsible for what that man did to her.
Oh man, that's horrible... You should really try getting in contact with her again. And don't beat yourself up over it, you were 8 you didn't know any better.
She'll find you or you'll find her one day. That's how life works! In all seriousness though it really isn't your fault. I'm sure she thinks back at times and amidst all the negative things that comes along with it you're going to be that diamond in the dirt that lets her know that she had somewhat of a good childhood.
Well, since you didn't know wtf was going on, chances are you couldn't of stopped it Either way what happened to her is still terrible
[QUOTE=RHTrix;28312434]I'm sure she thinks back at times and amidst all the negative things that comes along with it you're going to be that diamond in the dirt that lets her know that she had somewhat of a good childhood.[/QUOTE] Daw, that's so sweet :3:
How could you have known?
what's her last name and where did you live then?
At least he didn't keep her tied up in the basement for 15+ years
There's not much you can do about it now. We all have things in our lives that we regret, take it easy on yourself. Keep up the search on the social networking sites, you can do it.
Don't regret past mistakes. It'll eat you up. Take more serious steps toward finding her. I'd like a happy conclusion to this story. Seek closure
You had no concept of molestation as a kid, there's nothing you could've done.
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