• Need Help With a Secret Party
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Okay, so I'm in a really tough situation that my whole family is trying to figure out. My parents, a few months back wanted to throw a party for my grandparents on my dad's side of the family. They both have the same birthday and it'll be their 70th, so my parents wanted to make it big. Really big. They live up in South Dakota so my parents rented out a huge and expensive as hell ballroom at a hotel in Deadwood. They paid in advance for tables, food, all that jazz. Even a fake photographer to make it seem like they're getting their pictures taken before they figure it out. A lot of $ has gone into this. So for a month or two everything's fine, but my dad got a call from his sister saying that his parents are going to Phoenix, Arizona for their birthday, meaning all of our planning has gone to waste. Better yet, they're going out with some friends who own a house in Phoenix, meaning they're staying for at least a month. As much as I think the best solution would be to can it, my parents are flipping their shit about it. So for the past few days they've been figuring out every possible thing they could do to get these people to frolic from their vacation into this whole scheme. So, can you people think of a possible solution to get them to come but not actually know what it is, and if not, a way to get my parents to drop this whole fiasco?
"your favorite family member just got hit by a cancer truck, you must come see them at deadwood for whatever reason" either that or just tell them you have a majorly expensive party planned and alternate things a little from a surprise party to just a "party", and then let them go on vacation for a month after going to your event?? that's a toughie, good luck.
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[QUOTE=Lebowski;43493784]just tell them you have a majorly expensive party planned and alternate things a little from a surprise party to just a "party", and then let them go on vacation for a month after going to your event??[/QUOTE] Learn the lesson of kids' shows! If the secret means you have to start lying to try and maintain it, [B]it's probably not important enough to lie to the people you love[/B]. Tell them that you're holding a small party for them and that you'd hoped they'd come, and you'd arranged for some family friends/etc. from the local area to come so it's a bit of a shindig. The key here is, you're telling them what it is... you're just leaving out exactly how big and expensive and awesome it is. If they [B]still[/B] try and resist, lay your cards on the table and explain how a huge expensive surprise party has been laid out for them, and they basically need to show up because it's already locked in, and you guys weren't expecting them to suddenly fuck off to Arizona for a month.
I wish I had more power over this situation. My parents keep consulting me, but whenever I say something that compromises the clandestine state of the party, the get really dismissive. I want to tell my grandparents behind my parent's back which seems the most sensible, but I'm really torn between lying to either side for some reason. Maybe my frontal lobe finally reattached a year late after my teenage years ended.
[QUOTE=Geiger;43493967]I wish I had more power over this situation. My parents keep consulting me, but whenever I say something that compromises the clandestine state of the party, the get really dismissive. I want to tell my grandparents behind my parent's back which seems the most sensible, but I'm really torn between lying to either side for some reason. Maybe my frontal lobe finally reattached a year late after my teenage years ended.[/QUOTE] Tell them behind your parents back. You won't reach a solution if they aren't willing to compromise.
Listen to your intuition and go behind your parents' (who are willing to get into the complications of lies in order to make this work the way [B]they want it to[/B] despite the risks) back. Ask your grandparents to [B]pretend[/B] to just pretend they've changed their mind on their plans in a convenient way. They raised at least one of your parents, they know who they're dealing with.
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