Girl says she wants to kill herself. Decision, go to funeral? - General

So a friend of mine I've know for a few years has had ongoing issues with her home life and normal and teenager problems ect. But last week I was on my vent with a few friends from school and other members of our small community of GAMER PALS (Yeah, lets call it that.) She calls me crying and complaining that she's going to kill herself for reasons that follow. 1) Her dad has lung cancer. 2) Her relationship with her faggy boyfriend sucks. 3) Claims to have no friends. 4) Parents tend to argue and fight a lot 5) Poor grades But for my opinion that follows she claims I'm "heartless" and a "massive asshole" I partially agree with massive asshole but that's because I'm intolerant for stupid people and those who say they want to kill themselves. So here's why I'm a massive asshole, 1) Her dad has cancer, yeah that sucks. But he also smokes 3 packs a day I'm no christan fag who's anti-smoking but try and cut back a little if you don't want those massive problems. 2) Now for her boyfriend, she's a FRESHMAN in Highschool. Honestly? A relationship in highschool that early is just stupid and pointless. It just asks for trouble when you "start young" if thats what the kids say these days or whatever. 3) Back to my point of highschool SUCKING, everyone goes through a period loneliness. Whats the word I'm looking for that helps me describe this feeling....... OH! Being a teenager! Everyone gets that feeling, like a "pencil" in your pocket in class.... >.> 4) No relationship is perfect, especially those who are legally attached to eachother and gave birth to evil spawn like yourself. That's why they fight, cause they hate you. Just trollin' but, my dad always told me to never get married. So that's advice enough for me :D 5) Yet again, a Highschool problem. Fuck highschool. Okay, so here's where the heartless part comes in. She continues to say she's going to kill herself so I think of a snappy comeback of... "Well if you kill yourself I'm not gonna go to your funeral, you took the easy way out and didn't even get professional help let alone tell anyone other than me." And that's /conversation. I just get hung up on so maybe she did kill herself but I highly doubt it. So what do you think FP? If you were in my situation would you go to her funeral with the reasons she gave me why her life sucks. I tried to help but she wouldn't listen. Opinions pl0x. tl;dr: Girl says she wants to killherself cause highschool sucks, would you go to funeral cause she's a moron?

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You just killed somebody you insensitive fuck. DEPRESSION IS NOT "SAD". DEPRESSION IS A MENTAL ILLNESS. A CHEMICAL IMBALANCE. NOT "SAD". Call her back right now and apologize. Help her find someone to talk to.

Those are really stupid reasons to kill yourself. Whether or not you decide to go to her funeral is up to you.

She's your friend... try to talk her out of it, offer her to stay with you or something and failing all that, if the worst happens then go. So if there is some sort of afterlife or something she can see you're supporting her no matter what her choice.

[QUOTE=Ori Child;25117317]She's your friend... try to talk her out of it, offer her to stay with you or something and failing all that, if the worst happens then go. So if there is some sort of afterlife or something she can see you're supporting her no matter what her choice.[/QUOTE] I tried talking to her for HOURS, she's the type who's very independent and doesn't like other peoples opinions even if it has a successful outcome. I ended up just getting very frustrated with her so I came here for advice :D

If that was my daughter and I found out you had this conversation with her just before she killed herself, I'd probably murder you with my bare hands if I can't find anything better. Whether you are right or not doesn't matter in cases like this. She need(s)(ed) help, not someone being an asshole.

This could've gone in GD, you would get better replies there Depression isn't something to joke about, she could do it. Depression is more than being sad, its a dangerous mental state, not an emotion. Call her tomorrow and if she hasn't done it, get her some help.

[QUOTE=teeheeV2;25117373]This could've gone in GD, you would get better replies there Depression isn't something to joke about, she could do it. Depression is more than being sad, its a dangerous mental state, not an emotion. Call her tomorrow and if she hasn't done it, get her some help.[/QUOTE] Yeah, I'm think about heading to the Guidance office of our school tomorrow supposedly they know what's up in there.

That's a cry for attention, not an actual suicide attempt.

[QUOTE=BuffaloBill;25117361]If that was my daughter and I found out you had this conversation with her just before she killed herself, I'd probably murder you with my bare hands if I can't find anything better. Whether you are right or not doesn't matter in cases like this. She need(s)(ed) help, not someone being an asshole.[/QUOTE] But how can her dad strangle him if he has cancer?

Well, if you had a 'loud conversation' you may have given her something to think about or dwell on. It could make a difference in the end.

Her dad is dieing of cancer how can he possibly fucking kill him with his bare hands obviously this kid is smart! BuffaloBill=Retard!

Sure we can all look right past these "I want to kill myself" stupidities, but you are her friend, you should contain your bloated ego, sit your ass down and act your part. Will she go through with it? I doubt it, but this is obviously a call for much needed attention, and the least you could do was to listen and try not to be a giant asshole for 10 minutes - you could've made your friend's life that much better, you could've said something that would make everything alright, but instead you kicked her in the face and pushed her down, blinded by your own ego. If she does go through with it, you can bet it'll haunt you for the rest of your life.

[QUOTE=RedBlade2021;25117433]But how can her dad strangle him if he has cancer?[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Steeele;25117471]Her dad is dieing of cancer how can he possibly fucking kill him with his bare hands obviously this kid is smart! BuffaloBill=Retard![/QUOTE] Dying, i.e. not dead yet. He's talking about a conversation that happened hours ago at best. Unless her dad is so far gone he's dead within a week he can do that.

[QUOTE=BuffaloBill;25117521]Dying, i.e. not dead yet. He's talking about a conversation that happened hours ago at best. Unless her dad is so far gone he's dead within a week he can do that.[/QUOTE] BuffaloBill Do u not understand he is practically dead i know the people who were talking bout in this thread --- You = Dumbass

cancer !=(always) going to die soon

[QUOTE=Steeele;25117577]BuffaloBill Do u not understand he is practically dead i know the people who were talking bout in this thread --- You = Dumbass[/QUOTE] "Dying" can range from being seconds away from death to being told the cancer is terminal, i.e. months away. Excuse me for choosing the upbeat side and not thinking he's hours away from being dead. Also, I just said I'd kill you. Never specified I was the father in this situation, women kill too.

[QUOTE=BuffaloBill;25117670]"Dying" can range from being seconds away from death to being told the cancer is terminal, i.e. months away. Excuse me for choosing the upbeat side and not thinking he's hours away from being dead.[/QUOTE] Ya well your wrong and you always will be wrong! GTFO get a life and get off the computer mr BuffaloBill! how dumb of a name can you pick lawl

op, you're are a gigantic douchebag and you don't deserve friends. It's a shame you didn't actually say something like "so kill yourself then" so you could be charged if it actually happens, but if she offs herself you'll have to live with what you did for the rest of your life. Call her back and apologize dumbass [editline]06:02PM[/editline] [QUOTE=Snuffy;25117295]You just killed somebody you insensitive fuck. DEPRESSION IS NOT "SAD". DEPRESSION IS A MENTAL ILLNESS. A CHEMICAL IMBALANCE. NOT "SAD". Call her back right now and apologize. Help her find someone to talk to.[/QUOTE] This shouldn't have gotten disagrees

[QUOTE=Steeele;25117773]Ya well your wrong and you always will be wrong! GTFO get a life and get off the computer mr BuffaloBill! how dumb of a name can you pick lawl[/QUOTE] :frog:

[QUOTE=ZekeTwo;25117775]op, you're are a gigantic douchebag and you don't deserve friends. It's a shame you didn't actually say something like "so kill yourself then" so you could be charged if it actually happens, but if she offs herself you'll have to live with what you did for the rest of your life. Call her back and apologize dumbass [editline]06:02PM[/editline] This shouldn't have gotten disagrees[/QUOTE] R u a idiot? like wtf u dont know whats going on ur from canada. A!! go play some hockey and butt fuck a monkey [highlight](User was permabanned for this post ("Gimmick" - SteveUK))[/highlight]

I never flatout said DO IT FAGGOT YOU WON'T. I just think it's very pointless if she were to kill herself. Yeah I feel bad that she is upset or depressed or whatever but that doesn't mean suicide is an option, honestly it never should be when you're only 14?

[QUOTE=JetsToBrazil;25117901]I never flatout said DO IT FAGGOT YOU WON'T. I just think it's very pointless if she were to kill herself. Yeah I feel bad that she is upset or depressed or whatever but that doesn't mean suicide is an option, honestly it never should be when you're only 14?[/QUOTE] You're completely missing the point. Keep stroking your ego, bub.

Wow, you really are heartless.

[quote=stinkyjoe;25117926]you're completely missing the point. Keep stroking your ego, bub.[/quote] straight question mark???

yes, her reasons are pretty shit (although the Dad having cancer really does suck tits), I'm 99% sure she's just being a hormonal teenager and it's just a cry for attention, and that she won't actually do it. But if I was in your situation and she DID kill herself, I'd go to her funeral to celebrate the friendship shared, no matter how mad you are about her taking the cowards route. if you text her and just say "I shouldn't have said that, of course I'd go to your funeral if that happened. I'd go because you're my friend and I care about you, which is why I tried for hours to talk you out of it. Just after a while it got frustrating because you wouldn't take in what I was saying, and it didn't help that I was already stressed from the thought of it" That should also prove to her that she does have a friend, taking one thing off her list of suicide reasons.

i think in a way you did the right thing. if she actually has "issues" then she needs to go to a proper counsellor and get help from them, you're not up to that job. as for her having depression? these days anyone that feels a bit down thinks they have depression. having grown up around divorced parents that have both suffered from fairly severe depression for most of my life i can tell you there is a hell of a lot more to it than that. sounds like this girl is just crying for the attention and she needed a kick up the butt (your phonecall) to realise that she needs to grow up and deal with the issues she has in whichever method is best, or just get over it. [editline]12:11AM[/editline] but it does suck her dad has cancer, so maybe you should feel a bit bad for that

Steeele = report for tolling/spam. @OP: Basically call her back and tell her you're there for her and just be nice. Fuck what you think, or if you're pissed off, and fuck if she means it or not. Your job as a friend is to be there to help her, and I know you've tried, and you're pissed off, but you need to just calm down, call her back and just say something like "Sorry, I didn't mean that. It's just frustrating talking to someone who seems so intent on throwing everything away, when things will eventually get better...because they will..."

[QUOTE=Snuffy;25117295]You just killed somebody you insensitive fuck. DEPRESSION IS NOT "SAD". DEPRESSION IS A MENTAL ILLNESS. A CHEMICAL IMBALANCE. NOT "SAD". Call her back right now and apologize. Help her find someone to talk to.[/QUOTE] Except it's more common to find someone who's just in need of attention than someone in depression