So like the title says, I moved in with my dad and his wife to East Sussex and I've started college here. I'm doing really well, but my dad wants to throw me out.
I really can't go back to my country because I need the qualifications that this course gives me to get a job so I can move in with my bf. Back home I wouldn't get this type of qualification without spending a lot of money and lots of years doing uni, not to mention I have no place to stay. And I'm doing reaaally well in this course. But at the moment I've been given 2 weeks to find somewhere else.
I have zero income and no savings. I can't find any place here that charges less than ~100 GBP per week for 1 bedroom (not counting bills) and I'm a full time student. I don't really think I qualify for any financial help either because I'm not technically a UK citizen (just EU).
If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it.
My best advice to you would be to talk to these guys for advice: [url]http://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/[/url]
[QUOTE=ph:lxyz;47099819]My best advice to you would be to talk to these guys for advice: [url]http://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/[/url][/QUOTE]
Thanks for the link, I will definitely try to call on Monday!
What part of the uk are you in dude?
How badly do you want that job the course qualifications offer. Are you truly passionate about it?
Not being a citizen, and assuming you will now be extraordinarily pro-active in finding a job to help support yourself, you could stay for very little (just under 10GBP a day) at a backpackers hostel if you can find one where you live. My numbers are from Brighton though...
Main thing is getting a job you can do, that pays enough. You might have to take unreasonable hours and maybe do some kinda unreasonable things. But it is worth it to get the qualificatiomn you are studying and doing so well for.
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Also you could offer to do most of the housework for your dad in exchange even just for a place to stay, you may have to sacrifice getting food off of them, but if you find yourself a job it should not be a problem.
[QUOTE=gerbe1;47100036]Not being a citizen, and assuming you will now be extraordinarily pro-active in finding a job to help support yourself, you could stay for very little (just under 10GBP a day) at a backpackers hostel if you can find one where you live. My numbers are from Brighton though...
Main thing is getting a job you can do, that pays enough. You might have to take unreasonable hours and maybe do some kinda unreasonable things. But it is worth it to get the qualificatiomn you are studying and doing so well for.
[editline]9th February 2015[/editline]
Also you could offer to do most of the housework for your dad in exchange even just for a place to stay, you may have to sacrifice getting food off of them, but if you find yourself a job it should not be a problem.[/QUOTE]
I am located in Brighton. The thing is, my course is full-time and attendance is mandatory, if I want to study I have no time to work enough to pay for rent.
I don't have the mind to give up my course. I am medicated recovering from depression but I don't think I am mentally able to give up my future for a shit job so I can afford staying alive. I would rather kill myself than have that life.
And the housework thing is out of the question, he and his wife don't want me in the house period.
[editline]8th February 2015[/editline]
[QUOTE=Lui2112;47099971]How badly do you want that job the course qualifications offer. Are you truly passionate about it?[/QUOTE]
Really really badly. It's and IT course, and working with computers is the bare minimum I need. It's the only thing that I do well and an environment I feel comfortable in, unlike retail/marketing/other jobs I've tried before. I would rather work a job repairing computers or giving tech support over the phone for a small wage than a nicer paying job doing anything else.
[editline]8th February 2015[/editline]
[QUOTE=Thug;47099920]What part of the uk are you in dude?[/QUOTE]
I am in Brighton, and I'm a (almost) 23 y.o. girl. I've just lost a big portion of my life to depression and drug abuse so I still feel and act like I'm 18 and am heavily financially dependent.
You mention moving in with your boyfriend. Is it not an option to do this now instead of later?
[QUOTE=PieClock;47100184]You mention moving in with your boyfriend. Is it not an option to do this now instead of later?[/QUOTE]
Kind of hard, he lives in Norway and he doesn't own his own place. I need money to get started there, and for that I need a job. I think once I have a degree it would be only a matter of time until I got work but as it is, I don't see moving there as being sustainable.
Gah it is hard for you given the sentiment about EU citizens atm in the UK. There still should be some support services somewhere.
I am not aware of what full time means for the UK system. In Australia I have about three or four contact hours per course and four courses, with an additional six or seven study hours, so ten hours per course, forty hours a week. Whilst it would be insufferable, I could still balance a job on that if I needed it to live. Grades may suffer a little, but what other choice do you have?
Having said that you may be under a lot more hours of required contact hours per week.
[editline]9th February 2015[/editline]
Also there is clearly something going on here with your father, it is probably extreme but I am just brainstorming as much as possible here, maybe if you can find a pro bono lawyer, you might have some claim over a verbal contract and reasonable expectations in regards to moving all the way to the UK. Not sure how it applies to family members and obviously that won´t help familial relations...
[editline]9th February 2015[/editline]
Ah no, my bad. I recalled some contract case law (Australia has the same as the UK in many cases) had something to do with domestic agreements, but the something was that they were not legally binding usually.
[QUOTE=gerbe1;47100286]Gah it is hard for you given the sentiment about EU citizens atm in the UK. There still should be some support services somewhere.
I am not aware of what full time means for the UK system. In Australia I have about three or four contact hours per course and four courses, with an additional six or seven study hours, so ten hours per course, forty hours a week. Whilst it would be insufferable, I could still balance a job on that if I needed it to live. Grades may suffer a little, but what other choice do you have?
Having said that you may be under a lot more hours of required contact hours per week.
[editline]9th February 2015[/editline]
Also there is clearly something going on here with your father, it is probably extreme but I am just brainstorming as much as possible here, maybe if you can find a pro bono lawyer, you might have some claim over a verbal contract and reasonable expectations in regards to moving all the way to the UK. Not sure how it applies to family members and obviously that won´t help familial relations...[/QUOTE]
On my full time course it's about 15 hours a week, with a pretty predictable schedule. I have a friend who goes back every weekend to work, but your average minimum wage job weekends-only will not cut it.
If you got a job with evening shifts you might still be able to do it, hard as it is to squeeze in the hours. Honestly depends if your university submits lecture slides online as well because you would be missing lectures sometimes with a job and you would have to catch up.
Shared houses can be around £80/week or a little less depending on their quality, the one I'm moving into next year is about that price. Sometimes people drop out and don't take up the slots in houses so they can still be open to move into.
Well if you can gather the money you need for the initial move here, education is free and you get a pretty generous loan that you don't even have to start paying until you're done with your education and have a paying job. I don't know how this all works if you're not a citizen already, though.
By the way, regarding tech jobs, even if you do not get paper qualifications putting in the practice in your own time and actually having the practical skills for a specific job can still help. The reality is that once you're in the interview, your paper qualifications mean jack shit and your specific skills for the job are very important. An FP buddy of mine has already got a programming job before finishing college because he's taught himself those skills already, so don't give up hope just because you don't get a paper slip that says you have a degree.
If you have to take a year or two making money to back into university, then do that and practice for it in the meantime, but don't panic if you're not able to continue [i]now[/i] because you always have time to make up for it later.
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Muh automerge
Perhaps you could try to get things straight with your dad?
[QUOTE=meek;47100230]Kind of hard, he lives in Norway and he doesn't own his own place. I need money to get started there, and for that I need a job. I think once I have a degree it would be only a matter of time until I got work but as it is, I don't see moving there as being sustainable.[/QUOTE]
[url]http://www.nidirect.gov.uk/benefits-for-non-uk-nationals[/url]
You might be able to claim some benefits from the government
[QUOTE=eurocracy;47100370]By the way, regarding tech jobs, even if you do not get paper qualifications putting in the practice in your own time and actually having the practical skills for a specific job can still help. The reality is that once you're in the interview, your paper qualifications mean jack shit and your specific skills for the job are very important. An FP buddy of mine has already got a programming job before finishing college because he's taught himself those skills already, so don't give up hope just because you don't get a paper slip that says you have a degree.
If you have to take a year or two making money to back into university, then do that and practice for it in the meantime, but don't panic if you're not able to continue [i]now[/i] because you always have time to make up for it later.
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Muh automerge[/QUOTE]
I've been told this a lot, but when I was applying around for a while everyone told me from one look at my CV that I didn't have the qualifications. A laptop repair shop told me they only hired engineers and said it was unusual to find women with the qualifications (I wondered at the time what that had to do with it too, but he made a point of it and circled my gender with a pen on the CV). I have yet to try programming jobs, I feel like I need some time to build a portfolio before I'm even hirable in this field)
The qualifications plus the fact that one of the years you get actual work experience makes me think I really need this to prepare for work.
[editline]8th February 2015[/editline]
[QUOTE=AhoyMate;47100395]Perhaps you could try to get things straight with your dad?[/QUOTE]
I have been really trying to! Tonight he threatened to throw me out right there and then, and I managed to get two weeks out of him so I feel like there is no going back on his part.
[QUOTE=Indyclone77;47100404][url]http://www.nidirect.gov.uk/benefits-for-non-uk-nationals[/url]
You might be able to claim some benefits from the government[/QUOTE]
I highly doubt this would work for me (not a UK citizen) but if I find nothing else tomorrow I will ring and ask, if only out of desperation.
[QUOTE=meek;47100409]
I have been really trying to! Tonight he threatened to throw me out right there and then, and I managed to get two weeks out of him so I feel like there is no going back on his part.
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Ugh.. Then there's nothing I could say except wishing you best of luck.
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