All right, so I live with my mom. My dad is a paraplegic and lives in a totally different city. We rarely see each other, and I have little incentive to call, or even visit.
Every year, I get to see him twice. But since I'm getting older, seeing him is harder than ever. He never remembers anything I tell him, he doesn't even try to. He knows more about his new girlfriend's kids than me.
Along with that, he's constantly touching me. It's almost borderline sexual harassment because it's always my legs and thighs. And I can't stand it. He doesn't understand personal boundaries. Then I tell him to stop touching me, and he gets all pissy, and slams around. I ask him what's the matter and he yells nothing at me.
Not as important as the other things, he treats me like I'm seven. I'm turning sixteen in a couple months.
My problem is that I don't know how to talk to him about it without putting him into a pissy mood.
Because of this, I don't want to see him, because it's like this every visit, and the more I tell him not to, the pissier he gets.
tldr; My dad doesn't know anything about me, gets up in my personal space, and then get pissy really easily.
It's actually almost the same thing with my dad and his dad. But in that case it's beceause they found their long lost daughter.
He loves you, but not in the father-son way :smug:
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my dad went to jail for 2 years because he drove all the way from Florida to Washington where i live just to find me
there is more to it but no one told me because i was 10 at the time and i have not asked since
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Along with that, he's constantly touching me.[/QUOTE]
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Sounds like it's a good job you don't know him that well.
If anyone did that I would keep the fuck away.
My Dad and I are the same as that. He'a a drunk who lives in another city who I never actually see.
Apart from the fact he doesn't try to touch me, or anything.
O hi Cocktail. I have a similar (but different thing) thing. I focus on messing with my tablet and drawing and he sits in front of the TV. He bitches about me on being on my computer making digital art. He doesn't understand me, my mother is our constant go between. I regret that it has gotten to the stage where we don't talk anymore. What I am surprised about is how I turned out so different when I am the spiting image of him...
Your dad may be a complete stranger to you. Is also the same the other way around ...
The fuck? Your dad should not touch a grown man like that.
well uhhh, where do we go from here?
Yeah, I never had a straight conversation with my dad until I was sixteen.
Turns out the guy is crazy and paranoid. Huh.
I just realized that that first sentence can be taken two ways.
My dad left my mother before I was born. I've never seen or heard him.
Don't worry, me and your father are complete strangers too.
He probably feels your legs because he wishes to amputate them and sew them to himself so he can walk again
[quote][B]My dad is a paraplegic[/B]
Along with that, he's constantly touching me. It's almost borderline sexual harassment because it's always my legs and thighs. [B]And I can't stand it.[/B][/quote]
Am I the only one who laughed at that?
Either he is a dick or he really wants to get to know you.
he misses his legs
[QUOTE=12% Iron;24350234]My dad left my mother before I was born. I've never seen or heard him.[/QUOTE]
Same
you mean
My father and I
My father is great.
My dad smokes pot... but tells me not to do it.
Be lucky you have a father is what optimistic person would say
[QUOTE=johan_sm;24353580]My father is great.[/QUOTE]
Yeah I love him too :smug:
Op, is your name Sterl?
He's touching your leg area because he wishes he still could, he's paralyzed waist down.
Don't be angry. Imagine if YOU had to live in a wheelchair. You couldn't walk. You had to use your arms for everything. You can barely have sex.
Although the other things are a bit sad.
My father and I are complete strangers too. He lives just five minutes from me and I see him pretty often, but that doesn't change anything. Just remember you got to where you are now without him. You don't need him. If things become good between you, cool ,if they don't, that is fine too.
You don't think he's suffering as well? He can't see his son without someone taking him to see you, or you going to see him, and even then he is stuck to a wheelchair, unable to do father-son things except talk in a room or at best a patio.
[QUOTE=CactusCocktail;24346896]All right, so I live with my mom. My dad is a paraplegic and lives in a totally different city. We rarely see each other, and I have little incentive to call, or even visit.
Every year, I get to see him twice. But since I'm getting older, seeing him is harder than ever. He never remembers anything I tell him, he doesn't even try to. He knows more about his new girlfriend's kids than me.
Along with that, he's constantly touching me. It's almost borderline sexual harassment because it's always my legs and thighs. And I can't stand it. He doesn't understand personal boundaries. Then I tell him to stop touching me, and he gets all pissy, and slams around. I ask him what's the matter and he yells nothing at me.
Not as important as the other things, he treats me like I'm seven. I'm turning sixteen in a couple months.
My problem is that I don't know how to talk to him about it without putting him into a pissy mood.
Because of this, I don't want to see him, because it's like this every visit, and the more I tell him not to, the pissier he gets.
tldr; My dad doesn't know anything about me, gets up in my personal space, and then get pissy really easily.[/QUOTE]
How is he a paraplegic and "slams things around" ?
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