Wife Leaves Husband Who Refused To Give Up Son With Down Syndrome - Polidicks

[quote]After a new father refused to give up his newborn son, born with Down syndrome, the mother left both of them. Now the father needs a lot of help. According to [URL="http://abcnews.go.com/Lifestyle/dad-refuses-give-newborn-son-syndrome/story?id=28756025&cid=fb_abcn"]ABC News[/URL], Samuel Forrest of Armenia was waiting outside of his wife's hospital room as she was giving birth when he first heard his newborn son's cries. "This pediatrician walks out of the room with a little bundle -- that was Leo," Forrest said. "She had his face covered up and hospital authorities wouldn't let me see him or my wife. When the doctor came out, he said 'there's a real problem with your son.' [/quote] Source: [url]http://abc7.com/family/wife-leaves-husband-who-refused-to-give-up-newborn-son-with-down-syndrome/506319/[/url] Sorry if I'm late. I searched several keywords and couldn't find it.

It's stories like this that bring an upside to Down syndrome.

I don't blame her.

[QUOTE=Richoxen;47084228]I don't blame her.[/QUOTE] I'd like to hear why it is you think that.

[QUOTE=Hat-Wearing Man;47084254]I'd like to hear why it is you think that.[/QUOTE] [img]http://facepunch.com/image.php?u=664386&dateline=1415063726[/img]

[QUOTE=Richoxen;47084228]I don't blame her.[/QUOTE] As shitty as it is to do this to him I don't blame her either. A child with downs-syndrome is a life long commitment. They're not moving out, going to college or becoming independent in anyway way shape or form - they're going to need constant attention forever. Imagine still having to take care of your kid when he's 30. Imagine trying to find somewhere to take your mentally disabled son for when you inevitably die before they do.

[QUOTE=Hat-Wearing Man;47084254]I'd like to hear why it is you think that.[/QUOTE] Dermocks reason sounds about on-par with mine.

Why didn't they test for downs in the womb, and abort?

[QUOTE=Dermock;47084267]stuff[/QUOTE] It's a shitty situation where no one wins. I don't think anyone can judge either parent.

[QUOTE=Hat-Wearing Man;47084254]I'd like to hear why it is you think that.[/QUOTE] I know a woman who had a family and a child, then years later divorced, remarried, and had another child who has down syndrome. She has said that not only does raising a child with a disability require much more effort, but also requires quite a bit more financial investment than a "normal" child. Many people these days can't even handle the responsibility of having a bog standard baby, so it doesn't really surprise me that this was her reaction.

[QUOTE=viper shtf;47084277]Why didn't they test for downs in the womb, and abort?[/QUOTE] ~abortion bad~

I would abort a downs kid even after he was born to be honest fucking retards.

I know we'd all like to think that if any of us were in her shoes we'd throw down everything for our son and how easy it is to look down on her from across the internet but if you looked into the life of someone who has to care for a mental challenged person there's no doubt in my mind a lot of you would be considering her choice. I'm sure she didn't make this decision lightly or with any joy.

[QUOTE=Richoxen;47084228]I don't blame her.[/QUOTE] Humanity at its finest. Thank you.

[QUOTE=Dermock;47084267]As shitty as it is to do this to him I don't blame her either. A child with downs-syndrome is a life long commitment. They're not moving out, going to college or becoming independent in anyway way shape or form - they're going to need constant attention forever. Imagine still having to take care of your kid when he's 30. Imagine trying to find somewhere to take your mentally disabled son for when you inevitably die before they do.[/QUOTE] not to mention, it's a HUGE money vacuum, generally requiring infinitely more money than the family can afford [QUOTE=AK'z;47084322]Humanity at its finest. Thank you.[/QUOTE] rationality over emotions? well I never!

[QUOTE=Dermock;47084267]As shitty as it is to do this to him I don't blame her either. A child with downs-syndrome is a life long commitment. They're not moving out, going to college or becoming independent in anyway way shape or form - they're going to need constant attention forever. Imagine still having to take care of your kid when he's 30. Imagine trying to find somewhere to take your mentally disabled son for when you inevitably die before they do.[/QUOTE] Same my cousins mother is getting old, and has a son aged 32 that can't walk, talk, eat, or shit by himself and is completely wheelchair bound. Not to sound mean, but he is 100% vegetable. What happens to them when the parents die? I wouldn't be able to raise a child with DS or extremely mentally challenged.

[QUOTE=Dermock;47084267]is a life long commitment. [/QUOTE] This is sort of what you sign up for when you create life.

[QUOTE=AK'z;47084328]This is sort of what you sign up for when you create life.[/QUOTE] Is that the the same argument you use to explain why you still live in your mothers basement? (This is called a joke, i'm pointing out a flaw in his logic using humor. )

[QUOTE=counterpo0;47084326]Same my cousins mother is getting old, and has a son aged 32 that can't walk, talk, eat, or shit by himself and is completely wheelchair bound. Not to sound mean, but he is 100% vegetable. What happens to them when the parents die? I wouldn't be able to raise a child with DS or extremely mentally challenged.[/QUOTE] Isn't government supposed to take care of them?

[QUOTE=AK'z;47084328]This is sort of what you sign up for when you create life.[/QUOTE] Not for your entire life time. In most cases you're only going to be 100% committed until your child hits adulthood. If your child has a defect to that extent, it's completely different. Life changing, even.

[QUOTE=Richoxen;47084337]Is that the the same argument you use to explain why you still live in your mothers basement?[/QUOTE] You can't seriously think it's, oh 20 years of this then out the door and that's that. If it was the other way around, and the parents had problems, the children should take that burden when they're capable. I have no idea why it's ok for people to give up without an actual reason.

[QUOTE=Dermock;47084267]As shitty as it is to do this to him I don't blame her either. A child with downs-syndrome is a life long commitment. They're not moving out, going to college or becoming independent in anyway way shape or form - they're going to need constant attention forever. Imagine still having to take care of your kid when he's 30. Imagine trying to find somewhere to take your mentally disabled son for when you inevitably die before they do.[/QUOTE] My older brother has severe Cerebral Palsy to the point of being absolutely helpless. He can't do anything for him self. I love my brother but I wouldn't wish his condition on anyone. My parents got divorced like 6 months before my younger sister turned 18.

Imagine changing shitty diapers for your fully grown 130lb son

[QUOTE=Zoran;47084360]Not for your entire life time. In most cases you're only going to be 100% committed until your child hits adulthood.[/QUOTE] Yeah but giving up before even trying is really pathetic.

[QUOTE=AK'z;47084362]You can't seriously think it's, oh 20 years of this then out the door and that's that. If it was the other way around, and the parents had problems, the children should take that burden when they're capable. I have no idea why it's ok for people to give up without an actual reason.[/QUOTE] Because some people are not ready to live rest of their life in misery.

You know having downs syndrome doesn't mean you've got absolutely no hope in life. Even though the level of care is raised for the parents I've met a few families who have coped brilliantly, with their kids going on to lead pretty great lives

[QUOTE=Atlascore;47084365]Yes we do think that, because that's literally how it is in the real world.[/QUOTE] I think it's people's obligations to look out for family that's just my viewpoint.

[QUOTE=AK'z;47084388]I think it's people's obligations to look out for family that's just my viewpoint.[/QUOTE]It should never be an obligation.

[QUOTE=itisjuly;47084373]Because some people are not ready to live rest of their life in misery.[/QUOTE] None of us are ready when shit gets real, but believe me it means much more to fight it through than be a coward at the last minute. It was never the child's fault, and they can still get through life like anybody else. If the parents are really not physically capable of putting that little extra into bringing up the child, then I say ok pass it on to someone who can.

[QUOTE=AK'z;47084406]None of us are ready when shit gets real, but believe me it means much more to fight it through than be a coward at the last minute.[/QUOTE] Making choices about your life is cowardice now? Nice shaming tactic.