Is it right for people who are married or in a relationship to be viewing pornography?
Some people believe that it is a form of cheating, that said person is attracted to someone other than his/her significant other. There are people who claim that it ruins marriages because said person prefers to spend more time viewing pornography.
On the other hand, there are couples who view pornography together without any problems. They believe that it is a harmless way of self-pleasure without cheating with a real person.
I have mixed opinions about this subject. In my opinion, it is not cheating as there is no activity other than lone masturbation. It may be okay, but to an extent, as long as there is no real cheating involved. However, the person should stop immediately if his/her other complains about it.
What are your views on this, Facepunch?
If one person doesn't want the other to watch porn and they do it isn't cheating, but it is still a breach of trust.
I suppose it is up to the couple to decide though.
I think I'd be cool with my wife watching porn if that's what she'd desire.
As long as it went the other way too.
By this logic fantasizing about someone else is also cheating
Why not make your own pornography?
[QUOTE=Thaard;33521122]Why not make your own pornography?[/QUOTE]
It is not
Eh, I watch porn all the time and my girlfriend doesn't care, and I don't see why she would. I don't know if it's because it's more commonplace here, though.
It's cheating about as much as watching porn is having sex
Both me and my girlfriend watch pornography, it's not an issue
Why would it be cheating? Not to mention if your wife/gf/whatever isn't giving you any then it's more than reasonable. Seriously if porn broke your marriage, it means it would be broken eventually even without porn.
It's like playing videogames makes you a murderer. It does not.
It's really up to the couple. If one member viewing porn upsets or offends the other, it comes down to respect. If the two respect each other enough, they should come to some sort of understanding. (Could include no more porn, a compromise, or something)
My GF never cared that I watched porn, but then again, I didn't usually rub it in her face. It was just an understanding we came to.
However, that being said, cheating has, in my experience, never been about physical acts, but emotional ones. If the one you care for is hurt by your interaction (or want to interact) with another, they may consider it cheating. If you are married but still have sexual relations with many different women (or the other way around, or any of those other combinations), yet neither of you consider it hurtful or cheating, then I suppose it isn't.
One could also throw this in the formula:
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman* to lust after her hath committed adultery with her* already in his* heart. -Matthew 5:28 ( Replace * with appropriate gender and pronoun)
My past gf ripped me apart when she found out I watched porn. Called me a cheater and humiliated me in front of my own family. Nevermind the fact that she went through my internet history and was reading my bank statements and shit. When I found that out I kicked her ass out the fucking door. Having trust issues that are so bad that a guy watching porn is a cheater? No, someone else can deal with that baggage.
Current gf said that as long as it's not a live webcam/cybersex type thing or I'm not physically doing shit with other people, she doesn't care.
As for me... as long as she's doing it alone or with me, I don't give a fuck. Her body, her mind, her call.
I don't see why it would, people have a sex drive and need to release some stress from time to time, it's not like you're having sex with other people.
If someone in a couple believes it's cheating I think they're pretty immature.
This is perfectly fine, my girlfriend knows I have the occasional browse and we sometimes even watch it together, it's usually quite healthy for couples to watch pornography.
I'm a virgin, but I don't think that I would fap to porn if i had a girlfriend. I don't see the point.
[QUOTE=Silikone;33525490]I'm a virgin, but I don't think that I would fap to porn if i had a girlfriend. I don't see the point.[/QUOTE]
yeah ok
[editline]1st December 2011[/editline]
I think it should be fine.
There are 7 billion people on this Earth. Your spouse has got to be one arrogant motherfucker if they think they're the only attractive one out there.
I think this all comes down to trust within the relationship. If you are afraid that your partner is cheating on you even in a such indirect way, then there seems to be overall lack of trust in the relationship.
It's perfectly fine.. why anyone would think otherwise is ridiculous strict conservative/Christian-spread bullshit.
[QUOTE=Man Without Hat;33525910]It's perfectly fine.. why anyone would think otherwise is ridiculous strict conservative/Christian-spread bullshit.[/QUOTE]
Even though I'm not religious, I find it irritating when people associate anything that's uptight with being Christian. Such a generalization.
[QUOTE=Deckard;33525940]Even though I'm not religious, I find it irritating when people associate anything that's uptight with being Christian. Such a generalization.[/QUOTE]
Only around one or two of all Christians I have ever met have been at all liberal.
[QUOTE=Man Without Hat;33525910]It's perfectly fine.. why anyone would think otherwise is ridiculous strict conservative/Christian-spread bullshit.[/QUOTE]
or just someone with trust issues
If your girlfriend is seriously that uptight and stupid I'd dump her ASAP.
[editline]1st December 2011[/editline]
maybe bust a nut on her face and run out of the room while you're dumping her to add insult to injury
[QUOTE=Aman VII;33526086]If your girlfriend is seriously that uptight and stupid I'd dump her ASAP.
[editline]1st December 2011[/editline]
maybe bust a nut on her face and run out of the room while you're dumping her to add insult to injury[/QUOTE]
She says it's rape, jury agrees, you go to jail
[QUOTE=Zezibesh;33526144]She says it's rape, jury agrees, you go to jail[/QUOTE]
It seems like someone needs to learn the meaning of the word "joke".
Some people like watching porn together.
As with everything, depends on the person.
[QUOTE=Deckard;33526171]It seems like someone needs to learn the meaning of the word "joke".[/QUOTE]
So does someone else
[QUOTE=Silikone;33525490]I'm a virgin, but I don't think that I would fap to porn if i had a girlfriend. I don't see the point.[/QUOTE]
Because sometimes you need to nut when she won't/can't give it to you.
I don't think it's cheating or bad at all; as long as it is just viewing video. I'd consider it cheating, sort of, if it was like a web chat (even on an official site with a stranger) with conversation going on.
[QUOTE=Silikone;33525490]I'm a virgin, but I don't think that I would fap to porn if i had a girlfriend. I don't see the point.[/QUOTE]
Do you really think your girlfriend will always be there to relieve your building prostate cancer? I don't think so, Mr. Right Hand is always going to be there for that, and pornography, is going to be his rhythm, let it work for you. Because in the long run, if you don't, he'll send his lovely friend, prostate cancer, right at you, seeking revenge.
On the subject, I do not think it is cheating to watch porn even if you are in a relationship, on my side, it never was an issue with any of my partners. Let's face it, everyone watch porn, well nearly since there's always exceptions.
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