• Story of a disfunctional family
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TL:DR Alcoholic Father goes bat shit, sister and I went to Grandma's house, I reflect on my self and my life and my family. Hey Facepunch, I'm not the one to talk about my life, I never thought anyone should know and I never wanted pity for it, which is why I don't even really talk about it, even to my lover. But I'm deciding to make this thread because my day yesterday was complete chaos and I make this thread for anyone who also has alcoholic parents or a dysfunctional family. So to start my story off, yesterday started very normal, I was just playing Empire Earth 2 with the Facepunch group when all of sudden yet another fight between my parents broke out. When you're in an dysfunctional family; you get so used to these. Eventually the fight had gotten more violent, with my mom mocking my father and him flipping out. Once my mom had left for college (studying to be a teacher) he was in a violent rage. For what seemed an entirety, he had yelled and shook the house about how he hates her and how he hates his guts, eventually it got to the point that he began to slam stuff. Now; as I said fights happen a lot in my family, but my father has never had such a violent outburst in years so for my sister and I, this was unexpected. As it continued, my sister walked out of her room and into the hall way; telling me we were going to my grandma's I noticed her voice was cracking, I started to think she was crying. Turns out I was right; just than my dad storms into my door way bitching to me. Bitching about how he was on my side or how mom never makes dinner anymore or some shit about how she had some second husband and affair during their first marriage. (divorced once, married twice) None of this was true and I could tell he was fucking whack, so I just sat there; trying to calm him down. Eventually it got to the point where he was slightly sad but still mostly raging it was a disturbed site. He was beginning to tell me how he wanted to die and how he wished to just die in his bed; I couldn't really reflect on this because next he starts yelling that he can't "do this anymore" and has to leave us. Now; I'm going to trail off from this and tell a story, a few days ago; my dad had a talk to me in my room, he was drunk but he wasn't violent. During this fit of rage I could only think of the things he told me during this talk. Things like "Dylan, I love you, I love your sisters and I still love your mom" Things like "I'm not going to leave you until you're both ready" (Sister and I live here, other one lives with Grandmother) Things like "Dylan, I know I am an alcoholic and I have issues" and something that really touched me "Dylan, I never was a father because I never knew how to act; I never had a father, I'm sorry Dylan, I'm sorry". He started to cry, said he was sorry and hugged me. (My father's dad left him when he was 10, was never around for him and my dad had to work and basically had no childhood) Why do I bring up this story? Because that was my father, telling me he knew had issues, that he loved us all still; even with mom's torment and that he wouldn't leave us until we were ready. But what happened yesterday was exactly the opposite of that. Giving you quotes of how he I hate you to mother even after she left wouldn't do justice, have you ever seen a man so angry his voice starts to sound like a sick growl in mid-sentence in his scream of rage? That's exactly what he had done, his voice wasn't even steady now, it was as violent as he was. So to continue onward with this after I have seemingly "calmed" him down he began to talk to me about how mom never loves him or hugs him "She never fucking loves me man, never once does she say 'I love you Tom' never once does she come into the room and have sex with me". Yes, this man was so deranged he was going on about having sex to his 15 year old son. This is the result of a alcoholic sex starved love starved raging man. So to fast forward, my oldest sister drove us to Grandma's house. After getting settled, I noticed my sister and grandmother walked into the kitchen. My sister was crying, I felt so bad; when ever these fights happen she either ignored him or told him to die. I should have realized that it was all just an act; a mask to shield the pain. I should have been a better brother. As my sister walked out of the doorway towards me to the living room I hugged her and told her I was sorry was for everything. This was pretty much instinct for me, but it was strange. I never saw my sister cry, it disturbed me. To really bring this up to speed, as we were talking in the living room My sister told me "It messes with your head". I never knew my sister cared so much, I never knew she was this sensitive. I felt regret; regret as a brother and regret as a son that I couldn't have been a better person and this is really where I end the story. Because the rest was just us sitting there for about two hours for my mother to pick us up. One disturbed thing is that My sister, Grandma and Mom don't realize that it is all our fault. Yes my dad is a sick alcoholic; but what could we have done as a family to help him? This is what hurts me most, I feel like I was never a good son or a good brother and I feel like I let everyone down and now it's really too late. This was the outburst that broke the camel's back. I realized, I didn't have a dysfunctional family, I had a family of my Sister, my mother and I. Facepunch, if there is one thing you must know from me, it's that you should never fall into alcoholism, it ruins lives and ruins families. You shouldn't hate alcoholics either I forgive my father for who he is, for never being around and for wanting to leave us, I forgive him and I will always love him because I know that deep down when he's not drunk he is a caring person. It is a shame that now the alcoholism is so bad that you never see that person anymore. Never let your family become dysfunctional facepunch and if someone is an alcoholic, don't single him/her out. What happened today is something I never want to see in someone else's life. I just wanted to share this story, I had to get it off of my mind and what better way that to have a FP thread?
Nice it's always interesting to read these kind of threads on Facepunch makes me happy my life isn't this shitty
[QUOTE=Dandyhighwayman;20511120]Nice[/QUOTE] This guy read it all
I know right, that's why I gave a TL:DR, I don't expect anyone to read it, I just wanted to get my emotion out in a story and put it up here in case anyone felt like reading. So I really don't care if anyone does.
[QUOTE=KanonieR;20511136]This guy read it all[/QUOTE] Accidentally pressed enter before I finished my post :\
So this is what all families are like :v: Good to know I am not alone.
[QUOTE=Dandyhighwayman;20511148]Accidentally pressed enter before I finished my post :\[/QUOTE] Because pressing enter while writing a reply posts the reply. Yeah, no. I hope your family will get well at some point, OP. It was a sad read actually. Have a heart.
[QUOTE=Dandyhighwayman;20511148]Accidentally pressed enter before I finished my post :\[/QUOTE] Enter just brings the cursor down a sentence you lying cunt [editline]01:23PM[/editline] fucking newfags
Thanks for the funnies guys, glad you at least enjoyed it in some odd way. Don't hate on that guy, I doubt he's lying and I don't care if he is, I posted this in case anyone wanted to read it, mock me as you wish. This thread never was about you guys it was just me releasing my emotion and posting it for anyone to read.
So this is what made you leave, anyway, that sucks bro, things will get better later on.
[QUOTE=MortalK0mbat;20511211]fucking newfags[/QUOTE] :regd09: [QUOTE=doommarine23;20511219]Thanks for the funnies guys[/quote] What funnies? :smug:
[QUOTE=MortalK0mbat;20511211]Enter just brings the cursor down a sentence you lying cunt [editline]01:23PM[/editline] fucking newfags[/QUOTE] Stop hating.
Well i would still take your place over mine.
[QUOTE=Within;20511206]Because pressing enter while writing a reply posts the reply. Yeah, no. I hope your family will get well at some point, OP. It was a sad read actually. Have a heart.[/QUOTE] Does when you lean on tab
[QUOTE=Angua;20511308]Well i would still take your place over mine.[/QUOTE] If you want you can post about it here, it's fine by me.
I feel for you, OP. I've gone through/going through the same thing, shit sucks. The only thing that gets me through it is that I convince myself that to my children; I will be a better father.
[QUOTE=doommarine23;20511346]If you want you can post about it here, it's fine by me.[/QUOTE] My dad once got so drunk that he shat himself, then cried about it to his new wife saying over and over "I promise this has never happened before!" I'm glad I can look back at it now and laugh.
baaw my family sad come read FP. Not really a blogging site.
[QUOTE=Aman V;20511500]baaw my family sad come read FP. Not really a blogging site.[/QUOTE] Yet you came into the thread, :downs:.
Him not having a dad doesn't entirely mean that he will become a bad dad himself, my dad's dad died of cancer when he was twelve. And honestly I can't think of a man more caring than my dad, he will never tell anyone that he loves him or her very dearly, but the his actions speak for him. With that being said, I don't think your family (excluding your dad) should be going too easy on him. You should give him a an option, mature the fuck up and stay off the booze and be a real man,husband and father or get the fuck out before entirely ruining young minds like you and your sister.
Start stealing all your dads alcohol, he can't get drunk if you drink it all before he does ya doofus.
[QUOTE=Dandyhighwayman;20511319]Does when you lean on tab[/QUOTE] You need to work on your posture.
You are, 15. Well, a lot (pretty many) families are like this nowdays. Just move away when you can.
[QUOTE=Dandyhighwayman;20511319]Does when you lean on tab[/QUOTE] And when your elbow hit the mouse, causing it to hover above the button saying 'Submit reply' and then because you sneeze you violently send your fist flying, which randomly hit left mouse button. You need to work a bit on your excuses. [editline]06:58PM[/editline] By a bit I mean a lot.
You think YOU had it bad, OP? My mom practically kicked my ass out of the house before I even hit 13, and I never even met my dad. My only friend till I was 10 was the asshole prick next door who was always beating the shit out of me and telling me I wasn’t worth shit. Its not even like I had a choice, the town fucking had something like 9 people living in it, I shit you not. My entire adolescence was just moving around from place trying to get along with people who didn’t even want me. You think that’s the worst? My only friend was an Asian guy in his thirties or something, who only kept me around because he thought I could help him get laid. The only perk was that I also got to hang around with this cute ginger chick, she was flat as a pancake sure, but damn she was a total nymph. She must have been a sadist or something cause she always took pleasure in hitting me and telling me how she loved to get wet. But dear god the bane of my existence was this adult couple that I could NOT seem to avoid. You know these types of couples that are absolutely sickening, like they wear matching outfits and finish each other’s sentences? Yeah they were fucking creepers, and they had a cat, which was at least twice as annoying as they were, I swear this thing would never shut the fuck up. Like I said I ended up moving from town to town getting into fights with other kids my age, even adults from time to time. The only thing that kept me going was my dream to become a pokemon master, OP.
[QUOTE=dvsilverwing;20518447]:words:[/QUOTE] [del]-:golfclap:-[/del] Oh wait, you didn't write that.
My dad left to Afghanistan for 6 months :saddowns:
[QUOTE=DiscoPony;20518594][del]-:golfclap:-[/del] Oh wait, you didn't write that.[/QUOTE] Yeah, but I waited FOREVER to find the right time to post it.
[QUOTE=dvsilverwing;20518662]Yeah, but I waited FOREVER to find the right time to post it.[/QUOTE] I'd never seen that before, you really had me going :v:
You're not alone OP, I have the same problems aswell, stay strong.
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