• People Say Drugs Don't Ruin Your Life
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Which is true, they don't if you don't let them. But they can. Before I start this thread I want to make it clear that I'm not anti-drugs and I still have a joint or a line every now and then. It all started in June, when I met my girlfriend. I was smoking weed nearly every day, sniffing coke as well as doing pills and mandy most other weekends and spending a lot of my time/money on drugs, I even got arrested for posession of coke but through some miracle was let off and charged with drug use in a public place and had no permanent record. I had a job which I was never late fore, albeit a dead-end job, a dogsbody (temping whilst looking for a new job in IT system support) and I did have the motivation to go to the gym two or three times a week. So to sum up, I was doing a lot of drugs but still getting on with my life, just cruising by comfortably, not really wanting to push myself. Anyway, now you have a bit of background I'll move on. I was with my girlfriend and still hitting the drugs pretty hard, it was to be expected over the summer with all the festivals and holidays, she didn't mind too much but I could tell she was starting to tire of me being stoned when she called at nights, we couldn't have a proper chat and I seemed detatched from her some days when I didn't have any drugs. She's not anti-drugs either... As I said, we still sometimes share a joint or get a gram for a night out. After a couple of months I decided I'd clean up my act a bit, for the relationship's sake and for my sake. This was pretty hard since most of my friends were the same as me and 75% of our time spent together was smoking weed. I saw less of my friends whilst I was laying off the drugs for a while. A few days passed and it felt good waking up and not still feeling monged out, I had more cash to spare too. The first weekend passed and it was nice to spend a Sunday not on the comedown, I still saw my friends, I just chose to drink instead when we went out. As the weeks passed I started feeling a lot better about myself, my memory improved, my mood improved and my motivation improved and I became my old self. I quit my dead-end job and was unemployed for a month, I do have some decent qualifications, three A-levels and an HND in computer science, I did well at college before I went into drugs. During this period I came to realise that perhaps I didn't want a job in IT, I'd only stuck to IT because it was all I'd known and was too lazy to learn a new trade so I just kept trying at interviews, and failing because I'd normally had a sesh the day before. I went through an angency and landed myself a temping role at a housing association whilst I figured out what I wanted to do with my life. Since I'd been off the drugs I'd improved a hell of a lot, I was back to the old me who liked to be the leader instead of sitting back and watching, who made my own opportunities and was able to deal with most problems thrown my way, this reflected in my temping job (which it turned out I enjoyed) and they offered me a full time position and a promotion at the same time, I was doing well at my job and even made it into their newsletter because I was considerably younger than most people who held that position and was getting good results as the new employee. So now, nearly a year on after cutting back on drugs I'm earning over double the money I used to at my old job, going to work in a suit rather than overalls, have a lot more responsibilities, have much more motivation which reflects in my looks as I'm now down the gym 4 times a week giving it my all, I have a lot more cash to spend, I've become a much more outgoing person and life in general is better. People say drugs don't ruin your life. That maybe true for some but they'll hold you back in life and it's only after you step back from the drug scene that you realise how true this is. TL;DR: When I was on drugs my life was average and boring, I drastically cut back and now I have a very good job, good body, great relationship and I'm a better person for it. It may be a boring story but I've never really told anyone before and wanted to get it off my chest.
All drugs have both bad and good effects. Myself i smoke quite alot of weed and i use lsd and other psychedelics for both recreational and spiritual purposes. I don't let the drugs be a too big part of my life instead i use them to make my life quality higher. Aslong as you have the right kind of thinking and if you're being drugsmart and use the drugs with care just like how people normally use alcohol there will be no complications or problems. Some people are not meant to use drugs because they can be very hard to handle. It is easy to use drugs to often and it can easily lower you life quality without you even noticing it. I always turn my back on harder drugs because i know very well what they can do to you (my cousin fell into the shitty drug world) Good post, i hope it makes people rethink a little.
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Good story. I'm glad you posted it. There's no doubt that drugs will have a negative impact on your employability and if you do too much, on your life. I'm glad to hear you got it back on track though.
While I find your story both interesting and possibly something to aspire to, i'm at a stage in my life where drugs are something that can make evenings more interesting, rather than lowering my potential.
[QUOTE=Aaronn;20386661]Who are you and why did you suddenly come in here to post this? What motivated you to post this?[/QUOTE] Easy cowboy, this is sam.clarke. Good post, sam. I agree with everything you've said. Drugs haven't fucked up my life, but my use has diminished my drive to be anything other than average.
[QUOTE=Anubis678;20386902]Easy cowboy, this is sam.clarke. Good post, sam. I agree with everything you've said. Drugs haven't fucked up my life, but my use has diminished my drive to be anything other than average.[/QUOTE] I'm not bashing him, I'm just curious. I haven't seen him before. I'm not arguing either, of course drugs can fuck up your life. Anything can fuck up your life really
He's not been as active here as he used to be, but he is still a highly respected poster.
I am pretty sure that I have been lazy all of my life. So I don't have much of a desire to quit toking. Although I don't see how giving a job interview the day after you smoke would be a problem. Unless you stay up all night smoking....
That's a worthwhile read. I can generally feel myself slipping into that waster lifestyle if I push it too hard for a month or so (like now) and generally I ease it off for a while. Not that I have to worry too much about jobs and such while I'm at uni.
Welcome back man.. nice to see you. That's a brilliant story, such a good example of what drugs can do to you (or stop you from doing), all things in moderation I say.
[QUOTE=Imaledgev2;20388502]Welcome back man.. nice to see you. That's a brilliant story, such a good example of what drugs can do to you (or stop you from doing), all things in moderation I say.[/QUOTE] I've felt my self veering into the path of addiction lately. I've got the classic "I don't give a fuck if I get addicted" mentality at the moment and as a result I've pretty much shut myself away from it for 2 weeks (although I did use DXM once but I don't consider that cheap fun). I feel better now though and am collecting my next batch of RCs at the weekend which I'll be reporting on. (mainly MDPV and Butylone, perhaps Bromo-DragonFLY).
Eh. Before I was bored with High School making A's, B's and C's. Just detached and sort of lonerish. Everyone loved me for reasons I didn't know. All my friends wanted to hang out 24/7 and I just wanted to be left alone. Now I'm high, bored with High School making A's, B's, and C's and a tad more empathetic. My boyfriend didn't like it at first, but he's getting used to it. I spend a lot more money, but that's just because all I ever did before was sit at home. I'd take my life with drugs versus that without any day...
Personally that made me look at my own life. ( not nearly as severe but on a smaller scale)
Sometimes you have to experience something to understand it. I believe addiction is one of those things. You can't possibly explain addiction to a small child. It's beautiful and ugly simultaneously.
as with anything, simple as it sounds, moderation is key don't treat drugs as a lifestyle, but as the occasional mood lifter or time off, a miniature vacation - you have to come back to work some time
Dude I haven't seen you around in a while. Anyways I totally have to agree. I got into doing way too much too often and I never really realized what was happening until I was forced to quit. Now I have a successful relationship (the fact that my woman isn't into drugs helps that, and I still get to smoke up when I'm with my friends), I have more spending money since I'm not going through an eighth every week, and it's more enjoyable when I do smoke up.
just don't let drugs consume your life.
It's all about self control. There was a time when I smoked everyday and didn't really give a shit about school. Those days are gone, I have learned to balance what I need to do to have a good life and what I do to have fun. But, without drugs I wouldn't be who I am today. A lot of my friends I met through smoking, or were friends of people I smoked with. sam.clark is completely right.
durgz till the day i die
That's what happened when you disappeared from this subforum, I now realize. Good luck and make the best out of life.
I'm happy for you man.
Drugs don't ruin people's lives, people ruin their lives.
I remember sam.clarke :0. And I'd agree do sam.
Thanks for all the positive replies... The main thing that spured me on to write this posts was when I bumped into an old mate of mine who was with his little brother and his friends. I'm 19 and they were all 16-18 and talked about drugs as if they were the be all and end all, everything they did revolved around them and it reminded me of myself, then I realised the progress I'd made in the last 8-9 months. Addiction is funny, you always seperate yourself from addicts, thinking that you can give up whenever you want, you just don't want to. It's a funny circle isn't it? I don't think you should regret doing drugs, I don't, it's part of your history that makes you who you are plus it's an experience you can use in later life or use it as advice to give to friends or family. Hell, I still use drugs once in a while. I have a joint every couple of weeks and the best thing is, 1 joint gets me as stoned as it used to take 5, good little money saver there and as for coke, if it's going I'll sometimes have a line. I'm 19, I don't wanna be the boring one who sits in the corner. As you said, it's about moderation and knowing when to take a break. Get college out the way or anything important like that and then have some fun in life, take a year out but don't mess up and chances by failing in college / uni by hammering the drugs, you'll regret it 20 years down the line.
I think the title of this thread should be, People Say Drugs Don't Change Your Lifestyle
Are you still in college now or working full time? It's good to gain a new perspective on life in this way. It's a powerful thing to see the bad things in yourself, and then have that motivate you to be the person you really want to be. You are right though, it is all about moderation and being smart and safe when it comes to drugs.
Cold turkey is not a nice thing to do....
I haven't seen you round here for ages Sam. Welcome back! Nice to hear the progress you've made. Everything in moderation.
Good story, but still... That's your fault. A lot of people, myself included, manage to do things quite well, quite happily while doing drugs. You did more than I have been recently, and I think that's the key. You have to know where and when to stop. Moderation. You can do whatever you want, you just have to know what's right. [editline]07:08PM[/editline] [QUOTE=sam.clarke;20396589] Addiction is funny, you always seperate yourself from addicts, thinking that you can give up whenever you want, you just don't want to. It's a funny circle isn't it? [/QUOTE] This is the only thing you've said I have any problem with... You clearly ARE separate from the addicts because you CAN just stop when you want. As are a lot of people. You can be doing stuff that some say is "addictive" and not be addicted and not want to stop. That isn't impossible, or even improbable. You did it, as evidenced by your story, lots of other people do it.
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