I am a paranoid bastard and I think I need help... - General

So I mainly found out about this last weekend because of certain stuff. It started when a girl who I cared about for a long time broke up with her bf. (or he broke up with her, don't really know...) I jumped right off my feet and started thinking this would be my opportunity to swoop in and be the sweet motherfucker I should had been months ago. She didn't really say yes at first, but now, I wanted to make a difference and be a man who doesn't quits nor gets stuck on a corner depressed without making a difference, without changing his life. I told my friend (who usually gives me tips about this stuff, and yes I suck alot at it :saddowns:) and he thought of this time as a great time to set something up succesfully, using the ease given by her breaking up with the other douchebag (yes he is a douchebag, just today saw him with another girl...) And this is when it all started... I spent all the fucking weekend nervous about losing my best and only chance thinking that she would suddenly jump into another guy or some guy would jump into her fast before me. I blame this on old relations I had with this girl that just felt like she was fishing guys. She would get dumped and follow on to the next one, as if she was trying to set a record. Big waste of time but oh well... Gave me time to understand a few things. It made me edgy and at least made me go away from the computer which is something I really need to do. So there we go, weekend was done, and on we go to school week... I see her, with her friends. I imediately noticed that no one seemed to be trying his luck. That calmed me down a bit, even though id dig a hole with a spoon if I met her face to face inches from her. It would just make me freak out, it already does with someone else like a friend, making me look away from the eyes and fixate on something else, then with someone like her it would probably make me pass out of excitement. Afternoon was a pretty good time. It was actually great. My friend gave me good news. Apparently, she said she would like to meet me and stuff, but needed some time alone to get her mind in place. That made me think of unicorns running on top of white clouds shitting rainbows. I couldn't be happier. Then back at home, my head started going haywire again... I started thinking that this was too much luck for someone like me, who usually has the worst luck ever at this kind of stuff and lots of other stuff more. I started going through 3 kinds of thoughts. Worst idea was that it was all a plot to have a laugh at me, making me do weird stuff for a laugh and then fucking all up after enough laughs. AKA, lulzcow. It could be a joint work from everyone involved in this or just her alone, to have a laugh... I wouldn't think that my friend would do this kind of shit since hes usually very serious about this kind of stuff, having his rough times with his girl aswell but in more serious situations. It's something that I don't really think it would happen but... Theres the option that im just a pawn in all of this... Second worst idea is that she's just trying to use the "need some time alone" thing to secretly pass by me and either get a new bf meanwhile or just try to make me forget. It SORTA happened like this last time. She was always delaying and saying she didn't know, and then in the end just said no... Last option is the good one, that we eventually do meet up and everything goes right... Simple. What bothers me is the ammount of paranoia and stories I made up on my mind of me failing this chance and that its all a plot to roll me in and out of the picture with or without some added laughs... That this is all a lie... If this ends badly, its just another scar, a bigger one, in the middle of other scars, digging away through me all my life... How the hell can I just calm the fuck down? The moment I see something good, I completly distort it and see the bad ways it could take. I can't be optimistic with anything good now...

Calm down, and meet her up. If she pulls the "let's make him into a fool in front of everyone!", then you know she's a whore. But that will most likely NOT happen, so I suggest you just calm down, and meet her.

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You're clearly a very insecure person, just work on getting some confidence, you worthless bastard... :fuckyou:

I always tend to assume the worst in these kind of situations, it lessens the blow when it does go badly for me (which seems to be every time)

I think if she knew that you were overthinking the whole situation like this, she'd be a little freaked out just a wild guess Don't put yourself in a situation where you care about a girl a lot more than she cares about you. That shit sucks. You sound obsessive & I doubt she's obsessive back

[QUOTE=Vinze;22289303]You're clearly a very insecure person, just work on getting some confidence, you worthless bastard... :fuckyou:[/QUOTE] Rated friendly. Don't know why... Well I kinda have a reason for it when ive failed soo many relations and soo many things. Nothing exactly like this but, theres a time for everything... I guess ill just wait and see what happens, and try to be updated on how she feels. I'll just give her space and act smoothly and calmly... How will I do this? :saddowns:

Assume the worst and go talk to here, you're not paranoid, just anxious.

Fucking girlfriend/school/i'm a prick threads these days

That kind of thinking will just fuck it up. Stop over thinking shit and just go through with what happens. I assume you are in high school(maybe starting college). If you are chances of you and that girl lasting long enough for you to get serious is unlikely. Enjoy what you get while you have it.

Calm down. Best case scenario, you get the girl. Worst case, well there's more fish in the ocean. Learn to laugh at yourself.

[QUOTE=dass;22289405]Rated friendly. Don't know why... Well I kinda have a reason for it when ive failed soo many relations and soo many things. Nothing exactly like this but, theres a time for everything... I guess ill just wait and see what happens, and try to be updated on how she feels. I'll just give her space and act smoothly and calmly... How will I do this? :saddowns:[/QUOTE] I had the same problem, best thing to do is to think about that [B]everyone[/B] has this problem, so they won't notice if you fail, since they are too busy thinking about themselves. Learn from your mistakes and keep trying, eventually, you got enough experience to succeed.

bring a gun you can never be TOO sure

You're over thinking the situation, it's just you two chilling, don't make it any more or any less.

Relax, and trust your first opinion. Keep yourself busy. [editline]03:26PM[/editline] Rated hearts

Just chill yourself out, listen to some chilled music, have a beer or something, wipe your mind clean for a bit, y'know.

My friend is like this, except he's already in the relationship. I usually just tell him to shut the fuck up and relax. One conversation I've had with him about this went something along the lines of [quote] What if she's only using me for my body? Wait... [/quote] It's a long distance relationship. :downsrim:

be a politician the next nixon

[QUOTE=NorthernFall;22289618]Just chill yourself out, listen to some chilled music, have a beer or something, wipe your mind clean for a bit, y'know.[/QUOTE] What a great time for not having beer... Anyway, thanks for the replies. It calmed me a bit to see this shit doesn't happens just to me and that im overthinking it and exagerating. I just don't want to fail this. I just want to succeed, to change and to have what I want. Tired of not having things going my way. Also, I can't really relax because if this goes far from what I think, id be flying blind

[QUOTE=dass;22289744]What a great time for not having beer... Anyway, thanks for the replies. It calmed me a bit to see this shit doesn't happens just to me and that im overthinking it and exagerating. I just don't want to fail this. I just want to succeed, to change and to have what I want. Tired of not having things going my way. Also, I can't really relax because if this goes far from what I think, id be flying blind[/QUOTE] You can't plan out a relationship. If you do you'll end up being blindsided.

[QUOTE=RichardCQ;22289850]You can't plan out a relationship. If you do you'll end up being blindsided.[/QUOTE] It's not really planing, its just imagining the ways it could go.

[QUOTE=dass;22289886]It's not really planing, its just imagining the ways it could go.[/QUOTE] Just like how bridges aren't really built, they just place the materials in their proper position and then secure them‽ Nitpicking semantics to make your point of view sound more favorable is stupid, don't do it.

The more you imagine the more paranoid you will be. Just take your chances, if you like her enough it's probably worth risking as I highly doubt it's a trick or whatever. Does she have a reason to form this plot against you?

Calm the fuck down, chill, and stop caring so much about someone you haven't even been with.

[QUOTE=yoiT;22290025]The more you imagine the more paranoid you will be. Just take your chances, if you like her enough it's probably worth risking as I highly doubt it's a trick or whatever. Does she have a reason to form this plot against you?[/QUOTE] But if it goes wrong like it turns out to be a big joke just so the stupid bitch can have a laugh it can completely destroy your reputation and make you look like a gullable idiot.

Your not paranoid, they really [b]are[/b] out to get you! Helpful advice: Just don't be weird. Seriously. The less you seem to care, the better.

[QUOTE=yoiT;22290025]The more you imagine the more paranoid you will be. Just take your chances, if you like her enough it's probably worth risking as I highly doubt it's a trick or whatever. Does she have a reason to form this plot against you?[/QUOTE] Other then having a free laugh at someone, nothing I guess... I don't even know what would I do if it was all just for a laugh. I think id be sad if it were the secretly pass by unnoticed thing...

[QUOTE=DarkendSky;22290154]Your not paranoid, they really [b]are[/b] out to get you! Helpful advice: Just don't be weird. Seriously. The less you seem to care, the better.[/QUOTE] The paranoid optimist, who just knows someone's out to get him... a present! :buddy:

[QUOTE=dass;22289182]So I mainly found out about this last weekend because of certain stuff. It started when a girl who I cared about for a long time broke up with her bf. (or he broke up with her, don't really know...) I jumped right off my feet and started thinking this would be my opportunity to swoop in and be the sweet motherfucker I should had been months ago. She didn't really say yes at first, but now, I wanted to make a difference and be a man who doesn't quits nor gets stuck on a corner depressed without making a difference, without changing his life. I told my friend (who usually gives me tips about this stuff, and yes I suck alot at it :saddowns:) and he thought of this time as a great time to set something up succesfully, using the ease given by her breaking up with the other douchebag (yes he is a douchebag, just today saw him with another girl...) And this is when it all started... I spent all the fucking weekend nervous about losing my best and only chance thinking that she would suddenly jump into another guy or some guy would jump into her fast before me. I blame this on old relations I had with this girl that just felt like she was fishing guys. She would get dumped and follow on to the next one, as if she was trying to set a record. Big waste of time but oh well... Gave me time to understand a few things. It made me edgy and at least made me go away from the computer which is something I really need to do. So there we go, weekend was done, and on we go to school week... I see her, with her friends. I imediately noticed that no one seemed to be trying his luck. That calmed me down a bit, even though id dig a hole with a spoon if I met her face to face inches from her. It would just make me freak out, it already does with someone else like a friend, making me look away from the eyes and fixate on something else, then with someone like her it would probably make me pass out of excitement. Afternoon was a pretty good time. It was actually great. My friend gave me good news. Apparently, she said she would like to meet me and stuff, but needed some time alone to get her mind in place. That made me think of unicorns running on top of white clouds shitting rainbows. I couldn't be happier. Then back at home, my head started going haywire again... I started thinking that this was too much luck for someone like me, who usually has the worst luck ever at this kind of stuff and lots of other stuff more. I started going through 3 kinds of thoughts. Worst idea was that it was all a plot to have a laugh at me, making me do weird stuff for a laugh and then fucking all up after enough laughs. AKA, lulzcow. It could be a joint work from everyone involved in this or just her alone, to have a laugh... I wouldn't think that my friend would do this kind of shit since hes usually very serious about this kind of stuff, having his rough times with his girl aswell but in more serious situations. It's something that I don't really think it would happen but... Theres the option that im just a pawn in all of this... Second worst idea is that she's just trying to use the "need some time alone" thing to secretly pass by me and either get a new bf meanwhile or just try to make me forget. It SORTA happened like this last time. She was always delaying and saying she didn't know, and then in the end just said no... Last option is the good one, that we eventually do meet up and everything goes right... Simple. What bothers me is the ammount of paranoia and stories I made up on my mind of me failing this chance and that its all a plot to roll me in and out of the picture with or without some added laughs... That this is all a lie... If this ends badly, its just another scar, a bigger one, in the middle of other scars, digging away through me all my life... How the hell can I just calm the fuck down? The moment I see something good, I completly distort it and see the bad ways it could take. I can't be optimistic with anything good now...[/QUOTE] Smoke a huge blunt.

Do something to help you relax. Weed may have that effect...