[QUOTE] The stereotype that men not able to talk about or share their feelings may have some truth behind it, and according to Victoria counsellor Bruce Chambers, its getting in the way of men building friendships, especially with other men.
Chambers, a volunteer counsellor at the [URL="http://www.citizenscounselling.com/"]Citizens Counselling Centre,[/URL] says he speaks to many men who are feeling isolated and lonely which leads to depression, anxiety and anger.
"There were a lot of male clients, who, even though they may in a partnership, they may have children, they may have a successful career, they're feeling unfulfilled or isolated … and most of them were able to say they have this 'no friends' thing, this 'male no friends' thing," Chambers told All Points West host Robyn Burns.
"That part of their life was just a real hole for them
Source:[url]http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/men-without-friends-why-1.3412970[/url]
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[quote]The stereotype that men not able to talk about or share their feelings may have some truth behind it[/quote]
Well this article is off to a great start.
[QUOTE=Helix Snake;49581329]Well this article is off to a great start.[/QUOTE]
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Not like this is isn't something common enough.
[QUOTE=Take_Opal;49581334]?
Not like this is isn't something common enough.[/QUOTE]
the grammar is shit
who needs friends when you can have fun by yourself
[QUOTE=proboardslol;49581360]the grammar is shit[/QUOTE]
Ah didn't notice that.
This is something I try to be conscious of, and I think I'm pretty open compared to my other male friends. However, since I've started college I'm noticing a social chill among people there. I'm very friendly, but any kind of conversation doesn't last longer than a back and forth and I don't think it's just me... It may not be exactly what the article is speaking on, but it really does seem like everyone is so less willing to be socially engaging IRL. I find it so sad sometimes.
You're not a real man unless you drink beer and watch football and drive a monster truck
There are a lot of feelings that people just don't want to hear about.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49581632]I get drunk with friends and [I]then[/I] we talk about our feelings. We have the deepest and most engaging conversations.
I'm pretty sure those conversations are the only reason we get together and drink. Since alcohol loosens people up, maybe that's all the emotion we usually just keep away from each other?
I feel like this post is "gay," that's a pretty big issue. The fear of being called "gay" in middleschool and highschool probably doesn't help the case. Because only gay people have feelings![/QUOTE]
it isn't just you, the majority of men need alcohol to enjoy social interaction as much as women do, myself included
[url]http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2014-09/afps-ams092914.php[/url]
I agree with the article. I have no literally no friends.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49581632]I get drunk with friends and [I]then[/I] we talk about our feelings. We have the deepest and most engaging conversations.
I'm pretty sure those conversations are the only reason we get together and drink. Since alcohol loosens people up, maybe that's all the emotion we usually just keep away from each other?
I feel like this post is "gay," that's a pretty big issue. The fear of being called "gay" in middleschool and highschool probably doesn't help the case. Because only gay people have feelings![/QUOTE]
This isn't just you. Me and a lot of my friends do this too. Get together, get drunk, have a great time, and then go outside and smoke cigarettes and talk. Talk about what's on your mind, about what's stressing you, what's terrifying you, and so on.
Most men feel pressured to be tough and cold because of how men are portrayed in films and on television - cold, actiony, muscly, etc. This leads to them not talking about their feelings, until you have something in you that loosens you up and dissolves some of your inhibitions - liquor!
It's things like this why I think traditional gender roles, masculinity, femininity, etc. are all a crock of shit
[editline]21st January 2016[/editline]
I can agree with liquor being a pretty good way to have personal conversations with other male friends
even if I don't remember them all the time
gotta squad up real young with a bunch of other dudes and just go to college and career together while doing various jojo-esque power poses
[QUOTE=Ninja Gnome;49581679]it isn't just you, the majority of men need alcohol to enjoy social interaction as much as women do, myself included
[url]http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2014-09/afps-ams092914.php[/url][/QUOTE]
actually thats kind of my problem with things today, at least where i am at in college, you either go out and get drunk at parties or you don't, theres not really much option there
Having no friends must be really sad but that's what image boards are for. There you'll find people who are into the same shit you are or they'll enable you and lead you to go on a mass shooting, but that's barely anyone
[QUOTE=Dr.C;49582008]Having no friends must be really sad but that's what image boards are for. There you'll find people who are into the same shit you are or they'll enable you and lead you to go on a mass shooting, but that's barely anyone[/QUOTE]
Thanks for the pointers dude I'll be sure to check /k/ out
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49581749]That's a really interesting article, it makes me wonder if this emotional barrier that alcohol breaks down is a byproduct of society or just a male thing[/QUOTE]
i would say societal factors that stem from men needing to suppress emotions for the hunt and women being able to freely socialize while gathering. i would say the alcohol breaks down the social inhibitions. there's this one culture that i cannot remember the name or location of that expects men to fully interact in society, sharing emotions and generally being very sociable. they are just as adept and just as happy with being social and sharing their emotions as the women
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49582059]Ahh I know what you're talking about but I don't remember either.
I want to say it was the Greeks or Romans?[/QUOTE]
the one i am thinking of i heard about on a podcast. if i remember correctly i think they are a tribe of native Mexicans. i believe that it is considered important for every member of the tribe to have strong social relationships with each other. it was expected for them to express how they feel and to have many close friends.
Me );
I suppose I belong to this group. I have online friends, but I don't think they really count in this case.
Wish I had someone I could trust who I could talk to stuff about but I'm not falling for the therapy meme again
It doesn't help that by the time you reach your early/mid twenties, it's pretty much impossible to make new friends
[QUOTE=Zoombini;49582624]It doesn't help that by the time you reach your early/mid twenties, it's pretty much impossible to make new friends[/QUOTE]
Couldn't agree more.. I lost pretty much all of my friends, once I met my girlfriend (Now wife) and stopped partying. They only wanted to be together if it were at parties.. It sucks so hard.
also you're not a real man unless you never go to the hospital for help, even if you have a life threatening disease. you just gotta take it, PUSSY
I'm so glad I have good friends. We may not hang out every weekend but we're there for each other no matter what. The most sensitive conversations still usually happen around alcohol though, but it seems to be the case for everyone.
It is only problem if you see it as a problem.
hey don't let me catch anyone in here having any feelings
[editline]22nd January 2016[/editline]
bunch of gays
Man this made me realize that I really have no IRL friends. Being in school and being in a family that likes to move all the fucking time, the times I do make friends and work up a little 3-4 person group I get immediately taken away, fail the school year and get ultimately fucked. I'm 16 and I've missed 2 whole years of school now.
I dunno what to even do about it. It's gotten to the point where why the fuck should I bother trying to get to know people and people getting to know me when I'm just going to leave 2 minutes later anyways?
[QUOTE=MrHeadHopper;49583441]Man this made me realize that I really have no IRL friends. Being in school and being in a family that likes to move all the fucking time, the times I do make friends and work up a little 3-4 person group I get immediately taken away, fail the school year and get ultimately fucked. I'm 16 and I've missed 2 whole years of school now.
I dunno what to even do about it. It's gotten to the point where why the fuck should I bother trying to get to know people and people getting to know me when I'm just going to leave 2 minutes later anyways?[/QUOTE]
work hard, go to university
the friends i have now are all extremely close friends from university - basically dropped most of my school friends
also have interests that involve meeting other people, that helps
pains me that once I finish school I'll pretty much lose any connection to people
I have some quality friends and this is all I need.
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