• My Family is insane.
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Alright, I'm having trouble writing this because my blood is boiling from just being pissed off in general. My family has been in a state for about 12 months, when we can't do anything other than pay bills or buy food, I'll explain how that works. When we pay bills, My Father is the only one who does this, My Mom doesn't work, nor has she ever since before I was born, My Dad got laid off last September and it has been hard to survive, and it's been near impossible for my dad to find a job. And When we buy food, it has to be on sale, so my parents think it's good to stockpile on food, apocalypse style, by buying a shit ton of the food when it's on sale. There fore I have 1 full sized freezer, 2 fridges with built in freezers in them, and there all Jam Fucking packed with Food, and the bread is frozen, so when we go to make something, they fucking shatter. Now, I'm 15 years old, My mom is 47, she has nothing but spare time, I have schedules(School,Friends,Responsibilities etc..) I have my self a Job, so I can buy my self things, so my parents don't have to. But my Mom how ever, doesn't have a Job, as I type this shes lying on her bed, watching CSI. Now let me get this straight, This is What I do in an average day: Wake up, get dressed, shower, breakfast, check email, go to work, or go out with friends(Depends on the day), Exercise, Think about work, and school, and what I'm going to do about things. My Mom, gets up, watches TV, Makes dinner, Does the dishes, and then lies on her bed Watching TV until 1 AM after that. I'm not shitting you. While in the meantime, My dad is downstairs either looking for work on his computer and multitasking, and trying to make a small living on selling things. Now that brings me to something that really pisses me off, My Parents are both Pack rats. We have 1 barley functional kitchen because of clutter, and another that is completely engulfed in nameless merchandise. We have a 3 bedrooms, 1 for my parents, 1 for my brother, and 1 for me. My Mom and Dads Bedroom, is a disaster, their room is basically a bed in the center of the room, and a few coffee tables, but everything surrounding it is a fuckton of unnecessary garbage, not like real garbage, just stupid shit that we wouldn't need, like stuffed animals and cookies and shit, and more clothes that you could ever possible imagine. She has So many clothing that every single closet in the house, including the ones in our rooms, are filled, and jam packed, with her clothes. And if we try and take it out, she literally has a heart attack, she freaks, stomping her feat like a 3 year old who didst get a balloon at the fare. Then she complains with chest pains, and doesn't get to sleep that night. My room, is the cleanest room in the house, but before I came into it, it was a Disaster storage room, and try to imagine a 10x10 room, flooded with toys and clothes so much, that it was flowing out the door way, and it was up to your stomach in depth, that's how it was, It took me 4 months just to clear it out so I could have a space to live in. But my dad said, once he gets a job, he would clear everything out of the house, it's just that right now, this stuff is helping him make a small living by selling them, but even when my dad was employed the house was just as messy and cluttered. Now My brother is a 10 year old boy, that went from liking Metal music, playing FPS games, and generally not taking piss from anyone. Now, he is a sensitive, easily frightened child, who has an extreme bond with the fictional character sonic, and has over 500+ stuffed animals in his room, Now even the sound of Iron Maiden gives him an upset stomach, and the slightest noise at night scares him for life. My Mom basically just talks to me when it's to yell at me or complain about something, In fact, I can never remember when she just talked to me without bursting a vein, she suffers from hair loss, she looks way older than she should, you can see veins in her head, caused by stress. She just came in to the room, screaming at me because I went to deposit some cans at a local store, because they were just lying in my garbage can, I don't really need the money from the cans, but the store is only a few steps a way, so I thought If I could make a dollar and buy my self a bag of Doritos, then hell? Big mistake, I forgot 3 of the cans in there were one of the 12 pack that my mom bought, how stupid of me! Gosh. Not even in the poorest family would this be considered a fatal mistake, and we aren't even that poor, We still have a GIC, and are able to pay bills and eat, just little out of that. But my mom made a big stink out of something as little as this, it could be something like this, accidentally throwing away a spoon, or spending some of my own earned money on something, that she thinks is a good idea to maybe, make scene, so all the neighbors can hear, which by the way they can. My mom and my Dad argue quite a bit, but not to much, mainly because one spends all day downstairs on the PC, and the other watching TV. I avoid getting into arguments by staying out of my house 90% of the time. My Parents also lack in friends, because people know they don't like letting people in there house and or spending money. And all of my friends, stand in awe when they hear about my family, it's just... How did we get from there to here, My parents both at one point had steady income's and were able to afford basically anything, and they had tons of friends, and were both very caring, to what you just heard about. I don't have anyone else to turn to, What do you think FP? [highlight](User was banned for this post ("Blog" - Dragon))[/highlight]
That's crazy. Your mom sounds like the type of person that is addicted to their clutter like on that show "Packrat" or something like that. I forget what it's called, but it's basically these houses filled with random junk that the people can't get rid of. I dont think you can really do much besides deal with it because your mom doesn't sound like she's going to change soon so just look forward to when you move out.
Sorry Double post.
[QUOTE=Kel|oggs;23609730]*rewrite*[/QUOTE] Oh god thank you.
[QUOTE=Kel|oggs;23609718]What do you think FP?[/QUOTE] [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38_MwcGDNhQ[/media]
Broke mah automerge
[QUOTE=5150Luke;23609777][media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38_MwcGDNhQ[/media][/QUOTE] Hahaha, What is this.
Your dad might have molested your brother. That tends to result in the kind of change you witnessed.
I want your family to chill with my family.
thanks for making my life feel better, rated polite.
You're not the only one whose family is going through crazy times, so don't feel too bad. My family as well is going through some tough times, and the story is somewhat similar to yours.
"Wake up, get dressed, shower, breakfast, check email, go to work, or go out with friends(Depends on the day), Exercise, Think about work, and school, and what I'm going to do about things." That's what life is like when you're out of the house, with a bit more randomness in the schedule and steadiness in the other parts.
[QUOTE=JeffmA;23609862]"Wake up, get dressed, shower, breakfast, check email, go to work, or go out with friends(Depends on the day), Exercise, Think about work, and school, and what I'm going to do about things." That's what life is like when you're out of the house, with a bit more randomness in the schedule and steadiness in the other parts.[/QUOTE] Yea, I could have stretched that schedule to make it more in depth, but no.
[QUOTE=Kel|oggs;23609718]Wake up, get dressed, shower, breakfast, check email, go to work, or go out with friends(Depends on the day), Exercise, Think about work, and school, and what I'm going to do about things.[/QUOTE] What's the point in "dressing up" when you are going to take a shower next?
As all i can say to you is, save up money to afford your own place. It will be extremely hard for your parents to get rid of all that stuff. [URL="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsive_hoarding"]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsive_hoarding [/URL] is your mom like that?
My friend has it much worse. His family is dirt poor. He lives in his sisters house with his 23 year old clinically insane brother(like really, his mind got fucked up after he did LSD and other drugs.) and mom who basically freaks out at anything. His whole family hates him, and his life gradually degraded after his dad died. He does all sorts of drugs now, steals, goes to crazy parties with people much older than him. His whole family smokes pot with a medical card though (california) and they even grow it in their yard, which is tiny. Though somehow this friend of mine is extremely polite to my parents when he's over... I can't really suggest anything, maybe try to have a slow, patient talk with your mom/brother?
If some of that clutter was removed there would be less stress no doubt. Phone up that show that does that clutter removing shit. You're not helping by doing nothing about it.
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