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can't you be introverted but also not socially retarded? I feel like it's a huge social taboo mentioning introvert, cause people automatically assume you're an absolute potato when it comes to human interaction
I'm hella introverted but I can talk to people without shitting the bed. I just prefer not to if I don't have to.
I don't think extroversion and introversion really equate whether someone has good social skills or not. It's whether or not you gain energy from being social or from spending time alone. An extrovert might just want to stick to social activities as much as possible, whereas an introvert might want a break after a while and just do their own thing. There can be some correlation, as an extrovert would likely get more social practice than introverts, but there's no guarantee they'll fare worse as a result. An extrovert can have poor social skills as well - and are probably a bit more noticeable to boot.
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[QUOTE=loopoo;52719423]can't you be introverted but also not socially retarded? I feel like it's a huge social taboo mentioning introvert, cause people automatically assume you're an absolute potato when it comes to human interaction
I'm hella introverted but I can talk to people without shitting the bed. I just prefer not to if I don't have to.[/QUOTE]
Introvert is essentially just a meme word for socially awkward people.
I know a dude who's super introverted, plays games or does art 80% of the time alone in his room but is also super suave, has a hot girlfriend, and has zero issues talking to people.
The difference of introversion and extroversion is simply whether uhman company is exhausting or rejuvenating. Nothing else.
I get that this video is trying to make a funny but it misses the mark for me because it to be about severe social anxiety, not introverts.
People with social anxiety often are mistaken and even mistake themselves for introverts, since human company is often so difficult for them, but again that isn't proof they're introverts.
[QUOTE=sam6420;52719775]Oh hey buddy! Funny seeing you on facepunch.[/QUOTE]
Hey buddy hes clearly talking about Me.
[QUOTE=omarfr;52719719]I know a dude who's super introverted, plays games or does art 80% of the time alone in his room but is also super suave, has a hot girlfriend, and has zero issues talking to people.[/QUOTE]
I dunno my BF calls me a social butterfly (I disagree but meh), but I get super drained by talking to people and need to retreat after a while, so this kinda fits me too. I guess I'm a more technical definition of an introvert, where this video is more talking about social anxiety.
I talk a lot and usually do alright in bigger social situations, but mostly because it's the only way I've found to stave off my stifling near assburgers level of discomfort in most social situations
gets worse the smaller the group is, one on one with most anyone besides my closest buds makes me feel like I'm going to die since I'm constantly going over all the ways I could fuck up in my head
Personally, it sucks being an introvert. I have close friends and family that I do care about and want to talk to, but it's so tiring. Trying to keep up my end of the most mundane of conversations takes more effort and energy that it should... Now that I think about it, that's probably depression instead of introversion, cuz everything, including sleep, makes me tired and drained.
[QUOTE=omarfr;52719719]I know a dude who's super introverted, plays games or does art 80% of the time alone in his room but is also super suave, has a hot girlfriend, and has zero issues talking to people.[/QUOTE]
Get you a man who can do both
"but much less likely to piss everywhere" calling bullshit on that one
[QUOTE=Talishmar;52719737]The difference of introversion and extroversion is simply whether uhman company is exhausting or rejuvenating. Nothing else.
I get that this video is trying to make a funny but it misses the mark for me because it to be about severe social anxiety, not introverts.
People with social anxiety often are mistaken and even mistake themselves for introverts, since human company is often so difficult for them, but again that isn't proof they're introverts.[/QUOTE]
While it's true that introversion does not at all imply social anxiety/impairment, those who do struggle with such problems are likely introverts.
The same principle can be applied to other dichotomies, especially those described by MBTI. A thinker can have strong expressive emotions, they just don't primarily make decisions that way, but those who are genuinely cold and unempathetic are bound to be thinkers.
This association fallacy is very common.
[QUOTE=carcarcargo;52719552]Introvert is essentially just a meme word for socially awkward people.[/QUOTE]
Tbf the introvert/extrovert thing is effectively internet culture psychology at this point and doesn't really have much bearing on reality.
[QUOTE=Rossy167;52721881]Tbf the introvert/extrovert thing is effectively internet culture psychology at this point and doesn't really have much bearing on reality.[/QUOTE]
yeah. It's a recognised aspect of personality psychology but has just been misunderstood so commonly that it's almost changed in meaning completely.
[QUOTE=omarfr;52719719]I know a dude who's super introverted, plays games or does art 80% of the time alone in his room but is also super suave, has a hot girlfriend, and has zero issues talking to people.[/QUOTE]
Maybe you don't mean literally but lucky him. If I spent all day on the computer programming or whatever in a separate room I'd hear about it.
I feel like this introvert extrovert thing for me is in waves. Sometimes I crave to go out and meet new or old people and sometimes I just wanna be at home and work on personal projects, but mostly I feel like being at home. My girlfriend is more a typical extrovert and can get tired from being home too much. But despite me protesting a little bit when she wants to go out, I always thought it was fun in the end.
Knowing a lot of introverts I feel it's the same for them, they may say they don't want to go out but if you push them a little bit it's usually fine. I don't think I'd want an introverted girlfriend despite being a bit of that myself. It's nice to have some differences in personalities.
I would also say I was more of a typical introvert a few years ago than today, so it seems to have changed overall long term as well as it keeps changing short term.
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[QUOTE=evilweazel;52719851]gets worse the smaller the group is, one on one with most anyone besides my closest buds makes me feel like I'm going to die since I'm constantly going over all the ways I could fuck up in my head[/QUOTE]
I think this is very normal for everyone. Maybe introverts tend to be more aware of it, but I think it's safe to say everyone knows someone who is a bit awkward to talk to, and it's not anyone's fault. In some cases you can break some ice but sometimes it's just always a bit awkward.
[QUOTE=Rossy167;52721881]Tbf the introvert/extrovert thing is effectively internet culture psychology at this point and doesn't really have much bearing on reality.[/QUOTE]
The whole introvert/extrovert thing hasn't been part of mainstream psychology for a long time.
[QUOTE=carcarcargo;52722089]The whole introvert/extrovert thing hasn't been part of mainstream psychology for a long time.[/QUOTE]
I'd argue the five factor model is pretty relevant.
Granted, it's not quite as simplistic as one or the other.
[QUOTE=Erfly;52722212]I'd argue the five factor model is pretty relevant.
Granted, it's not quite as simplistic as one or the other.[/QUOTE]
The Big Five and MBTI do correlate highly, however. They literally share one dimension, and three others are loosely related. For what it's worth, the former can be considered an evolution with science implemented.
[QUOTE=loopoo;52719423]can't you be introverted but also not socially retarded? I feel like it's a huge social taboo mentioning introvert, cause people automatically assume you're an absolute potato when it comes to human interaction
I'm hella introverted but I can talk to people without shitting the bed. I just prefer not to if I don't have to.[/QUOTE]
I'm the opposite, I love hanging out and being around friends but I'm a complete social potato when it comes to talking to strangers and meeting new people.
