It's just an awesome feeling when you meet someone with such an amazing and just fantastic personality. It's rare to find people with such qualities. I'm not talking about finding a significant other, but more along the lines of just someone you meet, or someone you know.
I have this ability to see people for what they really are. I have a very powerful ability to read peoples emotions as plain as text on a page, knowing how this person feels sometimes even before they know they are making it even close to obvious. I can pick up on body language, the tone and rate at which someone speaks, and so many other different facets to communication that I can become fairly in tune with someone's personality and intentions fairly quickly. The only thing is, most of the time i can't put a lot of what I learn about someone into words. I just get this gut-feeling about it; like I just know.
With that in mind, here is an example where I was able to use this ability to find the amazing personality hiding within someone I recently met.
During my family reunion, we had a private waiting staff since we had a such a large party. On the first day she introduced herself to us, she told us the dinner menu (the menus were verbal since they were different every night). To me, everything sounded just fucking awesome, so I basically told her that and just said, "surprise me." She looked a little confused, but played along with it, almost seeming to enjoy the trust and faith I put into her. I picked up on that (and since the food selection was pretty much flawless to my tastes), this whole "surprise me" thing became a reoccurring theme, each time I saw her more enthusiastic about it while taking slightly more risks in what she got me, and each time she succeeded in providing me with an awesome dish.
We talked some here and there when she had time, and I could pick up she had a slightly low self-esteem and maybe a bad self image. The thing is there was no reason for her to have this feeling. She was absolutely amazing. I don't really know how to explain why. I just had this gut feeling about it. There was just something about her... She was just incredibly sweet, and had this glowing personality that could radiate brighter than the sun.
I could go on, but there wouldn't be a point unless you met her since words alone can't do much justice.
On the last day I was at this place, I went up to her and thanked her. I thanked her for making the whole experience really fun. The thing is, I wish I could have told her more, like how I really felt. I feel like I could have really really made a difference in her life by telling her how amazing I thought she is and part of me regrets not having the courage to tell her. It's even more unfortunate that I will probably never see her or hear about her ever again.
With that story said, I'm just wondering. How many people have met a person who you just felt was so amazing that you wish you could just sit and explain every facet of how incredible they actually are? Like, you just want to go around and just tell people, "hey, look, this person is just so incredibly awesome, you just have to know them..."
You have so much respect for them that the amount is unquantifiable. Your words about them are nothing but positive, and you wish you could tell them how you really feel.
But the problem lays with sociological constraints, i.e. You tell someone you think they are an awesome person, they will think you're just sucking up to them and trying to kiss their ass for something in return. For that they will hate you.
The other problem is if you keep praising an individual, you will begin to look like someone who is completely obsessed with them to the point where it's pathological, and again they will begin to hate you.
Other people hate praise, especially too much. Once more, making them hate you.
In some cases, these could all be the hidden motives why someone would talk so highly of another individual. However, there is still always that one time where the person praising the other is completely sincere about everything they say.
This leaves me with the final question: how can you tell someone how you really feel about them without sounding like a kiss-ass or someone who is obsessed or how much praise is too much praise?
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get a blog.
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[QUOTE=Kai-ryuu;30907255]get a blog.[/QUOTE]
I don't understand. I'm asking a question and I'm looking for input. That's one use of this forum, right?
There's no tutorial on how to be thankful. It's really just a spontaneous thing - you know when it's time to thank someone so you do it.
The trick, I suppose, is to not overdo it - saying thank you 5 times is probably overdoing it unless someone saved your life.
That's another thing - the nature of what they did to make you feel thankful.
If a server provides good service, thank them, and tell them to enjoy the rest of their day. In your case, just tell them they did a fantastic job. You should have asked her for an employee survey or something and fill one out that's in her favor, because actions speak louder than words and all that shit, but it's a good way to thank an outstanding working person.
If you don't want to be a kissass, don't overdo it. If you don't want to sound obsessed, don't overdo it. How do you know it's overdone? It usually gets awkward at that point.
Keep it simple and nonchalant. Act like you notice but don't over do it or you might look like a pleaser. Looking like someone who only wants to please will make you look like a nice guy. Then you get friend zoned.
If it's a server, money means a lot. When I was working as a busboy, there was one night where a big engagement party/wedding party of some sorts came in. My responsibility was to bus the whole restaurant, but all night I kept fulfilling extra requests from these guys at the party, such as bringing them extra baskets of bread, a ton of glasses of water and lots of refills, which on top of busing all the regular customers was a lot more work than the normal stuff I did. The whole time I was nice about it, though. At the end of the night, the guys were so grateful they gave me a 20 dollar tip. Directly to me. Busboys never get that, we get our tips from the waiters, which at my restaurant usually shafted me. It meant a lot to me, and I still think of that generosity because it showed that they really noticed that I went out of my way to help them.
Even though I'm a poor college student, I almost always overtip, because it shows an appreciation for the people who are helping you. It's easier to understand once you've worked a service job like that.
I always say thank-you twice, usually right before the favor and right after.
ALso, the first rule about relationships is to can the "I love you you're my soulmate etcetc" bullshit. Just say "I really like you, and I'd like to get to know you a lot better".
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ALso, the first rule about relationships is to can the "I love you you're my soulmate etcetc" bullshit. Just say "I really like you, and I'd like to get to know you a lot better".[/QUOTE]
This, no over obsessive bullshit.
inb4 Maverick
too long article for me.
[QUOTE=Master Kief-117;30907204]I have this ability to see people for what they really are. I have a very powerful ability to read peoples emotions as plain as text on a page[/QUOTE]
You must be a wizard if you're able to do that. And also it just sounds like you're enamored of some girl.
i've never laughed so hard at an OP
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