So i've not been able to stop thinking about this girl, for over a year. I was in love with her since we went to the same school (same age) and our school was basically a fucked up place, where you had to do everything you could to fit in. I had a hard time fitting in since i was a gamer, but i did fine. There was only one person who really knew how i was when i weren't in school/out with the friends, and i think that's the reason i really falled for her, and couldn't stop forgetting her, because i couldn't stop to seek after this feeling of approvement. I felt like i got it from her, and we were good friends, in the end of the school year, she knew that i had feelings for her, but i wasn't sure, because i felt like it was swinging back and forth, sometimes it felt like she might feel the same, others it was the other way around.
Then at the wend of the school year i moved to the other side of the country, and i knew that there wasn't a chance if she even had the same feeling as me that we could be together, because i would never be able to have such a relationship. After some time i realized i missed her, but i just thought i just needed some time at the new place, and i got tons of new friends, with the same interests as me. Eventually i got myself a girlfriend, I knew this girl had been crazy about me for some time, she made it pretty obvious, and we ended up together, because i liked her as well. After a long while i just had to realize the only reason i was with this girl was because i missed the last one, and couldn't stop thinking about her, and hoped that this would help me move on, but it didn't. Here in the summer holidays, i got home to my parents (where i went to school with the girl). And since we've been talking relatively much, just about educations, how each other were etc, i asked if she would be interested in seeing me. (We had seen each other twice since school) and we went to a roller coaster park, we had a lot of fun. After that i got home, and just couldn't think about anything else, and i called one of my friends, to talk about it.
I ended up just NEEDING an answer. You know when you're with someone you love, and then one of you breaks up, that's just the point where you start thinking at some points "I have to move on" but with this, without any answer, i just had an extremly hard time letting go of her, so i finally just had to do it, i called her, said i've been feeling like this for a long time, and just needed an answer to move on, i told her i didn't care if it was a no, i just NEEDED an answer to get myself to move on. It was too hard for me just to forget about it, when the chance was there, even though it would never would out as i mentioned, i just badly needed to know.
So i ended up calling her, telling her that i've felt like this for so long, i needed an answer, and finally she told me that she never thought of it that way, but she still liked talking with me, and keeping contact because we were really good friends, and still wanted to go out for me, if i was interested, and when i was ready.
This was the best answer i could get, even though she broke my heart. If she had said yes i would've done everything to make it work for some time, but it was just a question about time when it would break down, and deep down i knew this, but needed the answer, finally i got it.
I seriously need a hug right now.
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i'd hug ya :love:
[b] I was in love with her since [/b]
Not to be a dick, but I stopped reading right there.
[QUOTE=NielsGade;31493878]I think 98% of facepunch has been there.[/QUOTE]
Except the part where they actually know or talk to them
Could've been way worse
the end makes it sound like she still kind of likes you buddy
and still wanted to go out for me, if i was interested, and when i was ready. (probably bad reading on my part)
But hey, you can apparently get girls so there's other fish in the sea for you
[QUOTE=geogzm;31493839]i'd hug ya :love:[/QUOTE]
Thanks <3
[QUOTE=cyclocius;31493871][b] I was in love with her since [/b]
Not to be a dick, but I stopped reading right there.[/QUOTE]
Couldn't care less of what you think.
[QUOTE=Ladowerf;31493938]the end makes it sound like she still kind of likes you buddy
and still wanted to go out for me, if i was interested, and when i was ready. (probably bad reading on my part)
But hey, you can apparently get girls so there's other fish in the sea for you[/QUOTE]
Yeah.. I felt kind of the same way, because years ago on blue monday, dont know if you have that as well, we went to another coaster park (that was like 4 years before all this) i actually won her a small heart, just for fun, it didn't really mean anything, but when we were out there today, she started talking about how sweet that was, and i didn't even remember it myself, and that's what got me badly thinking today.
And no, i don't really have problems getting girls, i just can't get the one i wanted right now atleast, sadly :(
I know the feel bro. I've been down since my gf broke my heart a few weeks ago.
[QUOTE=DjPebbles;31493823]So i've not been able to stop thinking about this girl, for over a year. I was in love with her since we went to the same school (same age)
So i ended up calling her, telling her that i've felt like this for so long, i needed an answer, and finally she told me that she never thought of it that way, but she still liked talking with me, and keeping contact because we were really good friends, and still wanted to go out for me, if i was interested, and when i was ready.
This was the best answer i could get, even though she broke my heart. If she had said yes i would've done everything to make it work for some time, but it was just a question about time when it would break down, and deep down i knew this, but needed the answer, finally i got it.
I seriously need a hug right now.[/QUOTE]
you were not in love, you were infatuated
[QUOTE=DjPebbles;31493823]telling her that i've felt like this for so long, i needed an answer, and finally she told me that she never thought of it that way[/QUOTE]
number one thing to do to be creepy.
imagine someone you think of as friend, for whom you have [b]no[/b] attraction suddenly goes "oh you're the love of my life i haven't been able to stop thinking about you for a whole year".
how would [i]you[/i] react?
where is fast threads
If she broke your heart she is [B]not[/B] the girl of your dreams
The girl I like keeps playing these games with me and then going back to dating douchebags, and never even giving me a chance. I've given up completely at this point.
I call that thing fascination.
Your lucky, when I asked a girl put she said " if you want we can forget this ever happens :3 "
:'(
[QUOTE=OutOfPop;31494051]The girl I like keeps playing these games with me and then going back to dating douchebags, and never even giving me a chance. I've given up completely at this point.[/QUOTE]
"douchebags: people who are more successful and less awkward than me in relationships"
Oh well, at least if she has a tree next to her bedroom window you're in luck
Furiously masterbaute to the thought of her
[QUOTE=dingusnin;31494117]Your lucky, when I asked a girl put she said " if you want we can forget this ever happens :3 "
:'([/QUOTE]
Hearts to you :(
[QUOTE=Max of S2D;31494132]"douchebags: people who are more successful and less awkward than me in relationships"[/QUOTE]
Depends, some people are actually douches, but you're probably right.
friend zoned it big time pal
Welcome to what everyone goes through. Now get yourself a big straw and wood with nails, suck it up build a bridge and get over it!
it will happen again, too. happens to everyone.
edit - broke my automerge
Just a tip:
Chin up cheer up.
If you don't look up in like, it won't do you any favours
Women are difficult.
Why does the majority facepunch seem to have no luck with women?
Why do you confide in Facepunch? 90% chance of getting slaughtered. You're lucky there were nice people on today, or maybe it's the way you worded it. You'll never know, but I expect your post will be bombarded with hate as the lurkers emerge from the depths.
It stings now...it will go away with time.
[QUOTE=d3450;31494663]Why does the majority facepunch seem to have no luck with women?[/QUOTE]
I'm engaged but that doesn't mean women aren't difficult.
The part where you messed up is when you put her on a pedestal and started thinking of her as the only person who could ever be with you, even though she was too good for you.
This makes it near impossible to just ask her out like any normal person would, so you just stick with her for a year making zero moves and giving her zero reason to think you like her, or even develop any feelings for you.
No matter how much you think she is the perfect woman, she is [i]not[/i], and instead of wasting all this time wishing you could be with her, you could have simply asked her out.
The second part where you messed up is when you confessed your undying love for her and told her how long you've felt that way. That's just creepy. You could have simply asked her out. If she says no, you just act like nothing happened, and if she says yes, you would be in the [i]exact[/i] same position as you would be if the confession somehow worked out.
There's never a reason to risk it like that, it's like going all in on a shitty hand of cards in poker.
And the last thing I want to say to you, is that this might be a good thing. Now you have a little experience, and have learned (the hard way) what [i]not[/i] to do when it comes to relationships.
[editline]2nd August 2011[/editline]
Now you can go try again with someone new and this time not fuck up so much.
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