China's 'Little Emperors' Lucky, Yet Lonely In Life - Polidicks

[QUOTE]Imagine a world where no one has siblings. That's the reality for tens of millions of young urban Chinese, born since the one-child policy was introduced in 1976. This has led to a cosseted generation of singletons nicknamed the "little emperors." In her book I Am Not Happy: The Declaration of an '80s Generation Only Child, author Liu Yi summed up their pain and pleasure: "We are the unfortunate ones, because we are only children. Fate destined us with less happiness than children from other generations. We are also the lucky ones — with attention from so many adults, we skip over childish ignorance and grow up. Simple-minded, we are unable to see the realities of life, and the lack of burdens denies us depth." Center Of The Universe A 2005 survey by the Internet portal Sina of about 7,000 respondents between ages 15 and 25 found that 58 percent of one-child respondents admitted being lonely and said they were selfish. But many also revel in being the "sun" around whom the household revolves. "I really appreciate [being the] one child, especially from the countryside," admits 23-year-old A.J. Song, whose parents are from the Gelao minority in Guizhou province. "My parents, they give me everything. I'm the center of attention in the family. My mother has seven brothers and sisters; my father has six brothers and sisters. Most of my parents' brothers and sisters have two kids. They are all very jealous about me being the only child," he says. Other Chinese research finds advantages to being an only child: They tend to score higher on intelligence tests and are better at making friends, according to Chinese studies. Song agrees, saying he believes only children care more about their friends. He says the extra investment parents make in an only child is significant. "If I had a sibling, I probably wouldn't be who I am now. Probably I'd still be in my small village, getting married and having kids. If you have more kids in your family, probably they're lacking in education, lacking food, lacking any kind of support, no matter emotional or financial. Basically everybody is going to be average," he says. Instead, Song — single and with no children — lives in Beijing, and he is proud of the fact that a kid from his small village can make it in the city. External Pressures Strong Others disagree with the "little emperor" stereotype. Research by Toni Falbo at the University of Texas found that only children in China scored better at verbal tests, but when it came to personality traits showed very few "only-child effects." Many of the pressures suffered by China's only children come from living in an extremely competitive society, where access to educational resources — especially the best kindergartens and schools — is limited. "Every kid in China has that kind of pressure," says 22-year-old Jing Jing from Ningxia province, who now works in public relations. "[Parents and grandparents] really want their kids to be great." For her, that meant two hours of homework a night, followed by three hours of piano practice and Chinese painting to set her apart from the herd. "When other kids are playing, I have to play piano and do all this stupid painting. I was sad and angry," she says, although now she appreciates the pleasures of music. Compromise An Alien Concept China's single-child generation is now struggling with relationships and marriage. One in five marriages ends in divorce, double the figure a decade ago, and figures are expected to go up. Concession is alien to only children, Jing admits. "You never compromise to your parents, and your parents let it go," she says, meaning that Chinese parents traditionally let their demanding only-children get their way. For many young Chinese, sharing a dorm room with other students at university constitutes the first real experience of sharing and a battleground for those who have never learned the art of compromise. "We had a really important problem," Jing says. "Someone in my dorm room wanted to play computer games from 8 p.m. to 2 [or] 3 a.m. We talked to her several times, but we didn't really solve the problem." Many of China's singletons say they yearned for siblings when they were younger. Song begged his parents for a baby, and Jing dreamed of a sister. "Of course, I want to have a big sister. I'm selfish, and I want to have someone to take care of me. At my age, I only have my friends. Sometimes I can be really jealous. I think, 'We are the same age, why can't I be better than you?' But if I had a sister, she would be my role model," Jing says. The Next One-Child Generation Now, members of the one-child generation are having kids themselves and facing the practical calculations of feeding and clothing their offspring. According to China's prestigious Academy of Sciences, which in 2008 carried out the first survey on the only-child generation's views of love, marriage and education, 61 percent of the singleton generation surveyed — about 3,000 people born between 1976 and 1986 — was hoping to have two kids, and 38 percent was hoping to have just one. But that's not the full story. In China's material society, money is all. Another survey question gives perhaps a truer answer: Despite their hopes, and perhaps facing the material reality of life in modern day China, 65 percent of respondents admit that "one child is enough." Even Jing, whose dream it was to have an older sister as a protector and role model, admits she's considered the financial ramifications of siblings. "Some of my friends, their grandparents had a lot of money but after they died their uncles and parents are fighting for that money. As I'm the only child, I don't need to worry about that," she says. "But if I had a sister, maybe I'd fight with her for the money, maybe." [img]http://media.npr.org/assets/img/2010/11/23/emperor_wide.jpg?t=1290534243&s=4[/img] [/QUOTE] Source: [url]http://www.npr.org/2010/11/23/131539839/china-s-little-emperors-lucky-yet-lonely-in-life[/url] Lonely childhoods suck :saddowns:

Overpopulation is a problem that must be faced, regardless of hurt feelings. What's worse? Feeling lonely as an only child, or growing up and competing with siblings for jobs and homes, possibly even food? If people continued to have familys with "seven brothers and sisters" or "six brothers and sisters" it's not very far from reality.

I remember this one news article where women demanded cool cars and lots of cash to make up for penis size. I'd dig it up if I could be arsed.

I'd rather be an only child than have 50 of the cunts living in the same room, whose names I doubt id remember.

It is really so bad to have even just [I]one[/I] other sibling?

I... Fail to see the problem? Maybe go out and socialize instead? You don't need siblings for anything.

[QUOTE=Miskav;26266199]I... Fail to see the problem? Maybe go out and socialize instead? You don't need siblings for anything.[/QUOTE] You underestimate the psychological and social aspects of being raised not to share the limelight and share the attention of your parents. Which is the entire reason for this article. It's not an article of "bawww, they're lonely". This is having a mass effect on the Chinese populace and society at large. Look at what it said about the divorce rate, for example.

[img]http://kaytahackman.files.wordpress.com/2010/10/forever-alone-face.png?w=472&h=369p[/img]

Being a twin is awesome :smug:

[QUOTE=Emperor Scorpious II;26266209]You underestimate the psychological and social aspects of being raised not to share the limelight and share the attention of your parents. Which is the entire reason for this article. It's not an article of "bawww, they're lonely". This is having a mass effect on the Chinese populace and society at large. Look at what it said about the divorce rate, for example.[/QUOTE] The thing is, I'm an only child, and I've lived in a secluded area my entire life up until college. I've never had any difficulties getting along with people (at least, not more so than the average person)

[QUOTE=Kim_Jong_il;26266302][img_thumb]http://kaytahackman.files.wordpress.com/2010/10/forever-alone-face.png?w=472&h=369p[/img_thumb][/QUOTE] I bet your son was pretty lonely when his brother ran away to Worst Korea.

[QUOTE=Miskav;26266427]The thing is, I'm an only child, and I've lived in a secluded area my entire life up until college. I've never had any difficulties getting along with people (at least, not more so than the average person)[/QUOTE] That may be so, but what's true for you does not equal true for every single child. How do you know you're just a small exception to the rule?

I'm an only child and quite happy to be such.

[QUOTE=Zah;26266530]I'm an only child and quite happy to be such.[/QUOTE] How do you know you would be unhappy with growing up with a sibling if you never experienced it?

As much as I want to kill my brother sometimes, I love having a sibling. I can't imagine life as an only child. :ohdear:

[QUOTE=Kim_Jong_il;26266302][img_thumb]http://kaytahackman.files.wordpress.com/2010/10/forever-alone-face.png?w=472&h=369p[/img_thumb][/QUOTE] They''re as Ronrey as you!

I never had a brother or sister, I never felt lonely.

[QUOTE=Emperor Scorpious II;26266554]How do you know you would be unhappy with growing up with a sibling if you never experienced it?[/QUOTE] He didn't necessarily say that he would've been.

I love my big sister :buddy:

Wouldn't it be a better idea for a 2 child policy? If we assume that every chinese male can find a respective female to procriate with then if each couple has 1 child only, the chinese population will drop in half for every generation, 2 would (in this perfect match hypothesis) maintain it.

[quote]Concession is alien to only children, Jing admits. "You never compromise to your parents, and your parents let it go," she says, meaning that Chinese parents traditionally let their demanding only-children get their way.[/quote] china's future leaders right here folks

[QUOTE=DeanWinchester;26270030]Wouldn't it be a better idea for a 2 child policy? If we assume that every chinese male can find a respective female to procriate with then if each couple has 1 child only, the chinese population will drop in half for every generation, 2 would (in this perfect match hypothesis) maintain it.[/QUOTE] Doesn't work that way.

Only child. Happy as can be, I have loads of extremely good friends, the kind of friends that will keep by your side no matter what your ideals or fetishes might be, great social life, although no girlfriend or boyfriend, I don't feel lonely. I am a truly happy person.

I have a brother. He is annoying. We fight.

[QUOTE=DeanWinchester;26270030]Wouldn't it be a better idea for a 2 child policy? If we assume that every chinese male can find a respective female to procriate with then if each couple has 1 child only, the chinese population will drop in half for every generation, 2 would (in this perfect match hypothesis) maintain it.[/QUOTE] The one child policy affected less than half the people in the country of China. Their population is still growing, even with this.

I wish I had a sibling that lived in the same home as my own.

siblings are fickle anyways. There's like a little over a 50% chance you'll get along with them and just barely. Then again I only have one sibling and she's a bitch.

have a younger brother who's like a twin, but two years younger. wih I had a sister who wan't such a jerkass all the time

I believe they're slackening the rules a bit so that couples that are both only childs can have two children.