Dealing with depression - General

Hello Dr Facepunch In my life, as of recent, various shit has gone down. What that is, is not important. I'm not here to blog. What I am here to ask is how you dig yourself out of that hole once you realise that you can't get out by yourself. I figure that Facepunch has more than it's fair share of emotionally unstable twenty year olds, and I am sure that people have also found ways to deal with it. What I thought was something that would initially just go away, has become something that rules my life. It's been nearly a month now of sleeping 13-14 hours a day straight, horrible dreams and intense paranoia to the point where I hesitate to answer the door and the telephone. I'm not here for pity or any of that shit. I'm not here to share my story, but minds tend to work in a similar. Way, you guys must have some hints to at least get me to the point where I can start actually doing things to improve my life. So proceed to call me a faggot and to just cheer up, even if 1 in 10 people answer with a legitimate answer, then something useful should arise. [editline]08:35PM[/editline] Obligatory [b] Kill yourself [/b] snipe post. [i]Kill yourself[/i]

Is this you? [img]http://www.squarefootagefilms.com/smith/images/commercial_zoloft_cave.jpg[/img] Then I suggest Zoloft.

Pills work. and Eating.

smoke weed [editline]09:37PM[/editline] and masterbate

People who normally do heroin seem pretty happy.

Smile at yourself in the mirror each morning.

thinking about other people's problems and how small your problems are in comparison will cheer you up

Find a hobby and occupy yourself with it. Or if you don't have a job begin searching for jobs. edit: Like drawing or writing poetry :buddy:

Post sticky notes all over your house and school stuff that say "You are one awesome mother fucker." also look at pictures of puppies [img]http://cutestwebsiteever.com/cutestuff/wp-content/uploads/2008/01/cute-puppy.jpg[/img]

[QUOTE=Cluckyx;25294767]Hello Dr Facepunch In my life, as of recent, various shit has gone down. What that is, is not important. I'm not here to blog. What I am here to ask is how you dig yourself out of that hole once you realise that you can't get out by yourself. I figure that Facepunch has more than it's fair share of emotionally unstable twenty year olds, and I am sure that people have also found ways to deal with it. What I thought was something that would initially just go away, has become something that rules my life. It's been nearly a month now of sleeping 13-14 hours a day straight, horrible dreams and intense paranoia to the point where I hesitate to answer the door and the telephone. I'm not here for pity or any of that shit. I'm not here to share my story, but minds tend to work in a similar. Way, you guys must have some hints to at least get me to the point where I can start actually doing things to improve my life. So proceed to call me a faggot and to just cheer up, even if 1 in 10 people answer with a legitimate answer, then something useful should arise. [editline]08:35PM[/editline] Obligatory [b] Kill yourself [/b] snipe post. [i]Kill yourself[/i][/QUOTE] Apply logic to what could happen, then give the finger to it and walk on like this. [img]http://fc00.deviantart.net/fs71/f/2010/093/e/e/Fuzzy__the_Sequel_by_Coelasquid.gif[/img]

Walk up the stairs and go out?

Rules: - Don't do drugs (you think they help... they really don't) - Pills are good, but never ever take a thing called wellbuitrin (makes you more suicidal) - No matter what the fuck you do... Just learn to be social, be active outside, and enjoy the things around you. Too be honest dude. I've dealt with major depression before, and it does eat away at you, but the best way to do things is just to get up, and go. Anyone who has stated... Sleep Food Working Out Easy way out Has no clue on what depression is, and most likely have just learned shit like that from watching school videos about having a social life.

Being busy makes me happy. - Do you have a job? If not, take one. - Go to school? Do some school work. - Do some sports. Start with running, ask a friend to run with. - Do you play an instrument? I play classical music on the piano to straighten out my mind. - In the weekend, go out on a saterday night. Nothing too wild, just fun with friends. Talking with friends about this seems a good way to cope with it, but you are not actually solving the problem, only reformulating it.

Go do something fun, i usually go longboarding alot when im depressed. Gets me happy in no time!

I got over that phase pretty quick. Pills and drugs and shit just make it worse. I say it's best to just tough it out.

Find a hobby, something you've never thought of trying.

Act more confident, become more confident, be a badass. Paranoia doesn't fuck with badasses.

I was in a depression for five years myself. I finally one day realized that sitting in the corner crying and shit won't help me with anything, so I decided to get over it and live my life again. It helps that I have the will power of a champ, but still. Just tell yourself you're being an idiot by continuing the sullen daze you live in. Be harsh with yourself, don't give yourself an ounce of self pity or you'll be exactly where you started. Your mind is defective, and you have to fix it. Sure you can takes drugs for it and stuff, but that seems like a cheesing out way to go about it. Finding something new and social to do helps as well.

Pornography helps too.

Even just getting out of your house and going to the supermarket for a little while can help.

[QUOTE=Murkat;25295337]Act more confident, become more confident, be a badass. Paranoia doesn't fuck with badasses.[/QUOTE] This isn't like [i]"Oh noes I am sad"[/i] paranoia. I mean full on shaking, head spinning, cottonmouthed [i]"oh god I'm goint to be sick everywhere"[/i] paranoia. I know it's not rational, it is also something I do not have control over. The sheer irrationality of this whole debacle just frustrates me, and yet it continues.

Prescription happiness: Take twice a day. Once before breakfast and once before dinner. [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9upTLWRZTfw[/media] Now have a nice fucking day.

[QUOTE=JoeSkylynx;25294944]Rules: - Don't do drugs (you think they help... they really don't) - Pills are good, but never ever take a thing called wellbuitrin (makes you more suicidal) - No matter what the fuck you do... Just learn to be social, be active outside, and enjoy the things around you. Too be honest dude. I've dealt with major depression before, and it does eat away at you, but the best way to do things is just to get up, and go. Anyone who has stated... Sleep Food Working Out Easy way out Has no clue on what depression is, and most likely have just learned shit like that from watching school videos about having a social life.[/QUOTE] Listen to this guy. Particularly about the parts which don't work. Anyone who suggests easy shit as a way to get out is full of shit. I would recommend discovering a true passion, such as (as has already been recommended) learning a musical instrument, or taking up drawing or art (good because it gets you out too). Also, I agree with prop_dynamic about the talking part. Talking with your friends about it is important, but don't expect it to truly help you. You'll feel lighter and maybe things will make a bit more sense, but it's akin to changing your perspective on something. It may look different, maybe even better, but it's still there, exactly as it was

Shove shit like glass jars up yer ass.

Friends help a lot, not so you can tell all your problems, but so that you can do fun things with eachother. I have been depressed once and I quickly got rid of it after I made some new friends. You can call weed wrong all you like, but in my case it did help. But you should probably not do it because it's probably illegal.

Being busy doesn't seem to help because at best that appears to be a distraction, a band-aid on a big wound. Sure I'm much more stable when I'm active, and when there are people I know and trust around, or when I'm at their houses, it's not so bad at all, but I have developed a distaste for going to sleep because that means I have a 30 minute gap where I can do nothing but think. And thinking is the last thing I want to do. I've taken to taking an assload of sleeping pills every night so I'm asleep within 2 minutes of my head hitting the pillow.

[QUOTE=Cluckyx;25294767]Hello Dr Facepunch In my life, as of recent, various shit has gone down. What that is, is not important. I'm not here to blog. What I am here to ask is how you dig yourself out of that hole once you realise that you can't get out by yourself. I figure that Facepunch has more than it's fair share of emotionally unstable twenty year olds, and I am sure that people have also found ways to deal with it. What I thought was something that would initially just go away, has become something that rules my life. It's been nearly a month now of sleeping 13-14 hours a day straight, horrible dreams and intense paranoia to the point where I hesitate to answer the door and the telephone. I'm not here for pity or any of that shit. I'm not here to share my story, but minds tend to work in a similar. Way, you guys must have some hints to at least get me to the point where I can start actually doing things to improve my life. So proceed to call me a faggot and to just cheer up, even if 1 in 10 people answer with a legitimate answer, then something useful should arise. [editline]08:35PM[/editline] Obligatory [b] Kill yourself [/b] snipe post. [i]Kill yourself[/i][/QUOTE] Try to do the normal stuff (go out, go to school, ... ). You'll still have crap moments, but less. If you let it take everything over, it'll only get worse. Force yourself to a routine, don't abandon your social life. Talk with people about it (people with a positive attitude). Also do a physical activity. [B]Edit:[/B] wow that's almost what everyone says, didn't even read the thread...

Exercise and work out. Listen to music. Soothes the soul, man.

[QUOTE=BrQ;25296241]Friends help a lot, not so you can tell all your problems, but so that you can do fun things with eachother. I have been depressed once and I quickly got rid of it after I made some new friends. You can call weed wrong all you like, but in my case it did help. But you should probably not do it because it's probably illegal.[/QUOTE]I wouldn't recommend weed to someone who suffers from chronic paranoia. THC can agitate paranoid behaviour. Besides, if you need weed to have fun, there's something wrong with you. OP, you should try making a list of everything you want to do right now. Make friends, go to a party, be more sociable, have an epic adventure, whatever you want to do. Every day, dedicate yourself to doing one item on the list. Prioritise that one thing. Once you do something on the list, cross it off and work on the next one.

Im gonna assume this depression involves a girl or that someone died. Fair assumption? Well im gonna go off this. As artzeponozae said, music. Music heals. Also, a positive attitude makes all the difference. You can get through anything bro.