How To Be Confident - General

[hd]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Tk82hEHNnY[/hd] i know i'm posting another school of life vid (i wont post anymore, promise <3) but holy fuck this SPEAKS to me

What's wrong with posting school of life? I love their videos

i posted another just before and seems like people didn't like it, don't want people think i'm spamming

I found this to be true working as an EMT. The more I realized that I am an idiot, the more confident I became going into demanding situations.

"Get messy! Make mistakes!" (Honestly though, I've taken up this philosophy back in HS and its been healthy. Especially when you can laugh at yourself in hindsight.)

It's easier said than done

The visuals are really really good.

i just realized that i already do reaffirm myself that i might fuck up or look stupid when doing new things. it helps shrug off embarassment so much easier and improves confidence, plus people are usually naturally empathetic anyway

[QUOTE=rampageturke 2;51846669]It's easier said than done[/QUOTE] Definitely, I've come to realize just how anxious I am about making mistakes and about mistakes that I made, I distinctly recall this one moment in my life where I tried to shake the hand of a quadriplegic person. I didn't know this person was quadriplegic, I for whatever reason expected that since he was on a wheelchair that he could move his arms so I insisted with my hand outstretched, and even though only one person, with whom I don't talk to anymore watched that unfold and has probably long forgotten about it, I still, to this day, remain horribly embarrassed about that, and reminisce it every other day despite it happening years ago.

The person who made this video is dumb.

More to the point than shrugging off failure as inevitable, is that failure teaches you just as much as success does; not trying is how you fail to learn.

this really made me think. thanks for sharing! it's just at the right time for me to watch and what i've been through lately. i hate growing up

[QUOTE=dds98;51846837]The person who made this video is dumb.[/QUOTE] [del]lmao what why[/del] lmao nvm

[QUOTE=343N;51847224]lmao what why[/QUOTE] I think he's joking about the content of the video. People are imbeciles.

This explains why when I'm sleep deprived I'm more confident Too tired to give a shit I guess

[QUOTE=Saxon;51847284]This explains why when I'm sleep deprived I'm more confident Too tired to give a shit I guess[/QUOTE] it's weird for me. as I get more tired i get less and less confident, then once I hit a certain threshold my brain is too tired to think about things deeply, and ontop of that, i justify my idiocy by saying 'i am a walking zombie, if i do anything stupid, i can blame my tiredness for it'

[QUOTE=rampageturke 2;51846669]It's easier said than done[/QUOTE] That's how you convince yourself it is, not letting go of your own ego. This is coming from a person, who at the age of 15 was horrified of even thinking to attempt to talk to store consultants. If you never fall, then how come will you know how to stand back up? [editline]20th February 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=bitches;51846891]More to the point than shrugging off failure as inevitable, is that failure teaches you just as much as success does; not trying is how you fail to learn.[/QUOTE] Exactly. An incorrect/wrong result is still a result.

[QUOTE=bitches;51846891]More to the point than shrugging off failure as inevitable, is that failure teaches you just as much as success does; [/QUOTE] Sorry, but thats just plain out not true. You learn way more from your successes then from your mistakes. When you make a mistake, at best you may learn how to not do something. When you do something right, you learn how to do it. Mistakes are a resource drain, and they can have consequences that can't be easily fixed (or like, at all). All this Edison bullshit about how he "invented a 1000 ways not to construct a lightbulb" is just pure feelgood propaganda and should not be taken seriously.

[QUOTE=WhyNott;51848865]Sorry, but thats just plain out not true. You learn way more from your successes then from your mistakes. When you make a mistake, at best you may learn how to not do something. When you do something right, you learn how to do it. Mistakes are a resource drain, and they can have consequences that can't be easily fixed (or like, at all). All this Edison bullshit about how he "invented a 1000 ways not to construct a lightbulb" is just pure feelgood propaganda and should not be taken seriously.[/QUOTE] You're treating failure and success as a binary thing, failure and success are hardly binary in the real world and something that may be considered a failure with the initial goal in mind, might be a success seen in a different context or applied to something else. Failure also teaches you things that you can apply later on when helping others, not to mention developing an understanding for the future in how to recognise things going down the wrong track. Of course this isn't always true and failure is sometimes just failure, but I find people often justify not doing something simply because they think they *might fail*, ending up doing nothing at all and not even exploring the possibilities.

[QUOTE=WhyNott;51848865]Sorry, but thats just plain out not true. You learn way more from your successes then from your mistakes. When you make a mistake, at best you may learn how to not do something. When you do something right, you learn how to do it. Mistakes are a resource drain, and they can have consequences that can't be easily fixed (or like, at all). All this Edison bullshit about how he "invented a 1000 ways not to construct a lightbulb" is just pure feelgood propaganda and should not be taken seriously.[/QUOTE] i disagree with you, like, a lot. in my opinion, dealing with mistakes optimizes your workflow. they're negative, yes, hence the meaning of "mistake", but they aren't exactly useless or restraining. besides, really, you're seeing it from a terribly pessimistic point of view. there's a human account you're not evaluating when you say stuff like that. if you don't make the best out of shitty situations, then man you're in for a ride. imagine a human who's never made a mistake in their life. maybe that's an interesting philosophical scenario. some people condemn themselves over little social slip-ups they've made during high school or whatever, while others wouldn't see that as something impactful, but would be damned by other mistakes they've made, more literal ones. like screwing up at a speech or something. like, i don't really get your point. are you saying we should avoid mistakes? i mean, obviously we should lol. nobody wants to fuck up all the time. but it's mostly impossible to predict when you're about to fuck up, so aaaa, why the fuck did i spend so much time writing this i need to get back to work. the fear of making mistakes dread people so much that sometimes it can really get in the way of progress towards new achievements or whatever. for instance, sometimes i feel like if game developers didn't have such a wimpy mindset of "uuu maybe workin on a game like diz will affect my salez" we would have more groundbreaking games instead of the stale, same-y garbage we content ourselves with. [editline]20th February 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Profanwolf;51848933]preach[/QUOTE] aye.

My argument is that while we should learn from oir mistakes if we do end up making them, we should rely more on analizing our successes in finding out what is the correct course of a action. If you make a bad painting it might be beneficial to see what you did wrong, but it will always be more beneficial if you make a good painting somehow and then see what you did right because then you can just do it again to end up with another nice painting. (This is just an example, I know nothing about painting.) Of course, you will probably fail several times before you succeed for the first time, but the profit from doing so in terms of experience for future attempts will be higher then from those failrules.

So... in short, Embrace the #YOLO? [QUOTE=WhyNott;51849027]My argument is that while we should learn from oir mistakes if we do end up making them, we should rely more on analizing our successes in finding out what is the correct course of a action. If you make a bad painting it might be beneficial to see what you did wrong, but it will always be more beneficial if you make a good painting somehow and then see what you did right because then you can just do it again to end up with another nice painting. (This is just an example, I know nothing about painting.) Of course, you will probably fail several times before you succeed for the first time, but the profit from doing so in terms of experience for future attempts will be higher then from those failrules.[/QUOTE] This does fall into a cycle of sort. Latching onto a success formula will end up shunning alternatives and thus, furthers the fear of failing. Of course, it is not to say that we should AIM for failure, but to treat fails as part of success. Gosh, this is what the survivor bias talks have taught me.

[QUOTE=WhyNott;51849027]My argument is that while we should learn from oir mistakes if we do end up making them, we should rely more on analizing our successes in finding out what is the correct course of a action. If you make a bad painting it might be beneficial to see what you did wrong, but it will always be more beneficial if you make a good painting somehow and then see what you did right because then you can just do it again to end up with another nice painting. (This is just an example, I know nothing about painting.) Of course, you will probably fail several times before you succeed for the first time, but the profit from doing so in terms of experience for future attempts will be higher then from those failrules.[/QUOTE] No. They're both equally important, because one without the other would render them both pointless to the goal you're trying to achieve. Think of it as water. Part hydrogen, part oxygen, both coming together to form one of the most basic building blocks of life.

I'm a fool! I'm an idiot! *poops on carpet* wheeeeeee kiss me ladies

[QUOTE=Downsider;51849099]I'm a fool! I'm an idiot! *poops on carpet* wheeeeeee kiss me ladies[/QUOTE] Well it works for dogs

[QUOTE=LSK;51849085]No. They're both equally important, because one without the other would render them both pointless to the goal you're trying to achieve. Think of it as water. Part hydrogen, part oxygen, both coming together to form one of the most basic building blocks of life.[/QUOTE] What is that even supposed to mean? Of course, without the concept of a failure success wouldnt exist either, but what does that has to do with anything? Without pain there would be no pleasure, but it doesnt mean theres anythig great about stepping on a lego brick.

[QUOTE=Big Bang;51846830]I distinctly recall this one moment in my life where I tried to shake the hand of a quadriplegic person.[/QUOTE] lmao

I've come to the conclusion that all of these videos culminate to, "Don't worry. Everyone is an idiot. You're only human. So are they, so is he, so is she." [editline]20th February 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Matlas;51849279]I've come to the conclusion that all of these videos culminate to, "Don't worry. Everyone is an idiot. Everyone has flaws. You're only human. So are they, so is he, so is she."[/QUOTE]

I have applied this to my actual job and it has made my work noticeably easier than in the past. I even tell it to new hires when I have to get them trained up. Don't feel bad about making mistakes, don't feel embarrased. We are all fallable. We all fuck up. The trick is to learn from it, and in many cases how quickly you can recover from said fuck up, if and when you do. I've got a long way to go in the social department however. But you know, baby steps and all that.

I've got to thank Facepunch for making me better at dealing with my own embarrassing social mistakes and learning how to be a more valuable poster from them. Without FP I wouldn't have learned to listen to criticism without taking it personally.