My Dad and Indiana - General

So I sort of wanted to get this off my chest because it's been bothering me. My dad owes money to Dearborn County in Indiana and has to pay it every year. Last year, he paid it ($3000), but they still had a warrant on him and he went to jail for 40 days because the state decided to take their time with verifying that the money was there before sending it to where it should've been. While he was there, he had health issues and had to go to the hospital. He could've died there. They also had him pay $500 for a court-appointed lawyer (you know, the free one you're supposed to get if you can't afford one). Well, he paid it again this year (he wasn't backed up so he only paid like $600), but again, he had to verify it. However, he was worried about his infected, swollen leg more than anything else at the time and missed the court date (last Tuesday) because he had forgotten. The doctor he went to for his leg didn't give him the right stuff because it never helped. It took him till this Tuesday to go to a different doctor where he recieved antibiotics (what I would imagine would be the first thing a competent doctor would give a patient with an infected leg). He told me his leg felt better afterwards, but there was still the issue with missing the court date. So, since he missed the court date to verify that the money was there (he had already paid it and they already had the money, he just had to verify it), a warrant was put on him. He called both of his probation officers (one for Indiana and one for Ohio) to see what he should do. They both told him to not worry about it and to turn himself in this Tuesday (yesterday). My mom told him the same thing. This didn't keep him from being deathly worried about it. The days leading up to Tuesday were some of the worst I've ever seen of my dad. He was constantly worried about any noises and told both me and my sister to not answer the doors at any time (because of the warrant). Me and my sister are the only ones here, so I think that helped a little bit, but he was still worried sick. On Monday night, when he was to go to Indiana (it's a 2 hour drive and he had to be there by 5 am), I stayed in there with him and tried to keep him company until he went to sleep. He was scared, more scared than I've ever seen. I woke him up later, but he didn't stay awake and woke up too late. So, he stayed home and didn't turn himself in. He was worried about it all day and didn't even know if he could do it. He kept telling me that they were going to screw him over with a $500 bond or keep him for 30 days. I kept trying to comfort him, telling him that they didn't have a reason to do that, that he had already paid the money he owed. He was still worried about it. We took the car and drove to the store and just sat in the parking lot because he didnt' feel safe to be at home. While we were out, my mom called and was yelling at him because he didn't go. He was making him feel stupid. I heard it all and at one point, I had to get out of the car or I'd end up throwing the phone somewhere. I still can't believe she acted like that towards him knowing how bad he feels. She even told him that she isn't worried about him, just that if the car will make it to Indiana intact. I told him to go tonight and to get it over with. So, when he went to sleep, I stayed in there to keep him company. This moment was the worst I've ever seen him. He talked about how he didn't know why he had to suffer with all of this and about wanting the relief of death. I kept trying to comfort him telling him that it'll be alright. He told me he didn't want to go, but I told him to go and get it over with, that there's nothing to worry about. So, I wake him up at 1 am and he leaves at 2:30 am. I take this time to sleep. He told me he was supposed to be there at 5 am to get processed and put in a holding cell (he's been in jail many times and says that this was the worst jail he's ever seen; even the air was sickening) until 9 or 10, when the judge would see him. After that, he would be able to call my mom (but not me, because they only give you a 2 minute phonecall every month, unless you pay their grossly overpriced fee for 3 7-minute extra phonecalls). Well, he called my mom and told her what's up. When I woke up, my sister told me that my mom had called. They gave him a $500 bond and he'll have to stay there till my mom gets paid this Friday. He's still sick with his infected, swollen leg, and he knew that this would happen. I told him to go anyway and to not worry about it. I feel bad about that. I won't even be able to talk to him. So that's it. I hope my mom pays the bond, but the way she's done him before (tried to take me and my brother and sister and literally leave with the money my dad gave her while he was in jail) (trying to divorce him while he was in jail), I'm not sure if she will. This is one of the worst situations I've seen my dad in and it hurts me because he's the person I love the most in this world.

Kudos to you Supporting your Dad in such a hard time.

That's sounds like a really shitty situation, and I hope your dad's situation improves

Good thing he has a supporting child, man. And good on you. What did he owe the money for, though? Also this: [quote]they only give you a 2 minute phonecall every month, unless you pay their grossly overpriced fee for 3 7-minute extra phonecalls).[/quote] This is fucking disgusting.

[QUOTE=Mr MP;45074354]Good thing he has a supporting child, man. And good on you. What did he owe the money for, though? Also this: This is fucking disgusting.[/QUOTE] He never told me why and I never thought to ask

He had a right to be scared. Any jail is a scary place. It's like being someone with extreme anxiety in the middle of a bunch of people you don't know. Except all the people are criminals. Not a fun place, and very stressful dealing with any of it. Props to him for dealing with it, and to you for supporting him.

I can relate to you OP. My brother was in an accident in Florida and he was not at fault. He was still cited for changing between two lanes too quickly. Basically, he sent the money off to pay the fine and it took so long for them to review it that they assumed he didn't pay it. They revoked his driver's license, which is ironic because he's a flight instructor and has multi-engine type ratings, etc. There is something severely fucked up about our government. I'm starting to think that the states have way too much power and that we should return to having a stronger central government. Money is truly starting to own people, and that is not how mankind should be. Seriously, have you ever thought about the morals of having to pay ridiculous fines and court costs? Shouldn't the court already be paid for through taxes? Shouldn't the court be a civil service to even law breakers? Think about it. You end up paying a guy to represent you in a case that you are paying for just so you can be convicted and pay a fine or be sentenced. It's just odd to me that you are basically punished through court costs for representing yourself or through another.

So, my grandma actually went and bonded him out. He said that she (the judge) didn't even do what he was originally meant to be there for and instead just gave him a $500 bond and sent him off to jail. What he was originally there for was moved to July 1. As for the being scared for jail thing, my dad has been in jail plenty of times before for minor stuff and he was never this scared. I think this was a different situation to any he'd encountered before.

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he's lucky to have you

child molesters get better conditions than this. what the fuck is wrong with this world?