[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNsI9fihzm8[/media]
As somebody who organizes weekly events on a local level, this hits right at home.
Fuckin' Optimizers are the worst people on this god damned ball of rock we call earth. The whole "I'll go if X goes" mentality that ends up making your entire plan hinge on if one person coming or not, because X will only come if Y comes, and Y is only gonna come along to be with Z, but Z won't come if B is there and A is not, but A really wants to go 'cause she loves hanging out with Y.
[QUOTE=Riller;44940026]Fuckin' Optimizers are the worst people on this god damned ball of rock we call earth. The whole "I'll go if X goes" mentality that ends up making your entire plan hinge on if one person coming or not, because X will only come if Y comes, and Y is only gonna come along to be with Z, but Z won't come if B is there and A is not, but A really wants to go 'cause she loves hanging out with Y.[/QUOTE]Guilty. Sometimes(all the time) there are people I want to go with and if they're not going, neither will I.
Though I don't see what any of what he mentions has to do with cellphones. It was exactly the same on stationary phones or even before then. Just most of the time you'd say same stuff face to face. Unless it's about being late, then you obviously can't even contact the person.
[QUOTE=Riller;44940026]Fuckin' Optimizers are the worst people on this god damned ball of rock we call earth. The whole "I'll go if X goes" mentality that ends up making your entire plan hinge on if one person coming or not, because X will only come if Y comes, and Y is only gonna come along to be with Z, but Z won't come if B is there and A is not, but A really wants to go 'cause she loves hanging out with Y.[/QUOTE]
I kinda do this. Only about strangers, I don't like going places where I won't know most people, and I don't like strangers coming over to my home.
I don't even bother ever organising something, as this video shows it's too difficult and sometimes doesn't work. I've found the best parties are the ones organised few hours in advance. You don't have to deal with people not showing up or optimising too much.
[I]"Now, all of this might seem really rude, annoying or just plain shitty. And that's because it is."[/I] - [B]*Ends*[/B]
Fucking pure gold right there.
i have to tell you guys something
im an optimizer
or atleast i was when i lived in bakersfield
So anyway, I'm having a LAN party on Saturday. I have one person confirmed so far...
Ooh and it was originally on Friday.
I optimized a lot before I realised i was one of those people other people planned out from, depending if I came or not. So I am more of a facilitator between people who don't know each other and those who don't.
I'm the kind of guy who kind of gets excited if plans get cancelled but I get extremely annoyed if someone is late.
I'm an occasional optimizer. No shame.
That's why making plans over voice is more solid, you be firm and direct with whoever you're asking and the plans become more set in stone (Or alteast removes the flakes), than with texting
Dont know if it was just me but dem biceps doe
I'm the guy who is excited that something's going to happen but then maybe 1 or 2 people say they can't come and for some reason this causes the whole thing to get cancelled, even though 10-20 people would still come. This has happened several times and now I'm a pessimistic cunt about these things.
[QUOTE=LoneWolf_Recon;44940843]That's why making plans over voice is more solid, you be firm and direct with whoever you're asking and the plans become more set in stone (Or alteast removes the flakes), than with texting[/QUOTE]
Too bad I have too many people who tell me when I do call them to talk to them via SMS or Hangouts or Skype or What's App or Facebook Messenger. AND WHEN YOU DO, they are not online and/or don't respond right after the call. You could have told me you're busy when I was on the phone with you just a minute ago. Planning stuff on Facebook is pretty solid since everyone seems to have Facebook but not everyone (like myself) have mobile data so we can't check if who is going or not on the go without Internet access, if they are late, switching plans, bringing more people along, etc.
Always keep events private because if it's public, too much people show up. Or people bring along other people and what was once a small 10 person post-event party becomes a 30-group and the restaurant isn't big enough or doesn't have space for 30 people and the whole meet-up breaks apart.
I've had y people not go because x person is going (a.k.a. they hate x). It's awkward as fuck for me because I want to chill with y and x but x and y won't get along.
[QUOTE=Hole;44940666]i have to tell you guys something
im an optimizer
or atleast i was when i lived in bakersfield[/QUOTE]
was it only when you lived in bakersfield
what if we made plans in the next town over while you currently lived in bakersfield? Would it negate the location integer, or just increase the difficulty as it was basically "bakersfield and-then-some" away at that point
[QUOTE=Beafman;44940717]I optimized a lot before I realised i was one of those people other people planned out from, depending if I came or not. So I am more of a facilitator between people who don't know each other and those who don't.[/QUOTE]
I'm usually the catalyst other people decide from, so if I'm organizing thing most will be happy with coming. Just have to watch out for people who don't agree with each other
I go out whenever there's an invite because I'm just happy people want me around.
Have you ever had two events on the same night, so you go to the shit one first and then the better one later. Douchery 101
This video is funny, but it is also true as fuck.
I hate this fucking shit.
[QUOTE=hullmar;44940902]Dont know if it was just me but dem biceps doe[/QUOTE]
caught ya mirin'
[QUOTE=dai;44941660]was it only when you lived in bakersfield
what if we made plans in the next town over while you currently lived in bakersfield? Would it negate the location integer, or just increase the difficulty as it was basically "bakersfield and-then-some" away at that point
[/QUOTE]Well, yeah, it was just in Bakersfield, only reason is because I left all my old friends back there, and now I have nothing to do up here. :v:
[QUOTE=garychencool;44941512]Too bad I have too many people who tell me when I do call them to talk to them via SMS or Hangouts or Skype or What's App or Facebook Messenger. AND WHEN YOU DO, they are not online and/or don't respond right after the call. You could have told me you're busy when I was on the phone with you just a minute ago. Planning stuff on Facebook is pretty solid since everyone seems to have Facebook but not everyone (like myself) have mobile data so we can't check if who is going or not on the go without Internet access, if they are late, switching plans, bringing more people along, etc.
Always keep events private because if it's public, too much people show up. Or people bring along other people and what was once a small 10 person post-event party becomes a 30-group and the restaurant isn't big enough or doesn't have space for 30 people and the whole meet-up breaks apart.
I've had y people not go because x person is going (a.k.a. they hate x). It's awkward as fuck for me because I want to chill with y and x but x and y won't get along.[/QUOTE]
I especially feel you on the last two paragraphs, I generally gave up making large plans like I did in HS due to some of my friends getting into spats with my other friends, thus the x hates y, and b hates a situation which makes things super awkward and just a pain in planning.
I like to be that one person who shows up no matter the circumstance. Earns cred yo.
Plus my life is terribly boring and I'll take any excuse to get out, especially to hang out with friends.
[QUOTE=evlbzltyr;44941981]I go out whenever there's an invite because I'm just happy people want me around.[/QUOTE]
looks like we are on the same fucking boat
Every weekend I usually have a "Boyz Nite" with all my pals, and I'm always the guy who has to bring up the fact that we're meeting up that weekend. I post in our Facebook group and then like one guy says "sounds good" and no one else responds. I'm not sure if they can go and just didn't bother to reply, or if they aren't going and don't want to tell me, or something else. I always have to make another post in the group that's like "so... is anyone actually coming?"
[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44943574]Every weekend I usually have a "Boyz Nite" with all my pals, and I'm always the guy who has to bring up the fact that we're meeting up that weekend. I post in our Facebook group and then like one guy says "sounds good" and no one else responds. I'm not sure if they can go and just didn't bother to reply, or if they aren't going and don't want to tell me, or something else. I always have to make another post in the group that's like "so... is anyone actually coming?"[/QUOTE]
You could try to do Skype group chats/calls.
[QUOTE=Rastadogg;44942390]I like to be that one person who shows up no matter the circumstance. Earns cred yo.
Plus my life is terribly boring and I'll take any excuse to get out, especially to hang out with friends.[/QUOTE]
I pretty much try to go to any event I can get into. I have a boring ass life according to my school friends. I don't go out much. I wonder why...
I get left out of stuff all the time with my school friends :v: stuff like going to starbucks, lunch, dinner on the weekends, movies, malls, etc. they don't invite me to shit. It's evident especially when they make no effort to include me into their prom table or limo (which is happening in less than a month..) or any other event where they know I'm included. I guess I'm that guy that almost never gets invited to stuff. Or maybe it's because that circle of friends has no space for me and all that.
I find it infinitely weird that I have friends from somewhere else, not from school, that no one else knows but me, that chat and have so far went out with me way more often that my school friends. Like I'd expect myself to go to the movies with my school friends by now after 4 years of high school that's almost done but nope, other friends went to the movies with me before them. And they saw tens of movies with each other without me.
Oh well, it's just that school circle of friends that doesn't seem to connect with me outside of school. It doesn't really matter now anyways. I have other circle of school friends that seem to go to the same events as I do such as anime cons, car shows and whatnot. Then friends that no one else knows that go to more cons, events and stuff. So all in all, if you feel left out of your friends, find more friends and you'll have more fun with different circle of friends for specific functions than others.
I don't have friends so I don't fall under any of these categories
all 3 :(
i invite people to things and they come but people don't invite me to things it seems :(
although i just realized 90% any of my friends seem to talk about things they did it was at my house so i guess they just don't do things either
[QUOTE=garychencool;44944639]I pretty much try to go to any event I can get into. I have a boring ass life according to my school friends. I don't go out much. I wonder why...
I get left out of stuff all the time with my school friends :v: stuff like going to starbucks, lunch, dinner on the weekends, movies, malls, etc. they don't invite me to shit. It's evident especially when they make no effort to include me into their prom table or limo (which is happening in less than a month..) or any other event where they know I'm included. I guess I'm that guy that almost never gets invited to stuff. Or maybe it's because that circle of friends has no space for me and all that.
I find it infinitely weird that I have friends from somewhere else, not from school, that no one else knows but me, that chat and have so far went out with me way more often that my school friends. Like I'd expect myself to go to the movies with my school friends by now after 4 years of high school that's almost done but nope, other friends went to the movies with me before them. And they saw tens of movies with each other without me.
Oh well, it's just that school circle of friends that doesn't seem to connect with me outside of school. It doesn't really matter now anyways. I have other circle of school friends that seem to go to the same events as I do such as anime cons, car shows and whatnot. Then friends that no one else knows that go to more cons, events and stuff. So all in all, if you feel left out of your friends, find more friends and you'll have more fun with different circle of friends for specific functions than others.[/QUOTE]
This was me. Now that I'm out of school though, of the 4 friends I have left, 3 of them only have like 2 other friends as well, so we invite each other to pretty much everything. It's just, we don't do much anymore.
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