[B]FINAL EDIT: I talked to the cop today. He talked to her and told me she said that she wouldn't bother me again. No arrest or anything. And sadly, I can't get a restraining order due to lack of evidence of what she did. Anyways, thanks for all the help guys.
[/B]* Sorry this is so long, but if I made a short version for those who say tl;dr you wouldn't understand it. For those who read the whole thing and give a nice, honest answer thank you.
Well first of all let me start off by saying that my friends and I go with the idea that just because two people of the same sex hug, it doesn't mean there is any feeling/love between them and that it doesn't make them gay (should be common sense).
So I hug this dude who is a really good friend of mine, and he has a girlfriend. I thought everything was cool, but last Thursday I heard she was mad and was looking for something large to shove up my ass. I was like," Uh-oh," but for the most part considered it just a little joke.
Come last Saturday (3 days ago as of this posting) my friend and his girlfriend drive me to my other friend's house. We hang out there for a whole while, and without having hugged my friend in a while (I don't keep track of when we hug because I don't care, but the girlfriend apparently does) and she is [I]fucking pissed[/I]. I got in the car and said a friendly "Hi" and she didn't respond. She constantly kept saying she was going to "pop a cap" in my ass using one of her boyfriend's guns in his house, and moved the seat she was sitting in back so I couldn't move (She was riding shotgun, I was sitting behind her). Then she's like," Die! Die! Die!"
Now right then I was just laughing thinking it was trivial. I mean she wouldn't shoot me over this, and the "Die!" thing sounded funny. I dismissed it as nothing, just her being weird until we got in the house when she went fucking insane.
[I]Note: The following attacks I'm mentioning aren't in order, I just know they got more violent over time.[/I]
We got in there, and over two hours or so (it seemed like it, it lasted forever) she started attacking me. She scratched me, twisted my nipple (Guys here should know this can hurt like fucking hell if done right, which she did it right), took off her shoe and started hitting me with it (arms, legs, I THINK the face but not sure), threatened to shoot me in the ass, threatened to shove a knife up my ass, stabbed me with a screwdriver and a pencil, and slapped me in the face twice. When I grabbed her hand to stop her from stabbing me, she would try to bite me. She even tried punching me in the groin twice (missed and hit my dick).
By now I'm freaking out. I'm pretty sure she's serious. I mean no one fucks around with people by stabbing them with a screwdriver and trying to punch their balls (some guys sack-tap, we know but this wasn't anything funny). So now I'm worried.
I went to my School Resource Officer yesterday, and he said he would call her up and talk to her (They SROs are cops who are just put in our school; They are REAL cops not just like security guards at the mall. They have badges, car, guns, etc. etc.). But I was never called up so I went to him today and asked what happened (For something like this, I'm REALLY sure they'd want me to talk about it with her in there). He says that he can't find her and wondered if she was at school yesterday (Monday), and I said she was. He said he'd try to find her today and that he hasn't forgotten about the thing and showed me a note he had written down with our names on it (So he knew who to ask for). As of this post, I haven't been called up and I doubt she has either.
However, today in my 7th period she came up to my computer and looked down at it from behind to get my attention. I ignored her (after the shit she pulled who wouldn't?). She tilted the monitor back a little. I ignored her. She did it more and I kept ignoring, then she left. She didn't seem mad or anything, and I THINK she might've calmed down and wants to apologize or something (even though she didn't say it so I don't think she was as I would've said it whether I thought the person I was apologizing to was ignoring me or not). So FINALLY, having read all this back story can come my question.
Since I think she has calmed down, should I still have the SRO call her up? I REALLY want to get a restraining order against this bitch, whether or not she was playing around (she might say it) or if she wasn't but has now calmed down. I look at it in two ways.
1. She was playing around and took it too far. I think that even with this excuse she might make (whether it's true or not), if she was just playing around it's HER FAULT for taking it so far. E.X. If you are just playing around with a friend of yours and say, you push him into the road when a car is coming even if you don't mean anything by it you have to be WITHIN REASON of a joke. If you go too far it's YOUR fault, because at some point everyone will honestly believe you're trying to hurt them.
2. She was really mad, but isn't now. This is something I think she would say too, but the problem here is, "What if she gets mad again and tries to hurt me with a knife or a gun?" She seems to get mad a lot, and my friend said that as a friend he put his hand on her shoulder and she flipped out and got mad at him.
All I really want is for her to leave me alone now, whether she was joking or not and I want a restraining order. If this is the problem I described in #2, perhaps if I did this they could give her a psychological test? If she just calmed down it's not normal to get that mad at someone, and I would feel better if she just left me alone.
So with the given information what do you all think? Should I drop it or press forward for the restraining order (if possible), or at least have them talk to her about it? Remember, that bitch tried stabbing me with a fucking screwdriver)
Thanks,
ChrisLovesSAW
EDIT: Forgot to mention I have no marks, but two witnesses. Problem is, one of them wasn't paying much attention so he might be able to honestly say he didn't see anything (like the screwdriver attack) and the other is her boyfriend. I've heard police interrogation should get her to admit it but still, it makes me wonder if I'd be able to get her in trouble/get a restraining order.
EDIT 2: Forgot to mention something else. I told her that it wasn't a gay hug and that it meant nothing; Just a hug between friends. Her reply: "Oh... I still hate you." Then she continued doing the shit I mentioned above.
Get the restraining order. She sounds like a psyco bitch.
Get this bitch on some meds.
If she attacks you again fuck her up
Other computer monitors can tilt too.
Punch the bitch right in the face
[QUOTE=Captain Lawlrus;20788219]If she attacks you again fuck her up[/QUOTE]
Yeah but then people would either fuck me up, or I'd get suspended from school (where I mostly see her). Plus it could get ME in a lawsuit, which I don't want.
Still, nice (and funny) advice.
And how the hell is everyone reading this so fast? I know this forum is full of awesome people but still..
[QUOTE=mpntball2012;20788225]Other computer monitors can tilt too.[/QUOTE]
This.
fuck her
Jesus fuck, what a fucking psycho.
From this I can determine that she:
1. Is overprotective of her boyfriend
2. Feel you might be gay and you want to steal her boyfriend
3. Has a short temper for everything
4. Is black or latino
5. is a fucking psychopath bitch and you should stay away from her.
How old are you...
Bitch slap her until she makes you a sandwich and shuts the fuck up.
Kill her with her own liver.
You guys aren't answering the question. I mean your responses are funny and all but I'd like some more serious ones. [B]Should I press forward and have the cop deal with her, or just hope she gets over it and doesn't get mad again?[/B] And I'm 17, high school senior, and I am not taking this shit from this crazy, psycho bitch.
She's also white, gets mad a lot, and she DOES think I'm gay but like I said: I told her it wasn't a gay hug or anything and she just said," Oh... I still hate you."
[QUOTE=KingKombat;20788394]Jesus fuck, what a fucking psycho.
From this I can determine that she:
1. Is overprotective of her boyfriend
2. Feel you might be gay and you want to steal her boyfriend
3. Has a short temper for everything
[B]4. Is black or latino[/B]
5. is a fucking psychopath bitch and you should stay away from her.[/QUOTE]
not racist or anything
Kill her, literally sweep your friend off his feet and walk away towards the sunset, kissing him passionately.
Call the cops. If worst comes to worst, *nothing will happen.
( *Nothing meaning what would happen if you did not do anything under these circumstances)
Well thanks OogalaBoogal, PrismatexV8, and Doug52392. I'll have the cop find her tomorrow for sure.
What about my advice?
I'd personally wait until she does something else,
but then again... judging from your first meeting I think you should call the police on her ass.
Wait, she attacked you because you HUGGED YOUR FRIEND? Does she not hug anyone but her boyfriend? Seriously, this girl is insane. Personally, I would just avoid her whenever possible and have someone else around if you're hanging out with her. I don't think it's serious enough to pursue calling the police, but it wouldn't be crazy if you did.
Press forward, but make sure you don't look weak/like your trying to stand up for being gay (I know you're not gay, but it could look like you're gay to her because she might think you're going after her for harassing you because you came off as gay to her). Do your absolute BEST at ignoring her or not getting in to any violent conflicts with her. Last thing you need on your record is assault.
[QUOTE=Tarana;20789927]Wait, she attacked you because you HUGGED YOUR FRIEND? Does she not hug anyone but her boyfriend? Seriously, this girl is insane. Personally, I would just avoid her whenever possible and have someone else around if you're hanging out with her. I don't think it's serious enough to pursue calling the police, but it wouldn't be crazy if you did.[/QUOTE]
Nope. Only hugs her boyfriend. And if I got a restraining order, she would back the fuck off even if I was with her boyfriend (hanging out, playing Xbox, etc. etc.) and she was there. I'm not going to attack her ([I]I[/I] could get in trouble, so please stop suggesting it) and I think the police is the best idea.
Like I said. First time she stabbed me with the screwdriver. If she gets mad again, she could be near a better weapon like a knife or even the gunsafe her boyfriend has. Therefore, I'm just going to press on and guide the cop to her tomorrow (I know what hall she's in for 1st period).
[QUOTE=NO ONE;20790080]Press forward, but make sure you don't look weak/like your trying to stand up for being gay (I know you're not gay, but it could look like you're gay to her because she might think you're going after her for harassing you because you came off as gay to her). Do your absolute BEST at ignoring her or not getting in to any violent conflicts with her. Last thing you need on your record is assault.[/QUOTE]
Yup. I'm pressing forward, and I'm saying it's because of all the things she did. I won't say," Because I hugged her boyfriend she's attacking me." I'm stating everything she's done, and if asked why then I'll say it was a non-gay, simply friendly hug.
Honestly, if my school's police officer doesn't do anything I'll just call the police station. I'm not giving this up.
Why don't you try to communicate to her through her boyfriend, your friend?
[QUOTE=ChrisLovesSAW;20788628]You guys aren't answering the question. I mean your responses are funny and all but I'd like some more serious ones. [B]Should I press forward and have the cop deal with her, or just hope she gets over it and doesn't get mad again?[/B] And I'm 17, high school senior, and I am not taking this shit from this crazy, psycho bitch.
She's also white, gets mad a lot, and she DOES think I'm gay but like I said: I told her it wasn't a gay hug or anything and she just said," Oh... I still hate you."[/QUOTE]
Restraining order
Is she one of the scene girls who wears a jacket that has sleves way past her hands?
If she is the I know EXACTLY what you're talking about
Lol, I just stumbled upon this by chance, Chris. (I'm the guy who's house he was at when she 'attacked' him.)
The chick IS pretty damn weird, unfortunately like he said I wasn't really paying attention so I can't back him up much, but I can say that this chick has issues.
Really hope you get this sorted, man.
EDIT:
[quote]Is she one of the scene girls who wears a jacket that has sleves way past her hands?
If she is the I know EXACTLY what you're talking about[/quote]
She's actually pretty nerdy.
What does her bf, your friend, have to say about all this anyway?
If she attacks you again you can use equal force as self defense. (If she punches you, you can legally punch her back)
If you're not afraid of this happening, just confront her and blatantly ask "Is there something you want to say?"
[QUOTE=Zeke129;20790641]If she attacks you again you can use equal force as self defense. (If she punches you, you can legally punch her back)
If you're not afraid of this happening, just confront her and blatantly ask "Is there something you want to say?"[/QUOTE]
If I attack her, her boyfriend will attack me. She doesn't want to say anything; I seriously thinks he wants to actually kill me. My dad said that people can often think of killing someone for a small thing happening to them, but that thought goes away usually after a little while. The people who wake up everyday, still angry at whatever bothers them and it doesn't stop are ones who become murderers.
This happened 3 days ago. Yesterday, 2 days afterwards, she was STILL pissed at me. So now I'm actually considering she wants/wanted to hurt/kill me. I'm not a fighting type of person. I'm peaceful. But yeah I'm definitely going to talk to the cop tomorrow. Like I said, even if she pulls that "I was just joking" bullshit (not saying she will, just might) then it's still too far. If she was mad and calmed down, she could try again. So I'm definitely aiming for a restraining order.
And no she doesn't cut herself or wear long jackets. And Fred (yeah, the guy whose house we went to), you have to have seen SOMETHING. I mean with the screwdriver, slaps in the face, groin punches, etc. etc. you can't have missed it all. You're not that much of a computer nerd =P
[Quote=Tarana;20790509]What does her bf, your friend, have to say about all this anyway?[/Quote]
Nothing. He just watched as it went on. Hell, when I grabbed her hand so she would stop he pinched the sides of my neck/top of my shoulders so it'd hurt and I'd let go. I don't think he was aware of how serious she was, or I'd be pissed at him too.
[B]EDIT: I talked to the cop today. He talked to her and told me she said that she wouldn't bother me again. No arrest or anything. And sadly, I can't get a restraining order due to lack of evidence of what she did. Anyways, thanks for all the help guys.[/B]
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