Hey guys, just need some fucking advice. Some girl who I met a few days ago has invited me out in the morning (some time soon) for a milkshake and stuff. Now, when I met her, I wasn't nervous, it was all good, but that's because my mates are around. Thing is, she has invited just me out and I don't know how to not act fucking nervous or awkward...
She's really cool and we have a lot in common, I just don't wanna fuck this up somehow by seeming like a really weird pillock who doesn't say anything and just acts awkward. I dunno what to say to start a conversation and I don't want there to be one of those awkward silences when we hang out either.
Oh God Facepunch, if ever I needed your help, it's now. I'm shitting bricks. I want it to be alright but I've only met her once so I don't know what to talk about other than school, and that's just fucking boring.
I am seriously getting stressed out over this, because recently, all thats been on my mind is just playing games and hanging out with mates. I wasn't expecting this at all...
Now I will probably try my best and not seem awkward, but it's starting conversation. Once we get talking, the awkwardness will ease out.
Help me, please. My life up till now has been just fine playing whatever and acting nerdy with my mates. This has changed it all.
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She's really cool and we have a lot in common [/QUOTE]
She spends her days sitting around on internet forums?
But seriously, if you got stuff in common, talk about that. striking up a conversation will take some balls, but im sure she'll understand and be gratefull for that!
Don't say anything, and whatever you do don't look at her. Chicks dig assholes.
Just be yourself.
If you're nervous, don't worry about it. 98% of all nervousness is never noticed by anyone else but yourself, and that last 2% has to be looked for to spot.
Go with the flow. Think of it not as a date with a gorgeous girl, but just a get together with a new friend. You'll be fine then.
Confidence is key
Dick in a box. That is all.
You're asking [B]facepunch [/B]for [B]DATING [/B]help?
Just kidding. Like Emperor Scorpious said, be yourself, she liked you when you were "nerdy with my mates", enough to ask you out, then don't change.
[QUOTE=Emperor Scorpious II;22930966]Just be yourself.
If you're nervous, don't worry about it. 98% of all nervousness is never noticed by anyone else but yourself, and that last 2% has to be looked for to spot.
Go with the flow. Think of it not as a date with a gorgeous girl, but just a get together with a new friend. You'll be fine then.[/QUOTE]
God, if only that whole 98% of nervousness is never noticed statement was true. But yeah, I will think of it as not a date, cause technically, it isn't. But still, I'll be thinking that over and over in the back of my head...
[QUOTE=lefundoof;22931116]You're asking [B]facepunch [/B]for [B]DATING [/B]help?
Just kidding. Like Emperor Scorpious said, be yourself, she liked you when you were "nerdy with my mates", enough to ask you out, then don't change.[/QUOTE]
Not all of Facepunch consists of basement-dwellers. There are some guys who are out and about and could give some helpful advice.
[QUOTE=Luuper;22930973]Confidence is key[/QUOTE]
Got plenty of that - when I'm with mates. They are my comfort zone and we look out for each other. So if one of us cocks up and sounds like a twat, the others can either turn it into a joke or help you out. I feel comfortable round my mates, so when I was with her, it was alright. But on my own? Oh God.
Thing that makes it worse is she's gonna pick me up in her car, we're both 17 but it's embarrassing. And I'm worried I won't be able to pay for whatever she orders, so that'll be embarrassing as well, or it can just become awkward and we start arguing about who pays.
Stick in her pooper.
Kidding, kidding, I agree with Scorp.
it seems as if the only new replies you'll be getting are people making shitty jokes then saying they're just kidding and agreeing with scorpious so they don't sound like complete social retards
[QUOTE=wonkadonk;22931364]it seems as if the only new replies you'll be getting are people making shitty jokes then saying they're just kidding and agreeing with scorpious so they don't sound like complete social retards[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I caught onto that. Hope someone else other than Emperor Scorpious can help.
Honest to God I was thinking of turning her down, but I'd rather be rejected myself then rejecting a girl and causing her to feel like shit.
Thing is, I don't even think I want a relationship. But I haven't got the balls to tell this girl.
I usually look at dates this way:
The worst thing that could happen is that your trousers fall down, and that's not going to happen.
Just take it easy. She likes you. Don't fret too much about it; simply go with the flow.
With that thread title I was expecting you to be asking us what the date was.
Wrong section, love advice: [url]http://www.facepunch.com/forumdisplay.php?f=226[/url]
[QUOTE=kaffebönan;22931447]I usually look at dates this way:
The worst thing that could happen is that your trousers fall down, and that's not going to happen.
Just take it easy. She likes you. Don't fret too much about it; simply go with the flow.[/QUOTE]
Dunno why to be honest. Thing that makes it even worse is I'm growing my hair out and it's going through that constant bad-hair-day routine. OH LORD.
Ah well, just gonna have to man the fuck up and just try and be normal. If we can get out the car and just sit down in a park or something (somewhere not awkward like in a restaurant or shop or mcdonalds) then it'll be easier to talk.
Don't worry about your hair.
Looks aren't that important once you're on a date.
Looks only really matter when it comes to first impressions.
Be confident and talk, its better than sitting and looking awkward. Good luck!
[QUOTE=YoMother;22931555]she'll interpret that and come to some conclusion about you trying to rape her or something.[/QUOTE]
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Seriously, what women have you been dating? I've never encountered women that observant/presumptuous.
To be honest I don't really want this. At all. But I've already accepted, so hopefully I can do what all guys hate and make it a "friend zone". I wonder if girls get pissed off as much as guys do when it comes to that? haha
I'd rather just have her as a close mate than a girlfriend. Too many problems.
My girlfriend gave this thread a read too.
She had this to say:
"If he fucks up then it'll pass in like a week"
[QUOTE=YoMother;22931887]If you already regret doing it, you'll do horrible at the date. Be glad a girl wants to be with you or something.[/QUOTE]
It's not that I regret doing it, I'll probably make a really good friend out of this hang out. But, it's just the fact I don't want a girlfriend. I don't want the stress that comes with being in a relationship, at least not now.
Well, whatever happens happens. I'm going to bed now, might post an update tomorrow if I haven't shot myself in the face.
[quote]My girlfriend gave this thread a read too.
She had this to say:
"If he fucks up then it'll pass in like a week"[/quote]
Your girlfriend is probably right.
[QUOTE=loopoo;22931227]God, if only that whole 98% of nervousness is never noticed statement was true. But yeah, I will think of it as not a date, cause technically, it isn't. But still, I'll be thinking that over and over in the back of my head...
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[QUOTE=YoMother;22931555]Uhhh, I can tell by that statement that you're not a woman.
Because women pick up on those things. Womens brains are programmed to notice subtle changes, stuff we men don't bother with. So if you look away in a blink, she'll interpret that and come to some conclusion about you trying to rape her or something.
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That tid bit of information is right in my text book for my Speech class :v:
And, it worked perfectly for me. Sorry to hear you're not dating well :smug:
[QUOTE=loopoo;22931843]I'd rather just have her as a close mate than a girlfriend. Too many problems.[/QUOTE]
or you can be [I]friends with benefits[/I]
Rethorics, I think.
Start a conversation and ask her what things she likes
[QUOTE=YoMother;22932128]Whats speech class? A class where you learn to talk to people?[/QUOTE]
No. It's some dumb course they make most majors take at my college.
It's for teaching how to be a well public speaker. Though the course was useless, it still had some interesting information.
[QUOTE=Emperor Scorpious II;22932557]No. It's some dumb course they make most majors take at my college.
It's for teaching how to be a well public speaker. Though the course was useless, it still had some interesting information.[/QUOTE]
I know a lot of kids who had to take speech class in middle school. You know how some kids (when you were little) just spoke like a complete retard? It's to teach them how to speak without a lisp. I knew a kid who wanted a challenge, and starting talking funny on purpose, to see if they would put him in that class. He's an actor now.
[QUOTE=BlackWolf97;22933894]I know a lot of kids who had to take speech class in middle school. You know how some kids (when you were little) just spoke like a complete retard? It's to teach them how to speak without a lisp. I knew a kid who wanted a challenge, and starting talking funny on purpose, to see if they would put him in that class. He's an actor now.[/QUOTE]
I did that in elementary school. Though this class wasn't for speaking impairment, it was to teach you how to be a proper public speaker, with making speeches and such.
And another note, OP -
Don't treat her as a queen. Treat her as an equal. Women don't want to be worshiped, they want to be respected. Do that, and you will go far.
Wrong section.
With that out of the way, I think you should do as Emperor Scorpious said and not treat her like a queen, just as a respected individual. Also, for conversation, test the waters and find out what she likes.
show her your pregnancy stick
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