I'm a horrible judge of character... I need girl advice (long thread) - General

Me and this girl had been talking for several months now, and I actually thought she cared about me. But lately she's been acting like a bitch. I admit, I'm a little clingy, and I'm the kind of person who actually likes talking to their friends atleast every couple of days. But she's been distant lately, saying that she's been busy with work and school and everything. So after about a month of us barely talking, I confront her and ask her if I can talk to her about how we aren't talking. And she's always like "I don't have time to talk to you" and I respect her and her decision. Well according to her she "never" has time to talk to me. Which has got to be a lie. So I did kind of get very emotional since basically she's pretty much my closest friend and I have a crush on her, which I then told her about about a week ago. And then a couple of days ago we fought on her Facebook status, because she was talking about how her ex-boyfriend is avoiding her now. and I was like "you don't need him, he's just a douche bag, you deserve better than him" and then she defended him and said that I shouldn't judge him and then she avoided me for a while because she was mad. And now I'm starting to see her for what she truly is... She's not the amazing and nice best friend who will always be there for me. In fact, the last few times I've come to her for help, she has more or less not done much to help me. I mentioned that I was kind of having suicidal thoughts (no, I'm not depressed or anything like that, but I just had some strange thoughts recently, that I can't explain) and then she just replied to something I said earlier, seemingly not even caring that I just mentioned suicide. I really had been falling for this girl for a few months now, I mean she's nice, she's smart, she's cute, she's funny, we have similar interests, she's fun to talk to, and prior to about a month and a half ago she had always been there for me and cared about. Now that I mentioned that I liked her like last week, she completely avoided the subject. I don't think she likes me, especially not now. What should I do?

Fuck her then dump her. You're never too old to sleep around.

[QUOTE=critein_protein;29113169]Fuck her then dump her. You're never too old to sleep around.[/QUOTE] playa

I have a belief that what may seem like a "talk" for you may just be a "chat" for her. This happens a lot for regular people, where we go through small "phases" of being in a circle of friends one month, and just being distant the next month, sort of like a relationship between a temporary lab partner or a partner you are working on school project with. You need to stop obsessing over her; she is not interested, bro.

Maybe I was just "blinded by love" to see her for what she truly is.

Leave her alone. I'm a girl and I know from experience that girls act like this when they don't like you. So just let her be, she's not gonna like you even if you keep chasing her. Sorry dude, try to forget about her, she's not worth it!

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im a girl and im not a bitch like that if i don't like a guy in that way. If she's acting like that over you telling her that you like her then she's not really worth it. Look at it as a preview for if you too go out lol

She has told me many times before that she is really unhappy overall and she's felt this way for a while now. I've always been there for her when she's like this though.

She doesn't. Leave her alone, she's not worth your time. I had a girl I dated over the summer and after we were done it mainly turned into this, she complained that I was asking to hang out with her too much even though it was only once a month or so and we were literally the best of friends before that, had the same interests, took a lot of trips across the state to places like the beach, concerts, etc. It's not worth your time to think about her. I know it's hard, but you just gotta move on. Otherwise you're just dwelling on something that's never going to happen, and honestly, she doesn't seem to have interest in you or a very good character for that matter.

[QUOTE=ShivanCommander;29113141] I admit, I'm a little clingy. But she's been distant lately, saying that she's been busy with work and school and everything "I don't have time to talk to you" she defended him and said that I shouldn't judge him she has more or less not done much to help me. Now that I mentioned that I liked her like last week, she completely avoided the subject. [/QUOTE] Outlined key points for you. She doesn't like you, and she is trying to distance herself from you. And the only thing you can really do is leave her alone, and just stop talking to her. And don't tell her that you are going to stop, just do it.

[QUOTE=Nahyan;29113259]I have a belief that what may seem like a "talk" for you may just be a "chat" for her. This happens a lot for regular people, where we go through small "phases" of being in a circle of friends one month, and just being distant the next month, sort of like a relationship between a temporary lab partner or a partner you are working on school project with. You need to stop obsessing over her; she is not interested, bro.[/QUOTE] This is actually some pretty solid advice. But I'm not really obsessing over her. Just casually showing interest. And then I kind of dropped a 50 pound weight on her by telling her everything at once.

Just get over her, the more you talk to her, the more you'll want to, and the less she'll want to. The faster you get over it, the faster you can look back and laugh.

[QUOTE=ShivanCommander;29113141]-OP's post-[/QUOTE] Like a lot of people have already said here, it's not worth it. Better to just move on and stop thinking about it. Let things come to you, rather than chasing after them and waste your time and effort on it.

fuck her in the ass problem solved

[QUOTE=ShivanCommander;29113672]But I'm not really obsessing over her. Just casually showing interest. And then I kind of dropped a 50 pound weight on her by telling her everything at once.[/QUOTE] She probably sees it as obsessing, while you might not. And the 50 pound weight is pretty bad, that is probably what set her away from you.

[QUOTE=Trogdon;29113719]She probably sees it as obsessing, while you might not. And the 50 pound weight is pretty bad, that is probably what set her away from you.[/QUOTE] Well I got tired of waiting for her to get over her ex-boyfriend, who broke up with her like 5 months ago.

[QUOTE=ShivanCommander;29113808]Well I got tired of waiting for her to get over her ex-boyfriend, who broke up with her like 5 months ago.[/QUOTE] Something (relatively) traumatic happened with that, and I doubt she really [I]wanted[/I] to break up with him. So she isn't over it because she wasn't controlling it

[QUOTE=Trogdon;29113897]Something (relatively) traumatic happened with that, and I doubt she really [I]wanted[/I] to break up with him. So she isn't over it because she wasn't controlling it[/QUOTE] They weren't even that serious. She even told me that back when they actually were dating.

Suicidal thoughts, HAHAHAHAHAHAAHA She thinks you're gay.

Just grab the tube sock and that bottle of Jergens. You don't need her!

[b]Hit it and quit it[/b]. Find someone new. If she doesn't like you then find someone new to fall in love with.

op can you stop making terrible threads thanks.

[QUOTE=ShivanCommander;29113141]Me and this girl had been talking for several months now, and I actually thought she cared about me. But lately she's been acting like a bitch. I admit, I'm a little clingy, and I'm the kind of person who actually likes talking to their friends atleast every couple of days. But she's been distant lately, saying that she's been busy with work and school and everything. So after about a month of us barely talking, I confront her and ask her if I can talk to her about how we aren't talking. And she's always like "I don't have time to talk to you" and I respect her and her decision. Well according to her she "never" has time to talk to me. Which has got to be a lie. So I did kind of get very emotional since basically she's pretty much my closest friend and I have a crush on her, which I then told her about about a week ago. And then a couple of days ago we fought on her Facebook status, because she was talking about how her ex-boyfriend is avoiding her now. and I was like "you don't need him, he's just a douche bag, you deserve better than him" and then she defended him and said that I shouldn't judge him and then she avoided me for a while because she was mad. And now I'm starting to see her for what she truly is... She's not the amazing and nice best friend who will always be there for me. In fact, the last few times I've come to her for help, she has more or less not done much to help me. I mentioned that I was kind of having suicidal thoughts (no, I'm not depressed or anything like that, but I just had some strange thoughts recently, that I can't explain) and then she just replied to something I said earlier, seemingly not even caring that I just mentioned suicide. I really had been falling for this girl for a few months now, I mean she's nice, she's smart, she's cute, she's funny, we have similar interests, she's fun to talk to, and prior to about a month and a half ago she had always been there for me and cared about. Now that I mentioned that I liked her like last week, she completely avoided the subject. I don't think she likes me, especially not now. What should I do?[/QUOTE] obviously its going nowhere, why are you even still trying? man up and forget about her

What ever it takes to get your dick wet.

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What blakeee said will work, and you will get the girl you want!

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[QUOTE=ShivanCommander;29113934]They weren't even that serious. She even told me that back when they actually were dating.[/QUOTE] Defense mechanism? The point really is, she's hung up on him, not you, you can't change that.

Shit on her doorstep and stick a piece of paper saying "Fuck you bitch" in it. Ring the doorbell and run. Alternatively, you can kill her ex-boyfriend, take his skin and wear it. Go up to her and apologize, she'll believe it's him and forgive him. Many sex will commence afterwards.