Long Distance Relationships - Possible? - General

When I say long distance, I mean between countries or states, not between towns in the same area. Personally, I say they don't work; it is hard to be in a relationship with someone when you can't be in physical contact or such. Thoughts anyone?

I believe the opposite. I'm in one right now, I'm in Tennessee and she's in Florida, and we couldn't be any closer or any more in love if we tried...excluding physically, of course. IMO, if it's meant to last, there is no distance imaginable that could break two people up.

Conroe, Texas (Right outside of Houston) here, and mine is in Ontario, Canada. And we've been going at it for a steady three years. So yeah, they're perfectly feasible. The lack of physical contact means that you generally get to know the person deeper, faster; if they're being fully forthright with you. Granted, after some plane tickets and fun times, we've had about a week of 'close' contact; but it's still long distance until we both get college sorted out.

I've known a fellow very well for 3 year online, and know everything about each other essentially.

I would hate to be in a long distance relationship. I've personally never seen any last but I don't doubt that sometimes they work out.

I'm in one with a girl from Australia right now. I myself am in Malaysia, and we've been going for 9 months tomorrow. I love her to bits but it's hard without the physical contact. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth it, but I always come reeling back to her. So yes, I do think that they are possible. Although they may be hard to manage and emotionally straining, if the two really care about each other enough it could work out.

Possible, but not exactly enjoyable. It would be more like just a close friendship than an actual relationship.

It depends on the couple, really. Two of my family members experienced long-distance relationships. My uncle has been in a long-distance relationship with a German woman and after a few years he has moved to Germany and married her. Another family member has been in one for almost 10 years, which is pretty long. I currently am in a long-distance relationship with a girl who I consider my soulmate for almost 5 months now, but have known eachother far longer than that. If the two are patient enough to wait for it to become close-distance, it is more likely to work out. Actually, fuck that. I think the chances of them working out are almost the same as close-distance, except close-distance ones tend to last longer because they're physical. Any kind of relationship has a chance of ending one way or another, whether it's long-distance or not. It all depends on the couple really.

It does work, just requires a substantial amount of trust from both parties.

They can't last forever. Eventually they have to become a normal relationship with one of the two moving closer eventually. I can't really see anyone living their whole life in the same long distance relationship.

I don't really have any authority on this subject as I've never been in a relationship but I think if you truly love someone and the feeling is mutual I don't see why it couldn't work, for awhile at least. Though at the same time I'm still pretty unsure if love is even a real emotion, I've slept with chicks and hooked up at parties but I've never really met a girl I could see myself spending more than a week with.

[QUOTE=squids_eye;33765929]They can't last forever. Eventually they have to become a normal relationship with one of the two moving closer eventually. I can't really see anyone living their whole life in the same long distance relationship.[/QUOTE] This. If you don't move closer at some point, it won't last.

i have 500 girlfriends on habbo does that count

I'm in one. I live in Northern Ireland, they live in America.

[QUOTE=Irockz;33766003]I'm in one. I live in Northern Ireland, they live in America.[/QUOTE] have you ever met?

[QUOTE=squids_eye;33765929]They can't last forever. Eventually they have to become a normal relationship with one of the two moving closer eventually. I can't really see anyone living their whole life in the same long distance relationship.[/QUOTE] Well, that's kind of the point. It's usually only long distance because one or both parties are incapable of the move or lifestyle change at the current time. This can go on for many years though, but I would also have to draw the line at a proverbial 'forever'. Once my college is sorted out, I'm either moving to Canada or (if the American government doesn't go even more bonkers), setting my mate up for citizenship here.

I live in America and my boyfriend lives in Canada. We couldnt be more in love. It's been 2 years and we've never fought or argued about anything. I can tell its meant to be; genuine true love. However due to money and parent problems, we've never met, and won't be able to for another two years probably. So yes, if things align just perfectly, it's definitely possible.

Oh boy. I met my fiancee on Tinychat in early '10. We lived half way across the world from each other. I am American (18), she is Estonian (17), we were a full year younger when we met. (she speaks three languages fluently/smart/hot etc. well worth the relationship risks) Decided she had more to offer than Kardashian/jersey shore thumping American tweens We had a successful long distance relationship for 7 months, sustaining it on Skype (anything else would cost us almost a dollar/min to talk to each other) Most stressful, mind grueling time of my life -- unable to sleep at night due to her lousy parents, her country's lack of decent laws and abundance in organised crime. It would have been helpful if she had a laptop, but she didn't. This was all done via a 4 inch knock-off Nokia phone with a skype app. Calls were always dropped because it was a shit phone and they had shit internet. And her parents took away her phone randomly at times. So some of the stress could have been avoided. Decided to meet -- organised huge trip to see her ($6,000) Decided to stay longer - for a year and 3 months for her to turn 18 (so she can come to the USA with me) <- I'm still here, leaving in April, will likely have to endure another "separation" stage while she acquires her immigration documents etc. Being separated is the most horrible experience imaginable, ESPECIALLY IF NEVER MET IRL BEFORE, you have to basically hide the fact that you're doing it from people you don't trust, because "e-dating" etc. is taboo or whatever/slightly embarrassing. I dread the question "So how'd you guys meet" I guess we were victims of the invisible barrier of age-given rights (not being 18), but I'm having an awesome experience overall, but feel left out because the world that I was a part of is quickly changing around me. It's crazy.

[QUOTE=~Myst;33766055]I live in America and my boyfriend lives in Canada. [B]We couldnt be more in love.[/B] It's been 2 years and we've never fought or argued about anything. [B]I can tell its meant to be[/B]; genuine true love. However due to money and parent problems, [B]we've never met[/B], and won't be able to for another two years probably. So yes, if things align just perfectly, it's definitely possible.[/QUOTE] i believe that if distance is keeping two people apart, but they feel very strongly for each other, then a long distance relationship can work out. but i cannot believe that you can truly be in love with someone that you've never met. you may well speak every day on skype, you see each other on webcam every single day... but it's not the same as being in the physical presence of that person. in fact, my personal view is that i'm not sure if you can really call it a proper relationship if you've never met.

[QUOTE=Stick it in her pooper;33766129] Being separated is the most horrible experience imaginable, ESPECIALLY IF NEVER MET IRL BEFORE, you have to basically hide the fact that you're doing it from people you don't trust, because "e-dating" etc. is taboo or whatever/slightly embarrassing[/QUOTE] This exactly. I have to hide it from everyone I know because they would think I was crazy for putting it all on someone I've never met. [QUOTE=Autumn;33766197]i believe that if distance is keeping two people apart, but they feel very strongly for each other, then a long distance relationship can work out. but i cannot believe that you can truly be in love with someone that you've never met. you may well speak every day on skype, you see each other on webcam every single day... but it's not the same as being in the physical presence of that person. in fact, my personal view is that i'm not sure if you can really call it a proper relationship if you've never met.[/QUOTE] Maybe it is just infatuation, you're right. But the fact that we fell for each other instantly at the same time without any sort of prodding says something. There's times where you can really look inside someone and see that it's true Love.

[QUOTE=~Myst;33766207]This exactly. I have to hide it from everyone I know because they would think I was crazy for putting it all on someone I've never met.[/QUOTE] My Dad met his current girlfriend on some random "partner finder" crap online, and they just tell people they met at the first place they met up IRL -- a Stevie tomatoes restaurant. I can't really use the same excuse though, but maybe you should talk to your partner and think up a good "meeting" scenario that you both can confidently tell people that don't know the truth -- and have no way of finding out. (i.e. say that to your next boss or something etc. if they asked) to avoid looking like a freak

[QUOTE=Stick it in her pooper;33766269]My Dad met his current girlfriend on some random "partner finder" crap online, and they just tell people they met at the first place they met up IRL -- a Stevie tomatoes restaurant. I can't really use the same excuse though, but maybe you should talk to your partner and think up a good "meeting" scenario that you both can confidently tell people that don't know the truth -- and have no way of finding out. (i.e. say that to your next boss or something etc. if they asked) to avoid looking like a freak[/QUOTE] It's not really the "online and we've never met before" part that makes impossible to tell anyone, I only meant that adds to the tension.

They work for me, you just have to try and not get all suspicious and moody

[QUOTE=~Myst;33766303]It's not really the "online and we've never met before" part that makes impossible to tell anyone, I only meant that adds to the tension.[/QUOTE] Well that's equally true. The whole thing made me want to tear my hair out because I always became worried if she didn't get home within her usual time and all that. [QUOTE=Autumn;33766197]i believe that if distance is keeping two people apart, but they feel very strongly for each other, then a long distance relationship can work out. but i cannot believe that you can truly be in love with someone that you've never met. you may well speak every day on skype, you see each other on webcam every single day... but it's not the same as being in the physical presence of that person. in fact, my personal view is that i'm not sure if you can really call it a proper relationship if you've never met.[/QUOTE] just no If you've never experienced it or been through it, you can't judge it. No, it's not the same as being "physically" near the person, but that's a given. I think a lot of the younger people who claim to have an ongoing "long distance" relationship are bullshitting and make those of us who really have loved ones over-seas look bad. They really don't feel the way the rest of us do, and they don't approach it the same way either. We corrected that problem by actually meeting, (takes a lot of patience and motivation to plan out) and spending as much time with each other as possible - but it's all the same hamburger.

well, nice try trying to judge me. only a few months ago i came out of a 2 year relationship i'd been in with a scottish guy, who was 300 miles away from me but you go right ahead :)

[QUOTE=Autumn;33766431]300 miles away from me[/QUOTE] :downs: I never met my girlfriend (5200 miles/8363.414 km away) until 7 months into the relationship are you implying you never met him, at 300 miles?

oh i'm sorry, is there a specific distance that qualifies a long distance relationship?

[QUOTE=Autumn;33766470]oh i'm sorry, is there a specific distance that qualifies a long distance relationship?[/QUOTE] Did you meet this person or did you not meet this person

i met this person many, many times. the first time we ever met we spent 3 solid months together, then when i was at uni i saw him maybe once or twice a weekend, then the following summer i lived with him for 4+ months. that's why i cannot believe people can have a normal, functioning relationship having never met the other person. [editline]17th December 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Stick it in her pooper;33766458]:downs: I never met my girlfriend (5200 miles/8363.414 km away) until 7 months into the relationship are you implying you never met him, at 300 miles?[/QUOTE] uh nope. because that's not what i said.

[QUOTE=Autumn;33766539]i met this person many, many times. the first time we ever met we spent 3 solid months together, then when i was at uni i saw him maybe once or twice a weekend, then the following summer i lived with him for 4+ months. that's why i cannot believe people can have a normal, functioning relationship having never met the other person. [editline]17th December 2011[/editline] uh nope. because that's not what i said.[/QUOTE] I could believe them if they have the will to meet, like, they're making plans to meet and want to do that etc. But if people are trying to live in separation -- and stay that way, I don't see that as possible. Someone's either leaving in the near future, or cheating it up. I don't find that they would live vivid lives that way, and the tension would be pretty high among young couples. The relationships that work the best are the ones where each person is committed and has high aspirations to meet and be together as fast and as soon as legally possible. edit: Sadly some couples die out just because they couldn't afford the cost of being together (plane tickets/visas/place to stay).