Well, long story short, I have always had family issues, my mother doesn't really like me at all, she's told me to get out and leave more than once, and never really followed through. I won't lie and do the regular sob story of im innocent, i have made mistakes, but I'm quite frankly tired of living in a family that doesn't love me. Has anyone moved out before they graduated highschool?? Any thoughts?? My mom has already informed me she is not paying for my college because of her attitude towards me, and she is selling the car her and my father bought me not just a few months ago. I have 3 friends that said i can move in with them if I need to, I just dont know what to do anymore.
Thanks if anyones helping, if not, whatever/
If you think you're responsible enough.
[editline]20th January 2012[/editline]
I don't think a lot of people are at 17, but I don't really know you.
Mend things with your family if you can, you'll regret it. Wait until you're 18 to move out.
[QUOTE=A big fat ass;34299440]If you think you're responsible enough.
[editline]20th January 2012[/editline]
I don't think a lot of people are at 17, but I don't really know you.[/QUOTE]
I think my mom is already canceling my phone plan, selling my car, and I have to pay for most of my shit without a job. She isn't letting me get a job, so if i move out im getting a job to start paying for necessities.
Is it legal to move out at 17 in the US?
You should give this more thought.
[QUOTE=A big fat ass;34299498]You should give this more thought.[/QUOTE]
I've given it all the thought I deem it necessary. My mother doesn't love me, that much is obvious. Every time something comes up she literally says I am the problem in the family, my older brother advised me to do what felt right, and said next year if i need to i can move in his apartment with him.
You probably shouldn't move out. Try to fix things. I've known many people who have messed up their lives with decisions such as this. Just chill out. Do what your parents say. It will get better.
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;34299531]You probably shouldn't move out. Try to fix things. I've known many people who have messed up their lives with decisions such as this. Just chill out. Do what your parents say. It will get better.[/QUOTE]
I've tried to mend things, it just doesn't work, I can't go 2 days without somehow getting in a small argument which gets blown out of proportion.
I don't know how you all and friends have good relationships with their family, im honestly jealous of it. Ive never been close with my parents, my dads always consumed in his work in the airforce and either deployed or thinking about work, and my mom just doesn't click with me at all, which causes tons of problems as it is.
fuck man:(
My mother moved out to one of her best friends when she was 14 because her mother, my grandmother, is a psychotic freak with alot of issues - and is the same today. But if you think you can handle it and you've thought it through then nothings stopping you pretty much
[QUOTE=VaSTinY;34299574]My mother moved out to one of her best friends when she was 14 because her mother, my grandmother, is a psychotic freak with alot of issues - and is the same today. But if you think you can handle it and you've thought it through then nothings stopping you pretty much[/QUOTE]
Is it legal to move out at 17? She keeps telling me all this shit how im the problem and need to move out cause im a ungrateful piece of shit, but im not sure what happens if i actually move out.
[QUOTE=Septimas;34299569]I've tried to mend things, it just doesn't work, I can't go 2 days without somehow getting in a[B] small argument which gets blown out of proportion[/B].
I don't know how you all and friends have good relationships with their family, im honestly jealous of it. Ive never been close with my parents, my dads always consumed in his work in the airforce and either deployed or thinking about work, and my mom just doesn't click with me at all, which causes tons of problems as it is.
fuck man:([/QUOTE]
Apologize early. Try that.
[QUOTE=Septimas;34299614]Is it legal to move out at 17? She keeps telling me all this shit how im the problem and need to move out cause im a ungrateful piece of shit, but im not sure what happens if i actually move out.[/QUOTE]
I have absolutely no clue about that in America, sorry.
[QUOTE=Septimas;34299614]Is it legal to move out at 17? She keeps telling me all this shit how im the problem and need to move out cause im a ungrateful piece of shit, but im not sure what happens if i actually move out.[/QUOTE]
It is, although you are still a minor. If you move out, you now have to pay for everything. And that will be bad.
I'm in the same boat man, although I'm 18 and living in the UK. I'm trying to find a job before I decide to move out but it's hard but I guess if I persevere I'll get somewhere in the end.
I think you have the right to own property at 16 in US. Not sure though
I'd honestly try to hold on as long as I could before I was kicked out of the house. Take what you can get.
Don't do it. I don't want to make and judgement, but usually someone at 17 isn't responsible enough to handle moving out and taking care of things on your own. Even if you move in with friends it may strain your friendship do to disagreements and such. It seems like your family isn't that terrible if they bought you a car; maybe try fixing things before you completely regret it later.
You should really only move out until you've finished college/have the money to leave near campus in a dorm of school housing.
Why doesn't your mother like you? Somethings got to have happened to make her do this....
No wait - that's insensitive. ignore this
Just wait until you're 18, there's more opportunities once you hit that age. If you're planning on moving far to somewhere like another city, you could get an id and book a hostel if you have some savings. But honestly, if your parents bought you a car, I'm pretty sure they love you. There's people worse off.
I am pretty sure moving out at 17 is illegal because you aren't considered a full adult, but I could be wrong. Regardless living on your own at the age of 17 is a nightmare. Especially since you haven't finished high school.
[QUOTE=Hamburgers;34300005]Why doesn't your mother like you? Somethings got to have happened to make her do this....
No wait - that's insensitive. ignore this[/QUOTE]
Abused as a child is what I would think. Op what about your dad is he not around or something?
I think you should stay for as long as possible, try and mend things before you leave. If you feel you can't take the heat, or something pushes you out of the house, there's nothing stopping you. Don't stretch your capabilities, or you'll end up like me - I thought I could withstand some crushing anxiety around the house without dealing with it, and now I'm on melatonin to sleep and I've been known to fly into hallucinatory fits of panic.
Just saying, you decide what you want to do. If you feel it isn't worth the effort to patch things up, or you're feeling so low you may as well not try, don't hesitate to move in with your brother for a while, until you feel up to talking with your parents about this. Pushing yourself too far isn't going to help anyone.
You're a minor that needs to be with a guardian(adult) until you're 18. So no you can't leave. They can't throw you out either however.
[url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emancipation_of_minors]You'll want to read up on this.[/url]
If you can get yourself emancipated and you're responsible and mature enough, it could be really good for you. It could also be really bad, but it'll be a risk either way. Good luck with whatever you decide.
[QUOTE=5killer;34300026]I am pretty sure moving out at 17 is illegal because you aren't considered a full adult, but I could be wrong. Regardless living on your own at the age of 17 is a nightmare. Especially since you haven't finished high school.[/QUOTE]
I'm pretty sure you're correct on this one. My old teacher actually got his families lawyer to basically "emancipate" him from his family at 16 or 17 years of age.
It's actually a really interesting story.
[editline]19th January 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Paramud;34300132][url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emancipation_of_minors]You'll want to read up on this.[/url]
If you can get yourself emancipated and you're responsible and mature enough, it could be really good for you. It could also be really bad, but it'll be a risk either way. Good luck with whatever you decide.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, see?
[QUOTE=Septimas;34299524]my older brother advised me to do what felt right, and said next year if i need to i can move in his apartment with him.[/QUOTE]
Wait a year and move in with him
I think I remember your threads in DD? If you are who you think you are, do it. I did, was a good idea.
EDIT: Inb4 "hurr durr liar imma r8 dum u post so bad"
[QUOTE=Xokiller65;34299825]I think you have the right to own property at 16 in US. Not sure though[/QUOTE]
This is correct, however most jobs are still restricted to you until you are 18, I would hold on until then so that you can adequately pay your bills, however from how you describe it, I would want to move out as soon as possible too. My suggestion, if you can pay for rent and food and still be happy when you move out, do it, if not, hold on until you get a high paying job. Best of luck to you, hope it works out well.
[QUOTE=SilverHammer;34300103]You're a minor that needs to be with a guardian(adult) until you're 18. So no you can't leave. They can't throw you out either however.[/QUOTE]
you can leave but the cops won't care
[QUOTE=Ermac20;34300697]you can leave but the cops won't care[/QUOTE]
Not as long as your folks don't call the cops to report a missing child :v:
[editline]19th January 2012[/editline]
I had a friend who tried the same thing when she was 17. Crashed at my place for two nights until the cops showed up at my door and took her back to her mom's house. She lives with her Aunt/Uncle now(legal guardians, you could do the same thing).
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