Probably a controversial opinion but i don't care,
if you're going to spend a bunch of time putting on makeup to look prettier, and wear tight and skimpy clothing that exemplifies the shape and curves of your body while showing as much skin as possible, you really have no right to bitch about people finding you attractive
maybe people saying stuff like [I]"ey gurl shake dat ass"[/I] is rude but fucking deal with it, people are rude, you're in the world and you can't just change the world because you're too self-absorbed to deal with people thinking you're attractive when you dress like that
fucking christ
[QUOTE=Quark:;45573625]Probably a controversial opinion but i don't care,
if you're going to spend a bunch of time putting on makeup to look prettier, and wear tight and skimpy clothing that exemplifies the shape and curves of your body while showing as much skin as possible, you really have no right to bitch about people finding you attractive
[B]maybe people saying stuff like [I]"ey gurl shake dat ass"[/I] is rude but fucking deal with it, people are rude, you're in the world and you can't just change the world because you're too self-absorbed to deal with people thinking you're attractive when you dress like that
[/B]
fucking christ[/QUOTE]
you can think people look attractive without making people feel uncomfortable.
People are gunna turn at look at your arse if you look good whether you like it or not. However, calling things out is probably pretty embarassing
All those women sound like the need to learn self defense.
This is why i need feminism
anyone who makes cat calls at women on the street is a gross creep
[QUOTE=Quark:;45573625]Probably a controversial opinion but i don't care,
if you're going to spend a bunch of time putting on makeup to look prettier, and wear tight and skimpy clothing that exemplifies the shape and curves of your body while showing as much skin as possible, you really have no right to bitch about people finding you attractive
maybe people saying stuff like [I]"ey gurl shake dat ass"[/I] is rude but fucking deal with it, people are rude, you're in the world and you can't just change the world because you're too self-absorbed to deal with people thinking you're attractive when you dress like that
fucking christ[/QUOTE]
Looking is fine, in my opinion, but groping and shouting at women is pretty wrong/creepy/disgusting.
[QUOTE=Dr. Gestapo;45574326]anyone who makes cat calls at women on the street is a gross creep[/QUOTE]
It's like some kind of bad flash mob or something.
There are two sides to this;
Sometimes girls want that kind of attention for a compliment.
Some others do not want it, and just want it to be a compliment from whom they are with.
Though anyone who just randomly starts to cat call, and lock eyes with a girl and try to seduce her aggressively, that's incredibly awkward.
But I mean, then again, is there a certain line that is acceptable? I mean obviously going up to a girl, grabbing her and doing what was said in the video would be a horrific situation for anyone.
But if I were to approach a girl, and tell her she's beautiful looking, or something like that, that wouldn't be harassment would it? There has to be a certain line in which it's over the boundary. We cannot see into each others minds, so we don't know when we're crossing that boundary.
[QUOTE=Covalent;45574629]There are two sides to this;
Sometimes girls want that kind of attention for a compliment.
Some others do not want it, and just want it to be a compliment from whom they are with.
Though anyone who just randomly starts to cat call, and lock eyes with a girl and try to seduce her aggressively, that's incredibly awkward.[/QUOTE]
most people dress the way the dress because they want to look good for themselves and looking good makes them confident. while some people might be looking for attention, i really doubt the disgusting calls of some greasy weirdo on the street is pleasant/comfortable/something you want.
the sensible, socially adjusted thing to do? it's really simple: don't be a creep and have some bloody self-control; nobody wants to know how much you want to bang the pretty woman across the street. especially not her!
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[quote]But if I were to approach a girl, and tell her she's beautiful looking, or something like that, that wouldn't be harassment would it? There has to be a certain line in which it's over the boundary. We cannot see into each others minds, so we don't know when we're crossing that boundary.[/QUOTE]
unsolicited compliments from strangers are creepy. imagine walking home, minding your own business, when suddenly some dude you've never met tells you something like "you're beautiful". that's really awkward and weird, man.
[QUOTE=Quark:;45573625]Probably a controversial opinion but i don't care,
if you're going to spend a bunch of time putting on makeup to look prettier, and wear tight and skimpy clothing that exemplifies the shape and curves of your body while showing as much skin as possible, you really have no right to bitch about people finding you attractive
maybe people saying stuff like [I]"ey gurl shake dat ass"[/I] is rude but fucking deal with it, people are rude, you're in the world and you can't just change the world because you're too self-absorbed to deal with people thinking you're attractive when you dress like that
fucking christ[/QUOTE]
This is like someone justifying punching another person because "I think his clothes are ugly!!! WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU'RE GOING TO ARREST ME?! STOP TRYING TO CHANGE THE WORLD PEOPLE SHOULD JUST STOP WEARING CLOTHES I DON'T LIKE!!!!!!!"
I wonder how someone doing stuff like this would react if a group of gay men did the same to them. But of course then it's a completely different situation because "that shit's gross yo, I should be able to dress how I want without a bunch of gay dudes throwing remarks at me!!!"
[QUOTE=Dr. Gestapo;45574686]
unsolicited compliments from strangers are creepy. imagine walking home, minding your own business, when suddenly some dude you've never met tells you something like "you're beautiful". that's really awkward and weird, man.[/QUOTE]
Understandable, so what's the proper 'non' creep way to approach someone? I mean, I don't think I'd care if someone came up to me and said I was decent looking or handsome. I don't think there is a right way, or a wrong way to approach someone. It's all up to personal preference, and at the moment we don't know what the other wants.
We could say something about their shirt, or hair, but that'd still fall under the line of being creepy, would it not?
I don't think there is a proper way, except being confident in what you say. Looking 'decent' for the part is just as needed too, I would suppose. Not greasy hair, neckbeard, clothes with stains on them, etc?
[QUOTE=Covalent;45575062]Understandable, so what's the proper 'non' creep way to approach someone? I mean, I don't think I'd care if [B]someone came up to me and said I was decent looking[/B] or handsome. I don't think there is a right way, or a wrong way to approach someone. It's all up to personal preference, and at the moment we don't know what the other wants.
We could say something about their shirt, or hair, but that'd still fall under the line of being creepy, would it not?
I don't think there is a proper way, except being confident in what you say. Looking 'decent' for the part is just as needed too, I would suppose. Not greasy hair, neckbeard, clothes with stains on them, etc?[/QUOTE]
imagine somebody walking up to someone and going
"you look decent"
lol
there is a proper way and it's not going
"AYO BEAUTIFUL"
"wow you're sexy"
"hey hottie"
you got a nice ass"
"ooo look at dem legs"
"dayum gurl u lookin hot"
basically saying things that go "I want to have sex with you"
you can't just walk up to somebody and be like "you have nice hair." that's strange and makes people uncomfortable in a different way
basically don't just throw a compliment out of nowhere, compliments are meant for conversations
If I start a band I shall call it Metro Molestor
I don't want really get into this argument because it's deeper than the normal discussion on [I]Videos And Flash Movies and That Kind Of Crap[/I], but can I just say that this girl's make-up legitimately makes me uncomfortable? It's borderline uncanny valley. It looks like a glazed, clay doll.
[t]http://i.cubeupload.com/Lb20jW.png[/t]
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;45575164]
basically don't just throw a compliment out of nowhere, compliments are meant for conversations[/QUOTE]
I still don't know what would be a proper sentence to go on, would something be, "Hi, my name is ----. It's probably going to sound extraordinary, but you caught my eye."
I am not good at this.
[QUOTE=Quark:;45573625]Probably a controversial opinion but i don't care,
if you're going to spend a bunch of time putting on makeup to look prettier, and wear tight and skimpy clothing that exemplifies the shape and curves of your body while showing as much skin as possible, you really have no right to bitch about people finding you attractive
maybe people saying stuff like [I]"ey gurl shake dat ass"[/I] is rude but fucking deal with it, people are rude, you're in the world and you can't just change the world because you're too self-absorbed to deal with people thinking you're attractive when you dress like that
fucking christ[/QUOTE]
Controversial implies that there is a "strong disagreement" of an argument. Your argument is [I]universally[/I] disagreed on. You have no right to tell people they have no right to bitch about people based on shit criteria (yes everyone who tries to look presentable in public wants to show as much skin as possible) made by you.
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;45575164]you can't just walk up to somebody and be like "you have nice hair." that's strange and makes people uncomfortable in a different way
basically don't just throw a compliment out of nowhere, compliments are meant for conversations[/QUOTE]
I've given and gotten compliments from strangers before but it's usually (at least from my side) related to fashion. Distant smiles are also fun. To me there's no deeper meaning behind it other than just sharing confidence I guess.
But I agree it can be uncomfortable if the circumstances aren't right.
[QUOTE=Quark:;45573625]Probably a controversial opinion but i don't care,
if you're going to spend a bunch of time putting on makeup to look prettier, and wear tight and skimpy clothing that exemplifies the shape and curves of your body while showing as much skin as possible, you really have no right to bitch about people finding you attractive
maybe people saying stuff like [I]"ey gurl shake dat ass"[/I] is rude but fucking deal with it, people are rude, you're in the world and you can't just change the world because you're too self-absorbed to deal with people thinking you're attractive when you dress like that
fucking christ[/QUOTE]
There's a difference between people finding you attractive and people being tasteless assholes.
[i]OMG MEN ARE PIGS[/i]
[QUOTE=Mr Anonymous;45575937]you called me sexy
what a [I]crime[/I][/QUOTE]
this is my favorite post because it just screams "i dont know what im talking about and ive never felt uncomfortable in public"
[QUOTE=milkandcooki;45577693]this is my favorite post because it just screams "i dont know what im talking about and ive never felt uncomfortable in public"[/QUOTE]
I think it's, idk, a joke?
Maybe people should stop worrying about what other people think and focus on more important matters. (not talking about the molesting tho, that is fucked up)
i think this video right here sums up my opinion on cat calls
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NeJqFy0ueWk[/media]
there's the really offensive catcalls like "EYYY GIRL SHAKE DAT ASS WOO WOO" and then there's the more tame ones like the whistle. the latter isn't a big problem, but the former is just rude.
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