So I just get done smoking, and I decide to eat some tacos. After I'm done, I settle into my chair and listen to some music whilst on tinychat. I start thinking about random things, sprouting new thoughts quickly. When suddenly this one thought got into my head, instantly bringing my entire conscious to halt. This very thought entered my mind, like water seeps through a crack: "What have I done with my social life?". I suddenly fell into a deep state of mind, as I thought about this carefully. I came to a massive realization, and decided to share this with you, the people of DD:
What is being social? Being social is doing things such as: talking to people, making friends, hanging out with friends. As I wandered my mind, I realize how much of my life I had thrown away. The time I could've spent being social, I spent inside, playing video games and watching tv. Being social is one of the most important things to do for everybody. If you don't be social, you will have the want for many things, but be unable to experience them because you aren't social enough. Things such as friends and relationship partners. You will lie awake, thinking about the things you could have if you would have just done it. Every time you see a couple walking by, you act normal but deep inside, you will feel a deep ache of want, envy, and jealousy. That girl you like, the one that you can never get the nerves to talk to? Someone other than you could have ask her out before. Enjoy the little things, things that you look past every day. Whenever you get a chance of going to a party, meeting new people, or watching a movie, go for it. Don't hesitate. You will gain experience talking with people, and be able to talk to girls with easy. Make a lot of friends, and gain knowledge and learn from your mistakes from the ones who betrayed you. Go outside, walk to the store, walk to the park, walk anywhere you want to. You'll learn to enjoy life and all the little things. Wake up early to see the sunrise, to see the miracle of life. See the sun go down, and realize how beautiful nature is. Don't ever be depressed, as you'll lose precious time you could spend with friends. Now, I'm not very good at writing stories in English as I am Russian, but I think you get the point. Live life, don't be afraid to try new things! Go be social, go ask out that girl you've always wanted to ask out. If you don't, but eventually gain the nerves, it might be too late. Whatever it is you've dreamed of doing, something that gives you a deep feeling of want, go fulfill it NOW. Not later, not when you feel like it, but NOW. You won't regret it, and if you do, you will have gained knowledge. Or else when you get older, you will beat yourself up for not taking opportunities that you were to scared for, you will always think about what would have been if you would have just done it. Now, this may sound hypocritical but I am a massive pussy. The reason I'm saying this is, don't be me. I have laid awake for hours, just thinking about what I should've but didn't do. Trust me, the feeling sucks. Live life as it was meant to be, not in a dark room.
This may not make sense, but it's something that was clogging my head and I had to release it somehow.
Also, I for some reason feel like writing more stuff like this, perhaps even going into philosophy. Should I do this, or should I just stop and never write things like this again?
Epiphanies are deeper than that. I'm sure the level realization of this was greater than others, but it's not so much of an epiphany. Anyway, some envy what intellectualism you have. People typically don't realize what they do have and try to get something else. I have been from day one, a non-social person. I can from time to time be the person who is the center of attention and lead one hell of a conversation with many, but I am generally happier just being with someone in silence unless we are both talking about something without it feeling like small-talk.
[QUOTE=Hostel;26045662]Epiphanies are deeper than that. I'm sure the level realization of this was greater than others, but it's not so much of an epiphany. Anyway, some envy what intellectualism you have. People typically don't realize what they do have and try to get something else. I have been from day one, a non-social person. I can from time to time be the person who is the center of attention and lead one hell of a conversation with many, but I am generally happier just being with someone in silence unless we are both talking about something without it feeling like small-talk.[/QUOTE]That is part of how I feel. My social life has it's ups and downs, but mostly down. Whenever I'm having an "up", I feel really,really, awesome. That was part of why I wrote this. Being social is one of the best things to feel. It's an indescribable feeling, something that you can only feel if you're social. There's just this feeling in my chest that I get that's made up of two things: envy, and want. I want to remove it, to make it better, but unfortunately I lack the guts to make it true. But with time, if I practice what I said, I will hopefully fix my social skills.
Sounds pretty cliche.
I know it's cliche, that's why it's true. I mean, if it wasn't cliche, then it wouldn't have had the same truth value
I never understood why people would [B]want[/B] to sit around and play videogames instead of hanging out with friends and meeting people and shit
for me games are a last resort, like when I'm bored and it's a thursday evening I'll just go hit up some new vegas for an hour or so.
Living for videogames is a pretty pathetic existence imo
Being social = Make more friends = More opportunities arise.
I sit on my ass and play video games when I'm not working.. But as soon as my phone rings I'm out the door.. I wouldn't call myself Anti-Social.. I have a large group of friends who I hang out 50% of the time I'm not working..
I used to pass up the opportunity to go out at nights and shit if I had to work early the next day, then one day I woke up and said "fuck it" sick of missing out on shit because of work or sitting on the computer.. So I'm pretty much the first person people call to come out now because they know I'm always keen.. It's a change for the better.. you can't really tell people to do it, just know even if they wake up everyday angry with themselves for being anti-social one day they will wake up and say "fuck it" and everything will change..
Fuck I'm high.
[QUOTE=Glitch360;26045587]Being social is one of the most important things to do for everybody. If you don't be social, you will have the want for many things, but be unable to experience them because you aren't social enough.[/QUOTE]
Pfft. Alone time is golden, and I achieve many great things by being alone. Such as wanking and drugs. Ok, being serious, I also get a lot of time to think and relax from everyday stress. Anyway, people are different. I like videogames and think skiing is pathetic. Different tastes, bro. But I see your point, enjoy the little things and making friends/hang out with friends. I do this, but sometimes I simply just need a break/trip on lsd. People are ignorant and stupid, at least around my corner of the world. To let off some steam, I enjoy alone time. And sure, drugs on top of alone time makes alone time oh so much sweeter. I'm in high school, senior year. A lot of douchebags, loudmouths and idiots. It's nice to drift away from all that on a cloud... Changing color... And morphing... Yaaay.
For me, I feel as though being social is something that isn't necessary..
I enjoy being social (sometimes), but overall I find that I really prefer to be alone. It's a vicious circle, when I'm hanging out with people, I want nothing but to be alone most of the time. When I'm alone, sometimes i find that i come up with an interesting idea or something of the sort i wish to share - hell, sometimes i just feel like shooting the shit with someone.. This near never happens when i'm chilling with someone, if i'm not in my element, i'm not there. Everything goes quiet and inverted and i'm finally starting to get my mind and heart into being social and everything is shattered by the ever-nagging, "you alright?" "you okay, bro?" (i don't think i've ever mentioned my abundant amounts of hate for "bro", i hate that word with the burning passion of a thousand suns).
On one hand, nothing will ever beat finding someone you truly enjoy spending time with and doing just that; spend as much time with them as you can because life is short and nobody knows what's around the corner. You could live to be old and withered before dying, yes, but there's a chance you could die tomorrow.. Hell, you could die today. You could die right now. You don't know what could happen, you don't know what death entails. Find someone you love and love them - you create your own happiness, others create your sadness. People stop talking to you, ignore you, hurt you.. People die. Move along, float happily through life and fuck depression. Don't live depressed.
On the other hand, being social is not a necessity. Don't mope around feeling bad for yourself because you don't have friends, create your own happiness. If you want someone to talk to, find someone to talk to. Find your niche and stick to it, if you're not a social butterfly, don't try to be a god damn social butterfly. Don't fight what you are, no matter what someone will accept you. Don't change for "friends", a friend that wants you to change isn't a friend. Do what makes you happy and after doing it long enough you will find someone else made happy by the same thing.
this post probably doesn't make much sense cause i wrote it sober and uber philosophically-like but i ruined my own life for plenty long enough with the whole stupid social thing.
[QUOTE=Jakobi;26048908]Was the taco good at least?[/QUOTE]Oh my god yes, it was delicious.
Huh, I don't remember writing this much. I had a "philosophical" high last night, I usually don't write this kind of cliche stuff.
[editline]14th November 2010[/editline]
[QUOTE=anarchist;26051626]Being social = Make more friends = More opportunities arise.[/QUOTE]Exactly, you can't let life pass by you. If you make friends, you will have more opportunities to do social things, and you will be able to make more of your life. The only problem is starting to become social, which is hard for some. But the only way you can be social, is to just go out and talk to people. There is no other way to become social, the only way is to learn from your mistakes and gain experience.
[QUOTE=Glitch360;26063376]Exactly, you can't let life pass by you. If you make friends, you will have more opportunities to do social things, and you will be able to make more of your life. The only problem is starting to become social, which is hard for some. But the only way you can be social, is to just go out and talk to people. There is no other way to become social, the only way is to learn from your mistakes and gain experience.[/QUOTE]
This is coming from the point of view where because social and having a lot of good friends is seen as the ultimate goal. Where living a full like correlates with the many interactions you make with people and how you spend your time. Someone of similar rational could easily state that they how much their life matters as judged by other simply does not matter in the grand scheme and that overall they'd much rather stick to their antisocial ways because they are only seen to be bad by very social people. You may not yearn for a life of solitude, but there are some people who want complete independence.
[QUOTE=Pepin;26070513]This is coming from the point of view where because social and having a lot of good friends is seen as the ultimate goal. Where living a full like correlates with the many interactions you make with people and how you spend your time. Someone of similar rational could easily state that they how much their life matters as judged by other simply does not matter in the grand scheme and that overall they'd much rather stick to their antisocial ways because they are only seen to be bad by very social people. You may not yearn for a life of solitude, but there are some people who want complete independence.[/QUOTE]Good point. Different people have different definitions of what a fulfilling life is, and I respect that. Some people won't share my point of view, but others might. This was directed more towards the people that might, as I can't force my opinion on other people.
[QUOTE=anarchist;26051626]Being social = Make more friends = More opportunities arise.[/QUOTE]
Who says more opportunities arising is a good thing?
[QUOTE=Meader;26071478]Who says more opportunities arising is a good thing?[/QUOTE]He probably meant positive opportunities, such as getting a girlfriend, etc.
[QUOTE=Glitch360;26071594]He probably meant positive opportunities, such as getting a girlfriend, etc.[/QUOTE]
Well I would argue there are a lot of bad opportunities as well that arise directly due to being social (your sociality?)
I know what you are getting at op, while I agree with you, my situation is a little bit different. I never had too many friends in my years of school because I was always moving to new homes and shit, so at times when I tried making friends, I was judged and told to fuck off.
So I always thought about that shit in my teen years, and just came to the realization that I don't give a fuck about having friends. I'm not saying I hate having friends, friends can be awesome, it's just that I can cope being by myself now. And I'm fine with it and accept it.
But fyi I'm not a loner now, I actually have quite a lot of friends now, it's just that I now prefer to have a lot more personal time and space.
[QUOTE=Meader;26071615]Well I would argue there are a lot of bad opportunities as well that arise directly due to being social (your sociality?)[/QUOTE]True. Maybe someone wants to challenge your "standing" because of envy, jealousy, etc. Unfortunately, that's how life is and we can't do much about that part
[QUOTE=FunkyHippo;26071634]
But fyi I'm not a loner now, I actually have quite a lot of friends now, it's just that I now prefer to have a lot more personal time and space.[/QUOTE]
Record number use of the word "now"
I kinda like being alone a lot, but being with people is cool too. Too many people trips me up though and I get very anxious. Been working on being more sociable though.
[QUOTE=Meader;26071668]Record number use of the word "now"
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Things are different compared from then and now. :smug:
[QUOTE=Meader;26071668]Record number use of the word "now"
I kinda like being alone a lot, but being with people is cool too. Too many people trips me up though and I get very anxious. Been working on being more sociable though.[/QUOTE]
Three?
Also, I'm same way when I'm around alot of people. I get anxious and end up feeling tired or completely out of it for whatever reason.
I go out whenever I can. I hang with friends whenever I can
If I want alone time, I'll just stay up to 5am at my house when everyone has gone to sleep
Socially, I feel most comfortable with a bunch of hot girls I don't know. My mind has a natural tendency to see them as inferior so I get a huge confidence boost. Now obviously I know this is not the case at all at a conscious level, but at an unconscious level it seems to be a belief I have. A requirement for this is to be around people I don't know so much, like if I was with some good friends I wouldn't snap into this mode because then I feel as though I would be acting out of my usual role and may face some interesting words. It's different to explain and it is very likely to be interpreted wrong. In some way, it may be my realization that I am sexist at some level, but on a conscious level I know that everyone has the same potential and I can't assume and generalizations based off nothing.
Whenever I am around hot gi-
Oh wait that doesn't happen, nvm
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