Sex, Girlfriends and Shit IV - General

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Today I found out that my friend invited all my closest friends to a party without telling me. I feel great.

hell of a way to end the last thread

I'm still mourning

[QUOTE=JohanGS;38025710]Today I found out that my friend invited all my closest friends to a party without telling me. I feel great.[/QUOTE] had the same thing happen to me from 7th-10th grade before i picked up on it and stopped hanging out with those people it sucks

[QUOTE=JohanGS;38025710]Today I found out that my friend invited all my closest friends to a party without telling me. I feel great.[/QUOTE] Do you normally go to parties? Does your friend know you normally go to parties? Did your closest friends say "hey, what's up tonight?" or did your friend just ask them randomly?

Alright, well guys. I don't know really where else to turn to for this. I have never had sex before, but recently I have been reaching that point with my girl friend. When it finally came down to it and I had a condom and what not, I was not into it at all. I could not get a hard on worth hell. I feel like a complete and utter disappointment and I feel incredibly depressed. I just don't know what to do at all.

[QUOTE=Yahnich;38025761]why do u feel great? why do you even care about what other people think of u? if ur friends are havin fun without you, take em back, pick up like fifty chicks and just have sex in front of them and never break eyecontact[/QUOTE] Thanks, I'll do that. [QUOTE=Disseminate;38025771]Do you normally go to parties? Does your friend know you normally go to parties? Did your closest friends say "hey, what's up tonight?" or did your friend just ask them randomly?[/QUOTE] Well, no, but I don't have that many opportunities to. They got invited to closed facebook event and I didn't.

[QUOTE=FreeOnions;38025793]Alright, well guys. I don't know really where else to turn to for this. I have never had sex before, but recently I have been reaching that point with my girl friend. When it finally came down to it and I had a condom and what not, I was not into it at all. I could not get a hard on worth hell. I feel like a complete and utter disappointment and I feel incredibly depressed. I just don't know what to do at all.[/QUOTE] First time sex is a dissapointment most of the time, nerves get to people and they find they can't get it up or they finish in like a minute. Happens to plenty of people and it's nothing to worry about, just try again another time and relax. Don't know why I'm posting advice what is wrong with me

I was stressed out as hell. At one point I was thinking about things that usually get me off as I could just not get into the moment at all. That got me going for a moment but once I was like "Ah fuck yeah erection" it died out incredibly fast. Plus the more into it my girlfriend gets the more not into I get. She likes to scratch and bite which is fine to me, but as she got more into it I was bleeding. I am not even exaggerating, I might even show pics of my incredibly fucked up chest and back.

[QUOTE=FreeOnions;38025832]I was stressed out as hell. At one point I was thinking about things that usually get me off as I could just not get into the moment as well. That got me going for a moment but once I was like "Ah fuck yeah erection" it died out incredibly fast.[/QUOTE] Just ease into it next time and things should go a lot smoother, no need to rush foreplay or anything. and tell your girlfriend to calm the fuck down

She has had sex before and wants to do it which is why I feel like such a disappointment. [editline]13th October 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Yahnich;38025853]hell, if anything, foreplay fucking rocks[/QUOTE] I just wish she would fucking touch my dick. That is all I want to happen and would work perfectly fine. But all she wants to do is scratch and bite me to death.

[QUOTE=JohanGS;38025804]Well, no[/QUOTE] That's why you weren't invited. Ask him next Friday if anything's going down around town

[QUOTE=FreeOnions;38025866]She has had sex before and wants to do it which is why I feel like such a disappointment. [editline]13th October 2012[/editline] I just wish she would fucking touch my dick. That is all I want to happen and would work perfectly fine. But all she wants to do is scratch and bite me to death.[/QUOTE] Please comprehend that the first time is a dissapointment for most people. Just tell your girlfriend to calm down the carnivorous behaviour, or buy her a mouth guard and some boxing gloves.

I just feel like this has made me more nervous and will just exacerbate the problem.

[QUOTE=FreeOnions;38025866][b]I just wish she would fucking touch my dick.[/b] That is all I want to happen and would work perfectly fine. But all she wants to do is scratch and bite me to death.[/QUOTE] this may be a problem... she might be shy about going down on you or something if she's never done it before, encourage her to do it or something. either way she's going to need to get over that sooner or later

[QUOTE=Yahnich;38025910]i really really like it when she bites or scratches so i'm not following you there[/QUOTE] My mouth was numb and was bleeding profusely.

[QUOTE=FreeOnions;38025920]My mouth was numb and was bleeding profusely.[/QUOTE] Did you mistake your girlfriend for an angry chimp? Just talk it over with her, get her to try some more foreplay and offer to return the favour.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38025915]this may be a problem... she might be shy about going down on you or something if she's never done it before, encourage her to do it or something. either way she's going to need to get over that sooner or later[/QUOTE] She went down on me once before and that was awesome as hell. I also feel like shit because I was just laying there feeling like shit and she said "I feel like you aren't attracted to me sexually" and I just didn't know what to fucking say. [editline]13th October 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Lukeo;38025936]Did you mistake your girlfriend for an angry chimp? Just talk it over with her, get her to try some more foreplay and offer to return the favour.[/QUOTE] I told her that I would like to return the whole oral sex thing but she said she was uncomfortable with that.

speaking from personal experience (and this will probably be way tmi but it should help) i used to be incredibly grossed out by male genitalia and wondered if i was gay/asexual for a while. never went down on my ex or anything, but i was okay with sex because it was mostly the, uh, [i]aesthetics[/i] that disturbed me with my current bf i was more comfortable especially because he has much better hygiene. i was still kind of freaked out by guy parts until i decided to give him head for the first time. the experience of doing that completely converted me and i am now extraordinarily confident of my sexuality

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38026107]So I don't last long at all during sex. I even tried thinking about non-sexual things like trees or cats and things. What do I do?[/QUOTE] have more sex

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;38026107]So I don't last long at all during sex. I even tried thinking about non-sexual things like trees or cats and things. What do I do?[/QUOTE] Stop and go is a good method. Once you feel it is coming, go slower or kiss your partner. Sometimes I change to a position in which I do not feel that much. Also you could stop and continue to please her orally or in some other way. To continue the excitement in her, also you might want to masturbate in the morning when you know you will have sex. Honestly, sometimes it depends on my mood. At times I last very long and sometimes it is over before it even started. But sex does not have to be long anyway, my girlfriend told me that she likes it really fast and hard, without any foreplay whatsoever.

[QUOTE=FreeOnions;38025866] I just wish she would fucking touch my dick.[/QUOTE] This was also the case with my girlfriend, she proceeded to kiss me and all kind of "soft" jazz. At times I really like it, but it can be annoying. We talked about it and she told me that she was shy and unsure if I would like it. Now I usually guide her hand to the places that I want her to touch, well mostly my dick :v:

[QUOTE=Yahnich;38026155]no she literally meant have sex again after your first or second orgasm[/QUOTE] Yeah my girlfriend gets the best sex after that I orgasm like two times, the third time it lasts longer and it's awesome for her.

Not so long time ago I started dating a girl. Well, the first day of our meeting turned into our first night together (she needed a place to stay for the night and I had a flat free, and hell I would be an idiot if I didn't use the chance). These were the first sexual experiences, for both of us. We had all the interesting things but actual sex. I mean fingers and tongues and whatever we could imagine. We were preparing to go all the way (she was quite scared). And then we fucking broke up when we both were ready.

[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;38026586]Not so long time ago I started dating a girl. Well, the first day of our meeting turned into our first night together (she needed a place to stay for the night and I had a flat free, and hell I would be an idiot if I didn't use the chance). These were the first sexual experiences, for both of us. We had all the interesting things but actual sex. I mean fingers and tongues and whatever we could imagine. We were preparing to go all the way (she was quite scared). And then we fucking broke up when we both were ready.[/QUOTE] and you had only known each other for a day? sounds like that relationship [i]came[/i] and [i]went[/i] pretty fast

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38026633]and you had only known each other for a day? sounds like that relationship [i]came[/i] and [i]went[/i] pretty fast[/QUOTE] 3 months after that day. Yeah pretty fast. Although was exciting, not only in terms of sex.

i can't work out whether my girlfriend is being really needy or whether i'm being emotionally detached. we had a very happy and very easy first 6 months together and now she's moved to uni pretty far away (it's like a £100 train fare). we still manage to see each other twice a month and we talk everyday, usually skype/phone for like 30-60 minutes and text/message throughout the day she feels i'm not making enough of an effort, mostly because she instigates almost all of the calls/skypes and because i don't say enough mushy stuff without being prompted. i've promised to make more of an effort with the calls and skype but i told her that all the mushy stuff just isn't me and i'm not going to force it. i tell her i love her a lot and i fully mean it but i'm not going to say the stuff she says like "i think about you all the time and i miss you so so much and i'm so sad etc" because it's just not true for me. i miss her but i'm not gonna play-act the lovey-dovey stuff she said she needed the reassurance of the mushy stuff and the constant contact to get by ([URL="http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml"]this article[/URL] comes to mind, but replace "guy" with "girl"). is it unreasonable for her to expect me to be different, a different person, or to act differently? or am i being emotionally neglectful? i can't work it out yesterday she got upset with me because i wanted to end a skype call after 45 minutes because i wanted to play a game with my flatmate. she said she imagined we'd at least get past the 1 hour mark because "other couples, most couples, skype for 2 hours or even more!!". these comparisons to "other couples" and "most couples" and "normal couples" aren't so rare now and i find it somewhat insulting. part of me feels bad because i clearly don't miss her as much as she misses me, but hell i don't even miss my parents or anything else like that particularly. maybe i'm just not a very emotional person [editline]14th October 2012[/editline] sos for the essay

I've always wondered what it was like to have that "I'm ready to have sex" talk. For me it just kinda happened through passion.

See: [url]http://puu.sh/1eBWM[/url] that's pretty much how it went and then she cheated on me with two other guys and had sex with them