• Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VIIII: I Don't Know Good Titles
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Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VIIII: I Don’t Know Good Titles OP Pretty much taken directly from Kabstrac’s last thread (which itself was taken from killerteacup’s). Saw that the last thread was auto-locked due to the abysmally low new post limit, so I thought “Eh fuck it, why not?”. I: http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1074745 II: http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1107183 III: http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1152162 IV: http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1218133 V: http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1250063 VI: https://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1446321 VII: https://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1499584 VIII: https://forum.facepunch.com/f/social/bdwsl/Sex-Girlfriends-and-Shit-VIII-Sex-is-Gross/1/ Post about having sex, your girlfriend/boyfriend/long-term sex partner and also shit! In the interest of good discussion we ask you not to take the shit literally! Here's the sister thread for more general social advice - Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v10 ---THE HALL OF FAME--- ---THE ARCHIVE--- --- GOOD QUOTES THAT YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY READ BEFORE MAKING A POST --- On Impregnation: On LDR: On Pickup Art: On the "right age":
My Girlfriend when we attempt to have sex gets unbearable pain, not to put myself down but I'm not huge nor is she really tight. Has anyone encountered this? I think of getting her to see a doctor about it.
Get some lube first of all (never a bad idea), but yeah she should definitely see her doctor about it. Sex shouldn't hurt.
Yeah we have got plenty of Lube, yeah might get her to a doctor.
That's not really a case of "might" then imo.
My girl started oral birth control a few days ago. The sex is so much fucking better now that we don't have to deal with condoms.
Ask if she's had this before. Some women have issues (its extremely sensitive) with their vaginal lining that makes any kind of penetration just extremely painful. But definitely a doctor will know best.
i hope by "few days" you mean at least 7 days because if not, surprise, it's not effective yet
From the informational form we got with it, it's actually fine as long as her period is supposed to start within something like a week. I was thinking the same too until I read that.
risky but probably safe for future reference: if you start taking within 5 days of your period starting (after your period started) you're safe, otherwise it's wait 7 days keep an eye on it though
also yeah I totally forgot that dumping in a bunch of hormones can fuck with timing The only safe way to skip the 7 day waiting period is to ensure you start after the period begins. any other time you don't know for certain what's going on down there as far as ovulation goes
Today my girlfriend of two years admitted that she'd cheated on me. At first, I didn't know how to feel, I just couldn't believe it happened. Once it set in, I started crying. Everything we'd done together, all the effort we both put into making it work even though we're not the best at relationships, and she just threw it all away. Even though I still love her, I can't trust her at all anymore, so I broke it off. I'm not sure if I made the right decision and it still hurts like hell, but I didn't know what else to do.
Sorry to hear that. That's terrible. It's still super early but if it helps you - be super grateful for all the good times you had together and just try and keep in mind that if that's what she did, it just wasn't meant to be. And at least now you can stop being with the wrong person and start looking for the right person. Sorry that's probably hard to say so soon, but maybe that can help.
That actually does help a lot, thank you. I do hope someday I can look back on this and remember the positives, the fun we had together and the self-improvement I did during it.
Ok this is a rather weird situation, but I recently broke up with my high school girlfriend for college, but we're still really good friemds and are also hooking up? It's weird but it feels like it's working, i'm just curious where the line is, like do we cuddle when we're watching a movie together?
That's for you two to discuss, we don't set the boundaries of your relationship in here
So i got a match on tinder with this wonderful girl, at first we talked a lot on snapchat and then moved on to calling each other and we did so for like 3 weeks and we really clicked and have so much in common which i really like but then when we finally met it turned out she is a bit overweigh, big difference in body size if we compare my self and her and i'm pretty skinny. Here is the thing, i noticed that she wasn't skinny on her profile pictures so i thought she had you know, curves and stuff which is very fine but when we started doing face-time i noticed that she might be bigger than i thought but i did not think about it much but as soon as i met her for the first time in person i saw that she had more weight than i thought. I know it's very wrong to think like this but i really like her and it's the only thing with her that turns me off. I know i should accept the person no matter what but i really don't know what to do here. I guess i'm afraid to be "judged" like " Couldn't this guy find a woman in his size?" To be honest, i know for a fact that's a really fucked up way to think of it. Don't get me wrong even tho i sound like an asshole right now, i'm not. I really like her very much, and i know she likes me even more. Should i talk to her about her weight? Since i live a somewhat healthy life but she could also have taken medication in the past that made her like that.
Trust is the foundation of a solid relationship. If you can't trust them you'll find yourself being unhappy more than not, at which point there isn't much point in staying together. Try not to blame yourself, it's a difficult situation but you made the right choice.
If the attraction isn't there, then it isn't there. That's not something you can really help. That being said, I would absolutely NOT try and talk to her about it. As some rando from Tinder she started talking to, you are in no position to be giving unwarranted criticism or advice on that front. If you can overcome her weight and still want to be with her then great, but don't try and make her change for you when you aren't even already in a relationship.
"I know it's very wrong to think like this. I should accept the person no matter what" No, it's okay to think like this. You are able to be attracted to what you want to be, if someone being overweight, or concealing their overweightness, is a dealbreak then so be it. That's fine. However: "I guess I'm afraid to be judged" It sounds more like the problem is internal; you're not put off by what being overweight means for her, you're conscious about how other people will see you for being with her, which honestly isn't healthy. Work on that; try to learn that people WON'T judge you harshly for having a girlfriend they deem less than perfect.
Yeah, if you feel attracted to her regardless of her weight, definitely don't put it off because you're afraid other people might judge you. It's not like you'd want to hang out with such people anyway. However if her being overweight is a dealbreaker for you personally, there's nothing wrong with not being okay with it. Don't trap yourself into a relationship you feel won't suit you.
It’s just that I really like her, I really enjoy her company, she is smart and independent and have a great sense of humour. But as I said before, her being overweight is what’s putting me off and I don’t know how to tell her that I want to stop dating, I cant tell her that I want to end it because your overweight. Because that would be extremely rude. Either me, I will probably hurt her no matter what I say.
You’re allowed to lie about why you’re “breaking up” - if you’d been in a long term relationship, I wouldn’t recommend that, but you’ve known her for such a short time. Just tell her “it just isn’t there” or something vague like that. With that said, maybe decide for yourself whether you’re uncomfortable with her weight because of yourself or because of others - don’t kill a good thing if you’re just afraid to be judged by a nebulous group of people, if everything else is swell.
Welp, just lost a FWB I was seeing because her boyfriend doesn't want a free union anymore. I mean, I can certainly empathize with him and their relationship is obviously more important than my fucking around. Still, kinda sucks to have the rug pulled from underneath.
Did they have an open relationship?
Yeah that's what I meant by "free union" (unless they are two different things?)
That's what I thought you meant, but I wanted to be sure. Never heard anyone use the expression "free union" in that context before. :v Well if the boyfriend began feeling it wasn't working for him, then he's got every right to wanna back out. Let's be honest, he is probably (maybe?) getting way less action than his girlfriend, and from what I've heard, that's actually what kills a lot of open relationships.
Of course, don't get me wrong, I'm rooting for the boyfriend there. In fact, I was almost in the same situation a year ago. Relationship started getting rocky with my girlfriend and at some point she said she needed us to become a free union. The issue you mentioned came to my mind and that's one of the reasons I didn't want to get down that road. The gender sexual drive differential really sucks. IMO it's almost never a good idea to go from exclusive relationship to open ones, which I suspect is what's happening between those two. It's almost always something only one side of the couple wants while the other expected exclusivity. Barring happy coincidences I think it's much less likely to go awry if it started open in the first place, but it's not like I have any experience in that regard to back that up. Anyway, the reason I'm frustrated is not necessarily this particular instance. The problem is, since the aforementioned rocky breakup I have a hard time developing feelings for the girls I date. Perhaps I simply haven't found the right one yet but I suspect I just need some time before I can trust others enough again. So it makes sense for me to seek more casual relationships in the meantime. The thing is I'm not exactly sure how to do that. Every girl I had dated so far explicitly said they were seeking serious relationships and this one was the first to say otherwise. She's the one who made advances, too. I dunno, perhaps something's going over my head or something.
I don't think there's anything wrong in seeking more casual relationships for a time. I actually considered pursuing that kind of relationship with a friend of a friend (confusing, I know). Didn't go through with it though 'cause we've yet to actually meet in person (mutual friend was the one who first showed pictures, told me about this girl, and then told me she'd done the same her friend (showing pictures of me and telling her what I'm like)), and she's off to Ireland in just a couple of months, so.
Yeah I don't see anything wrong with it either, it's just that I find it difficult to find any.
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