Japan to ban physical punishment of children by parents - Polidicks

TOKYO - The government and the ruling coalition plan to include a ban on corporal punishment of children by parents in law revisions following a series of recent child maltreatment cases in the name of discipline, sources close to the matter said Saturday. The planned law revisions are also aimed at strengthening the authority of child welfare centers to ensure prompt separation of children from abusive parents. Foster parents and welfare workers will also be banned from physically punishing children as a means of discipline. The cabinet of Prime Minister Shinzo Abe aims to approve the revisions in mid-March and enact the revised legislation during the current Diet session, as it looks to strengthen the prevention of child abuse after the recent tragic death of children in alleged parental mistreatment. Japan Today https://i2.wp.com/mediabiasfactcheck.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/rightcenter112.png Factual Reporting: HIGH Media Bias/Fact Check

good

can't wait for the inevitable "but my parents spanked me and I turned out alright" post followed by three pages of people trying to explain survivorship bias to people with survivorship bias

Good. Physical punishment only breeds fear and resentment. If you have to raise a kid by means of submission rather than guidance, you're a failure of a parent and the kid will only grow up to hate you rather than respect you. Practice some damn humility rather than lashing out like an enraged chimp.

sounds good lol. you should not resort to beating your children

my parents smacked me as a child and now i post on fp probably should have smacked harder

my dad powerbombed me through a table every day after school and i turned out just fine thank you very much *posts on facepunch*

Tiger parents exist solely to justify their shitty behavior of projecting themselves onto their child and the inability to hold their impatience. Sure, sometimes it produces results, but they are still shitty people who uses their resources and status to assert dominance. There is no love in any of that, only pride.

Physical punishment is the easiest, most basic form of parenting. Which is why it's absolute shit. Children are not dogs, everything has a psychological impact. (and dogs aren't a good example, because hitting them can fuck them up, too). If you wouldn't hit your dog, don't hit your kid.

but my parents hit me and i turned out okay? my uncle's friend's sister's dad's daughter was spanked and she's just a darling. fuck people who treat children as if they're their pawns and strip them of their autonomy.

I got mild PTSD from corporeal punishment.

It's baffling how many people have an ego so massive they can't be told they do something the wrong way, or their parents could have been wrong about something.

The only thing physical punishment does it make the parent feel like they did something to stop whatever their were trying to stop. It really didn't stop shit and made it worse. Fuck corporal punishment.

I was spanked like alot and really hard when i was a kid. My dad made a paddle just for spanking me. Sure i was a demon of a child, but i really don't think it was constructive like at all. All I remember is how terrible and frightening the experiences were. I don't ever remember what I did wrong.

But my parents beat the crap out of me as a kid and now as an adult I only slightly flinch when someone in an authoritative position raises their hand near me. Obviously I'm fine.

I was spanked and now it turns me on thanks dad

I knew this was coming from the second this thread was posted.

The article expired. Anyone have a copy?

Can't see the article anymore... Are there punishment planned for violating the ban or is it just like France where it's banned on paper but it's not actually enforced?

Friendly reminder that even though physically striking a kid is terrible parenting, not spanking doesn't automatically make someone a non-abusive parent. I worry about spanking becoming kind of a scapegoat for bad parenting practices as I've seen it brought up a few times as a defense of one's awful parenthood. "I've never hit them so that means everything I did was okay." it doesn't.

I was never physically abused, but I started wetting the bed again as a kid after having gotten over it because of a verbally abusive boyfriend of my mother's. Stuff like not eating all my carrots was grounds for him to make me feel like shit. I feel ya, man.

I learned to fear la chancla as a kid in seriousness more steps towards preventing abuse especially with stuff like belts and actual beatings is good

Boy do I love listening to coworkers 40+ tell me about how PC and soft everything is now. One of the best responses I ever heard from another coworker was, "oh, who was getting respect that didn't deserve it this time?"

I used to have to physically fight my nanomachine-enhanced father every night in order to eat. I would have to slow down time and slice through segments of a highly advanced six-legged battle tank in order to get to the salt.

being beat as a kid taught me to be more tricky and sneaky tbh. there are far more effective parenting techniques than spanking.

I punched my dad in the balls and he turn out alright

Hi, person who suffered a lot of drawn out instances of belt to ass from my grandmother through several years of my childhood for totally inane things. My mom hated it but we could never afford a babysitter so I had to stay with her. And of course, grandma was the "I know better because I'm older" type so she'd never listen to my mom. I'm pretty sure it's a decently sized reason behind my extreme anxiety, especially when communicating with other people, as well as intense self-loathing. My whole body tenses up when people get near me, no matter who they are. I've recoiled in fear from my SO multiple times because he moved too quickly or raised a hand or arm to reach something or even just going to hug me. We've been together for over 10 years and he has never hit me once and I doubt he ever will, but the fear exists anyway, because I'm terrified getting caught doing something someone doesn't like and getting hurt for it. For my teenage years, I was nothing but a habitual liar, sneaky, hiding everything I did from everyone I knew, friends and family alike, no matter how totally innocuous or innocent it was, simply because of the above. It ruined, or came close to ruining, so many of my friendships over the years, and has almost destroyed my current relationship more than once. I've grown out of lying and hiding everything, but defeating anything further, takes a lot of willpower and forethought that some days I just can't muster and it's crippling. Don't hit your kids. Or else they'll grow up into depressed self-loathing nervous twitchy constantly stressed out wrecks who are scared of everything, like me.

Seems like the devil/demon child is a statement used by abusive parents to absolve themselves of the consequences of creating an emotionally unstable child through abuse.

I can't speak for choco cookie, but with my brother, even before my grandmother had to babysit him, he was awful. Constantly defiant and getting into trouble, hurting himself/others every passing moment, the list goes on, you couldn't do anything with him without it turning into a screaming intense temper-tantrum of biblical proportion. Such remained true as he grew up, though I'm sure the shoe shit made it a hundred times worse. If a child has obvious mental issues like my brother most certainly has, beating them really doesn't help, but that goes without saying. I am totally different from him, despite being raised more or less in the same conditions. Aside from the belt-fear-driven habitual lying in the teen years, I was a pretty good kid all things considering. The worst thing I ever did was throw a bag of Skittles at a moving vehicle. My parents are hardly abusive themselves. At worst, my mom is super stubborn and a little childish, and my dad gets easily frustrated and becomes loud, but never physically/verbally abusive. Really, I just used "devil child" in place of "child with obvious mental issues from day one that were never diagnosed because every child with behavioral issues was just ADD/ADHD back then" because it was shorter to write. Shrug.

Yeah I was a pretty trash child and teenager, but it was because I questioned everything. I never got the right answers so i never understood what i was doing was wrong or what was right. It was only until I finished high school and joined the military that I really was able to understand and grow as a person. I still learn from all the great people i interacted with. I never think of myself as a positive influence and i try to make up for all the bad i did as a child. I also, for the longest time suffered from anyone attempting to physically interact with me. I would always flinch away. I still have troubles with determining peopels intention, but I try to assume the best out of people first now instead of the worst. I think that helps people feel better around me. It took years to fix myself and honestly I feel lucky ending up the way I am instead of being a sociopath. I hope for the best for you Psycommu.