Have you ever been depressed before? Often you just want someone to talk to about it. One of the best things is being asked about it. You feel like someone cares. However, 90% of cases you don't get asked.
So here's what I want people on Facepunch to do: If you suspect a friend/relative or just a classmate or colleague of being depressed, ask them.
The worst case scenario is that they think you care. Depressed or not, it's nice being asked.
are you depressed?
I don't want people to think I care, mainly because I don't.
This is a great idea, I'll look into it!
I hate getting asked that. I'd rather be alone.
hate when people won't let me be alone
And I would be either be insulted or laugh if somebody asked me if I was depressed.
[QUOTE=Gurant;25791019]I hate getting asked that. I'd rather be alone.
hate when people won't let me be alone[/QUOTE]
Depends on the person, usually they'll be like this and try to keep to themselves
[QUOTE=shatteredwindow;25791008]I don't want people to think I care, mainly because I don't.[/QUOTE]
You don't care about your friends and family?
[QUOTE=Gurant;25791019]I hate getting asked that. I'd rather be alone.
hate when people won't let me be alone[/QUOTE]
Are you paranoid? :ohdear:
[QUOTE=Gurant;25791019]I hate getting asked that. I'd rather be alone.[/QUOTE]
Now, just out of curiosity, why's that?
[QUOTE=MrJazzy;25791086]You don't care about your friends and family?[/QUOTE]
Well, treat others as you would like to be treated right? I don't want to be asked, and I know a lot of other people don't want to be asked. I'd be happy to help them if they came to me and they thought I could do something, but it's not like I can tell them anything they don't know.
[QUOTE=shatteredwindow;25791024]And I would be either be insulted or laugh if somebody asked me if I was depressed.[/QUOTE]
"Hey, you seemed a bit sad today. Is anything wrong?"
"Hahahaha"
Sounds about right.
[QUOTE=Spetzaz;25790964]Have you ever been depressed before? Often you just want someone to talk to about it. One of the best things is being asked about it. You feel like someone cares.[/QUOTE]
1) Yes. I'm talking to a psychiatrist about it.
2) Often, but not always.
3) No, not exactly. I'm not exactly a person people usually suspect because I subconsiously have built walls that makes it look like I'm happy.
Overall: Not all cases of depression are noticable for outside observers. I personally have experience with people being shocked when they find out I have problems with depressive thoughts.
[QUOTE=Spetzaz;25791175]"Hey, you seemed a bit sad today. Is anything wrong?"
"Hahahaha"
Sounds about right.[/QUOTE]
Being sad and depressed aren't the same.
[QUOTE=Herr Sven;25791322]1) Yes. I'm talking to a psychiatrist about it.
2) Often, but not always.
3) No, not exactly. I'm not exactly a person people usually suspect because [B]I subconsiously have built walls that makes it look like I'm happy[/B].
Overall: Not all cases of depression are noticable for outside observers. I personally have experience with people being shocked when they find out I have problems with depressive thoughts.[/QUOTE]
Well, this is very usual for depression. It's a symptom for depression, since being depressed is more than just being sad for a long time.
If there is one thing i've learned from my severe depression i suffered from last year. If someone is THAT depressed, the last thing they want to do is tell someone, most of the time people will say some usual "LET ME HELP YOU" which only makes things worse.
The only time i'm really depressed is when I miss someone I love (i.e girlfriend) or lose someone I loved (i.e girlfriend again)
I would rather people not worry about it.
[editline]1st November 2010[/editline]
They might try to help and get me all this attention and crap, I don't want attention.
[QUOTE=Mr. Someguy;25791738]I would rather people not worry about it.
[editline]1st November 2010[/editline]
They might try to help and get me all this attention and crap, I don't want attention.[/QUOTE]
You just need hugs? :ohdear:
I was depressed but then I started doing more things socially and it's kind of gone away now. Best advice I can offer is to find a hobby or something so you're not constantly thinking about sad things. Gotta think about kittens and hugs. :buddy:
[QUOTE=Spetzaz;25791134]Now, just out of curiosity, why's that?[/QUOTE]
Because I don't like when people are looking into it too much. I'm showing people when I'm happy, and want them to know it, and when I'm depressed I don't want people on my back. I just want to be left alone to think, drink and think some more.
From my tiny experience, if someone openly tells people that they're depressed, they're really just attention seeking.
[QUOTE=Hiccuper;25793043]From my tiny experience, if someone openly tells people that they're depressed, they're really just attention seeking.[/QUOTE]
I second this. Depression in todays culture is pretty much a really big excuse fore everything now.
Don't misunderstand me, there is real [see: Clinical] depression, but i would wager 95% of people who say they are depressed are not.
[QUOTE=Bluesummers;25793402]I second this. Depression in todays culture is pretty much a really big excuse fore everything now.
Don't misunderstand me, there is real [see: Clinical] depression, but i would wager 95% of people who say they are depressed are not.[/QUOTE]
Pretty much, most people who are depressed are quiet about it.
Bad Idea. I remember once when I was in my favourite pub, talking to the barmaid about you know, the kind of stuff you talk to your bar staff about. How live is going and all that. I like doing that because I know these people don't care. They will forget all about it and you can tell them about everything, feel reliefed and don't have to worry about people wanting to hear all about you potential troubles.
So then some guy comes sitting next to me. Slightly Drunk. Not to mention that There were enough other seats free. He says something about how he overheared me talking and thought I needed to cheer up, because I 'seemed to be all down'. I tell him that I was, despite maybe sounding a bit melancholic in fact doing fine and that I wanted my privacy with the staff. But he just kept getting on and on about how I was all down and needed help. Even at the point when I told him to fuck off and take his 'helpful' additude with him, he was still telling me that I needed to tell him all about my problems because I was 'all down'.
So I punched him in the face. A little harder than I intended to, but he just made me furious. I had left before he was on his feet and the staff told him he fell and hit the counter, nice evening ruined, knuckels skinned and the
fear of him sueing me, but anyway.
The morale is, that people, if they are anything like me don't talk to just anybody about what troubles them for
a reason. I don't want my friends to worry, give me shitty advide or think I couldn't handle my live. Because
I can handle my problems, I like to have some privacy and I hate people trying to dig in it.
This seems like an asshole thing to ask
I'd ask someone, but I'm too sad about not having any dogs any more to put in the effort.
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