How do you tell somebody you don't want to live with them? - General

So here's my predicament FP, a group of my friends are getting a house for University next year and we early on decided that we'd all go in these houses together (split into 2 houses of 5). Only thing is 2 months down the line I, and the rest of the group, find them insufferable in any doses other than minor but we can't just tell them to fuck off because they don't know we dislike them and we can't just leave them. So that's why I'm coming to you because we need to find a way that gets them away from us but in a way that doesn't insult them or cause us to be dicks to them, the last thing I want to do on this course with so many close friends is make two that despise us.

Could you go into more detail about why you can't stand them and why they aren't aware that you dislike them? The more details the better.

[QUOTE=koeniginator;43108818]Could you go into more detail about why you can't stand them and why they aren't aware that you dislike them? The more details the better.[/QUOTE] One of them an arrogant self absorbed person who thinks his art is the literal shit and the be-all and end-all of art since he's got an art style he likes. All he does is think the art he produces is amazing, it's okay but there's always room for improvement - he sees everyone as serious competition rather than friendly challenges to test yourself and improve your skill. Basically he's just really wants you to know he's good. he's also subtly attention seeking a lot of the time. As for the other one, she's a mess - constantly whinging about the course and how its not her fault while never actually paying attention. She's a distraction and seems to be confused by everything despite not actually putting any effort in to understanding the topic at hand. Everything she submits is about 5 minutes before the deadline handin and everything leading up to that is just "oh my god I'm so screwed AAAAA" and despite trying to tell her what to do and to calm her down it just seems to bounce off her and not sink in at all, even after the first deadline she didn't see it as a wake-up call to actually do something. She's also generally whiny all the time.

Put locks on everything. Give keys to those you still like. Leave a "Sad to see you go." card on their person or in their car/wherever you can put it.

Should also mention they live off campus but want to get a house for next year because they don't like commuting. [editline]8th December 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=Sgt. Khorn;43108969]Put locks on everything. Give keys to those you still like. Leave a "Sad to see you go." card on their person or in their car/wherever you can put it.[/QUOTE] If it were that easy, we don't live together just yet we're planning the house for next year.

Or, drug them and dump them in another country. [editline]7th December 2013[/editline] Lastly, with the friends you still like, find a completely different place and move there. And cut off all contact. Happened to me once, as a cruel joke. [editline]7th December 2013[/editline] Honestly, best solution is to have you all just confront them and explain this issue. If they can't understand or won't try to change, they aren't worth the time.

Wait, I'm not understanding why you should even give a shit about these people? They way you worded it they sound like people you couldn't care less if you never saw them again. Tell them to fuck off.

"I don't want to live with you."

[QUOTE=MuTAnT;43109207]Wait, I'm not understanding why you should even give a shit about these people? They way you worded it they sound like people you couldn't care less if you never saw them again. Tell them to fuck off.[/QUOTE] It's not as simple as that as they're on the same couse, we practically see them every day plus they're tolerable in small doses, just not enough to live with them. Also you don't exactly know everything about a person after a few weeks.

[QUOTE=ZombieDawgs;43108890]One of them an arrogant self absorbed person who thinks his art is the literal shit and the be-all and end-all of art since he's got an art style he likes. All he does is think the art he produces is amazing, it's okay but there's always room for improvement - he sees everyone as serious competition rather than friendly challenges to test yourself and improve your skill. Basically he's just really wants you to know he's good. he's also subtly attention seeking a lot of the time. As for the other one, she's a mess - constantly whinging about the course and how its not her fault while never actually paying attention. She's a distraction and seems to be confused by everything despite not actually putting any effort in to understanding the topic at hand. Everything she submits is about 5 minutes before the deadline handin and everything leading up to that is just "oh my god I'm so screwed AAAAA" and despite trying to tell her what to do and to calm her down it just seems to bounce off her and not sink in at all, even after the first deadline she didn't see it as a wake-up call to actually do something. She's also generally whiny all the time.[/QUOTE] The best thing I can recommend is that you should really talk about it with them before you shut them out. If they can't handle the criticism then they can't handle the criticism and you can find a different solution but it can be difficult to tell you're not being pleasant to be around if no one tells you. Them not having a house to live in is a pretty big motivation for them to change their attitude, and if they don't change, you won't lose anything because it seems like you weren't planning on it working out anyway. Try to confront them about it but try to not be rude. If you don't want to talk face to face you can always try email or something but calling it quits before they even know there's a problem seems like skipping a step.

[QUOTE=koeniginator;43109524]The best thing I can recommend is that you should really talk about it with them before you shut them out. If they can't handle the criticism then they can't handle the criticism and you can find a different solution but it can be difficult to tell you're not being pleasant to be around if no one tells you. Them not having a house to live in is a pretty big motivation for them to change their attitude, and if they don't change, you won't lose anything because it seems like you weren't planning on it working out anyway. Try to confront them about it but try to not be rude. If you don't want to talk face to face you can always try email or something but calling it quits before they even know there's a problem seems like skipping a step.[/QUOTE] Basically, this is your best course of action. If it won't work, than just ignore them fully. What can they do to you if they don't like what they hear?

change your name, move, restart your life as a completely new person living it out in a wood shack on top of a hill, eat nothing but nutrient bars and powdered milk ~~AVOIDANCE~~ In seriousness, tough prediciment. It's not something you can simply avoid either. I'm guessing lying isn't an option?

I'd just be straight with them. "Sorry but I can't share my living space with you. We are just not compatible." And if they insist on why "your personal quirks are super annoying to me to be honest". Easy to say now at least. In all seriousness good luck with your situation.

you should volunteer to do all the cooking give them food poisoning, they won't want to live with you after that