Hey guys, do you know any books to get me some will to life and bring me confidence?
Most books about self improvement work.
:59 Seconds kinda helped me with a good number of things. It's a self help book centered around things that don't take very long, but can improve your life significantly and help you achieve your goals. I recommend it
[QUOTE=fritzel;46200599][url]https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11803016-how-to-win-friends-influence-people[/url][/QUOTE]
Read this. Strangely one of the first self help books that I wasn't able to finish because of how boring it is.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;46205723]Read this. Strangely one of the first self help books that I wasn't able to finish because of how boring it is.[/QUOTE]
It is helping me a lot. Boring or not.
Not a book because I personally prefer articles over books, but [url]http://goodmenproject.com/[/url] is a site that has a lot of interesting articles on them. They're not really about self-esteem so to speak (some articles are, but not all), but the introspection and thinking I get from them does make me feel stronger. It might help for you!
[QUOTE=deltasquid;46206333]Not a book because I personally prefer articles over books, but [url]http://goodmenproject.com/[/url] is a site that has a lot of interesting articles on them. They're not really about self-esteem so to speak (some articles are, but not all), but the introspection and thinking I get from them does make me feel stronger. It might help for you![/QUOTE]
Many thanks!
"The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida
"The 6 Pillars of Self Esteem" by Nathaniel Branden
I would also recommend "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover if you've lacked a strong fatherfigure when growing up. That book changed my life.
The most important thing is undervaluing your worth and lifting the other party on higher pedestal.
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Sorry but I really didn't like this book. The ideas in it are really really outdated. There's a whole section on smiling at customers - which is something that is commonplace nowadays. Not only that, but it was written for salesman, so it's about sucking up to people so they'll like you, and buy your product. I don't think the average person should be sucking up to everyone they meet in hopes that they'll like them.
It seems like that book says 'put others first, do what they want so they'll like you', whereas a modern book like "No More Mr Nice Guy" says the opposite, 'put yourself first, people will respect you more, who cares if they don't'
[QUOTE=matt.ant;46207153]Sorry but I really didn't like this book. The ideas in it are really really outdated. There's a whole section on smiling at customers - which is something that is commonplace nowadays. Not only that, but it was written for salesman, so it's about sucking up to people so they'll like you, and buy your product. I don't think the average person should be sucking up to everyone they meet in hopes that they'll like them.
It seems like that book says 'put others first, do what they want so they'll like you', whereas a modern book like "No More Mr Nice Guy" says the opposite, 'put yourself first, people will respect you more, who cares if they don't'[/QUOTE]
Agree on that it was written from salesman perspective. The title is bit misleading. However it does help in creating a good first impression and continuing that. You don't have to suck up to others. You just have to put things from others perspective so that it becomes more appealing. Again, what you are doing here is get the job done easily by re-framing words with the other person's mutual interest at the center of it.
I have seen same strategy used by my manager and it does get shit done for him while building a good rapport with employees.
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It's a troll website, don't worry.
That or full of narcissistic men.
Fuck all those other books, get this:
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A good article to keep up conversations more engaging
[url]http://www.girlschase.com/content/conversationalist[/url]
Search within yourself and you will find all the answers you seek.
Drinking a cup of coffee and popping 400mg of l-theanine works wonders for your mood and concentration, but coffee isn't a book so
Dont end up only ready books and not doing anything. These books are not the end of the road.
You dont become better, the more books you read.
Disclaimer: Ive never read or needed to read one in my life. But a friend of a friend of mine did.
When we heard about it we tried to help him and started inviting him to the bar with us every week.
According to him, just talking to people (us) helped him more than continiously reading books about the subject.
Also, stay the fuck away from dating advice websites.
[QUOTE=taipan;46242017]Dont end up only ready books and not doing anything. These books are not the end of the road.
You dont become better, the more books you read.
Disclaimer: Ive never read or needed to read one in my life. But a friend of a friend of mine did.
When we heard about it we tried to help him and started inviting him to the bar with us every week.
According to him, just talking to people (us) helped him more than continiously reading books about the subject.
Also, stay the fuck away from dating advice websites.[/QUOTE]
Self help books are like learning how to ride a bike - you can read hundreds of books on how to ride a bike, and you'll have some idea of how to do it, but you'll never learn without getting on the bike and trying.
[QUOTE=matt.ant;46242573]Self help books are like learning how to ride a bike - you can read hundreds of books on how to ride a bike, and you'll have some idea of how to do it, but you'll never learn without getting on the bike and trying.[/QUOTE]
I learned swimming by watching youtube videos.
Learned driving car by playing ND4SPD.
Jokes aside, reading and practicing it is a good way.
I don't know if this counts but I was really anxious and insecure about a lot of things before I started practicing Buddhism.
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