Long story short, I have a female friend (not interested in dating her) and her boyfriend is continually harassing me over social media/text. I don't respond to it, I don't talk about it, and I don't argue back. But some-fucking-how, I'm "hurting her" really badly because I'm "fighting" with her boyfriend. Completely ignoring his childish bullshit, but somehow I'm still the bad guy for "fighting" with him. What am I supposed to do here?
Edit: To make things clear, this guy isn't bullying me, and the girl knows about EVERYTHING he does. She caters to him/babies him over pretty much anyone else and that's where the problem lies.
Editing again: I set the two of them up to start dating because he and I used to be friends, he knows that I'm not a threat and I'm not interested. He's literally just being a dick for the sake of being a dick.
have a serious discussion with your female friend about this
tell her everything, show her the texts etc
she might just not be hearing the whole story
ask her what her boyfriend has said about you
Not to be a dick, but how exactly can someone harass/bully you digitally?
Just stop reading his shit/responding. Also what koen said.
Tough call. On one hand, your female friend might end up ending the relationship with the guy when she finds out how insecure he is. Which is a good thing for her, long-term, but if she was happy she may end up resenting you a little, even if she is grateful. I guess you could confront this dude, sit him down, and explain carefully to him your relationship with his girl - And also that his insecurity is going to inevitably end in him losing her. Make it clear to him that you could've just told her what he was doing, but instead decided to try to speak to him first. Maybe he'll grow a pair and give his behavior some thought. Either way, it doesn't sound like he's ever dated anyone before.
[editline]27th July 2013[/editline]
So long as he sees you as a rival, this won't stop.
If you want to take it to the extremes bring it to the law. Gather every single thing he has ever said to you and bring it to the police. Cyberbullying is a crime and you can prosecute him for it.
you are asking the most socially inept part of facepunch for advice
[QUOTE=mrx5001;41611104]If you want to take it to the extremes bring it to the law. Gather every single thing he has ever said to you and bring it to the police. Cyberbullying is a crime and you can prosecute him for it.[/QUOTE]
It's not cyber bullying he's just being an annoying dick
[QUOTE=Aspen;41611149]you are asking the most socially inept part of facepunch for advice[/QUOTE]
My experience has been earned through simulations. I can navigate any social situation.
She wants the D
[QUOTE=Skrappy;41611468]It's not cyber bullying he's just being an annoying dick[/QUOTE]
It's still harassment. Which is illegal.
[url]http://apps.leg.wa.gov/rcw/default.aspx?cite=9.61.230[/url]
Law for Washington, but the same applies for most states.
Just tell him to stop contacting you, or you'll report him for harassment. Make sure you keep it recorded, either in text or speech, that you have warned him to stop harassing you.
[QUOTE=archangel125;41610720]Tough call. On one hand, your female friend might end up ending the relationship with the guy when she finds out how insecure he is. Which is a good thing for her, long-term, but if she was happy she may end up resenting you a little, even if she is grateful. I guess you could confront this dude, sit him down, and explain carefully to him your relationship with his girl - And also that his insecurity is going to inevitably end in him losing her. Make it clear to him that you could've just told her what he was doing, but instead decided to try to speak to him first. Maybe he'll grow a pair and give his behavior some thought. Either way, it doesn't sound like he's ever dated anyone before.
[editline]27th July 2013[/editline]
So long as he sees you as a rival, this won't stop.[/QUOTE]
Best way to solve this.
Don't forget to delete your browser history.
If you're a bloke and you're friends with a chick who has a boyfriend it's never going to work out well. He's going to feel jealous and that will upset her. I think you should just let it go.
[editline]28th July 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=archangel125;41610720]I guess you could confront this dude, sit him down, and explain carefully to him your relationship with his girl - And also that his insecurity is going to inevitably end in him losing her.[/QUOTE]
Or in other words this is how you get punched in the face. I don't think he (the boyfriend) is going to want relationship advice from the person who he feels his relationship is threatened by. Although it seems like a smart thing to do, you can't assume that people act rationally.
[QUOTE=Antdawg;41613602]If you're a bloke and you're friends with a chick who has a boyfriend it's never going to work out well. He's going to feel jealous and that will upset her. I think you should just let it go.
[editline]28th July 2013[/editline]
Or in other words this is how you get punched in the face. I don't think he (the boyfriend) is going to want relationship advice from the person who he feels his relationship is threatened by. Although it seems like a smart thing to do, you can't assume that people act rationally.[/QUOTE]
I set the two of them up to start dating because he and I used to be friends, he knows that I'm not a threat and I'm not interested. He's literally just being a dick for the sake of being a dick.
Go talk to him in person, ask him why he's being like this. It's weird, especially if you were friends.
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