• For men who keep falling in love with female friends
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[QUOTE=Yogurtix;25973033]I can give you a good tip: think her as your sister. I have many good female friends and I do not personally have this problem, because I politely, when I meet someone for the first time, politely mention "Hey, you're such a good friend of mine, you knew that?" and smile. This is possible because I do not run after women.[/QUOTE] I tried thinking of her as my sister... It didn't work :smug:
[QUOTE=reltih floda;25933341]love advice dude, post there [editline]8th November 2010[/editline] the only reason you'd post this here is to gain notoriety by having people see it that don't have this problem[/QUOTE] Dude plenty of people has experienced this problem if not in Highschool then in college. Stop acting like a damn troll. The person in the OP hit the hammer on the nail. I was talking to this one chick which I thought she seemed interested but said she had children. Later on she was letting this one dude get a little bit to close. I can't stand that shit if you have a boyfriend just say it instead of leading people on a wild chase for love. I just stopped right after that and just focused on school and work. Fuck everybody else that says I should have a girl right now because that one incident in College really pissed me off. [editline]10th November 2010[/editline] [QUOTE=BobIsAwesome;25961198]My philosophy: a girl already has a pussy, she doesn't need another one.[/QUOTE] Sad but true hahahaha.
[QUOTE=Copy_Cat;25973592]Dude plenty of people has experienced this problem if not in Highschool then in college. Stop acting like a damn troll. The person in the OP hit the hammer on the nail. I was talking to this one chick which I thought she seemed interested but said she had children. Later on she was letting this one dude get a little bit to close. I can't stand that shit if you have a boyfriend just say it instead of leading people on a wild chase for love. I just stopped right after that and just focused on school and work. Fuck everybody else that says I should have a girl right now because that one incident in College really pissed me off. [editline]10th November 2010[/editline] Sad but true hahahaha.[/QUOTE] She could have been a single mother you know ;)
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;25970092]This whole post is full of retardation. It's obvious that you're simply butthurt that you couldn't recognize the telltale signs that nearly every soon-to-be slut gives off. Not all girls go to college to learn how to party and suck dick, in fact, a good portion of them don't. The only reason why it seems like nearly every college girl parties and has copious amounts of unprotected sex is because those girls are obnoxious and make their presence known. If you'd stop being a butthurt dumbass and actually take a look around, you'll see tons of girls that aren't complete fucking nerds but don't party or have sex, they just go out and do "normal" shit for fun like shopping/bowling/bullshit like that. When I go to parties, I hook up with sluts. However, I go out on dates with "normal" girls. They aren't exactly goody-two-shoes or anything like that, but they don't go around opening their legs for anyone that wants in either. Hell, a girl I've been dating for a while now is gorgeous, doesn't drink or smoke, is a virgin, but spends her nights driving around with friends doing fun legal shit all the time. She wasn't a tough find or anything like that either, I know plenty of girls like that. On top of that, my school is one of the main party schools in the nation. It's so much a party school, they changed the name of it a handful of years ago in an attempt to shed it of its terrible reputation. If I can find plenty of good "normal" girls on a campus that is pretty much designed to be land of the sluts, then you can do the exact same thing, if you'd just grow some nuts and open your eyes. I agree that relationships rarely last from high school into college, but it isn't because girls turn into sluts. It's because college opens up a lot of opportunities, you have a lot more freedom and therefore are exposed to many more people than you ever were in high school. Hanging out with people is as easy as walking over to their dormitory. Relationships rarely last because it's easy to quickly find someone that is better than your partner in every way. In high school, you have at the most a couple thousand people to choose from. My college isn't small but definitely isn't huge either; there's twenty-five thousand female students here. [I]That[/I] is why relationships rarely last outside of high school. This concept that girls turn into sluts is something you pulled out of your butthurt asshole.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=MaverickIB;25968197]no [I]no[/I] [B]no[/B] [B][I]no[/I][/B] Never fucking ever tell a girl that you like her. Never spill your guts about how you've always loved her and all that stupid ass fucking bullshit. Like a girl? [B]ASK HER OUT[/B] God fucking dammit, that's [I]it[/I]. Nothing else you need to do. At all. You can tell a girl that you've always liked her once you're actually with her, but you never use that bullshit while attempting to get her to go out with you. Jesus christ.[/QUOTE] Just a random question here, can you even post without swearing like a drunk?
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;25970092]This whole post is full of retardation. It's obvious that you're simply butthurt that you couldn't recognize the telltale signs that nearly every soon-to-be slut gives off. Not all girls go to college to learn how to party and suck dick, in fact, a good portion of them don't. The only reason why it seems like nearly every college girl parties and has copious amounts of unprotected sex is because those girls are obnoxious and make their presence known. If you'd stop being a butthurt dumbass and actually take a look around, you'll see tons of girls that aren't complete fucking nerds but don't party or have sex, they just go out and do "normal" shit for fun like shopping/bowling/bullshit like that. When I go to parties, I hook up with sluts. However, I go out on dates with "normal" girls. They aren't exactly goody-two-shoes or anything like that, but they don't go around opening their legs for anyone that wants in either. Hell, a girl I've been dating for a while now is gorgeous, doesn't drink or smoke, is a virgin, but spends her nights driving around with friends doing fun legal shit all the time. She wasn't a tough find or anything like that either, I know plenty of girls like that. On top of that, my school is one of the main party schools in the nation. It's so much a party school, they changed the name of it a handful of years ago in an attempt to shed it of its terrible reputation. If I can find plenty of good "normal" girls on a campus that is pretty much designed to be land of the sluts, then you can do the exact same thing, if you'd just grow some nuts and open your eyes. I agree that relationships rarely last from high school into college, but it isn't because girls turn into sluts. It's because college opens up a lot of opportunities, you have a lot more freedom and therefore are exposed to many more people than you ever were in high school. Hanging out with people is as easy as walking over to their dormitory. Relationships rarely last because it's easy to quickly find someone that is better than your partner in every way. In high school, you have at the most a couple thousand people to choose from. My college isn't small but definitely isn't huge either; there's twenty-five thousand female students here. [I]That[/I] is why relationships rarely last outside of high school. This concept that girls turn into sluts is something you pulled out of your butthurt asshole.[/QUOTE] Right, that's what I said: Suck dick and party. It can be a huge culture shock when somebody really gets out from under their parents thumbs for the first time and into the big wide world of college, or just the big wide world in general. "Suck dick and party" in some cases actually means "suck dick and party," but broken down all it means is that it comes to a point where they realize that nobody is running them anymore, and that they're actually free to do whatever they want to do. Maybe Sweet Suzie doesn't become a dick suckin' party girl, maybe she just realizes that the world is actually a lot bigger and better than high school, and that there are a lot of new opportunities out there. So Sweet Suzie dumps her high school squeeze, who very well might have been thinking the same thing anyway, for a fresh start in a bigger place. My point is: a high school sweetheart is usually just that, and most people who are hoping for a lifelong relationship with a few Suzie Jr's and a house in the 'burbs with the chick they met in English II are going to be eating their heart out when they get to college. Stop being so caustic. We're saying all the same things, you're just saying them with a lot of totally off-the-mark personal attacks and a few more "fucks."
[QUOTE=Mane;25973073]People get friend-zoned for two reasons and it has nothing to do with feelgood bullshit about confidence or a sense of humor or whatever: 1) You just aren't physically attractive enough 2) You just aren't socially attractive enough Alright, confidence and a sense of humor play somewhat of a role in the second one, but it still won't make you a fun person to be around if you still act like the same cynical neckbeard you do on forums. I want to downplay this whole idea that confidence/funniness is the magic bullet: if you're still ugly and/or boring, being confident just makes you [i]that[/i] guy. Please, don't be [i]that[/i] guy. 1) Cut your hair 2) Shave unless you actually look good in a beard (chances are high that you don't) 3) Wear well-fitted clothes 4) Stop being a boorish downer who judges others 5) Find and cultivate a passion in something creative in real life; this is one of the easiest and also most rewarding ways to becoming a more interesting and fun person[/QUOTE] To put it even more short: Dress cleanly and be your ownself. But hey, we are talking about friendship here. I just don't get why someone would want to a date a friend? It really doesn't matter if one has, say, something between legs or not, when it comes to being good friends. To make things clear: Friend = Can be male/female, you hang out and stuff Husband/Wife = the one you'll stay loyal with. No cheating, no divorce. I hope this post improves someone's life :)
[QUOTE=Sir Whoopsalot;25973869]Just a random question here, can you even post without swearing like a drunk?[/QUOTE] It's how I talk/type. Deal with it.
i like the swearing, it adds a little bit of color and takes away the stupid normal black/white advice that pussies give. it's a nice slap in the face when advice is given like that
[QUOTE=mr_fj;25973637]She could have been a single mother you know ;)[/QUOTE] But that's the point I don't ask if they have children or not I wait until they tell me. I feel that is just being rude asking a person that question. I'm a skeptic and most of the time I'm right.
Shit OP, this sums me up pretty much. Have a heart. After I finally get the nerve to tell her she responds "I have a boyfriend - but [i]maybe[/i] we can get together sometime [b]trollolol[/b]" I knew the "maybe" means "no" so I ended up just staying as a caring friend. But a year later, today, we don't speak much at all to eachother - I want to but I'm really not given the opportunity because after we started college, she has started hanging out with some smoking bitches, pretty much making me unable to go near them on recesses for example. :saddowns:
happened to me as well she said that she isn't ready for a serious relationship and just wants to be friends for a while :smith:
AKA: She isn't interested in you at all. If a guy that she's actually interested in showed up in her life this moment, she'd instantly be ready for a serious relationship.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;25976665]AKA: She isn't interested in you at all. If a guy that she's actually interested in showed up in her life this moment, she'd instantly be ready for a serious relationship.[/QUOTE] Harsh but probably true.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;25970092]This whole post is full of retardation. It's obvious that you're simply butthurt that you couldn't recognize the telltale signs that nearly every soon-to-be slut gives off. Not all girls go to college to learn how to party and suck dick, in fact, a good portion of them don't. The only reason why it seems like nearly every college girl parties and has copious amounts of unprotected sex is because those girls are obnoxious and make their presence known. If you'd stop being a butthurt dumbass and actually take a look around, you'll see tons of girls that aren't complete fucking nerds but don't party or have sex, they just go out and do "normal" shit for fun like shopping/bowling/bullshit like that. When I go to parties, I hook up with sluts. However, I go out on dates with "normal" girls. They aren't exactly goody-two-shoes or anything like that, but they don't go around opening their legs for anyone that wants in either. Hell, a girl I've been dating for a while now is gorgeous, doesn't drink or smoke, is a virgin, but spends her nights driving around with friends doing fun legal shit all the time. She wasn't a tough find or anything like that either, I know plenty of girls like that. On top of that, my school is one of the main party schools in the nation. It's so much a party school, they changed the name of it a handful of years ago in an attempt to shed it of its terrible reputation. If I can find plenty of good "normal" girls on a campus that is pretty much designed to be land of the sluts, then you can do the exact same thing, if you'd just grow some nuts and open your eyes. I agree that relationships rarely last from high school into college, but it isn't because girls turn into sluts. It's because college opens up a lot of opportunities, you have a lot more freedom and therefore are exposed to many more people than you ever were in high school. Hanging out with people is as easy as walking over to their dormitory. Relationships rarely last because it's easy to quickly find someone that is better than your partner in every way. In high school, you have at the most a couple thousand people to choose from. My college isn't small but definitely isn't huge either; there's twenty-five thousand female students here. [I]That[/I] is why relationships rarely last outside of high school. This concept that girls turn into sluts is something you pulled out of your butthurt asshole.[/QUOTE] It hasn't been often I've agreed with Maverick in this thread but in this case I do, although the girls I know do tend to be of the nerdy persuasion so maybe that invalidates my point of view in this case. [editline]10th November 2010[/editline] Although honestly there are plenty of sluts to be found around here as well. Saturday nights on main street are like a Romero movie if all the zombies were replaced by skanks. [editline]10th November 2010[/editline] Actually I agree with Maverick a lot it's just that he comes across like a dick so I avoid it if I can
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This is fucking impossible, the exact same thing happened to me what's written there. :saddowns: + :what:
[QUOTE=Gvazdas;26012855]This is fucking impossible, the exact same thing happened to me what's written there. :saddowns: + :what:[/QUOTE] "You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all part of the same compost pile."
So yesterday I went and saw one of my best friends, who happens to be a girl. I have feelings for her, and she knows about it, and the only reason we aren't together is because she's still dealing with shit from a past relationship. I'm one of the few people she completely trusts now too. She was absent from school for a few days because she was on her period, so I collected all the assignments she missed from all her teachers and walked 3 miles in the rain to her house, as I didn't have a ride. She was actually surprised, because she doesn't think people actually care about her that much. But we care about eachother. I don't care if I never actually get into a relationship with her, I'm happy enough just being her friend and having her in my life. And she was really surprised when she told me she wasn't a virgin and I told her I don't care. Truth is, I really don't care if anyone's a virgin or not.
There is a Girl that I'm incredibly attracted to. I'm considering asking her out next week but BDA are you suggesting that I don't. We're not 1 on 1 friends but we're both part of a gang of friends, is that a reason not to ask her out BDA?
It's kind of funny, going after the girl I like has actually helped me realized how much of a social inept shit I am, and I am, slowly, changing that. Even if things with her turn out badly, I'll still come out much better than I did before. Unfortunately, her and I aren't even really that close as friends so asking her out can't happen for a while, which is something that my friends who constantly tell me to ask her out miss.
The whole point of asking someone out is to get to know them, on a romantic level. If you're spending time getting to know someone as friends before you ask them out, you're doing it wrong. Relationships can always change, but the easiest time to define whether a relationship is going to be just a friendship or a romantic one is when you don't know each other all too well. Keep "hanging out" with her and doing friend shit, she'll assume you're not interested and lose interest in you. Ask her out right away and she'll understand that you are interested in getting to know her on a romantic level.
The real problem is that we never really see each other as our groups of friends are completely separate, that and our schedules are completely separate from each other. I mean, I have to talk to her over the Internet separate. I See her like every day like twice and never actually get the chance to speak to her alone to even ask her out.
[QUOTE=Kingy_who;26014817]There is a Girl that I'm incredibly attracted to. I'm considering asking her out next week but BDA are you suggesting that I don't. We're not 1 on 1 friends but we're both part of a gang of friends, is that a reason not to ask her out BDA?[/QUOTE] Of course you should ask her out. I don't care if she's your best friend in the world, if you want more than friendship with her then you're doing yourself a huge disservice by not asking her out, and you're going to get stuck in the loop I posted in the OP if you're too scared of the consequences to ever act. Just remember that you're not asking her for a bunch of children and a long life of peaceful monogamy, you're asking her for a chance to see if you even work on a level above friendship. It's not as scary as it sounds. Just remember that no matter what you might feel like, all you really [i]want[/i] is to see if you and her click on a level above friendship, and you will never know the answer to that unless you actually go give it a shot. [QUOTE=Zeos;26015992]The real problem is that we never really see each other as our groups of friends are completely separate, that and our schedules are completely separate from each other. I mean, I have to talk to her over the Internet separate. I See her like every day like twice and never actually get the chance to speak to her alone to even ask her out.[/QUOTE] Then it doesn't sound like you have anything to lose at all by asking her out. I can give you all the gentle, rose-colored advice in the world on dealing with matters of the heart, but when you break it down to the basest level, the only love advice anybody in your position ever needs is: ask the girl out already. She might say no, but is it really that big of a deal if she does? [i]Especially[/i] if you're not already friends with her?
[QUOTE=Zeos;26015992]The real problem is that we never really see each other as our groups of friends are completely separate, that and our schedules are completely separate from each other. I mean, I have to talk to her over the Internet separate. I See her like every day like twice and never actually get the chance to speak to her alone to even ask her out.[/QUOTE] What's this deal with having to be alone? Grow some nuts and do it while people are around. You don't have to proclaim to the whole group what you're doing, just grab her arm or do something to get her attention and ask if she wants to go out with you a movie or something. Who gives a shit if other people see/hear? Plus, there's a better chance she'll say yes because she'll see that you have balls.
The whole problem is that when I mean we aren't that close, is that, I only got the nerve to start talking to her two months ago. We've known each other for three years now but we've only actually started speaking to each other recently. I know you'll say that we'll get to know each other better if I actually asked her out, but she knows [B]Nothing[/B] about me, absolutely nothing at all.
So. What. I'll say it once again. [b]The whole point of asking someone out is to get to know them.[/b] Why is that so hard to grasp? When people ask each other out, they rarely ever know anything about the personal life of the other person. They are simply attracted to the other person and wish to get to know them on a romantic level. I've asked girls out minutes after meeting them and everything went perfectly fine. Stop making up stupid excuses to not do it and just do it. She doesn't need to know anything about you. If she's physically attracted to you and you show her that you have balls, she'll say yes. End of story.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;26016249]So. What. I'll say it once again. [b]The whole point of asking someone out is to get to know them.[/b] Why is that so hard to grasp? When people ask each other out, they rarely ever know anything about the personal life of the other person. They are simply attracted to the other person and wish to get to know them on a romantic level. I've asked girls out minutes after meeting them and everything went perfectly fine. Stop making up stupid excuses to not do it and just do it. She doesn't need to know anything about you. If she's physically attracted to you and you show her that you have balls, she'll say yes. End of story.[/QUOTE] Google told me that agreeing with Maverick may have put my computer at risk of Malware, but he's dead right and it can't be made any clearer than that. The entire point of dating somebody is to get to know them. Even if you were best friends already, you [i]still[/i] wouldn't know this chick, because there are going to huge parts of her that are shut off to people who are "just friends." We can't make you ask her out, but you're not doing yourself any favors by hiding behind the excuse that you don't know her. I've been down that road a hundred times. I wish I'd learned that the secret to dating girls is so mindblowingly simple as just [i]asking them out[/i] back in high school!
The woman in this story is like that last copy of CoD: Black Ops you go to pick up, but you notice the wrapping is torn on the side, and when you go to pop the case open, the disc is missing and your heart sinks. Then you realize some asshole is out there with your copy of Black Ops.
[QUOTE=bree;25933189]same goes for girls falling in love with male friends. trust me males arent the only ones who get friend-zoned[/QUOTE] Yes but girls are hot [editline]12th November 2010[/editline] [QUOTE=Pascall;25934873]And then there's the guys who fall for EVERY female friend they have. Had that problem with a guy who asked me out, saying he was border-line in love with me and when I said no, then turned around two hours later and asked another girl out. One of my close friends, no less. The guy's still my friend but he's still hopeless when it comes to women.[/QUOTE] That's because girls are hot
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